Should I forget and move on? Or should I still wait..?

[Ms. C]

(Sorry if this is in the wrong section..)

Well, here's the story.

We've only been together for 3 months (and still counting, I guess). Everything went well for the first few weeks, until it came to our first month. Medyo okay pa nun. Nagpatuloy yun hanggang 2nd month namin.

A few days after our 2nd monthsary, things began to be a little rough for us. Mas dumalas at tumindi na ang mga away namin kaysa dati. Kung dati, sandali lang ang pag-aaway namin, ngayon umaabot na ng hanggang 2 days na hindi pa namin naaayos. And during that, walang pansinan. Actually, SIYA lang ang hindi pumapansin sakin. Nagmumukha na nga akong t**** kaka-sorry nun, eh. Nagpatuloy yung ganung sistema namin hanggang sa mag-3rd monthsary kami. But, a few days before our 3rd monthsary, things got REALLY worse than before.

Alam na namin (not so sure about him) na medyo rocky na yung daan na tinatahak namin. Mas madalas na talaga kaming mag-away.  Mga ilang araw muna bago magbati, tapos ilang segundo lang, away nanaman. Tapos aabutin nanaman ng ilang araw, minsan nga linggo pa ang inaabot ng sobrang simpleng pagtatalo namin. Napapagod na rin ako, pero kinakaya ko para lang sa kanya at sa relasyon namin. Hanggang sa hindi na ata niya kinaya...

April 4, 2010. 2 days pagkatapos ng 3rd month namin. Hindi ko siya tine-text nun kasi nainis ako sa kanya. Hindi kasi niya ako tinext nung monthsary namin. Pero binati niya ko nung kinagabihan bago yun. Tsaka, honor guard kasi siya sa simbahan nila. Semana santa kasi yung monthsary namin, eh. Pero, kahit na. Nainis pa din ako. Wala pang isang minuto yung igugugol niya para lang i-text ako, hindi niya pa nagawa. Feeling ko tuloy parang wala lang yung araw na yun para sa kanya...

Tapos nag-text siya nung araw na 'yun. "Lunch ka na. Antok pa din ako." Yan yung sinabi niya. Napangiti ako, syempre. Ite-text ko na sana siya, pero bigla siyang nagtext sakin. Eto yung eksaktong sinabi niya..

"Magbreak na tayo gwapo pala yung nasa kaliwang dulo ah pakilala kita (sabay bigay ng number nung guy tsaka nung name)"

Wow. Nagulat ako. Naalala ko yung kinoment ko sa isang picture niya sa Facebook. Sabi ko dun sa comment ko na ang gwapo nung guy na nasa kaliwang dulo. E totoo naman kasi, gwapo talaga. Kaya nga gulat na gulat ako, lalo na sa sinabi niya na "mag-break" na daw kami... Dahil lang sa comment kong 'yun..

Kinausap ko siya. Sabi niya yun nalang daw ang itext ko. Gwapo naman daw yun (hindi kasi gwapo si boyfie, eh). Dun nalang daw ako. Ganito ganyan. Feeling ko mga sis na pinamimigay niya na ko dun sa lalaking 'yun. Ang sakit..

Pagkatapos nung pag-uusap na yun, text ako ng text sa kanya. Hindi niya talaga ko pinapansin. Akala ko wala na siyang load or something. Hanggang sa malaman ko na katext pala niya yung kaibigan ko (pero wala siyang gusto dun). Dun na ako nag-burst at umiyak nang umiyak.

Nagpatuloy pa yung ganun na hindi niya ko pinapansin. Hanggang ngayon. Pero yung ibang nagte-text sa kanya, nirereply-an niya. Ako lang talaga ang hindi. Hanggang ngayon hindi pa rin niya ako tine-text o tinatawagan o kahit ano. Napapaisip na tuloy ako kung kami pa ba o inabandona na niya ako nang hindi niya sinasabi..

Mga sis, ano bang gagawin ko? Kakalimutan ko na ba siya, o maghihintay muna ako? Pointless din ata ang pangungulit sa kanya. Mahirap kasing mapilit yun, eh. Hindi rin naman ako makapunta sa kanila kasi LDR kami at hindi ko alam ang bahay nila. Hindi pa kami nagkikita, eh.

Any help would be much appreciated..

[aquacharly]

Are you serious?

BF mo for 3 months, hindi pa kayo nagkikita -- and you 2 have a lot to quarrel about already? 
Hindi pa kayo nagkikita as in never kayo nagkita, even before (how long ba kayo magkakilala before naging "kayo"?)??
I would think that if hindi pa kayo nagkikita -- you would spend more time trying to get to know each other better.
Or, baka that is how you get to know each other better -- p1ssing each other off. 

Or, you mean -- hindi pa kayo nagkikita for the past x no. of days... in which case, buti nga hwag muna kayo magkita if you 2 are p1ssed off at each other.  Baka may masabi pa kayong makadagdag sa sama ng loob nyo sa isa't isa.

