How important is proposing, engagement ring, etc, to you?

[nicoletta]

shegie_285

That's great!   It's so nice to hear amazing proposals.

[vhanya]

my proposal was sooo funny. we were laughing the entire time he was proposing. e kasi naman, i arrived 30minutes earlier than his expected time so i caught him still prepping the place bwahahahhaha! it's inside a hotel suite, ang ganda ng setup and everything kaso i ruined it by coming in earlier than expected. nagulat ang mokong, nagtatatalon sa inis hahahah! sabay "get out! i'll call you when i'm ready!"  bwahahahahha!

[shegie_285]

vhanya that's so funny sis! bakit kase early. hehe.. me, naman ang tagal ko daw sa toilet! i put make-up pa kase as soon as we got into the restaurant because we have been out that day since around early afternoon. he wanted to give it to me as soon as we got to the restaurant aside from konti pa lang ang tao, ang tagal na daw sa coat pocket nya nung singsing. he wanted to let go na of the ring.

[vhanya]

yeah it was really funny. he can't even properly say "will you marry me" out loud because we were laughing sooo hard. i was literally rolling on the floor laughing hahahaha!

[whatswithjuly]

lol. natawa ko, sis vhanya. spoiler ka pala hehe.. sayang naman.

[vhanya]

^it was not sayang naman. actually it made the proposal extra special. ayoko rin naman kasi ng puro iyakan. it's not me =)

[aiel12]

hello,

just want to share my story.. we got engaged last july 5 and sa dec. 8 na ang wedding! hehe.. actually, hindi naman ako nag-eexpect ng bonggang proposal, for me ok lang kahit simpleng tanong lang. hehe. or sa province namin kasi, uso pa rin ang pamamanhikan or "pagsusugo".. pero i was so touched and surprised with how my bf proposed to me.

konting background kwento lang, he is based in singapore kasi, dun na sya nagwowork and nagbakasyon lang sya dito sa pinas ng 1 week last july. sa totoo lang, medyo nafifeel ko na magpopropose na sya. 6 years na kasi kaming mag-bf-gf and i remember nung 1st year pa lang namin, he was already thinking of getting married, and i just said.. "sige, kapag 2012 na at tayo pa rin, pakasal na tayo". our anniv kasi is feb. 12 so yung number na 12 is special sa amin. we are planning to get married by 12/12/12 pero nabago rin kasi our parents advised us na better kung weekend para makapunta ibang relatives namin kaya naging 12/08/12. so ayun, back to the proposal story.. when he told me last june na uuwi sya ng pinas, kinabahan na ako. sabi ko sa sarili ko "magpo-propose na siguro 'to".. hehe. pero sympre ayoko umasa... but i was right! and nagulat pa rin ako sa effort na binigay nya for his proposal. super kinilig ako and i really felt his love for me.

so ayun, ilang days din ako hindi maka-get over sa proposal na yan.. hehe. pero ngayon, wedding planning mode na ako.. hayy.. ang dami pa gagawin pero i know the Lord will guide us. love love love lang! ^_^

[aiel12]

^ay di pala pwede ilagay yung link ng proposal na nasa site namin.. sorry naman po. hehe.

anyway, here's how my bf proposed to me (in his words). may video rin syang ginawa which i posted sa site ^_^ he's so sweet, sana di sya magbago.. hehe ^_^

Concept: Amazing Race

Amazing Race - is a reality television game show in which teams race around the world in competition with other teams. Clues in each leg lead the team to the next destination or direct them to perform task. In this case, There's no team except Lea. She has no Competitor but herself.

We had 5 stations. And the flow went like this:

First Station:

Location: Mommy Mely's Residence
Challenge: There' no challenge yet on this stage. i just explained the mechanics of this "kabaduyan" of mine through a clue card that was given to Lea by Bunso. The envelope given includes instruction, stating and elaborating the mechanics of the game (proposal). There was also a clue that will lead lea to the next station..

Second Station

Title: Sing a Song
Location: Curioso's residence
Accomplice: Bunso and Rey
Challenge: Lea must sing a song while playing guitar. After she sang, the accomplice will give the next clue that will lead lea to the next destination.

Third Station

Location: Munisipyo
Accomplice: Christine Rmantico Feliciano
Challenge: the accomplice will test lea's memory. Lea must answer 5 out of 10 questions correctly. (i am the one who prepared the questions, mostly about our six-year relationship as a couple.) Then the accomplice gave lea the next clue that will lead to the next station.

