Can a single mom ever find true love? What to do? WAIT / DATE?

[WallStreetGuy]

Not date naman and definitely not wait. As an african saying says: "pray hard but move your feet."

meaning, go out with friends, meet new people, join groups, anything that will widen your circle. But don't act desperate naman. sooner than you expected, the prince charming will knock at your heart before you can even blink an eye.and this time, its for keeps.

[momentum]

Parang hopeless na ata makahanap ng matino ngayon sa pinas..

[slickchick]

^ haha! i can feel you sis momentum. though i don't want to say na hopeless na makahanap sa pinas. surely, there are exemptions to the rule.  perhaps, it's just that, the usual pinoy culture for men is still conservative and traditional - such that preference is still given to ladies without kids, and some guys still view single moms as having "excess baggage" , who are just looking for guys who can support them in raising the kids. well... siguro, it would really require a change of mindset for those guys, and even perhaps, a change in our culture. and for our part as single moms, it's more of being self-reliant and having enough confidence (not to the point of being arrogant naman ah), so that the guys would know there's more to us. just my two cents worth... 

[mayzelle]

very well said! Sometimes na co consume tayo ng loneliness and we often grab whoever is available for us and wake up one day in failure relationship, its just a waste of time.   mas ok pa maging single kesa tumanda sa kunsumisyon.. hahah.

KOREK!! hay tama kayo better ang tumandang happy kaysa naman sa never ending kunsumisyon.....

[kikaygimikera]

Yes. Dati ang alam ko nagpost ako dito. Maybe 3-4 years ago (I guess) and just recently got engaged to my college bestfriend. I'm a single mom. He's a single dad (but his daughter is not with him). He loves my son and me. And I love him too. 

[freelancer_babe]

Kaloka.

I keep on meeting jerks. 

[slickchick]

Yes. Dati ang alam ko nagpost ako dito. Maybe 3-4 years ago (I guess) and just recently got engaged to my college bestfriend. I'm a single mom. He's a single dad (but his daughter is not with him). He loves my son and me. And I love him too. 

congratulations sis! and advance best wishes! hope all of us here would also have a happy ending just like you. 

[kikaygimikera]

^ Thanks sis. Alam mo before you meet the right person talaga --- marami kang mamemeet na mga jerks around. Nakakainis, akala mo The One na. Pero hindi pa pala. Konti na lang ang quality men sa Philippines.

[momentum]

wala ng single na matino..

[paulina19]

Omg! mga sisses am going 39...and to think I've been a single mom 13 years ago,  though may mga na mi meet na akala ko "The One", ended hindi pa rin pala.  Im planning to travel alone super ipon sa mga Europe countries baka makatisod... Balitaan ko kayo 

[honeylet04]

Hopeless na ako.I've been single for more than 5 years and 30years old na ako next month. Nakita ko nga ideal man ko too perfect sya para sa pangarap kong guy pero too bad married man sya. He said im his bestfriend nag i love you sya sakin sobrang lambing. Married man nga lang.  Nakakatakot madevelop ako sa kanya, hindi ko naman maiwasan kasi supplier ko sya. 

[NickSparks]

has anyone seen PERFECT MOTHERS , the movie? what a crazy plot ..

[pinkswirls12]

i am a single mom to my 3 months old daughter. i am single since i was 2 months pregnant. hindi na kami magkasundo ni ex bf. right now, hindi ko pa naiisip ang makipagdate. sinabi ko sa sarili ko magaasawa na lang ako kapag may isip na baby ko, yung kaya na niyang lumaban kasi sobrang natatakot ako sa napapakita minsan sa news na rapist na stepdad. i do not work anymore, i am sahm and i am very thankful to my parents who provide everything for my daughter dahil hindi ko tinatanggap ang sustento from my baby's father..

[creativehunk]

just dont close your doors yet. marami pa namang guys dito na matino and will accept you for what you are. keep on entertaining guys lang but be very observant and careful in choosing your next man. ako, i dont have problem in loving and marrying a woman who's already have a kid. just as long as the communication to her ex is already cut.

[momentum]

I have this 3rd yr. highschool ex bf who keeps making paramdam to me. Ewan ko ba, maganda career niya ( I guess coz he has been in his first company ever since he graduated college), mabait pero sumpungin hehe malapit sa mother (his dad passed away na) basta mukang ngmature naman siya since highschool hehe .. Pero di ko talaga type ..