Atchaka, how old/young are you 2?  Parang may kababawan ang pinagaawayan.   

3 months and all this harassment.  May be better if you just leave in the past what does not work.  This relationship sure isn't working.   

[Ms. C]

Yes, sis. 3 months but NEVER met in person. Internet love kami, eh. We known each other for a month and some days bago naging kami. Before kasi trip lang yun, pero biglang naging seryoso. May times na naga-attempt kaming magkita pero hindi natutuloy, dahil sa sched ko.

I'm just 14 and he's 21. May pagka-childish kasi yun, eh.

Thanks for the advice sis! Medyo naliwanagan ako ng konti dahil sayo!

[greyzie]

ah, sis.. you`re only 14??? alam ba ng nanay mo na you have a 21-year old bf that you met online?

[Ms. C]

^
Yes, sis.

[lesters_gal]

^naku sis.your still young.baka infatuation lang yan.don't take it seriously.

[rasee16]

korek sis.. mababaw pa pinagaawayan nyo.. and di pa kayo nagkikita ever? di pa nga kayo nagkikita, away na kayo ng away? i don't know, but in my opinion, it's pointless.. mababaw lahat.. kahit yung relationship, mababaw pa.. (sorry for being brutally frank) pero kung masama na nga ugali ng bf mo, masama pa yung mukha, haay.. ewan ko nalang.. besides, bata ka pa. marami ka pang makikilala. marami pang mas matino dyan at mas mamahalin ka pa..

[hersmart4ever]

malaking bagay ang age gap ninyo e. Malamang magkaiba pa kayo ng takbo ng utak.

[aquacharly]

Ms C -- 14!
            This is not a relationship you have, it is not love... it is just a flirtation.   Na bionk! na that 21yo kaya ayaw na mag respond.  What is he gonna get out of flirting you up, getting you hot and bothered... and boink!  you are just 14.
 
Betcha .. he won't meet up with you face to face... ano, put himself in harm's way? 

Sweetie, at 14 -- unless you live in a tower, and  your mom locked you up...  you shouldn't be satisfied with internet relationships.   Ano ba ginagawa mo na wala kang panahon to go out and flirt up the boys?

You must build up your experiences and exposure...
No, I don't mean having sex ha.
But, Ms C -- being young in real life is different.   Go into some sport .. bata ka pa to go drinking and dancing kasi....
Do not deprive yourself of  nice girly memories.   Make a lot of friends, it is summer all the young ones are out there.   

hay naku, you are 14 -- teka, balikan ko and modify my 1st post... delete the latter parts.
   

[Ms. C]

Thanks for all your replies. I just wanna add some more infos and explain some as well.

Update: He talked to me yesterday. Ayun, maayos na ang lahat. Di ko na sasabihin yung napag-usapan namin. Puro clarifications lang lahat yun. But I'm not that sure if we're still at it, tho. I just know that we're in good terms now.

Okay, eto na.

Infatuation. I've been there a LOT of times na. I thought that it was really love, that that guy really matters to me. I know what infatuation feels. And I'm quite sure that my feelings for him until this moment is certainly not infatuation. Yes, you might think that way because I'm this young. But my mind isn't of a typical 14-year old, eh. Sure, there are things that I think little of, but when it comes to this, I'm sure I don't.

And about flirting with other people, I'm just not into that stuff eh. Hangga't maaari nga ayokong makipagkilala sa kung sino. May pagka-weird talaga ako pagdating sa mga lalaki >.<

Tungkol naman sa pagkikita, well, atat na nga siyang makita ako. Laging siya ang nagpe-pursue na magkita na kami. Ako lang talaga ang may problema. Nahihirapan kasi akong ayusin ang sched ko. Lagi akong stuffed with school works >.< Kapag tumatanggi nga ako, may valid reason man o wala, e nagtatampo siya. Nagpaparinig. Isa rin yun sa mga madalas naming pag-awayan.

Well, thanks for your concerns, anyway. Di ko expect na may magrereply dito sa thread ko haha. I'll think about what you all said

pero kung masama na nga ugali ng bf mo, masama pa yung mukha, haay.. ewan ko nalang..

Natawa naman ako dito hahahahhaha XDD

[ms.unpredictable]

Whew.. I cant stop myself commenting...

a 14 years old girl whos having a heartache now because of his 21 years old bf that she just met through net... haay...

NO matter how you said that is not INFATUATION, believe US, IT IS!!!
 
Advice! Leave him alone... WALA kang mapapala sa kaniya at isa pa you are too young para mamroblema sa kaniya... naku kung kapatid lang kita...

Think about it...                                                                                                                                      

[mkasj_rn]

korek sis.. mababaw pa pinagaawayan nyo.. and di pa kayo nagkikita ever? di pa nga kayo nagkikita, away na kayo ng away? i don't know, but in my opinion, it's pointless.. mababaw lahat.. kahit yung relationship, mababaw pa.. (sorry for being brutally frank) pero kung masama na nga ugali ng bf mo, masama pa yung mukha, haay.. ewan ko nalang.. besides, bata ka pa. marami ka pang makikilala. marami pang mas matino dyan at mas mamahalin ka pa..