Fourth Station

Location: Mt Carmel High School Gen. Nakar, Quezon / Ma'am Jo's Residence
Accomplice: Ma'am Jo Cuerdo
Challenge:Lea will recite the "Panatang Makabayan" (Mt Carmel Version). Unfortunately, as per Bunso, Lea didn't get to accomplish this task.. hehe. But it's okey, the clue card to the next station was still handed to her.

Fifth Station

Location: Beach
Scenario: When lea arrived, Bunso gave her another challenge: to pick up three white stones, to write my name on it and have her picture taken with the stones.

Final Stage

Location: Malachi Resort
Description: There is a red carpet, full of red and white petals (rose), with candles covered with special colored paper, strategically scattered around the area.

The Serenade

While Lea was walking towards me, I played the song "Missing Piece", a song I personally composed during our first year as a couple.

The Q & A

After the song, I called the waiter to get the tray with the ring, and then I went down on my knees and popped up the question: "I wish I can give you everything, but I hope this ring is enough. Will you marry me?"

...and she said YES!

[shegie_285]

aiel12 congratulations on your engagement. ang sweet namanng proposal, me mga challenges ka pa ha. hehe.. he's very sweet to organise everything.

anyway, not to scare you but december is a peak season so better start asap on the preps. alam mo naman most brides have at least a year preparation. but i think if you can book your chosen suppliers, 6 months is okay to prepare. im just thinking today, i'm getting so impatient with the preps. maybe because im not doing a lot naman (im getting married in boracay and package na sya), dont have a lot of DIYs, plus im abroad so my mom is doing everything! hehe..

my suggestion is to check the wedding documentation kase pasok ka na sa mga 6months validity.

congratulations again and happy preps!

[aiel12]

thanks sis shegie_285! yes i'm really proud of my bf, he also made a video and sobrang touched ako sa message nya.. he said ako yung "missing piece" sa buhay nya.. kilig much lang ^_^ hehe

about the wedding preps, actually medyo kinakabahan nga ako eh, ang bilis lang ng panahon, i'm sure mas mafifeel ko yung pressure/excitement kapag "ber" months na.. but i'd like to stay positive pa rin, i'm blessed that mom and my future in-laws (since fiance is already in singapore and babalik na lang uli for the wedding) are helping me out with the preparations. si fiance rin, everyday ako hinihingan ng updates and he's into the preps din, kahit malayo sya we're getting married sa quezon province, and ang advantage lang din dun is naibook na namin agad yung church and reception venue few days after he proposed.. if dito sa manila yun im sure mostly booked na.. pero tama ka, we still have a long way to go! ayoko pa lang magpanic.. thanks for this site kasi nakakakuha ako ng tips, ideas and suggestions.. dami ring posts na nakaka-inspire

[amparoxoxo]

I haven't completed backreading this thread kasi I want to share na my side.

We've been together for eight years na. Yep, tatlong buwan pa lang kaming magkakilala sa blockmates in college saka naging kami. Kami ata ang peg ng PBB Teens, hehe! Kidding aside, our first three years of being together was parang our ligawan and getting-to-know-each other phase. When we graduated in 2007 and started to build our careers, doon na naging seryoso since back when we were still studying eh bawas kiri dahil ayaw namin bumagsak or worse, alam nyo na ang nangyayari sa maagang kumekembot!

Hindi naaalis sa conversation namin ang plans of getting married. Although he is very much aware na I want him to get me a ring as a sign of our engagement, he also knows na ok lang sa akin na hindi na nya kailangang lumuhod sa akin para magpropose. I even told him, sabihan mo lang ako na, "Tara, pakasal na tayo!" ok na sa akin e. Sa totoo lang, bonus na lang ang singsing. What matters most is yung love namin sa isa't isa.

Last year we started planning for that dream wedding of ours. We visited na yung gusto nyang church and yung gusto ko. Turns out, ayaw nya yung choice ko and ayoko rin yung choice nya! Actually, our original plan was to wed at Caleruega. But after his brother's wedding, ayaw na namin kasi ang laki ng gastos, plus the effort for our guests to go out-of-town. It was only yesterday that we did an ocular inspection sa sinuggest ko sa kanyang church. I showed him pictures of it even before we went there, ok naman sa kanya. But nung vinisit namin, sabi nya, "This is it!" And right now we're computing the ballpark figures of our wedding budget. Good luck sa pag-iipon!

