How important is proposing, engagement ring, etc, to you?

[bailey_marithe]

hi mga sis! Good day! sana basahin nyo ito and please feel free to leave any comment...

as a girl, it is my childhood dream to have my prince charming... And that includes the proposal, with the lines "Will you marry me?" and a sparking stone...

now i have the prince charming... but no "will you marry me" lines, nor any sparkling stone... just a casual "start planning a wedding.."

I should be happy today... but i feel like im losing my dream... Help!

Importante ba talaga ito? or dapat maging masaya na ako kasi at least pinapakasalan ako?

[nylanig]

in our case, wala din proposal na nangyari kasi bago pa lang kaming mag-bf/gf e Dec 2010 na plano namin magpakasal.

So nung nagstart ang year 2010, nagstart na din kami magplano ng wedding. pero sinasabi ko kay h2b na may utang siya sa akin na engagement ring sabay sabi na joke (kahit totoo.hehe). Tapos sabi naman niya na alam niya. 

So yun, medyo umaasa pa din ako na before ang wedding ay meron akong marireceive na proposal/engagement ring kahit late na. ang importante ay meron.hehe

kung ako sayo sis, since sabi mo nga childhood dream mo yun, sabihin mo kay h2b mo pero in a subtle way. yung tipo na parinig or pajoke mo sabihin...

[ayee10_cha]

^pareho tayo sis. we started planning aug 2009 pa. no proposal no e-ring basta nag attend na lang kami bigla ng wedding fairs. then come oct. 2009 our 9th yr anniv nag propose si h2b still no ring medyo masakit sakin but still kahit papano at least may proposal na siguro next time na yung ring pero sana wag naman sa 10th yr anniv namin dahil 6 days after that wedding na edi 6 days ko lang na feel yung e-ring ko...

sis bailey_marithe pahapyaw lang sabihin mo sa kanya or pag nadadaan ka sa mga jewelry shop tumingin ka ng rings then tell hin"maganda to ha" yung mga ganung moves...

[luisacart]

kasi if ever i would want to be proposed to once ( i want to be married one time lang noh). so sana sweet, romantic and memorable talaga.

[kumikosan_9]

^hi mga sis...sa totoo lang, it was very important to me. Kasi, kaya naman ng husband to be ko na bumili ng ring. And dream ko talaga yun. Actually he asked me when i complained na plano kame ng plano wala naman proposal "Kailangan pa daw ba yun?"  sabi ko talaga "Oo, kase gusto ko may maikwento naman ako sa mga anak ko at apo ko pagdating ng araw."

...at isa pa, mas mapapadali ang pagsabi ng news sa parents kung may ring na. Kase what i did was to show my ring, at sinabi ko na nagpropose si h2b and i accepted. less nakakatense hehe.

[hairt mini]

For me, important din ang proposal and e-ring. Minsan nag attend kami ng party and one of our friends ask if ikakasal na daw ba kami I just told her na...oh well pa akong hehe..i guess the ring confirmed everything eh..Just like sis kumikosan I just show my e-ring to my mom and then she knows what it is..=)..so ang question lang ni mom..kelan???hahahahaha...

^hi mga sis...sa totoo lang, it was very important to me. Kasi, kaya naman ng husband to be ko na bumili ng ring. And dream ko talaga yun. Actually he asked me when i complained na plano kame ng plano wala naman proposal "Kailangan pa daw ba yun?"  sabi ko talaga "Oo, kase gusto ko may maikwento naman ako sa mga anak ko at apo ko pagdating ng araw."

...at isa pa, mas mapapadali ang pagsabi ng news sa parents kung may ring na. Kase what i did was to show my ring, at sinabi ko na nagpropose si h2b and i accepted. less nakakatense hehe.

