Can a single mom ever find true love? What to do? WAIT / DATE?

[freelancer_babe]

hayy, the small things that make us happy 

And that we spend less time thinking.

We tend to dwell on the negative things that happen in our life. We often tend to think less of things that makes us very happy too!

Itong umaga lang, having those thoughts makes me happy. Miss ko na naman ang kid ko and I can't wait to hug her. She's in school. hehe.

[momentum]

Me too.
I always look forward na as soon as I open the gate or outside the gate palang ako coming from work, she would always run to me and say "mama!" sabay hug and kiss sa lips ko  hay, sana ganun din sila ka enthusiastic makita tayo pagteenagers na sila noh? haha 

[momentum]

^ pwede din. bahala na, isipin ko nalang it's just an ordinary day.

aww sis, I feel for you na you miss carrying him. Ako ng I'm beginning to get tired na easily kapag kine-carry ko siya ng matagal kasi big na siya 

[freelancer_babe]

Me too.
I always look forward na as soon as I open the gate or outside the gate palang ako coming from work, she would always run to me and say "mama!" sabay hug and kiss sa lips ko  hay, sana ganun din sila ka enthusiastic makita tayo pagteenagers na sila noh? haha 

Yup, and in a few years, kahit sa tween age pa lang your kid will try to pull away from you.

Kinakahiya na nga ako ako kung kinikiss ko sya or hug sa public place. Hayyy.. pero todo kapit sya sa arm ko ha.

^better stay home na lang on valentines. ako when i was single i prefer to stay home, pag nasa labas ka kasi kahit kasama mo kid mo or friends you can't help but envy couples na sweet na sweet or may mga dalang roses or may dalang malalaking stuff toys.

Sa place ko dito sa Baguio, mas marami ang magkakabarkadang nag-i-spend ng valentines day. Pag naglalakad ako sa daan konting-konti lang ang couples. So it's not a sad thing here.

I'm beginning to think more couples would opt to be with themselves privately.

I don't know, kuripot siguro ang mga tao rito to spend on roses and other sweet things. Anyway, as I have pointed out to @momentum, kung ako ang businessman, I would do all I can to make couples spend para kumita ako sa day na yan. It's all marketing hype.

na miss ko tuloy yung times na pwede ko pa siya kargahin.

Ako na ngayon ang binubuhat ng kid ko.

[bear_touch]

i'm feeling so alone na talaga 
the only person that brings smile to my face nalang is my daughter, i love her very much.
sana matapos na this stage ng pagmomourn for the end of my marriage
gusto ko na maging masaya

 

Don't worry magiging masaya ka din. Gaya nga ng sabi mo, the only person that brings smile to you is your daughter. Just concentrate with her na lang muna for the mean time. Isipin mo na lang din na kaya mo ang ginagawa ang mga mabubuting bagay ay para din sa kanya 

[momentum]

^ thank you sis 

[freelancer_babe]

i was checking groupon sites for resorts deals gamitin ko sana sa summer. halos lahat ng site may promo for this coming valentines. mapa hotel, resto, pastries, couples shirt, flowers, couples massage, spa lahat na ng pwede meron deal for valentines.

Negosyo na nga ang valentines! hehe. But I could access groupon sites here, and the town is painted red with those valentine presents and promos here too.

Yun nga lang I don't see a lot of couples in all the years I've went out on valentines day. I'm still amazed up to this day.

At isa pa, I'm still dreaming the possibility kung paano pagkakitaan na lang ang valentines like other business owners do.

[chin66ay]

dati nung baby pa ang daughter ko (3-5 cute pa) i dreamed of having a bf who will take care of us... inisip ko nun, parang mas madali niyang mamahalin ang bata at matatanggap...pero napaglipasan ako ng panahon. she was 12 when i got married. LOL
at least hindi pa huli ang lahat!

[momentum]

kahit may bf ako now and we are getting married kaya ko pa rin na mawala siya. i am not afraid to lose him kasi buo pa rin ako kahit wala siya. i don't need him for anything. he is just icing on the cake not the whole cake.

amen to you sis! yan din gusto ko ma-achieve, yung not NEEDING anyone to help me with my daughter (except God)

[bear_touch]

ako kasi dumating na rin ako sa point na give up nako. i figured it's easier to work on what i need, to be able to provide for my son kesa maghintay sa isang tao na hindi ko alam kung darating pa.  bubusugin ko sa love yung anak ko para di niya ma feel na may kulang sa buhay niya.

Galing! Impressed ako sa ganitong stand. Yung tipong very optimistic na hindi lang "Guy" o asawa ang makakapag pasaya sa tao na akala mo katapusan na ng mundo kapag nawala

[freelancer_babe]

Yup! Agree with others here. Nice one @amethyst028.

[slickchick]

ako kasi dumating na rin ako sa point na give up nako. i figured it's easier to work on what i need, to be able to provide for my son kesa maghintay sa isang tao na hindi ko alam kung darating pa.  bubusugin ko sa love yung anak ko para di niya ma feel na may kulang sa buhay niya.

kahit may bf ako now and we are getting married kaya ko pa rin na mawala siya. i am not afraid to lose him kasi buo pa rin ako kahit wala siya. i don't need him for anything. he is just icing on the cake not the whole cake.