So I guess right now we're practically engaged na rin. And just by the mere fact na affirmed na both of us wants to get married na, ok na yun. Sabi ko nga sa kanya, kahit iabot mo na lang sa akin yung singsing, ako na magsusuot sa sarili ko! Hehe!

[imbisibol_]

hi mga sis! my bf proposed to me last weekend. honestly, im not that happy actually im sad . kasi hindi na meet expectations ko. like the ring, ang liit nya, tapos yung proposal hindi pinaghandaan. do i need to tell him yung feelings ko? kasi minsan lang 'to mangyari sa ating mga girls tapos ganun pa. mataas talaga expectation ko sa bf ko kasi sweet yun eh. hay, help me girls! sabihin ko sa kanya yung nararamdaman ko o wag na dahil masasaktan lang sya, pero pano naman ako!?

i realize you've since updated your post and that you had told your boyfriend what you felt.  but for anybody else who is or who might find themselves on the same boat, here is my unequivocal .02- pick your battles.  do not say anything to him; just be thankful that he proposed.  i myself was kind of mildly disappointed with how my now-husband proposed.  my dream proposal was to be completely taken by surprise right up to the moment when i see the ring.  that means no flowers, no music in the background, no being extra nice, no fine dining restaurant, no getting down on one's knee.  i wanted the rug to be swept up from under me, so that would have meant being proposed to while i'm throwing out the trash (in my pambahay), while we're hauling bed comforters to the laundromat (while stressing about the grocery list in my head), or something like that.  but it happened in a nicer setting, so rats!  but i did not say a word.  why start our journey towards marriage by being completely focused on just myself?  so i didn't have the dream proposal i wanted, why would i need to tell him and make him feel miserable too?  because no matter what i do, no matter how gently and kindly i word it to him, and no matter how he says otherwise- he will feel bad.  he will feel bad mostly because he knows it's something he cannot undo or redo.  he can't propose a "second" time.  so now, there's two people in the relationship that's miserable.  and being that of course, i love him, seeing him miserable makes me miserable further.  so that's misery compounded upon misery.  in the end, letting my feelings out will not help the situation.  there is no remedy in such a case.  the only alternative, really, is to stay quiet and pick your battles.

..and don't even get me started talking about complaining about the size of the ring   

[vhanya]

^i agree. it IS never about the size of the rock. i understand how other people feel about getting a big rock but you have an entire lifetime to buy ANOTHER one that you prefer anyway, right?

be happy that he proposed. the rock is just an icing to the cake, ika nga. the idea is, he wants to marry YOU. the most important this in a proposal is the INTENT and commitment to marry YOU and not the size of the rock.

[imbisibol_]

looks like somebody got me started 

i agree that the engagement ring is a symbol of the man's love.  no doubt.  but to go a step further and equate the carat size to how much that love is reeks of "error-error-cannot-equate-bleep-bleep" to me.  we're already being materialistic enough by allowing a physical thing (the ring) to stand for love.  but to put levels/tiers to that love based on carat size really does not make sense to me. 

had i let out the bridezilla in me, and very nicely asked for another ring and another proposal, where will that really get us?  we will be all smiles during the second proposal and the bigger rock, but deep inside, there would be that nagging, though hopefully itsy-bitsy, feeling of the situation being somewhat of a sham.  it all turns into a show of making me feel better, making me sport a bigger rock, making me show my friends how big my rock is, and making me feel all that.  what's supposed to have been celebrated in the first place would have been irreparably diluted.

thanks for taking time to read my opinion.

[chubbycheeks17]

imbisibol_ - spot on, sis!

how important is proposing, engagement ring to me? not much. this is not to justify the kind of proposal h2b did. not to justify further that i do not have an engagement ring yet. it's just that when we got together after 3 hours of knowing each other, i just know he's the right one. so when he spoke about marriage, i'm one happy bappy girlfriend. our relationship and all the he is are everything i ever wanted kaya no matter how he did the proposal, no matter how late my engagement ring is (sabay ko na siya makikita ng wedding rings namin), okie lang lahat kasi he's my right one

[chicgurl]

i just want to know your opinions about this.

what are you going to feel if you busted your bf that's he's going to propose to you? yung nawala yung element of surprise because he was careless and all.

