How to deal with this pain alone?

[graceriabel]

Wow sis petlovah super galing mo talaga magbigay ng advice even encouragement. God bless you my dear! Nakakuha ako ng maraming lessons dun ah. So Speechless. hahaha Don't you worry sis I'll apply what you said. No expectations from him but I'll just keep on trusting our good God who knows what's best for us. Right?

Sige sis chicgurl, I'll wait for your answer too.. thanks

[iheartkulot]

hang on sis.

ako rin naman hindi okay. dito lang din kumukuha ng lakas. pwede mag pm sakin, you can pm rin if kailangan mo ng kausap. if there's one thing na naprove ko sa experience na pinagdadaanan natin, mahalaga yung nailalabas mo at may nakakausap ka.

hindi ka nagiisa sis.

dasal lang.

mahirap pero hang on.

[gurlzat03]

go go go mga sis! kaya nyo 'yan... based on my experience, masakit talagang tanggapin ang lahat ng mga nangyayari. pero just what I've always say, "time heals all wounds"... pray and talk to God always, kasi wala namang ibang makakaalam ng future natin kung hindi sya lang. hang on and be strong... mahirap gawin, pero kaylangang gawin.. keep yourself busy with other things.. sooner or later, you'll realize na there's more out of life. good luck!

[charmedlady]

it's still fresh! IT's been two months now. I was feeling so empty before too, sinisisi ko ang sarili ko, ang ibang tao..and i question God. I FEEL U, it's dark out there lalo na pag wala ka masyadong makausap, when ypur friends are already married, they are busy and you are just confronted by yurself at night. Ang sakit sakit. Paminsan din natetempt akong mag view ng profiles nya but i deactivated my account, CUT off ties to all my friends after a open a new account. I became jaded with RELATIoNSHIP, no longer hopes of meeting someone. Na feel ko ang capability ko LOVE, my worth...ang liit ng tinign ko sa sarili.
     I join you in prayers sis, I know everything bad that is happening to us will end soon...I hope we all find that peace of mind . LOVE ourselves more!

[graceriabel]

@sis charmedlady: nakuu sis you sound so sad. Hmmm ako siguro it's been three months nadin pala ano since he broke up with me. Honestly, I love him pa din but I can't say na ganun pa din ka-so much yung love ko for him, ewan ko na lang if God permitted na magtagpo muli ang landas namin. Or should I say bumalik siya sakin magmakaawa magsorry at balikan ako hahaha parang napapraning lang ako noh sis?! Pero malay natin di ba? But for now let us leave it all to God na lang, anyway as I have always say "God knows what's best for us even though we don't understand why things happen. But for sure everything has its own good reason." In God's perfect time He'll heal all these wounds. Smile sis!
Let's pray for our fast recovery. Alam ko super hirap niyan, even me up to now dumarating pa din yung time na naaalala ko lahat ng sakit, na mapapaiyak at bigla ka na lang malulungkot pero I just keep on praying to God, may justice naman sa Lord eh.

[charmedlady]

Thank you so much! pm me in case, i am trying to be busy looking out for an overseas job..i want to start anew. SAna dumating ang araw na mawala itong lahat, na isang panaginip lang pala ito. I am willing to sacrifice all the good things/bag things na mawala sa isip at puso ko, all memories of him mawala..its just too lame for him na sabhin na "nakalimutang mag text"..walang pera..nagddrive sya at walang time to do it..its all a BS!!!! sorry i know im bitter this time, i dont look forward to meeting other men out there....

[graceriabel]

Soon sis it will come to pass... ano ba kasi ang nangyari sa inyo sis?

[angelme888]

Ang friend willing yan makinig kahit paulit ulit tayo nagdadrama, ganyan naman talaga pag nasaktan tayo...let it out, mahirap ikimkim yun nararamdaman mo, kailangan may masabihan ka, umiyak ka kung kailangan...iiyak mo lang yan hanggang sa wala ka ng mailabas na luha...one day marealize mo, ok ka na pala...