[misfitgoddess]

hi sis! i guess depende sa'yo. in my case, an engagement ring is not that important. before hubby and i got civilly married he asked me one time if i would like an engagement ring and i flat said "no, i don't need one".  feeling ko kase kahit pa sabihin na kaya nya bumili mas may pede pa kami pag laanan nung money.
so there was no proposal, we just got into talking about wedding plans and that's it. then came december 2008, my aunt came home with a little package for me courtesy of my then BF (now hubby), and you guess it right he did got me a ring. that was sweet of him eventhough i told him that i don't mind not having an engagement ring but he still got me one =)
and last march he came home with our wedding bands and surprise of all surprises he got me another engagement ring that would go with my wedding band...maarte ang asawa ko hinde daw kc terno yung una nyang binili kaya he got a new bridal set...toinks!

why don't you try following one of our sisses advice to drop subtle hints that you want one =)
i'm sure he'll get the message that you would love to have one.

[anjfree]

hi sis,

it is important to me. the proposal and the ring for me serves as a formal offer from my bf that he wants to marry me. i'm speaking for myself though.

before the proposal we were already talking about wedding plans but there is a feeling that these are all merely for discussion purposes only. when there was a proposal i felt that this is a different level. it's like this is it. when people saw my ring and i without even talking conveys that we are getting married!

iba ang feeling ng engaged. :-)

[kumikosan_9]

^agree ako sayo sis!

after nung proposal ni h2b sa Star City, grabe we were so happy. Para lang kaming nakalutang sa hangin. No joke and no exaggeration, sobrang happy talaga. Nakakakilig na sobrang proud and excited... Kaya true, iba ang feeling ng engaged. And yung moment na yun, when he asked me to marry him, talagang na surprise ako and speechless!!!talagang i'll cherish that day and paulit ulit pa rin nare-replay yun sa mind ko.

[anne_1819]

For me, masarap ang feeling ng napagproposan and nabigyan ng e-ring. Sa akin baliktad nauna ako nakatanggap ng ring. One year ahead ko na-receive ang ring ko pero walang proposal na naganap. Kaya pag tinatanong ako kung ano ang suot ko na ring, sabi ko gift lang. December 2009 ng naging formal ang engagement. My sweet gave me a set of personalized gift certificates, come October 2010 GC, dun nakasulat ang magic word na Will You Marry Me? And hindi ako mapaniwala. Napaluha ako. And right there, he told me na sabihin na agad sa parents nya na magpapakasal na kami.

Proposal and E-ring is not naman talaga a requirement bago magpakasal. Nasa h2b na lang natin kung cheesy ba sila o hindi...

[kurengkeng]

To me, not important at all. ;-)

Three years na kaming magbf when all of a sudden he said to me : Pakasal na tayo. ayusin na natin mga papeles. " plain and simple. deep inside i was happy and excited of course.

No engagement ring. No kneeling whatsoever.

Pero namanhikan sya. He went to my house two weeks after he told me to get the papers done, had dinner and few drinks with my dad, sabay paalam sa parents ko na we are getting married, civil.

i have never wished for engrandeng proposal and weddings kasi. What i want is engrandeng marriage =)

In one of the seminars i attended with Francis Kong, i remember him quoting his friend (anthony pangilinan yata not sure)...na sa dinami dami daw ng weddings na na-host nya, he has seen sooo many engrandeng proposals/engagement parties/weddings..Pero out of those events, he has yet to see a marriage that lasts. How he wished daw these couples spent more time planning and working on how to make their marriage lasts than spending time and money on a one-day event.

we're going on our tenth year this year. and we plan to have a church wedding na. But it will be simple. it will only be me, my spouse, my two kids and the priest. Probably in tagaytay, a friend will refer me to his priest-friend in calaruega.

Funny lang, we had our new wedding ring done late last year kasi nawala yung rings namin two years ago (ninakawan kami).i copied a design from tiffany.com, mommy ko lang ang nagpagawa, she's alahera and may kilala na gumagawa. I decided na magpagawa ng engagement ring with diamond. kinopya ko sa tiffany. tawa ng tawa si husband. kung kelan daw kami tumanda saka ko naisipang magpagawa. hehe.