Sis Ms. C. agree ako sa sinabi ni Sis rasee16. . . I've also experienced you situation 10 years ago. When I was at the age of 13 i meet a guy through a phone call which was 10 years older than me. Basta medyo same story din sayo. honestly,akala mo mahirap mag move on sa umpisa pero pag tagal ng panahon and maka meet ka ng mas higit pa dun sa current bf mo matatawa ka na lang isipin ang past mo. Hey! cheer up wag mo ng sayangin yung time mo dun sa guy na yun. Kasi kung pareho kayong childish hindi talaga mag wowork relationship niyo. Isa pa, parang hindi din naman siya seryoso sayo. (peace little sister ha?.)

[mimiku]

I'll be frank with you sweetie, don't fret over something like this.
Find a guy whom you can actually meet and get to interact with not only through text or call. Text affairs don't last that long so you better drop this guy off. It's too dangerous for you given that you are so young and naive (basing from how you write and narrate your story). It's just plain obvious that he's not that into you as you are so head over heels in love with him.

Never text that guy anymore. Delete his number and change yours.

[aquacharly]

Ms C  when I say "flirt up" -- take it figuratively.  I didn't mean to be a tart, sorry for any misleading phrases... I meant, go and socialize ... there is a wide variety of boys/men out there.  The more you know of the world, the better you can make choices.

At 14 -- ganyan din ako ka convinced I knew what I wanted, and what was "it" for me..  ah, the confidence of youth and innocence.  LOL
Take heed of what MS UNPREDICTABLE and MIMIKU + MKAS J_RN are telling you.

Teka, you say the meet-up hasn't gone through to-date because of your busy school sched. 
Now, you also said your mother knows you have a "BF"  that is 21yo and your relationship started on the net.   So, since alam naman ni Mother... pwes, why isn't BF going to your house to present himself?   Siguro naman may Sat off ka from school .


So there, meet up face to face soonest .. it is summer... there are lots of opportunities for him to show his face at your door...   that way, malaman mo talaga if  "in reality"  when he is there before you... ganon mo pa ka mahal yang guy na yan.    Pero yon na nga,  none of us here think it is true love or even an infatuation...  so don't go running off with him anytime soon ha. 

Take care of yourself.  Have fun.  The world is your oyster, after all.

[greyzie]

i definitely agree with sis aquacharly.. why not ask your bf to come to your house.

medyo gulat lang din ako that your mother knew (and i assume, agreed) for you to have a bf
na you met online. worried lang din ako & the other sisses kasi there are a lot of predators swarming the internet. may mga victims much older than you.... so be very careful...

[Ms. C]

Naiiyak na tuloy ako habang nagbabasa haha

Thank you talaga sa advice niyo, mga sis. Sige, susubukan ko. No, gagawin ko. Para mapanatag na din yung loob ko. Napapagod na kasi akong umiyak gabi-gabi dahil lang sa immature na bagay na to lol

Salamat talaga sa help niyo. Di ko ine-expect

[soLaris]

sis, bata ka pa. makakahanap pa ng iba diyan. saka, 3 months pero di pa kayo nag-meet? naku. don't waste your time sis. you are still young. enjoy being single.

[aquacharly]

Ms C, ha!  malapit na kitang kurutin... hehe
                Ano iniiyak iyak mo dyan?  At 14 -- you aren't supposed to be a heap of tears... believe us,  you will have more than enough reasons to cry and go into heartbreak mode in the future.   hehe

                Do yourself a favor... go out, get dressed as only 14 year olds can get away with (hmm, you are at the age nobody can say you are slutty  ... so enjoy it all!)   ... and add to your list of Facebook contacts.   

                Para matapos na nga yang haka haka mo ... and parang ma boink! ka na ... go have this BF of yours present himself at your doorstep.  Baka ma boink!  ka agad kasi nga he has a face only his mother can love.   O hwag mo kong batuhin.   But at 14 -- hindi pa naman 20years ago yon for me,  Sweetie.. hanap ko eh guapo to show off and preferably, with use of a car.     hehe

[greyzie]

^ah hahaha! napapatawa mo talaga ko aquacharly...
napaisip tuloy ako kung pano ba ko nung 14...
i was so in love with hector calma & johnny depp (hanggang ngayon naman!) that time
that no pansin ang boys

Ms C.. do enjoy your youth.. don`t get too serious.
You`re at a phase in your life na kilig-kilig muna.


 

[aquacharly]

Ms C!   

Sweetie,  mag feedback ka dito ha... cuento ka about your (finally, if ever)  dalaw or meet-up with that internet BF of yours.

Hay GERYZIE -- I just realized, my one true consistent love nga is JOHNNY DEPP.