Many times he mentioned to me that he still thinks about the "what ifs" Kung nagkatuluyan kami.. Told him wag na niya isipin yun kasi magiging complicated Lang yung life niya if he will pursue me, kasi nga single mom ako, hindi pa ako ready uli, at I feel he deserves better kasi, meaning less complications (don't get me wrong here ha, Di ko naman tinitignan yung situation natin as a bad or negative thing).. Sabi niya tanggap naman niya na may anak ako.. PERO yung badtrip Lang is married status ko

Hay nako...mag process din ng annulment pag may time (at pera) 

[lei0418]

diba sabi nila true love waits daw,so siguro sa mga hoping pa wait lang kayo mga sis,as for me,happy and contented pa naman ako sa situation ko right now,im happy even with my kids lang,pag may dumating at itinulot naman ng sitwasyon why not pero kung magkakaroon lang din naman ng complications at sakit ng ulo di bale na lang din,basta maging masaya na lang kung anong meron sa kasalukuyan

[Girltalker2]

Naku mga sis, don't lose hope. Ang babata nyo pa compared to my age.

For me, it was not really waiting. I just had to heal myself, come to terms with myself, improve myself. Yun lang yung ginawa ko through the years. Then when I felt that I was ready to find the right one, tsaka lang ako nagstart magdate. Ready - emotionally.  Ang problem ko lang now nakabinbin parin ang annulment, so I am taking my time din.

Kaya ngayon, habang nagmumuni muni pa ang iba sa inyo, prepare yourself muna. I believe one has to be fully ready if you want to meet Mr Right.  Fully ready emotionally, psychologically, and mentally. Isama nyo narin ang pag ayos ng papers ninyo para kung dumating man ang tamang guy, ready-ing ready na kayo.  After getting over with your relationship, you should be mature enough na to make decisions na hindi padalos dalos at may mga anak kang kelangan isipin and wise enough narin not to commit the same mistakes. Dapat mas level headed ka narin and have a check list na who you want to be with para mas madali maghanap ng partner.  Kung wala kang checklist, red flag iyan na hindi mo pa alam ang gusto mo, so better not enter in another relationship na magt-trial and error ka ulit, only later to find out di pala kayo para sa isa't isa.

And I tell you, most men are not good enough for you, kaya be wary not to make patol to each and every guy na dadating sa buhay mo.

Never be desperate.

[solepurplelife]

Can a single mom ever find true love?

I'll share yung experience ng cousin ko na naging single mom.

Sa family namin isa sa mahalagang rule ay No degree no boyfriend. Meaning bawal magboyfriend until makatapos ng studies. (I think that's the reason din bakit wala pa kong bf ngayon kahit tapos na ko.) Kaya nung after college nagkafirst bf sya naexcite siguro masyado kaya nagkaanak din agad.  Nung una magpapakasal sila dapat kaso yung lalaki nag-abroad tapos hindi na naparamdam. So ang ending single mom sya. Ang laki ng expectation sakanya ng parents nya dahil sobrang talino at top board passer pa tapos pagdating daw sa pag-ibig tangaaa. Siguro para rin makapag move-on at maiwasan ang chismis nag-abroad sya. Sobrang naging successful ng career nya at dun nya nakilala ang true love nya. Pinoy din, gwapo tapos mayaman. Alam na may anak sya at tanggap din ng family nung lalaki. Parang fairytale nga ee kasi pagkatapos ng heartaches nya natagpuan nya ang prince charming nya.

So to answer the question, Oo naman hindi imposibleng makahanap ka ng true love. Take care of your children-- ito pinakamahalaga. Improve yourself para kahit mom kana madami pa rin maattrack sa'yo. In no time dadating din yung prince charming na hinahanap mo. 

[honeylet04]

Oo naman. Ive been single mom for more than 5 years . . . I met my bf and we're getting marry next year. =)

[paulina19]

Naku mga sis, don't lose hope. Ang babata nyo pa compared to my age.

For me, it was not really waiting. I just had to heal myself, come to terms with myself, improve myself. Yun lang yung ginawa ko through the years. Then when I felt that I was ready to find the right one, tsaka lang ako nagstart magdate. Ready - emotionally.  Ang problem ko lang now nakabinbin parin ang annulment, so I am taking my time din.

Kaya ngayon, habang nagmumuni muni pa ang iba sa inyo, prepare yourself muna. I believe one has to be fully ready if you want to meet Mr Right.  Fully ready emotionally, psychologically, and mentally. Isama nyo narin ang pag ayos ng papers ninyo para kung dumating man ang tamang guy, ready-ing ready na kayo.  After getting over with your relationship, you should be mature enough na to make decisions na hindi padalos dalos at may mga anak kang kelangan isipin and wise enough narin not to commit the same mistakes. Dapat mas level headed ka narin and have a check list na who you want to be with para mas madali maghanap ng partner.  Kung wala kang checklist, red flag iyan na hindi mo pa alam ang gusto mo, so better not enter in another relationship na magt-trial and error ka ulit, only later to find out di pala kayo para sa isa't isa.

And I tell you, most men are not good enough for you, kaya be wary not to make patol to each and every guy na dadating sa buhay mo.

Never be desperate.

Hi Sis,

Advice naman on who I can discuss with my annulment, please. Am in dubai, so its hard for me to attend hearings or signing of papers.  But am really interested.  I like you post..so inspiring.  This is what am doing right now.  Focus on my chldren and our good health.