DO YOU PREFER TO BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR X OR NOT?????? WHY

[chuvaeklavu]

naiyak din naman ako sis, nung umiiyak siya pero pinigilan ko talaga...
and said to forget about everything...

pero nakakamiss pa din sis....

[chuvaeklavu]

natawa naman ako sis, sa "sweet nothings"

ako naman sis im still praying -- hindi para magkabalikan kame kundi ayusin ni GOD [textspeak!] life niya --- pero meron pa din akong "what if?"
--- I said to myself di ko siya babalikan kung hindi siya binabalik sakin ni GOD talaga... cos i know may possibility pa kame magkabalika in the future... pero kung batugan pa din siya talagang di siya meant for me.. hehe...

but we never know kung ano pa ang mangyayari in the future... although nireready ko na myself to get married sa last na magiging BF ko...

God bless us sis!

[pinkberries]

not anymore... i changed my mind.  you can't be friends with someone who refused to treat you right. 

id rather spend my energy in praying and asking for forgiveness... and accept that it was never meant to be in the first place.

[iCleverClogs]

yesterday, tumawag sakin si EX he was crying....(pero di siya nakikipagbalikan)

He is crying kase sinayang niya oras ko sa pagsasama namin ng 4yrs, 2 nights na daw siya di makatulog and gusto niya talaga ko makausap to say sorry...

gusto niya wag kame mawalan ng communication cos he wants to prove to me na hindi naaksaya lahat ng ginawa ko para sa kanya....
-- pero i know mahihirapan siya magbago.... I know...
sabi niya magigigng inspiration niya ko(dahil sa mga ginawa ko for him) sa pagbabago niya since he is lazy, sloppy and irresponsible to money.

okay lang the feeling ko na kausap ko siya kahapon parang normal na mga vital signs ko... LOL...
sabi ko sa kanya ok lang siguro na magusap tayo pero hindi madalas since unfair sa GF mo...tsaka i told him na ayaw ko muna siya makita cos di pa ko ready...cos he wants to have dinner again with me...

sinisisi niya [textspeak!] situation kung bakit kame naghiwalay...
pero it happens for a reason i said...
and i told him to forget about it and move on...

Namiss ko [textspeak!] malambing niyang boses pero I know kung ano stand ko sa relationship namin....

He said kung di lang naman daw siya nagka GF sana daw maayos kame ngayon.... I said "siguro" pero in my mind i mean " hindi din siguro"

Narealize niya pagiging imature niya and lahat ng hindi niya nagawa para sakin so it was painful for him thats why he was crying....
pero ok lang... naka move on na ko isang dipa!

Goodbye!

nakakarelate ako masyado sa situation niyo sis. Ganyan din si ex ko. May personal struggle.


Para sakin possible naman na maging friends talaga sa isa't isa kung wala na talagang bitterness. Just like what I did to my first ex. I'd still contact him because I'm feeling na friends kami, pero ayaw niya na icontact ko siya for the sake of his GF, I dunno know. Since nagkahiwalay kami, sunod sunod na fail relationships ang naexperience niya, but he's okay with it daw. Ayaw na daw niya ng serious relationship and he admit na na-trauma na siya sa nangyari sa amin. Now he really mean it. He doesn't want me to contact him anymore, sabi niya close na daw kami. What??? Is there such thing as closure? O baka naman acceptance.


 

[jasive51]

wag na lang muna parang ang hirap nun eh

[isobel]

i don't have any ex-boyfriends, but previously, i would have thought i'd be all for remaining friends with the ex. pero, sa totoo lang, yung former manliligaw ko pa nga lang na friend ko before, hindi ko na makita as a good friend, paano pa kaya yung naging karelasyon ko talaga at nasaktan ka talaga nang harap-harapan?

(backgrounder: nalaman ko na naging sentiment nya pala ang "she doesn't deserve me" after i refused his advances. sure, i understand na bitter sya or he's trying to make himself feel better, and kung hindi lang ako yung girl in question at obviously na hindi ka-level, i may have told him the same thing to comfort him. pero i was supposed to be one of his closest friends back then, parati nya ako gusto kasama, super jive kami, naging mabait ako sa kanya at naging matapat about my feelings, or lack thereof, for him. hindi ko sya niloko or ginawang t****. and, excuse me, mabuti at respectable ang pamilyang pinanggalingan ko. kahit gaano ka pa kasama ang loob mo, kung mabuti at tunay kang kaibigan, hindi mo pag-iisipan nang mababa ang kaibigan mo. nakakawalan ng respeto. pfft.)

[antooken]

Karamihan sa mga ex bf's ko friend ko. Merong mga super close friends meron din namang hindi. Siguro dahil wala na yung bitterness? Di ko alam eh. Basta siguro ok na sa inyo ang lahat at pareho na kayong nakapag move-on pwede na kayong maging friends.

