DO YOU PREFER TO BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR X OR NOT?????? WHY

[ghellybeans]

No for me. To avoid conflict.

[lizzete]

waaah  sabi ng ex ko friends na lang daw muna kame kaya eto we still text,..ang hirap hirap..kaya wag niyo ko gayahin..kasi katangahan to..alam mo yun ..hoping ako..tapos siya naman nagpapakasweet pero cmon alam ko sa sarili ko hindi to totoo..

ewan ko ba kung ano ano gingawa ko katangahan..


tapos i found myself na naman falling for him

ano ba

[biyach]

i'm friends with some of my Xs.. kasi feeling ko they'd been nice to me naman and that sobrang not meant to be lang kaya we had to part ways...

pero the last one NO!... i've moved on and he had moved on too.. pero sa lahat ng pain na pinaranas niya sa kin and for making me feel less of myself nung time na nagbreak kami.. he doesn't deserve it.. even in FB di ko siya niaccept... he doesn't deserve to know the things that are happening in my life.. but i made sure na he knows I'm better off without him and that i'm super happy with my life and my family right now... (by staying connected AT LEAST through FB with his small circle of friends!)

[BAISANAN]

depende sa pinagsamahan at cause ng break-up pero mas feel ko wag  na lang ...kahit friendship.....di ko kaya ibigay.....lol.....

[janzphynx]

depende sa cause ng breakup nyo and the things happened after the break up. May mga ex ako na friends kami meron din naman hindi...

[koalaa]

saakin, ok lang maging friends. kakabalik ko lang sa ex ko, we tried, pero wala na, di na namin maitama at maibalik yung dati naming relationship, lagi kami di magkaintindihan nag iba na kasi ugali nya, we both decided to end it up, tapos ngaun nag text sya, bakit daw hindi ako nag t-text sakanya, e hello? nasaktan nya ko ng sobra, [textspeak!] gusto nya pagusapan namin.

So ang pakikipag friends after break up e depende talaga sa cause ng break up. Yung saakin kasi masyado nya ako nasaktan, parang ang hirap para saakin makipag friends sakanya, Mahirap mag build ng another trust kahit as a friend, baka kasi ma fall pa ako ulit sakanya. Mahirap na ulit masaktan.

[xiansmom]

big NO
kahit pa sa anino
ayoko,
kahit sa panaginip pa...
ewan ko basta ganun ako e,
pag ex na,tapos na
bakit pa kailangan makipagFriend.
hahanap nalang ako bagong friends ko.

[av]

Mas okay sana kung no. Ang kaso, nagiging friends kami. Pero matagal bago kami maging friends. Yung recent ex ko pa nga nasing bestfriend ko kuno! Chos! Masabi lang na may "tagging" ng relasyon. Weird kasi kahit may gf na siya na bago ngayon, sakin pa siya nagtatanong. Echoserong frog siya.

[purple_md]

no kasi mahihirapan kayong mag move on pagka may communication pa rin kayo

[Bits N. Pieces]

eventually, yes..

[purple_rain0721]

hmmm... i dunno.  pwede siguro pero hindi super friends.  it's kinda hard.  our relationship lasted for 6 years, may wedding plans na and all that tapos pinagpalit ako.  how can you be friends with someone na niloko ka? on top of that, parang it's hard to be friends with someone you've once been intimate with.  tama na siguro yung napatawad ko siya sa mga ginawa niya. 

[charmedwitch776]

YES because we have a son

but if we dont have a child BIG no...not because bitter ako but because i really dont want him in my life na. i just want him out...yun lang!

[ms.messed_up*]

im ok with my exes naman, though there are times na issue talaga with their current gfs, annoying lang sometimes kasi hello, im not doing anything, sila naman nag effort to be ok with me and all.
ako na din umiiwas, respeto na din for the girls.

[kutingpie]

no no no..!

moving on...

[xoxolat]

I do not want to be friends with X. 

There is too much history and reminders from when you were together.  It isn't fair to your future partner either.

[suikorayne]

depende.... kc ako with my 1st bf, we became friends. sa 3rd bf ko, i dont think so... dun sa 2nd bf, were friends din kaya lang mas lumalalim sa friendship... kc he still loves me and vice versa..

[princessee]

Quoting Serena van der Woodsen, (to Blair) You have too much history to interact in a very casual way. Hehe.

[lulay23]

i think more on civil..lalo na pag may anak kayo.

[gurlzat03]

from what I've experienced, a big NO muna siguro. tama 'yung opinion ng iba nating sis dito, depende nga siguro sa reason ng breakup. in my case, I would prefer na 'wag na lang para dere-derecho na pagmo-move on ko. 

[xxpetitexx]

Based from my experience before and today, I'll advice to all our sisses here who are in middle of moving on to stay away from your ex-BF. Chances are you might not be able to move on because you still have in contact with him and you agree to be friend with him as what he offers to you. Why this such thing happen? An ex-BF is almost always wants to remain friends with you because he still wanted to get contact with you so that he will know your whereabouts, in short he will have the chance to manipulate you. Also, he wants you for the reason that in due time if he changed his mind then he will going back with you, thus, raising your hopes again.

Let's say you want to move-on but being friends with an ex-BF will never help you to move on. Why? Do you think you will happy about him telling you that he already find a new one for him? I don't think it will make you happy for him, maybe you can say it to him but deep inside it will reaps your heart again and the pain is more intolerable than before. Another disadvantage is an ex-BF who offers friendship might used you as "booty call" for his selfish purposes. It's not good either, so be careful about it. Being friends with your ex is more severe than implementing the No Contact Rule. They are just the same but the former is more worst than the latter.

Which one do you choose?
Friends with your BF = BF (move on easily) , YOU (not moving on)
No Contact Rule = BF (not moving on), YOU (move on easily)

I could suggest apply both of these ways to help you from moving on. NO friendship with an ex and NO contact rule with an ex

Sometimes, women wanted to risk a chance just to get back and ex in order to heal the pain, but never consider that what we do will only cause more pain.