How important is proposing, engagement ring, etc, to you?

[mitch2526]

Sisses, ako naman ganito kwento namin. Matagal Na naming alam na kami in the end ang magkakatuluyan, pero hindi ako mahilig talaga sa alahas alam niya yun. Pero gusto ko ng proposal. Hindi naman siya yung masurprise pero sinabi ko sa kanya di naman ako maarte basta may effort. Medyo nagtampo ako Na kelangan ko pang iemphasize sa kanya kaya gets ko feeling nung isang sis natin dito.

The other day sabay kami tumingin ng alahas tapos pili pili ng top 3 ko, pero in the end siya ang magdedecide kasi kahit alin okay lang talaga. So now, hintayin Na lang magawa yung singsing and anytime from that point until wedding, I'm expecting na magpropose si bf! Hehe. At least kung ano man bilhin niya wala along masasabi. Ang impt sa akin ay konting romance sa pag propose. Dun ako naeexcite, hindi sa singsing.

Kaya kung may sisses na tulad ko, okay lang naman linawin sa bf nyo in a joking way kung ano ba mahalaga sa inyo
 

[sparklingjewel]

Lady Marquise, I think just let him know if you have any non negotiables on the ring na you cant let go of, otherwise, safe to let him choose. He wont be offended naman if its that impt to you. Like me he knew I wanted a cushion or radiant cut, or basta square-ish in shape. You dont want him to buy something expensive that you end up not liking pala. Other girls have a preferred setting or carat weight naman. Siguro if your bf is financially challenged saka lang be extra sensitive and not specify anything otherwise feeling ko he would prefer to know, too.

[HandC2017]

Hi mga sis! Newbie here! 

Ako naman sa December 2017 ang plan namin to get hitched pero wala pa din akong engagement ring  Pumunta kami last month sa Bridal Fair in Megamall to get my ring size and tumingin tingin ng rings na bet ko. Tatlo sinukatan ko and Size 4.5 ako dapat. Tapos nung bridal fair last Saturday super sikip na ng 4.5 and size 5 na daw ako. Tapos yung isang gusto ko na ring, 5.5 naman. So ngayon natatakot ako na baka hindi pa rin swak yung ring na size na mabili ni H2B saken dahil iba iba ang size 

@Lady Marquise, search ka na din ng peg mo na e-ring Kahit cut and band, basta yung nai-imagine mong ring na isusuot mo. Ako kase nag-search na talaga ako ng bet ko which is either solitaire na super manipis ang band, or bypass. So hindi na mahihirapan si H2B and sure pa sya na masaya ako sa ring na ibibigay nya sakin Or kung di nyo naman napag-uusapan, pahapyaw na banat lang or pakita ka lang ng mga nagagandahan kang rings at least magka-idea sya sa bet mo

May friend ako na nung na-engage sya, hindi sya masyadong natuwa sa ring. Tapos bumili pa sila ng ibang murang ring na solitaire, na for photo and video purposes lang daw. Diba parang ang hirap na itago ang disappointment sa part naten and sa guys din nakaka-feelbad if yung choice pala nila eh hindi naten gusto 

For proposal naman, meron si H2B until end of the year na mag-propose since Dec 2017 pa naman kami. Pero syempreee nakaka-atat!. For me kase parang nakaka-ilang na magpunta sa bridal fairs and kumausap ng mga potential suppliers, mag-food tasting at mag-occular ng mga venues ng walang suot na ring, feeling ko hindi pa ko legit na bride to be Pero syempre atat lang talaga ako, antagal pa ng wedding namin so ill wait for him kung kelan. Ang feeling ko sa trip namin in October. Hindi na ako makapag-hintay! 

[annabatongbakal]

thank you po sis chilli,  happy naman din ako kasi nakapili akong ring ko mismo hahaha

[Lady Marquise]

Thank you so much for the advise mga sissy. Pero when I was visiting mga jewelry shop. I am getting confused ilan ba dapat C meron? one jeweler has 4C's and one naman has 5C's.

Kinda overwhelming, if I was being honest... 

[The Diamond Guy]

Hi Lady Marquise,

In reality the 4C's is all you need which is CUT, COLOR, CLARITY, and CARAT. The 5th C is only added for branding and marketing purposes which CHARACTER. This pertains to the design  of the ring made originally by your jeweller/ brand of your choice, for example, Harry Winston.

Please do not get overwhelmed, Diamonds are very interesting and there are so much that you can learn from it.

I hope that I was able to help you.

Your Friend,

The Diamond Guy

[shegie_285]

^ 4 ang C na alam ko, clarity, colour, cut and carat. Not sure what the fifth one is. The 4 Cs i've mentioned nasa certificate sya. Clarity is the visibility of inclusions sa naked  eye, pag high Clarity konti and super liit ng inclusions na na hindi kita sa naked eye. Colour is whit to yellow. It starts with D so pag D clear talaga sya.

