How to deal with this pain alone?

[CityHunter]

Actually, emotional problems are one of the toughest things to solve.  I'd take a mamaw case anytime over this as at least yun may set of formulas you can use to deal with the issue.  Ito each is unique and the solution isn't easy to fathom too.

My best advice, is meditate.  Find time too to enrich yourself as you have the free time for it - just stay away from anything that reeks of the occult.  Aral ka ng new language, hobby or even attend night school kung mayroon malapit sa area mo. 

Sayang as malabong nasa Makati area by the 15th though but if there's anything I can be of support for ay just let me know or PM me. 

[misao]

@yellow_bell - stay strong. i know the feeling of being alone. ldr kami, wala akong friends dito sa u.s. kaya sobrang hirap din para sa kin maka-move on. it's been 3 months of no communication, i still cry before going to sleep. pero hindi na grabe. hindi na rin grabe yung chest pains, headaches, high blood pressure... ganung ka-stressful sa kin yung breakup. as i have said before, look forward to something good. be positive. pray.

naka-ilang novena na ko para maka-move on. and after 5 months, God answered my prayers. hindi nya binalik sa kin yung bf ko. but i just got hired for 2 part-time jobs. and may interview pa ko next week for a possible 3rd job. alam ko it's His way of helping me cope with the situation. o di ba naiiyak na naman ako. mahirap. so wag tayong makalimot to ask for His help. He will answer our prayers, maybe not right away, but He will.

[yellow_bell]

sis cityhunter and sis misao.. thanks talaga.. actually ok naman ako most of the time. I can't just avoid the time when I feel like crying again. What happened to our relationship was so abrupt that i was caught off guard. I didn't see it coming. I was so used to "us". Now I have to go on with everyday with just "me". I have always wanted to be alone that's why I did not want to share my place with anyone. It's just that, these days i am feeling so lonely. Maybe i just have to go thru the process of grieving and healing. Hindi pwede magskip. Slowly but surely ang pag move on. Darating din ako dun.

Good thing my mom visits me here often than she used to. In fact she was here nung araw ng mga patay, and she'll be back again this month end. And my classmates will be here too this weekend. So Im still thankful.

And yes, I do a lot of praying. It really helps. I'm asking God to give me strength and to understand me if there are times that I question Him why has all these things happened. I might not understand now but in time I will. I'm telling myself na although I am alone physically, I know God is always there beside me and I'm feeling better. Most of all, I thank Him. Kahit gaano pa kasakit ang nangyayari, I still thank Him. There's a reason for this and I'm looking forward to seeing myself going out of this situation strong and happy.

Thank you all and let us all be positive. It isn't a sin to cry but pray while you do. It lightens the pain.

[Little_Star]

hi mga sisses! ive read all your sentiments..though im not in the same situations you all had, i can feel you..break up is really hard..we have so many factors to consider before we could move on..it's really hard to detach ourselves to someone we were used to be with..mahirap talaga masanay..but i believe that feeling the pain is really a process..it takes time to heal, it takes time to move on..whether how long or short the terms of your relationships are one thing is real, IT REALLY HURTS..that even if we tell ourselves that we must move on we still find ourselves holding our cellphones intending to text him or call him..and worst we find ourselves on the way to their house to do all the effort just to win them back even if we know that they do not deserve it..pero eto parin tyong mga girls na kahit mareject na tyo gagawin parin natin..ang defense mechanism natin is AT LEAST WE DID OUR PART..but we never realized na lumalaki lang ang ulo nila for what we are doing..we are responsible to our selves..we do know what is right and yet so stubborn to do the right thing..but we have to do the right thing..not because it is the right thing but because it is the only way we can love ourselves..


so mga sisses, kaya natin to..normal lang ang mga nararamdaman nyo at normal lang na gumagawa kayo ng mga bagay na ikakababa ng pagkatao natin but then isipin ding nating mabuti GAANO KO BA KAMAHAL ANG SARILI KO?kaya natin to mga sisses..stay strong ang always talk to God..it really helps..

[ysa.belle]

Narasanan ko na rin ang iwanan at masaktan, lokohin ng harap harapan at saktan pa ng physical ng mga naging ex ko and it hurts like hell. I was 16/17 when I had my first heartbreak and on my 18th birthday naman it was my second heartbreak but it was worst & mas masakit than the first.

On my second heartbreak I lost my appetite, pati sa school wala akong gana and I kept on crying. I lost weight.

Mga 1 week din akong ganun then I just woke up and pain turned into anger and then I changed.

I had another relationship after that but we broke up din, one of the things that he told me nung kami pa was:

You are full of anger and hatred and it scares me that one day it might consume you.

Sinabi niya yun mga 2002-2003 but until now naalala ko kase totoo nga yun. It came to a point na galit ako sa mundo, galit ako sa lahat. Naging bato pati puso ko. My smile? Mahal ang ngiti ko. Matagal akong ganun. Until I met someone, a person who is experiencing what I was experiencing during that time. We became friends & he was my confidant until we fell in love. With all the complications in our own lives we still found each other.

