So tired of the pain...

[jenybasti]

^ ngayon kachat ko si kabit..in fairness,mukhang nakokonsensya..
sisiguraduhin ko lang sa lalakeng yun na matatapos na din maliligayang araw nila ng kabit nya..na pagsisisihan nya ng sobra mga pinag gagagawa nya sakin...

[Foodict]

^jennybasti

I just hope everything turns out alright for you. You can file a case too, kuha ka ng lawyer na pro-bono.

sana may forums, chat at email nung panahon ng mother ko nung namumrublema  sya sa tatay ko.

[jenybasti]

^ sis di naman kami kasal
laking tulong talaga ng internet

[dumpee.o13]

^ ngayon kachat ko si kabit..in fairness,mukhang nakokonsensya..
sisiguraduhin ko lang sa lalakeng yun na matatapos na din maliligayang araw nila ng kabit nya..na pagsisisihan nya ng sobra mga pinag gagagawa nya sakin...

^ sis, kasal po ba kayo? kasi tama si Foodict, pwede ka magdemanda if ever. atleast matatakot mo pa yung kabit nya, hehe' tama yan sis, that's the spirit saka kakarmahin din yang mga yan. just pray sis, godbless

[jenybasti]

^ di kami kasal.ngayon nga iniisip ko kung good thing o bad thing ba yun..
sabi ni kabit,bigyan ko daw sya ng time para itama mga pagkakamali nya.
kagabi,nagtext na naman si partner.nag sosorry.di ko na alam kung dapat ba kong maniwala ano kaya magandang gawin?

[Girltalker2]

^sakin kasi once a cheater, always a cheater.

if he wants to prove otherwise, let him do the job. let him prove to you na he really meant sorry. and that means, kelangan sya gumapang if need be. do not make yourself available to him for a certain periof of time - madali sabihin mahirap gawin - pero believe me, dito mo malalaman kung sincere sya.

[ettevyvi]

^sakin kasi once a cheater, always a cheater.

if he wants to prove otherwise, let him do the job. let him prove to you na he really meant sorry. and that means, kelangan sya gumapang if need be. do not make yourself available to him for a certain periof of time - madali sabihin mahirap gawin - pero believe me, dito mo malalaman kung sincere sya.

Once a cheater, always a cheater especially if he's playing the victim.

Sis jenybasti, wag kang maniniwala. He doesn't deserve the sorry. You said so yourself that something is still going on... I mean, his sorry meant "Sorry, I got caught." The benefit of the doubt doesn't apply anymore. And if he IS really, patunayan nya yun in whatever means. Right now, bounce. Layuan mo na sya.

[jenybasti]

^ yup sis,di naman ako naniniwala eh.talagang dapat patunayan nya muna na talagang nagsisisi nga sya.ngayon medyo ok naman kami.nagkakatawanan pa kami nung nag usap kami kanina tungkol sa mga kalokohan nya.
but still,alam ko di ako dapat magpakakampante.kahit papano,hinahanda ko na sarili ko sa mga pwedeng mangyari pa..

[dumpee.o13]

^ @sis jenybasti, mag-ingat ka na lang. wag po masyado magtrust. just be aware and observant pa din kahit pano. i really hope the best for you and your fam. godbless

[tipC_shoegal]

Pahirapan mo 'yan kasi dun mo talaga makikita gaano siya ka-sincere sa pag-apologize nya. It's never gonna be all words, sis. You gotta see action, too! Accepting him back without completely forgiving his wrong-doings won't also do you good 'cause when you two reconcile and you still don't trust him 101%, it's all gonna come back to you (from time to time perhaps) but still, that's gonna be a thorn in the relationship.

It's difficult to believe a cheating b@st@rd once you've caught him red-handed. I've been had and the doubts are definitely one helluva distraction when you let the guy back in your life again, believe me!

So, at this point, let him do what he has to do. Don't tell him what to do to get you back. Let him design his action plan of winning back your affection and TRUST! Distance yourself and don't show vulnerability! If it'd take him years to convince you to eventually win your love and trust back, let it be just as long as you're gonna be 101% sure that he won't be doing the nasty with some chick - again; once you finally say, "Ok, let's get back together. I forgive you."

[jenybasti]

^ ibang klase talaga kakapalan ng mukha.inulit nya uli un.last week lang,nag sorry nanaman at nangakong di na uulit.well,that time eh di naman na ko naniwala.so,as expected eh ganun ulit.isang malaking kalokohan.ayaw nya tigilan kabit nya.napatunayan ko na na sya ang humahabol.napakasakit sakin nun.di ko alam bat nagttyaga pa ko sa kanya.paulit ulit nya kong sinasaktan sa mga ginagawa nya..gusto ko ng mapagod di ko alam bat di ko sya kayang tiisin.naaawa na ko sa sarili ko bakit sya ganun??feeling ko tuloy,para kong basura.basta basta na lang nya itatapon...
pero sabi ko sa kanya,hihintayin ko pa din pagbabalik nya at magtutuos kami ng personal..

[Foodict]

quick question lang guys...

When a girl says i want you to be my best buddy & all i feel for you now is a love like that for a brother - after a decade kang devoted sa kanya at loyal. How do you move on from that? OR more precisely How can I turn that situation around? I don't think I can handle being friendzoned especially when I see her having fun with another guy.

Ang sakit din kasi. at di man lang nakokonsensya sa ginawa nya.

[HoldingOn]

^Initially I was wondering what your relationship status is until I read your previous posts. Kayo, then, iniwan ka niya for someone else, right? If yes, is this her explanation: that she just wants you to be her best buddy? If yes again, then its as clear as ayaw na niya sa iyo. Find a coping mechanism that will work for you. Hindi kasi pare pareho ang tao, what works for me may not work for you. May mga counseling sessions, may healing sessions, you can join prayer groups, you can learn a new hobby, etc.