[purplesassy]

1 month yata akong high nun after the proposal..I dunno, maybe because it's my dream proposal talaga..surprise, sweet, with kneeling thingy, the will you marry me line and the engagement ring..lahat caught on cam pa, nasa ipod ko nga eh, sarap panoorin

For me super important siya kase masarap ikwento at isama yung vid s wedding reception lol

[mommyquel]

To bailey_marithe:

I can relate to your feelings. Dream ko rin yan...a perfect moment in a romantic place with the man I love saying the magic words holding a perfect ring on his hand.

When we were bf/gf ni hubby, magkalayo kami since I'm working here in NA & he was working in japan. And we know that we love each other so much that we wanted to be husband and wife. But his proposal just came out virtually. Before that proposal, nagpaparinig na ko kay hubby about the engagement ring...sabay pa kami nagbabrowse nun sa website ng tiffany. But during the proposal over skype with webcam, wala man lang syang pinakita sa kin na engagement ring. I was kinda disappointed. Pero naisip ko at that time, what is important is not the ring which is merely a tangible symbol of our love...but what matters is the intangible feeling that we have inside our hearts.

So there, we decided initially to have a civil wedding...and a church wedding a year after at caleruega, batangas. Umuwi kami ng pinas and pursued with our plans. Nauna ko umuwi sa kanya, then, 4days before our civil wedding naman sya umuwi.

3days before the civil wedding, we went to tagaytay as planned kasi magpapareserve kami sa caleruega for our church wedding. Lapit na magsunset nun kaya sabi ko kay hubby, bilisan na namin bumalik ng manila since may girls' night ako with my BFFs, then sya naman i-meet nya barkada nya. Then, sabi nya, pahinga muna daw kami sandali since layo nga ng binyahe namin tapos malamang traffic pa pabalik.

We were just sitting in one of the benches while watching the sunset..when all of a sudden he asked me if sigurado na ba talaga ko na pakasal sa kanya. Gusto kong mainis sa kanya for doubting me... but when I started talking and was at the verge of bursting into tears, he showed me a tiffany e-ring and said "kasi ako sigurado na talaga that i want you to be my wife and the mom of my kids"....Grabeee! naiyak talaga ko....akala ko di na nya talaga ko bibigyan ng e-ring. Feeling ko nun I was the most beautiful woman in the world!

Sis, tama sila, discuss it with your fiancé, magiging mag-asawa na kayo so you should be open to him....

[kettlekorn28]

For me, it's not that important. Pero syempre, just like the other girls, pinangarap ko rin yan nung di pa kami kinakasal ni hubby. Well, I gotta be realistic. My hubby's salary back then was not that big. I mean, hello! Nag-loan na nga sya ng money for the wedding tapos mag-iinarte pa ko for the engagement ring. LOL!

So when he asked me to marry him sans the e-ring, na-surprise ako sa sarili kong reaction...kasi happy ako kahit wala sya ini-offer na e-ring.

Siguro kung bongga ang salary nya nung time na yun tapos walang engagement ring, talagang magtatampo ako. Pero alam ko kung ano yung sitwasyon nya noon. Kahit wedding bands nga mumurahin pa rin. We bought the bands pa in Tutuban. Di naman ako nagalit. Ako naman kasi yung tipo ng tao na hindi mareklamo, kung anong kayang ibigay sa akin...masaya na ako.

[angelundercover]

sa akin, ayus lang kahit meron o wala. ang important sa akin yun magkatuluyan kami. 

though h2b proposed and gave me a ring as well. funny lang yun story how it went.

the 1st proposal was simple, nag-uusap lang kami ng kahit ano then suddenly he popped the question

him: papakasalan mo ba ako?
me: sure ka bang ako gusto mo?
him: oo naman
me: yey! yes i'll marry you


the ring came after a couple of days, when we were at the mall, sabi nya sige tingin ka ng ring na gusto mo, i required him not to buy a very expensive ring at ayaw ko yun malaking bato at yun nakaangat talaga (yun setting ng bato) kasi ayaw ko yun mainit sa mata. i i got to choose my own, 3 little diamonds set on a thin band of white gold.

