DO YOU PREFER TO BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR X OR NOT?????? WHY

[11bernadette28]

NO for me!!!

lets say naka move on talaga ako or both of us hindi ko pa din kayang makipag kaibigan sa kanya kasi parang awkward pa din. at siya lang kasi yung minahal ko ng ganito as in buong buhay ko umikot sa kanya. tsaka nasabi ko na din sa kanya ito before if in case na maghiwalay na kame hindi kayang makipag kaibigan sa kanya kasi grabe yung pagmamahal ko sa kanya at siya lang yung pinaka matagal ko na bf (7yrs) at yung pain is super sakit.  1month and 3days pa lang kame magkahiwalay ngayon nasa process pa ako ng pag momove on.

[kikayako]

I never befriended any of my exes.

[17glut]

reconnecting with your ex is like throwing yourself back to the same sh!t hole that you struggled so hard to get out of.. 

[gc.garcia]

With the way he hurt me before.. he's lucky enough we are civil now

No need to be friends.... he threw everyhing the moment he chose someone else

I'm happy now with my boyfriend going for 2 years na

[brendzy]

I tried to be friends with X yet it did not turn out good. Either he wants to win you back or you ended being taken advantage para makapagpaselos, no-win situation. So it's a NO.

[ajang]

i tried but i can't. hindi dahil sa bitter ako pero dahil ang awkward para sakin. may possibility pa ulit na mabilog nya ulit ang ulo ko at masaktan nanaman nya ko.

naiisip ko tuloy yung past ko na almost same complicated relationship. to make it short nung naka move on nako after how many months pumunta si ex sa bahay asking for a friendly date at ang tanging sagot ko lang ay "sorry di ko feel lumabas busy ako" sabay bagsak ng pinto namin. then after a few months he's adding me pa sa fb, so i just post my message to his wall para makita ng lahat saying "please tigilan mo na ko past is past, nakamove on ka na nung iniwan mo ko bat ngayon umaasa kang babalik ako? sorry pero di na kasi kita kilala"

[heartfortress]

It's a No. After the break up, I thought that it would be ok if i keep the friendship we had kasi friends naman kame bago naging kame. Kaso it wasn't easy as i thought. Syempre para maka move on noon kelangan ko ng bonggang space at putulin ang lahat ng possible communications. Ngayon sobrang move on na ako. 7 years na kame ng present bf ko at sya na ang h2b ko. ayoko din maging dahilan na magselos si bf pag nakipagfriends pa ko kay x.

[Evolet027]

he tried to be friends with me, pero pinaramdam ko sa kanya na balewala na sya saken at wala na kong feelings. Sobrang naka move on na ko, pareho na kaming may asawa. Pero ewan ko sa kanya. Panget nga nya, mukhang iguana. Dati ang gwapo nya sa pangingin ko, my friends are right, under a mysterious spell ako nung na inlove ako sa tukmol na yun.

[pumpkin13]

Di na. Nakamove on na ko, wala na yung taong nanakit sakin so bakit ko pa gagawing friend? The friendship had been thrown out the very first day cheating happened. So di ko kelangan ng ganung friendship.

Although one of my exes became a good friend kasi wala naman kami masamang pinagsamahan. The relationship just didn't work out, pero yung friendship pede. Sya lang yung exception. The rest, goodbye for good na.

[17glut]

^ alam mo teh, minsan hindi bagay sa yo nickname mu, parang dapat yata sarsyadong ampalaya na lang... syadong mapait ang hugot 

[pumpkin13]

^Tseh! Ang tamis nga ng pagkahugot ko. Wag ka nga magulo! Umuwi ka sa thread natin! Lol!

[killbill]

Some of my ex are still my good friends, depende ata sa breakup. Kung tipong ginago ka at may 3rd party walang chance.

But if friends na kami bago pa naging kami after a few years friends na uli. Sa kanila na nga ako humihingi relationship advice. Hehe

[pikapika2501]

No. basics lang, kung wala ka nang business dyan, umalis ka na. kung hindi, mapapahamak ka lang.

ako, sa sitwasyon ko, wala pang 24 hours na break-up. napaka sakit. pero sosoli ko lang gamit nya, mamaya siguro. short and sweet, mali na ang relasyon namin kasi di sya nagbabago. ultimatom mode.

plus, to be friends, syempre magkakabalikan kayo. mas maganda kung lalayo ka na lang and heal naturally. sana kayanin ko to.

"i was hiding inside to hold you" <- what a song...
"the more you say, i'll let you go. at the back it's saying I will always love you"

... Lord, sana wag nyo pong papabayaan si ex...

[Shean06]

Case to case basis siguro. If the pain and wound is still fresh, syempre the answer will be definitely NO. Pero pagka nakamove on ka na and wala na totally yung sakit and the acceptance sa break up and "maturity" is in you na on how you can handle the situation of becoming friends ulit sa ex mo, then the answer will be Yes, it's okay. And maybe depende din siguro kung pano kayo nagkahiwalay, if nagkahiwalay kayo ng maayos, then okay lang na maging friends pa rin kayo in a right time na all wounds are totally healed. Tsaka it depends then siguro both sides yung willingness and acceptance of becoming friends ulit.

As for my experience kasi,yung dalawa kong ex eh still friends ko pa rin naman sila. Yung first ex ko eh former bestfriend ko sya then naging kami for 8 years and naging maayos naman paghihiwalay namin kaya nung na-accept ko totally sa sarili ko na gang dun lang talaga kami at totally nakamove on na ako, di na sakin naging mahirap na maging kaibigan ko pa rin sya. Same with my second ex (former high school classmate ko sya na super crush ko nung high school. hahaha). Although si second ex eh super civil na lang talaga.

[Jcblue]

samin kakabreak lang namin nung June kaya fresh pa ..hanggang  ngayon namimiss ko pa rin sya.pero pamove on na ako ..Blinock nya nga ako sa fb para maka move on ako ..nagsend ako sa kanya ng letter sa lettermelater sa August 4 nya marereceive..para lang sa closure..ayoko naman rin sa relationship namin kasi gusto nya may involved na s*x. sya nga nakauna sakin. Naibigay ko dahil sa concern ko sa depression nya at pinagsisihan ko na naibigay ko ..

Gusto ko pa rin maging friends kami kaso sabi ko sa letter baka di na pwede kasi pagbawalan kami ng magiging girlfriend nya

[aprilcat]

NO.. specially if you're still broken.. the hurt will just hunt you..

[reighnyielle]

Well it really depends on how the breakup ended and depends on the reason/s behind the breakup

[MrsDairo]

my ex unfriended me in FB but keeps on sending message via messenger. NAKAKALOKA siya hehhe

[mysterioza_me]

I don't wanna be friends with them. Siguro civil lang pero hindi friends.

[cruxito]

permit me to post this story of mine...
meron kasi ako High School GF which is almost 2 yrs kami.. break up after graduation.. reason : unknown...
after 14 years nagkita kami sa Fb with the help of mutual friends... hahaha we both have our own family na... we are happy with our life right now...
kaso nung one time nag meet kami grabe ang saya, super enjoy kami sa isa't isa dami reminisce hahaha...

basta masaya pa din kami keep in touch up to now...

"please wag nyo kami judge masyado ha we know na meron na kami family but we treat each other as family - in respect sa mga sides namin we both agree to keep it in secrets"