[charmed30]

hi sisses!

pinagdadaanan ko din to ngayon. more than 6 years kami. LDR kami ngayon. i went here in singapore last january 2011 and then nasa manila naman siya. the last time we texted, we had a fight. since then di na siya nagpaparamdam. this has been going on for years na.
we have a very stressful relationship. sobrang pagod na pagod na ko. kakaantay sa kanya. sa kakapaasa niya sa kin. sinubukan kong kumawala, pero ayaw niya. nagpapapigil ako kasi sobrang mahal ko siya, but the problem is that i'm just too tired with all the waiting and broken promises. and tinatakot niya din that he'll hurt himself kaya i opted to stay.
to date, di na kami naguusap. the last thing i said to him is "Sabihin mo nga sa kin kung anong balak mo sa buhay mo?". hindi niya sinagot yung question and di na siya nagparamdam since then.

hindi ko din tinatry na magparamdam. you see, pag ako naginitiate eh ako na naman ang aayos ng problema. nakakapagod na. parang ako yung lalake sa relationship.

i want to be out of it. noon pa actually. but i love him so much that's why tiniis ko lahat ng pain that was inflicted upon me. nagpakatanga ako and accepted na lang the way things worked.

since di na siya nagpaparamdam, i am assuming na ayaw na niya. sobrang sakit ng realization but i want to take this opportunity na magmove on na and be totally separated from him. pero ang hirap pala no. i am lost. and i dont know where or how to start. natatakot akong magbreakdown. i am living by myself here kasi. ayaw ko naman magkasakit.

help sisses. i dont know what to do.

[charmed30]

he texted me earlier. we broke up.

kaya ko kaya to.

[gurlzat03]

^ hugz sis... sobrang hirap talaga ng LDR, i've been in the same situation before at ang pinakamahirap sa lahat eh hindi mo alam ang reason kung bakit kayo nag-hiwalay... pray ka lang sis, and keep yourself busy... feel the pain if you have to, mahirap kasi na madaliin na mawala ang pain kasi lalo lang tatagal 'yan... just what i've always said, "time heals all wounds"... little by little makakayanan mo din 'yan, and for sure there's someone out there who deserves you... Just keep your communication open to God always... Pagdating naman kay ex mo, i would suggest to cut all your communication with him. Lalo lang tatagal ang healing process for you, lalo na kung bale wala ka na sa kanya. oops! sorry for the word, pero may mga guys talagang ganun..Basta 'wag mong papabayaan ang sarili mo, kasi walang ibang tutulong sa sarili mo kundi ikaw lang.. goodluck sis!

[angelme888]

go out sis. kailangan mag enjoy ka sa buhay mo, kahit na masakit, you have to move on...

[angelita]

Been reading posts here truly your stories are making me cry...

i don't know if it is appropriate to share this here...I'm married but for the last three months my husband and I have not spoken to each other...No matter how hard I have stopping myself from making the first move because I have already awaken from his vicious lies and all...So I'm just taking advantage of everything even if gusto ko na syang layasan since he is not physically hurting me i'm staying in our house...he pays the house, water and electric bills, provides mineral water...patigasan kami  ubos na ang laundry and toiletries hindi talaga ako bumibili for us but i bought for myself and i keep it for myself...ubos na condiments hindi talaga ako bumibili...ubos na m-gas hindi rin talaga ako bumibili...so its free board and lodging for me that's how i looked at it...i arranged the house how i wanted it to look like, removed the things he did because he wanted it even if i don't like it except for the room he is sleeping in and it felt good...

hindi nya ko binati nung anniversary namin, pero nagbirthday ako binati nya ko via e-mail pero walang i love you or i'm sorry na kasama nag-reply ako with a one liner: thank you.

in our silence i begun to figure out the truth behind his lies...and realized a lot of things and one of those is he is doing the same thing he did to his ex-gf before me and i was a fool to believe him...i am also tempted to message his ex-gf via fb to confirm all my theories and talk to her but i don't know if its appropriate or it'll just make me look like a pathetic with her saying "sabi ko na sayo..."

sometimes, i cry alone not because he is not talking to me but i cry for myself for only hearing not listening to my parents for being foolish to fall for all the bluffs,  was so naive then...

sometimes, i'm happy because i can enjoy the things i want without asking for permission or taking into consideration his sched, i can do whatever I want with the house, i can use up my money for whatever i want...

sometimes, i'm sad thinking that i have not yet found the love i deserve, the forever love i wished for, for not having the kids i thought i will have, that i am alone watching a movie...

but i feel i have to go through this so i may learn to love myself, so i may have the courage to face the truth...

i know i'm older than you gals are but like you i am also broken...yet surviving and moving on...

BTW, this GT forum has helped me a lot through the years...

