Turn-offs:
unhygienic = ex. di naliligo, may body odor, madungis, super haba or madumi yung nails, nangungulangot in public (unfortunately may guys na ganito
), madumi or makalat yung bahay
rude = it doesn't have to be with me, kahit rude siya sa waiter or some other person, warning sign pa rin yun
inconsiderate = another warning sign to watch out for. Guys who only think of themselves or always put themselves first are not worth the trouble.
conceited = there was one guy who would shush me when I would give my opinion on important matters, especially when it countered his. Sa isip niya kasi, women are meant to be silent and should just go along with whatever the menfolk say.
Ang kapal diba?! Feeling niya mga lalaki lang ang may capacity na mag-isip.
mayabang = ex. wala na lang bukambibig kundi pagbibida na meron siyang gadgets/car/house/company, etc. It's one thing to be proud of your accomplishments, but it's another thing entirely na ipangalandakan na may pera ka.
tamad = this applies to both professional and personal lives. Turn-off ang taong walang pangarap and walang plano sa buhay. Ayoko yung taong palagi na lang tutulog-tulog lang sa opisina. Ayoko din yung taong tamad mag-effort sa personal life, like those who don't bother finding out what makes their loved ones happy, taking their loved ones for granted.
walang sense kausap = it's bad enough when you don't have much in common kaya wala kayo mapag-usapan, but it's worse when walang sense kausap yung date mo. Yung tipong yung mga reply niya e walang connection at all sa topic, na parang nagsasalita lang just for the sake na may maisagot sa sinabi mo even though walang sense.
negative = nakakaturn-off kasama yung taong nega. Ang pangit ng experience pag puro na lang mistakes, pagkukulang or other negative stuff yung palaging napupuna ng kasama mo. Energy drain, bad vibes ang dulot ng ganung tao. Di ko hinahanap yung male version ni Pollyana, pero wag naman taong nega please.
Turn-ons:
mabait = and hindi yung pakitang-tao lang ha, yung totoong mabait. Ayoko yung guy na kunwari e concerned na makauwi ka safely kaya ihahatid ka, pero all the while e bilang na bilang yung kilometers na tinatakbo ng kotse and pissed off dahil sa ginagastos niya sa gas.
patient = calming pag yung kasama mo e patient. Nakakasira ng mood pag mainitin ang ulo or mainipin yung date mo.
good sense of humor = sobrang importante nito. It helps keep you relaxed, open and well-grounded. When a guy dares to not only laugh about other things but also to poke fun at himself, it indicates that he is confident and mature enough to not take himself and the world too seriously.
interesting kausap = not only does it help break the ice, it's one of the good indicators kung may patutunguhan ba. Ang tendency is the more interesting kausap yung tao, the longer the conversation you'll have, so mas may opportunity ka to gauge kung swak ba yung personalities niyo, plans niyo in life, interests, etc.
masipag and maabilidad = I'd rather spend time with somebody na masipag and maabilidad than with some spoiled brat who's bragging about and spending his family's money.
respectful = it's important that the guy be respectful of me--my boundaries, needs, wants, opinions. It's important na equal footing kami, na he considers us as peers. I don't want to be thought of or treated like a doormat.
generous = not just with money or material things, but with time and effort as well. It says a lot about the person, it's an indicator kung siya ba yung tipong puro sarili ang inuuna or if there is room in his heart and in his life for other people including you.