[babychellee]

ahaha ako din mga sis sa totoo lang at first, i was quite disappointed with the way he proposed. he even proposed without a ring. nonetheless, i DID NOT show him na nadisappoint ako sa manner of opening the topic. naisip ko kasi ang tagal ko ring hinintay. 4 years na kami na mag bf-gf and early 30s nako. so bat pako mag iinarte hehe. so when he asked me to marry him, i still hugged him and said YES  actually ang sagot ko pa nga e "OO NAMAN" hehe. baka bawiin pa yung proposal e, mahirap na hahaha!

while we were planning the wedding na few days later, naopen yung topic about wedding rings. so "sinamantala" ko na iopen yung "engagement ring" na pajoke. sabi ko gusto ko rin kasi talaga may ring and it doesn't have to be too pricey kasi di naman siya mayaman and i know yun yung issue nya why he proposed without a ring. sabi ko gusto ko lang ng formality hahaha! kahit nga silver sabi ko ok lang. di naman issue. aba aba aba super natuwa ako sabi nya sige bibilhan nya rin ako haha kumagat yung joke ko! so few days after that pa, nag ring shopping kami. ang nakakatawa don, i even asked for his budget. funny diba? so ang ending, i got a really nice 18k yellow gold engagement ring with russian diamond. para sakin kahit russian diamond ang ganda ganda parin, and fit na fit sa fingers ko. its sooo beautiful. o diba. kahit maliit lang ang budget, i managed to get a ring. edi happy fiance parin. so there was another short "2nd" proposal inside the car with the newly bought ring. parang nirewind namin, kunwari first proposal palang. hahahaha. nakakatawa pero nakakakilig parin

right now, we are focused on the wedding preps kasi we are getting married this year. sa totoo lang, mas exciting ang wedding preparations kaya sa mga nadisappoint sa proposal, isipin nyo nalang, mas importante ang MARRIAGE so that should be your focus. 

[iceheaven31]

How important is proposing, e-ring to me?

Actually, i'm one of those engaged girls who don't have (yet) a ring.

Walang naging super formal and surprising proposal. We arrived in this decision based on a conversation about our plans. We kept the informal engagement as a secret to our friends (but already informed our families) for a few months before announcing it in FB.

Although, merong random times na he would ask me "will you marry me?" and we always end up na kinikilig.

Pero to be honest, naiinggit ako sa mga may engagement ring. Sa circle of friends namin ni h2b, I'm the 3rd engaged girl and the first two girls who got engaged may mga singsing, tapos ako wala. Partida, si h2b ko is earning a lot more than the h2b of the 1st engaged girl. I am not expecting naman a diamond na super expensive, because I know na burara ako and baka mawala or masira ko pa e di sasama lang ang loob ni h2b sa akin, tsaka mas masarap na ilagay na lang sa wedding fund yung pambili nun. Kahit yung cheap na stainless steel na may zircon ay maappreciate ko. Kahit yung mga rings na nabibili sa group buying sites (dealmates or groupon tulad nung nakita ko kanina lang). I will not care how cheap it is. I won't complain if the rock will be small. I just wanted to go out, and show the world that I am engaged.

I know nasasaktan ko si h2b pag inoopen up ko ang tungkol sa engagement rings. I know na he'll get me one someday before we get married next year and he'll take me by surprise. Wala lang, I just wanted to vent this out kasi I have this weird feeling in my left ring finger that somehow parang naghahanap ng singsing. Yun lang. Thank you for reading.

[nikki09]

Yung engagement ring ko parang for formality na lang din like nung kay babychellee. Si h2b kasi hindi siya tulad nung ibang guys na mahilig mangsurprise, mag plan ng date and sweet in a sense na dadalhan ako ng bulaklak kapag valentine's or kahit normal day lang. Umabot pa nga muna kami ng more than 2 years bago nya ako binilhan ng bouquet or roses tapos ngayon birthdays ko lang siya nagbibigay ng bulaklak.

He's just a man of few words and actions pero kahit na ganun siya okay lang sa akin, hindi man natupad yung dream proposal ko ang mahalaga nagpropose pa rin siya for formality. 

Sabay kaming nagcheck ng ring and ako na rin pumili ng ring na pasok sa 15k budget nya tsaka alam ko na rin yung day kung kailan nya ibibigay yung ring hehe. 2 weeks ago pa lang kaming formally engaged sa mata ng parents and relatives namin pero matagal na kaming may plan to get married, nauna pa nga yung pagbili namin ng house kesa sa ring 

[akireyhoj]

^ok nga yan sis eh mas nauna bahay bago kasal yan din target namin now..


actually, may plano na talaga kami. kung san kami kakasal, reception catering almost ok na.. problema nalang budget hahaha!