I understand how you feel, and I'm in a similar situation now.  Masakit pero kailangan natin kayanin eh. If you believe in God, then believe that HE has better plans for us.

[Foodict]

^HoldingOn

Thanks for that sad but enlightening insight.   I'm still hoping we can be together again, but its becoming apparent she's no longer interested. The relationship was on the rocks na nga but I was complacent and she didnt make any effort to help keep it alive. So sad that 10 years of our lives, all that effort and love, wasted.  I'll keep holding on until she starts hating me or if I start realizing how untrue she was to what we were trying to build.

I hope there is something better out there. The only thing better I see is a wiser but more mature her coming back to me.

[HoldingOn]

^You're welcome. Let me share with you, someone told me, whatever I do, I cannot control him. Kahit na mag tumbling ako ng ilang beses, hindi ko magagawa yun. Only God and himself can control other people. BUT, I can control myself because I am in charge of my own emotions. Yes, there is something definitely better out there for us. This video clip might be of help:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IHpboXN3MBo

[dumpee.o13]

di ko alam bat nagttyaga pa ko sa kanya.paulit ulit nya kong sinasaktan sa mga ginagawa nya..gusto ko ng mapagod di ko alam bat di ko sya kayang tiisin.naaawa na ko sa sarili ko bakit sya ganun??feeling ko tuloy,para kong basura.basta basta na lang nya itatapon...
pero sabi ko sa kanya,hihintayin ko pa din pagbabalik nya at magtutuos kami ng personal..

^ sis, i feel you. naramdaman ko na rin yan. yung tipong gusto ko nang sumuko, gusto ko nang mapagod pero seems like something's holding me back to do that. siguro nga LOVE. pero darating ka rin talaga sa point na totally mapapagod ka na e' na maaawa ka na sa sarili and di magtatagal, mangyayare yun sis. nasa sayo na kung hihintayin mo pa yun. pero good decision yung hintayin mo pa rin sya para makapag-usap kayo. goodluck, sis!

[tipC_shoegal]

^ ibang klase talaga kakapalan ng mukha.inulit nya uli un.last week lang,nag sorry nanaman at nangakong di na uulit.well,that time eh di naman na ko naniwala.so,as expected eh ganun ulit.isang malaking kalokohan.ayaw nya tigilan kabit nya.napatunayan ko na na sya ang humahabol.napakasakit sakin nun.di ko alam bat nagttyaga pa ko sa kanya.paulit ulit nya kong sinasaktan sa mga ginagawa nya..gusto ko ng mapagod di ko alam bat di ko sya kayang tiisin.naaawa na ko sa sarili ko bakit sya ganun??feeling ko tuloy,para kong basura.basta basta na lang nya itatapon...
pero sabi ko sa kanya,hihintayin ko pa din pagbabalik nya at magtutuos kami ng personal..

I asked myself that question, too when I was hoping that my now ex would change but the thing is, unless he initiates it, nothing will happen and so there. Ilang beses akong nagbulag-bulagan until I ended up really at my lowest but the beauty of that point in my life was, I decided to make my game plan of how I'd slowly teach myself to let him go until I managed to break it up completely. Yeah, there was a time na nagkita pa din kami kahit break na kami but right now, I've completely stayed away. Whenever I miss him, I cope. I tell myself it won't bring me any good and I'm just gonna waste the run I've done of not contacting him and all that.

So sis, wake up and smell the sh!t that's around you! Stop letting him victimize and eventually kill that spirit inside you. It's so difficult to gain that confidence back when you've been broken too much by someone you love more than life itself. It's never too late to change (for the better). Stop loving him. Start loving yourself now!

[dumpee.o13]

quick question lang guys...

When a girl says i want you to be my best buddy & all i feel for you now is a love like that for a brother - after a decade kang devoted sa kanya at loyal. How do you move on from that? OR more precisely How can I turn that situation around? I don't think I can handle being friendzoned especially when I see her having fun with another guy.

Ang sakit din kasi. at di man lang nakokonsensya sa ginawa nya.

^ hayyy.. that's sad, nasubaybayan ko kasi yung posts mo about your situation e' and it's sad to hear na ganyan yung sinabi nya sayo. pero i think sis HoldingOn is correct. seems like friendship is all that she can offer to you right now. i hate to say this but you have to start helping yourself to move on. i know it's not easy, sabi ko nga sayo before kung ako nga 4 yrs lang e sobrang hirap na, what more pa yung sayo w/c is 10 yrs. pero dba we have know when to stop e' everything happens for a reason, lahat ng nangyayare sa buhay naten may dahilan and someday we will realize kung bakit di nangyare yung ganito and all that. i hope you'll be able to cope w/ that, i', praying for everyone na nasa same situation w/ ours. kaya to, we just have to help ourselves. goodluck sayo, godbless

[Foodict]

Well, I will leave it all up to the Lord. What goes around comes around. She knows she can always come to me for support and refuge. I would never deny her that. What I am pretty sure of is that she isn't as confident as she is trying to be. She may look like a tough and independent girl but its mostly pride. She is testing the waters right now since she was always the good girl in the family.

I can't help but feel its all going to end badly for her.

[dumpee.o13]

Well, I will leave it all up to the Lord. What goes around comes around. She knows she can always come to me for support and refuge. I would never deny her that. What I am pretty sure of is that she isn't as confident as she is trying to be. She may look like a tough and independent girl but its mostly pride. She is testing the waters right now since she was always the good girl in the family.

I can't help but feel its all going to end badly for her.

I just don't understand kung bakit kelangan pang tumagal tayo sa relationship nang ganun then di rin pala kayo para sa isa't-isa. ang sakit lang. prayers lang talaga e'