I was a different person noon, then I changed because of the pain I experienced and since I was so alone and tumatagos talaga yung feeling ng pagiging alone and yet here I am today, stronger and wiser.

All the pain that we go through is part of us being stronger and wiser in the future. Makakaraos din kayo mga sis, gaya rin nung ako, nakaraos rin.

[lizzete]

sis holli_may, if puro from makati pwede din greenbelt. mga sis na interested, suggest din kayo place or let us know your area para we can set it sa place na convenient sa lahat. game ako sa 15.

mga sis imove niyo huhu di ako pede sa 15 huhu pede ba 17 na lang hehe

[yellow_bell]

^ako sis pwede ako 17. hehe

[lizzete]

yan 17 na lang hehe saan sanan haha

[yellow_bell]

uyy! sis! tuloy ba? hehe..

[holli_may]

sis yellow_belle...pm'd you.

[yellow_bell]

^sis, i replied na.. i gave you my no. text me anytime. im free anytime except the next two weekends.

ikaw din sis lizette, pm kita ng no. ko.. anytime. 

[iCleverClogs]

sharing with friends,crying and so just to vent out my frustrations but seem ang hirap ng pain-unbearable.

[officebusters]

isispin mo yong mga masasakit na naranasan mo sa kanya, tapos make yourself busy para walang idle time para makapag emote ka.

[xxpetitexx]

How to deal? Maybe the pain is almost intolerable but I want to go with the flow. It's hard especially when I'm implementing the No Contact Rule. It's my 7th day of silence.

[gurlzat03]

^ life has to go on sis. i've been in your situation about 2 months ago, and still in the process of moving on. Just always remember that God is good and he will never leave us in all these trials.

[iCleverClogs]

Me too. I'm currently moving on almost 2 weeks.

[kimiko28]

mga sis, i need your help.. kahapon lang yung break up namin, although 4 months lang kami, my feelings are still strong.. ang sakit sobra. parang gusto ko na mamatay para mawaa yung pain, i really need help..

[iCleverClogs]

mga sis, i need your help.. kahapon lang yung break up namin, although 4 months lang kami, my feelings are still strong.. ang sakit sobra. parang gusto ko na mamatay para mawaa yung pain, i really need help..

Tell us your story. Ilabas mo lahat ng saloobin mo. It hurts kasi mahal mo siya. 4 months lang kayo? Huwag mong i-LANG ang 4 months kasi kahit 1 week lang yan kung inlove ka sa tao, talagang masakit yan. 
With my present ex, wala pa nga kaming 4 months eh. Di ko rin naman alam kung kelan naging kami  .
Iiyak mo yan. Huwag mong pigilan. Kung gusto mong sumigaw, sumigaw ka. Basta't mailabas mo lang lahat. Magkwento kwento ka pa dito, maraming tutulong sa'yo. Available ako.  Online naman ako everyday. 
Kaya mo 'yan. Kayahin mo.

[michipoo]

Ang hirap hirap talaga kapag walang masabihan ng problema. Ang hirap pag apektado buong pagkatao mo. Kahit dad ko napansin may problema ako, nababaliw nadaw ba ko kasi abnormal nadaw ginagawa ko, di kumakain, lagi magisa, lagi nakakulong sa kwarto. Itsura ko daw mukhang wasted at haggard. Naawa daw siya saakin sa mga pinagggawa ko sa buhay ko. Di ko naman masabi sakanya kung ano problema ko pero sympre alam nya na yun for sure nararamdaman nya. Feeling ko walang nakakintindi saakin. Ewan ko ba nababaliw na nga ata ako (joke) Ayoko ng ganitong feeling. Pakiramdam ko walang wala na ako dahil nawala siya saakin. Help me sisters

[iCleverClogs]

^ Lika nga hug kita. 
Aw, ganun ang ginawa mo sa buhay mo? Apir tayo! 


Seriously, ganyan din ako. Kung sayo dad mo ang nakapansin, ako naman yung mama ko. Wasted na wasted ang mukha, dull, walang kabuhay buhay. Parang masakitin. Lately lang ako bumabawi pero konti pa ang naimprove. Ang worst pa, weight loss. Hayan..


Yung feeling mo na wala kang kausap. Baka gusto mo rin akong kausapin. Naghahanap din kasi ako. Alam mo yun, introverted kana, bigo ka pa sa lovelife. It really sucks. Di mo alam sinong kakausapin mo. Palagi nalang nakakulong sa kwarto. Aanyain kumain, di naman makisalo. Kasi gustong mapag-isa.


Andito ako sis, baka gusto mo akong kausapin. Better din ako. Hayan, nag-invite na ako ng sangay ko. Wala din kasi akong mapahingan ng advise o tulong.