funny thing is when we picked up the ring after sya iadjust, pagkbukas nun box, sabi nun sales lady, mam pakisukat kung ayus na yun size, so i picked up the ring and tried it on then i said "ayan, ayus na, sige di ko na huhubarin"

so when we stopped over to his house that evening he asked for the box and the ring, then he placed the ring back into the box.

me: o bkit binalik mo?
him: kasi kanina di mo man lang ako binigyan ng chance na ako magsuot ng ring sayo, sinukat mo na agad 

h2b kneeled down

him: will you marry me?

while he was holding the opened box and my ring in it

him: wala kasi akong formal proposal sayo, so kahit late i hope okay na ito.

naiyak at natuwa ako kasi  di ko alam na luluhod sya at gagawin nya yun
 

[chel819]

that's my dream too sis..yung merong 'will you marry me' thing..and gusto ko infront of the crowd hehe..i can still rememeber , gumimik kame dati(2003?)then meron nagpropse..kinunchaba yung mga hosts ng comedy bar..merong binasang letter..then pagkasabi..will you marry me..rochel?..gosh!i thought it was me..i was blushing and everyone's teasing us..then pagkasabi ng name..from someone else..nyeks!!..i thought it was meeeee..then sabi nya never kong gagawin yan noh..sobrang ayaw nya ng PDAs, he used to hate big weddings(i mean, church wedding) recently lang nya tanggap ng ikakasal na sya(well he's contented sa civil w/ immediate families only ceremony)..tumutugtog din sya sa wedding, and he tells his friend"never nyo kong makikitang ikakasal ng ganyan"..ouch diba?!..pero tanggap ko na yun..so di na ko nageexpect ng dream proposal..we just woke up one day and he told me..'lets get married'..thats it..happy..but not contented..LOL..

[miming]

My bf and I are now in our 7th year.  We know that we like to be partners in life but FOR ME he still needs to do the propose thing.  Its like one of every girls dream.  Ive already pass on having a debut party, so for me I already missed one of my dreams though its my choice not to have a party.  I dont care how he will do it, romantic? casual? in front of the crowd? as long Ill feel im the very special that time though I think it need to be unique or memorable since he is not the bf type who do surprises or things that make me feel oohhh so special ( emo attacks  ).  And also since I didnt give him a hard time on courting me, maybe its my time to be please by formally offering me to be his wife. 

[tabularasa08]

saken din ok lang na wala. pero syempre, mas ok kung meron 
pero with bf, di na ko nag-eexpect na magkaron ng e-ring at yung "will you marry me while kneeling" moment kase alam kong hindi mangyayari yun,, hay, though i'm a bit disappointed, what matters is ako yung papakasalan nya.

[chel819]

let me tell a story about proposal..

my bff had a very touching & romantic proposal story, when we got back last 2008, her longtime partner proposed to her in front of the crowd..kinunchaba ni bf yung mga waiters & band sa bar, and then si bf naki-jamming sa band.. sa gitna ng song, he asked my friend to join him onstage then he proposed with matching kneeling churva(will you marry me?..sabay labas ng will-you-marry-me ring..they're almost done with the wedding preps na..a month before the big day..they called-off the wedding..why??..nam-babae si bf..grrrr..

what's the sense&importance of proposal kung di naman loyal and committed ang taong magbibigay sayo..useless lang ang e-ring..ipapagawa ko na lang necklace..LOL!

[azzyrael214]

aww sis chel kaloka naman yun 1 month before the wedding... well at least nalaman nya babaero yung bf nya before they got married... life.. di bale ng walang bonggang proposal at E-ring basta di mambabae..

our wedding is set october this year. no E-ring and no formal proposal yet... (kaya di ko pa sinisimulan and wedpage namin... heheh! well. i'm still hoping though that he'll surprise me pag uwi nya. pero kung wala ok lang din wag lang siyang mambabae. LOL.