You would want a good clarity and good colour. I saw one na 1 ct pero ang daming inclusions ang pangit din, hindi rin sparkling. Sabi ko kay hubby ayaw ko nun.

Ang cut naman pansin ko pag mataas ang clarity and colour nyan most likely maganda  ang cut.

[Missus O]

^5thC -cost

[mooncake and leaves]

5th C is certificate, if I remember it correctly. Unofficial C yan hehe.

[Missus O]

^ thanks for the correction I've read in a blog somewhere na kasama ang cost and it had always been stuck in my mind. But I think mas apropriate ang certificate hehe..

Oops, just checked it again. 6 c's pala.

http://thejewelryloupe.com/buying-an-engagement-ring-6-cs/

http://www.theweddedbliss.com/2011/11/01/the-6-cs-of-choosing-a-perfect-diamond/

[Tincywincy]

^ well for me kasi it solidifies his commitment to make you his wife. it's a symbol of commitment, although I understand some men really just isn't into the traditional things na parang sakanila, once they are decided, they are decided. with ring or without, doesn't make a difference to them.

siguro kase us girls were so immersed on the idea of a perfect fairy tale. kasalanan ni Cinderella to eh. hahaha but kidding aside, yes it is nice to have it that way (kasi ideally that's the first step in getting to the next level), but in reality doesn't guarantee you of a happy married life with the guy din naman, nor does it guarantee na tuloy na tuloy ang wedding (pero san naman wag mangyari satin yon   ). so there 

[MS_JanDel]

Funny but my h2b proposed through text without a ring. Hahah. And then after a few weeks, dun niya ako binigyan ng ring. I don't know pero parang formality nalang yun kasi ever since naman we talked about us getting married pero nakakatuwa pa rin na he went out of his matipid ways to get a ring.

I think the ring isn't so important, but the proposal which is the very sign of his intention and commitment to be with you is what's important.

[Tincywincy]

^ ay sis oo nga. karamihan ng guys na nakilala ko na nauna ang pagpplan ng wedding kesa sa proposal is because for them kasi, formality nalang ang ring. na kung iisipin mo, nakakataba rin ng puso na life-long partner na ang tingin nya sayo noon pa man 

[ohcmon]

^^^ True! I myself have never seen engagement rings as a need naman, pero what I've noticed is that 'yun ang unang tinatanong kapag nalaman na engaged na kayo - asan ang ring at patingin hehe.

[exquisitegem]

^It  really depends. Of course sabi nga nila, wala naman sa ring yan. It's about how you handle your relationship and how much you love and respect each other.
In my case kasi, I've always dreamed of sweet, romantic proposal. And in our 9-year relationship, alam naman ni h2b before na gusto ko magpropose sya. Yung hihingin nya formally kamay ko sa parents ko, the traditional way. So yun yung ginawa nya. And eversince, he's always been the romantic type of guy.
To each his own. Maybe some of us feel that it's unnecessary, maybe for practical reasons and whatnot. And it's okay.

[linacheng]

Hi mga sis,
Share ko lang, bf and I never discuss about getting married in almost 3 years of our relationship. May mga usap naman about our dreams like buying a house, ipon, number of kids etc. Pero we never get to the point na pinag-uusapan mismo yung kasal. Hindi big deal sa akin kung may proposal o wala, if ayain nya ako magpakasal siyempre papayag naman ako kasi love na love ko naman siya.  Pero dumating din ako sa point na iniisip ko kung ano ano na mangyayari sa future namin, kung may patutunguhan kami kasi nga walang plans but I never ask him kasi ayaw ko siya mapressure.

But last month, on our anniversary, he proposed to me in a private resort na matagal ko ng gusto puntahan kasi maganda yung pool nila. Ganun pala yung pakiramdam mga sis. When he knelt down and ask me to marry him dun sa platform ng inifinity pool, sobrang emotional na ako, kinakabahan nga ako baka mahulog yung ring sa pool. lol. Mixed emotions na ako kasi di ko ineexpect. Akala ko anniversary date lang. Simple yung proposal, no banners, or pa-epek but it's one of our romantic moments kasi medyo tahimik and under the stars, may mga tao pero good thing abala sila sa mga sarili nilang mundo (shy type kasi ako) pero may isang staff ng resort na natatawa siguro sa amin kasi ako iyak ng iyak after nun. Then sinabi nya sa akin na matagal na nya balak magpropose at gusto surprise kaya di nya binabaggit sa akin yung mga weddings weddings para magulat naman daw ako, pati yung ring na bigay nya pinag-isipan at pina-customized pa nya yung design so sobrang natouch ako. Up to now, pag naalala ko naiiyak pa rin ako atleast hindi na ako mangangapa sa future namin. 