[angelme888]

Been reading posts here truly your stories are making me cry...

i don't know if it is appropriate to share this here...I'm married but for the last three months my husband and I have not spoken to each other...No matter how hard I have stopping myself from making the first move because I have already awaken from his vicious lies and all...So I'm just taking advantage of everything even if gusto ko na syang layasan since he is not physically hurting me i'm staying in our house...he pays the house, water and electric bills, provides mineral water...patigasan kami  ubos na ang laundry and toiletries hindi talaga ako bumibili for us but i bought for myself and i keep it for myself...ubos na condiments hindi talaga ako bumibili...ubos na m-gas hindi rin talaga ako bumibili...so its free board and lodging for me that's how i looked at it...i arranged the house how i wanted it to look like, removed the things he did because he wanted it even if i don't like it except for the room he is sleeping in and it felt good...

hindi nya ko binati nung anniversary namin, pero nagbirthday ako binati nya ko via e-mail pero walang i love you or i'm sorry na kasama nag-reply ako with a one liner: thank you.

in our silence i begun to figure out the truth behind his lies...and realized a lot of things and one of those is he is doing the same thing he did to his ex-gf before me and i was a fool to believe him...i am also tempted to message his ex-gf via fb to confirm all my theories and talk to her but i don't know if its appropriate or it'll just make me look like a pathetic with her saying "sabi ko na sayo..."

sometimes, i cry alone not because he is not talking to me but i cry for myself for only hearing not listening to my parents for being foolish to fall for all the bluffs,  was so naive then...

sometimes, i'm happy because i can enjoy the things i want without asking for permission or taking into consideration his sched, i can do whatever I want with the house, i can use up my money for whatever i want...

sometimes, i'm sad thinking that i have not yet found the love i deserve, the forever love i wished for, for not having the kids i thought i will have, that i am alone watching a movie...

but i feel i have to go through this so i may learn to love myself, so i may have the courage to face the truth...

i know i'm older than you gals are but like you i am also broken...yet surviving and moving on...

BTW, this GT forum has helped me a lot through the years...

Hi sis. Sometimes making the first move shouldn't come from the one who made the mistake but it should come from the one who understand more. Communication is the key to your sorrow. Talk to him. Speak up. Tell what you really feel. Listen to him, hear his side. What made him like this? Ask. Speak and Listen. Good luck.

[angelita]

^thanks sis, since you are a newbie you might have not stumbled on my story over the years on other threads...The whole story is a long story and what you have read is only a small part of my journey (an update after my last posts on my lovelife years back) but i thank you for taking interest.  Over the years, I realized (in my case) the first move does not have to be coming up to him and speaking up which I have done for so many times in the past, maybe its coming up to myself and telling "me" to wake up look beyond the love i have for him, forgiving myself and eventually communicate to him i can on my own and not because i have him...

I have tried what you have suggested and its about time to try and explore other options that might work...

[angelme888]

^thanks sis, since you are a newbie you might have not stumbled on my story over the years on other threads...The whole story is a long story and what you have read is only a small part of my journey (an update after my last posts on my lovelife years back) but i thank you for taking interest.  Over the years, I realized (in my case) the first move does not have to be coming up to him and speaking up which I have done for so many times in the past, maybe its coming up to myself and telling "me" to wake up look beyond the love i have for him, forgiving myself and eventually communicate to him i can on my own and not because i have him...

I have tried what you have suggested and its about time to try and explore other options that might work...

If you have tried all options and nothing works, it's time to give yourself some space. I have also done stupid things in my life that I didn't regret because I wouldn't know the answers if I didn't do those things. Maybe you just need time. Healing takes time.

[angelita]

Yeah healing takes time and courage...

[lady gwenhwyfar]

I am learning a lot from you girls... but sometimes it's just so hard.

[lizzete]

parang di ko na kaya ..7 days na kame di naguusap..kahit isang text wala ko nareceive from him..gusto ko na magfirst move para kausapin siya pero iniisip ko iisipin na naman niya siya ang tama..pero nahihirapan na talaga ko..hay

[angelme888]

parang di ko na kaya ..7 days na kame di naguusap..kahit isang text wala ko nareceive from him..gusto ko na magfirst move para kausapin siya pero iniisip ko iisipin na naman niya siya ang tama..pero nahihirapan na talaga ko..hay

gawin mo kung ano ang sa tingin mo na makakaluwag ng dibdib mo pero gawin mo ng hindi ka naman maagrabyado...bago mo gawin ang bagay na yan, isipin mo muna...may patutunguhan ba kung gawin mo yun?...magbabago kaya siya?...magiging masaya ka pa rin ba kahit na paulit ulit na lang yun ganong situation?...kaya mo pa bang tiisin? kung ang sagot mo ay OO sa lahat ng tanong na yan...then make the first move...kung NO naman ang sagot sa mga tanong na yan...forget him and try to move on...