AMEN! this is one reason sobra akong nagsusumikap.. para lang sa anak ko... ayokong isipin ng guy na ginusto ko sya para lang may mag-support sa amin mag-ina.. sorry kung masyadong ma-pride pakinggan.. hehe! 

[kim_trasher07]

Hi mga sis! Im a single mom too, but may boyfriend ako ngayon and were together for 1year and 3 months. the things is lagi sila nagaawat bf anak ko (4yrs old na siya). my kid is malditah sometimes. pero tawag ng anak ko sa kanya papa, and may time naman na magkasundo sila. hindi ko alam kung ipagpapatuloy ko ang relasyon namin kung ganito lagi. i love him and wala ko prob sa kanya. yun lang minsan asal bata rin siya. hayz   

[bear_touch]

^how does he feel about your daughter? weird naman na madalas sila mag away. diba nga mas close ang mga lalake sa batang babae? i mean kaya nga may daddy's girl. and i imagine step dads would have more patience with step daughters than step sons.

talk to your bf sis. sabihin mo ayus ayusin pakikitungo sa daughter mo. huwag pinapatulan kasi bata yan. siya ang mas nakakatanda kaya siya ang magpasensya. and sa daughter mo naman kung siya ang mali try to discipline her.

ako kasi no-no sakin kung hindi magkakasundo anak ko at bf ko. siyempre priority ko happiness ng anak ko. sorry na lang si bf. wala kasing mas higit sakin kesa sa anak ko and the guy i'm with should know and respect that.

Tama to! Respect and love ang kailangan nung anak mo. Ako din, sabi ko sa sarili ko before, if ever man maging single dad ako at may daughter, ang number 1 rule ko dapat mahalin muna ng partner ko yung anak ko bago ako

[freelancer_babe]

@kim_trasher07,

Tama sina amethyst028 at bear_touch.

Kids are still kids. Kahit din naman kid ko masasabi ko ring maldita rin and so are the other kids of other parents. And no, it's not your BF's job to discipline the kid yet. But he should still try na pakisamahan ang kid mo, and not quarrel with the kid. Natututo pa lang ang bata so it's just but normal that kids would just be doing stuff na hindi maganda and we, parents, shoud around to discipline and guide them.

Kung hindi pa lang sila magkasundo, lalong hindi pa kung sakaling married na kayo - the situation would just become worse - baka saktan pa ang anak mo - and highly likely na baka maging lumaking rebelde pa ang anak.

Seriously, I do not like the sound of it - immature ang guy mo? Parenting and marriage always involve maturity, lots of it. The moment he entered into a serious relationship with you, at may kid ka pa, he should have tried to grow up.

[kim_trasher07]

thanks sa mga reply sis. I really appreciate all of your advice.

@ametheyst028 -  i don't know sis, sometimes there are really ok & sometimes not. but halos araw araw sila nagaasaran, madalas ang anak ko nagiinitiate, i do find it normal na maging makulit and matigas ulo ng mga bata, bata nga eh but he does not understand that. lagi niya sinsabi na salbahe ang anak ko kaya dapat disiplinahin ko.

lagi ko rin sinasabi sa kanya na mas priority ko anak ko sa kanya. pero kung laging ganyan i do think na dapat ko siyang ilet-go, kesa magkaroon ng problem sa anak ko.

yun lang ang prob ko sa kanya. mabait siya and his family are so nice and tanggap ako.

[momentum]

^ wow sis ang sakit ng pinagdadaanan mo. sooner or later sis mapapagod ka din sa ganyan. hard to do and I am not in a right position to be saying this, pero you clearly have to move on na kasi ginagawa na niya ikaw t****  thinking he still owns you and has control over you - kasi sis, nagpapacontrol ka at nakikita niya na sumusunod ka. maybe he is reall doing this to hurt you para ikaw narin ang magdecide na layuan siya, para hindi naggaling sa kanya yun.

i know it's hard, believe me, I am in the same position now na need mag-move on, pero you really need to cut your communication with him kasi lalo lang titindi yung sakit in the end if you don't put a stop to it now. Please open your eyes to the truth and accept whole-heartedly na yung isang babae na pinili niya at hindi ikaw. But hindi dapat mabawasan self-esteem mo dahil mas pinili niya yung iba kesa sayo. OKay narin yun, kesa naman magpakasal ka sa taong ganyan. and hirap at mahal kaya magpa-annul. there is someone else out there for you. concentrate ka sa baby mo and prepare for your future.

pray sis and in time makakapag-move on ka din. take care

[kim_trasher07]

@amethyst028 - yes sis, para siyang sis mo. nakikipagasaran rin siya na parang bata.   
nagkwento yung anak ko sa nanay niya na nagaway daw kami kasi inaasar daw siya ni bf. and kinausap niya ko na. babaguhin niya na daw style. hope he does kasi kung hindi, move on na lang ako. kaya ko naman mabuhay ng walang guy. yun nga lang malaking help din talaga siya sa akin.

[ms_ldr]

i met my true love when i stopped searching.
naexperience ko kasi ng dumating na yung time na hinde na ko umaasa pa na mag aasawa ulet, the guy came. 

[KaraVT]

Can a single mom find true love? Of course, yes!

Wait/Date.  If your mind says it's gonna be a relationship that's workable, go for it.