[pinkypie]

Hello, a week ago lang since binigyan na ako ni h2b ng engagement ring pero March pa kami nagstart magasikaso ng wedding details, Tinanong niya lang ako kung gusto ko siyang pakasalan at syempre yes naman ang sagot. Pero eto ngayon, konting kwento lang. He was engaged na kasi before at friends pa lang kami by that time. So alam ko rin pano siya nagpropose at pinaghandaan niya talaga. Fast forward, naghiwalay sila (di po ako third party matagal din naman bago naging kami after ng break-up niya). So ayun nga di ko maiwasan magcompare. Y

[michie25]

Hi sisses, just want to share my story.  8 years na kaming in a relationship ng bf ko last year pa lang (or even way before pa) sinasabi ko na sa kanya na i wanted to get married at the age of 28 no more no less (i'm 27 na po ngayon hehe) hindi pa kami financially stable dahil marami pa kaming responsibilities sa families namin and wala pa rin naman kaming ipon by that time. But he agreed and he decided to save money na for our wedding. Dapat ngayong year pero hindi namin kakayanin so na-move sa May 2018 na lang and para hintayin yung father nya na nasa abroad. December last year pa lang nag-scout na ako ng mga potential suppliers na pasok sa magiging budget namin. I really wanted to have a very simple wedding lang syempre dahil na rin sa alam ko na hindi kami makakaipon ng malaking halaga to splurge on a grand wedding and for practicality purposes na lang din. And ayun may times na naiinis ako dahil ang tyaga tyaga ko magresearch and magbasa dito sa gt ng tungkol sa weddings pero pag nakikita ko yung kamay ko wala namang ring. So nagtanong ako kay bf kung kelan nya balak magpropose sa akin, sabi nya sa pagkakataon daw na hindi ko ineexpect and wala pa daw kasi siyang ring (sanay na ako sa knya kasi hindi naman siya masurprise na tao). Sinabi ko sa kanya na kahit hindi gold, kahit silver or pwet ng baso pa yung bato okay lang sakin, sabi nya ayaw naman nya daw yun. As months passed by, marami na sanang magandang pagkakataon para magpropose siya pero di nya ginawa. Kaya nainis na naman ako haha, iniisip ko na baka wala naman siyang plano na magpropose, muka lang akong t**** na scout ng scout ng mga suppliers pero wala naman pa lang kasal na magaganap. Until sometime in June, nagpunta kami sa Tagaytay, birthday treat daw niya sakin yun. takot siya sa heights kaya hindi siya mahilig sumakay sa mga rides na mataas, pero sinabi nya na dapat sumakay kami sa sky eye and kapag medyo pa-gabi na. sabi ko okay. though i find it unusual pero wala akong naisip na kahit ano that time baka lang type nya lang talaga ma-experience saka siya na rin nagsabi sakin na hindi siya magpo-propose sa mga panahon na ieexpect ko haha. Fastforward. nagpropose siya sakin pagdating ng cabin namin sa tuktok haha. hindi na siya makaluhod kasi maliit yung space. ang nasabi ko na lang super duper yes! hahaha.. then we hugged each other di na namin namalayan na nasa baba na pala kami and binubuksan na yung pinto haha.

sorry sa mahaba at magulong post. for me, mas importante na gusto kang pakasalan ng partner/bf mo kesa sa singsing na isusuot nya sa daliri mo. It's still just a ring no matter how much that cost, Pero yung love and commitment na nakapaloob dun sa proposal, that is priceless  

[rs8toforever]

kami sis he popped the question mga 2014. kasama pa nga ako bumili ng singsing e. pero we didn't consider it as an official engagement kasi mas importante sakin na makapagpaalam sya sa parents ko. the actual pagpapaalam happened in july 2016, and we consider that as our engagement date. ganun pala talaga yun no, kasi ibang-iba yung feeling ko nung nagsabi sya out of the blue na magpapaalam na sya sa parents ko. parang bumabaligtad yung sikmura ko na hindi ko maintindihan (pero in a good way of course!) tapos ang bilis ng tibok ng puso ko talaga. hindi ko alam kung bakit, pero sakto pinaglalaruan ko yung heartbeat monitor ng phone ko before nangyari yung pagpapaalam sa parent - nasa ~55 bpm ako before, tapos nung nagmeasure ako after, nasa 120+ na! 

[Faina]

It doesn't matter to us. Proposing happens kasi in cases where you don't know if he plans to marry you or not. Kaya nga magugulat ang girls pag nagpropose, kasi hindi nga nila ineexpect na aalukin sila ng kasal. It doesn't matter to us since when we first got together, we've already discussed and planned what will happen to our future. We've already planned when to get married, where to get married etc.. So wala nang element of surprise. I am much more comfortable with this, kasi rather than waiting to someday be proposed to, I can already be assured that a wedding will happen.

Regarding rings, a wedding ring is enough for us. Medyo natakot din kasi siya for me if I wear too many rings because we had a couple ring before and it nearly ripped my finger off  . Sumabit sa door sa kakamadali ko