[shiftingsands]

not right now. maybe in the future we have to at least be civil
to each other for the sake of our son.

pero matagal pa yun mga 10-20yrs from now pa haha!

[ysa.belle]

sa mga naging ex ko, hindi ko siya laging kinokonsider kase parang we just drifted apart for so many times. pag tinatanong if ilan na naging BF ko eh hindi siya kasama sa mga binibilang ko as "serious" kase high school palang ako nung naging kami...

pero naging kami so ex ko pa rin siya and with this ex, okay lang na maging friends kami... we never had a bad ending naman eh... we just drifted apart & moved on with our lives...

[mimiku]

I changed my mind. It's okay to be friends with your ex. As long as you have already moved on.
 

[twelvth_goddess]

Among all of my x's, 1 lang yung speaking terms pa din kame and that's my ex right before my hubby.

Speaking of that guy, dumadalas na naman makipag-usap sa ken si loko. At first, questions about my baby lang ang tinatanong. Tapos biglang nada-divert na ang convo about our history and why we broke up. I think me speaking with him isnt healthy for him hehe

[iCleverClogs]

As of now hindi... Yung first ex ko friends kami pero bitter pa rin at napakaplastik kahit halatang di pa nakakamove on. Nakakasakit siya ng tao to the fact na inaaway niya yung ex ko ngayon. Tapos panay sisi sakin kung bakit kami nagkahiwalay. Nakakairita siya super... Kumukulo ang dugo ko pag naaalala ko mga sinasabi niya.




Dito naman sa second ex ko, ako naman ang bitter. Kaya ayokong makipagkaibigan kasi di pa ako nakakamove on. May communication pa kami kahit long distance ang layo namin.




Parang ayoko ng magkaBF. Nakakastress. 

[sheyfashionizta]

Yes i guess.. if you became friends its your chance to share with him what happen to you after your break up, like achievements and things that can make you happy without him in your life.. and just by having him as your friend gives pain for him that your happy and fulfilled without him, and other way around.. maybe friendship is a tools just to get to know each other better. coz i believe that if you failed to be lovers maybe your happy to be friends..

[appleberry9]

i prefer to be civil

[choco_pie]

NO it would create a conflict not just between me and him also for my current boyfriend, call it paranoid pero kasi baka siya pa ang maging cost ng away namin dalawa or worst break up

[jhenrheign]

yes its fine... im friends with some of my ex... actually yung isang ex ko bestfriends pa kami ng asawa nya ngaun... both me and my hubby are friends with both of our ex's... and its fine with us, mature lang siguro kami pareho pagdating sa ganyang bagay...we don't have insecurities and we love and trust each other so much... 

[rhia9lam]

this was what i said to him when i knew its really over:

we cant even be friends anymore. because everytime were tryin to, i just fall for u again. then what happens, u hurt me again. paulit ulit eh. so now, im sorry we cant be friends.

mas madali [textspeak!] mag move on un nagdecide ako ng ganito. wala na ko balita sa knya, kun meron man [textspeak!] ko na gustong marinig. kun anuman gawin nya sa buhay nya kun mahal nya pa ko or what, i dont care anymore. i just wish & pray that he'll be better somday para sa sarili nya, at pra sa [textspeak!] nya pa nakikilalang anak namen...

[raven03]

For both hubby and I okay lang. In fact I am friends with his ex sa FB. We say hi and "like" some photos of each other.

Kasi the way I see it, once a relationship is ended, you leave all the bitterness and bad memories. Life is short para may tao kang iwasan, and besides people change, just because hindi nag-work out yung sa min means he is a monster na; he can be someone's hero and hindi ko dapat ipagdamot yun just because hindi sa kin napunta.

Even a bf who cheated on me, okay lang maging friends kami. The one he cheated on me with is the girl he married and has two kids with, bakit pa sasama yung loob ko di ba? He found his happiness. In my case, thanks to his cheating, I was able to date around and I found my hubby a dozen dates and 2 bfs after. My exes, my hubby's ex and myself found happiness, it's great to be friends with these people kasi they have a unique insight of who you are na other peple don't.

[jpsv72]

acquaintance maybe ok lang but really friends? good friends? i doubt it kung friend nga kc nandon pa rin yung dating may pinagsamahan kayo. so definitely NO.

[graceriabel]

Can you give me certain ways kung paano?! Ako right now nasa process palang ako...
But I really want to forget him and all of those stuffs! Namumuhi ako sakanya maski sa kuya niya na sinira kami! Ayoko na ngang may maraning pa na kung anumang update about their family eh!!!