How important is proposing, engagement ring, etc, to you?

[BallBreaker]

told my fiance that the proposal is more important to me than the wedding because it will signify his willingness to marry me. Yung wedding kasi, both of you will plan it. Yung proposal, sya lang. it meas a lot to me because it means that he wants to marry me out of his own free will. hehe...

and up until now, kinikilig pa din ako thinking about that night.

[ayee10_cha]

let me tell a story about proposal..

my bff had a very touching & romantic proposal story, when we got back last 2008, her longtime partner proposed to her in front of the crowd..kinunchaba ni bf yung mga waiters & band sa bar, and then si bf naki-jamming sa band.. sa gitna ng song, he asked my friend to join him onstage then he proposed with matching kneeling churva(will you marry me?..sabay labas ng will-you-marry-me ring..they're almost done with the wedding preps na..a month before the big day..they called-off the wedding..why??..nam-babae si bf..grrrr..

what's the sense&importance of proposal kung di naman loyal and committed ang taong magbibigay sayo..useless lang ang e-ring..ipapagawa ko na lang necklace..LOL!

grabe ba naman yan sis... nag paka OA pa siya sa proposal niya d rin naman pala niya seseryosohin... korek ka sis wag na lang magbigay ng e-ring baka mas seryoso pa... 

[chel819]

yeah sis..grabe talaga diba...i know naman he still loves my friend..but sometimes..love just aint enough

[anne_1819]

^ hay grabe naman siya sis. magpapakasal na lang nambabae pa. how's your friend na ngayon?

[rastagurl11]

it's very important because this is like a prelude to what kind of life you'll have with him. The way he propose can be a good tool on what kind of guy he is.

[sweetestCORN]

sis medyo out sa topic i'm sorry.. may tanong po ako. yung white gold ba e pwede pa ipatunaw? kasi yung engagement ring ko hindi ako happy hindi gusto ko sana ipaiba yung design. pwede kaya yun?

[rachelt12]

^best to ask your fiancee first kasi baka ma offend sya but pwede naman to your trusted jeweler.

nadulas si bf and i know he's proposing this year!!!   upon learning though that its my childhood dream of a romantic proposal, he's keeping everything in secret na! tried asking in every type of ques, and he just replies with a smile.

sabi niya, ayaw naman daw nya ng fake surprise when he pops the question.  i hate the anticipation but i told him what kind of ring i wanted anyways.  lol

[chel819]

^ hay grabe naman siya sis. magpapakasal na lang nambabae pa. how's your friend na ngayon?

still thinking mode parin sya sis..i heard bf's coming back..he still has the nerve to show up..kung ano man decision ni bff she knows naman im here to support her, but she knows din na im super mad sa bf nya..

[anne_1819]

@ sis chel, being a bff I know how you feel. Hay... Bad guy!

[cream_puffs]

naku issue ito. same din sa isa kong friend. di ako boto sa guy na pakakasalan nya kasi yung reputation ng guy e ganun din. kung kanikanino nali-link. ikakasal na din sila this year at meron na namang ibang girl na pinapormahan yung guy. sinabihan na nung isa kong friend yung guy kung seryoso ba syang gusto nya pakasalan friend namin. sabi nya oo pero start pa lang naman daw kasi ng journey. hayz ano ba yung reaksyon na yun. 

[ladyheart528]

Ako din nakakarelate sa mga sisses na wala proposal and e.ring, kasi overseas bride me. Then bigla na lang last august nag aaya bf pakasal, then plano na san venue wedding. May mga nabook na din kami suppliers. Pero syempre kahit panu like din maranasan un feeling ng nagpropose h2b di ba! Tho sabi nya un e.ring sasabay na lang namin pag bili sa w.ring. Kaya wait na lang me kelan masuot un e.ring. 

[rachel_314619]

let me tell a story about proposal..

my bff had a very touching & romantic proposal story, when we got back last 2008, her longtime partner proposed to her in front of the crowd..kinunchaba ni bf yung mga waiters & band sa bar, and then si bf naki-jamming sa band.. sa gitna ng song, he asked my friend to join him onstage then he proposed with matching kneeling churva(will you marry me?..sabay labas ng will-you-marry-me ring..they're almost done with the wedding preps na..a month before the big day..they called-off the wedding..why??..nam-babae si bf..grrrr..

what's the sense&importance of proposal kung di naman loyal and committed ang taong magbibigay sayo..useless lang ang e-ring..ipapagawa ko na lang necklace..LOL!

well, my story is very different, i must say..

for me kasi hindi importante yung e-ring kasi nga pwede naman ilaan na lang yung money sa wedding preps and other more important things.. my h2b is also not well-off, so di rin nya naman afford yung pagbili nun and at the same time, hindi rin kami yung grandyosang couple.
anyway, before, wala din naman ako care sa proposal but when 2 of my officemates got engaged, (mind you, mayayaman ang mga ito) and their e-rings really come with big diamonds and all that, iba sa mga collegues ko sobrang napresure at naloka ako. they were asking me, "o ikaw? saan na yung e-ring mo? kakasal ka ba talaga?" alam nila ikakasal ako although i don't have an e-ring.
dumating sa point na everyday ng chismis yun sa office, me being 'engaged' without the ring, the more na ayoko na ng e-ring, kasi kung ibibigay sya sakin ni h2b, i would only remember their nasty remarks...

but then 3 months after the informal proposal, h2b and i went to baguio then he brought me to camp john hay, sa bell ampitheatre, took pics with his cam, kwentuhan and then suddenly he asked me to go to the stage, kunwari pang pipicturan ako, after adjusting his cam (which naka-video pala without my knowledge) and then finally he knelt down, ako super surprised, then he cried while asking, "honey, will you marry me? i know this ring is kinda late.. but better late than never...diba?" shempre i hugged him and said "of course i'll marry you..."

so tama na ok na na loyal ang fiance ko and magkatuluyan kami till the end kesa yung e-ring. for me it's just a symbol na ginawa na lang sa contemporary time. noon naman wala nito.. what's important ay ang loyalty and love, that's what will bind us even without the ring.
 

[nutata]

i think depende na rin how you assert yourself.  my bf and i already have plans, but nothing definite yet as in exact date, church, whatever.  since i know he's agreeable with the idea of a "future" marriage, and everyone expects it na rin,  i let him know na.  i want a ring.  i don't want a public proposal.  and i need at least 20 months after you propose to start planning the wedding.  and he's okay with that! sabi lang niya di niya sasabihin when, and i can't be there when he gets my ring, which is great. so, when we're out and pass by jewelry stores, "tinitrain" ko na siya. it's like a game for us. from the display i'd point at rings and ask him if he thinks i like it.  now he has an idea of what i want so whatever ring he gets me, i'm sure i'll like it.  i like the setup because i still get my "surprise" proposal, the ring i want, and a real "question" before planning the wedding itself.  you can still be both modern and traditional at the same time.

[sparklingjewel]

For me it's still important..

Most of the time nowadays some don't bother with it because of the added expenses (the ring, of course). But if he can afford it, he really should. It's a norm in society and makes it more socially acceptable that he did that (esp when letting the parents know). The ring is a status symbol. Something that spells I'm-not-kidding-you at all. I'm not being kuripot. I think you're worth it.

As for the proposal, every guy should do that. Money isn't required. And it's every girl's dream. Your guy should know that by now. Men should know better

[gayoners]

when hubby proposed to me, wala syang dalang e-ring. ok lang naman kasi i was not expecting him to give me one.

then, we got married. after 2 years of being married, walang okasyon, he gave me one kaso lang di na "will you marry me" ang sinabi... "thank you for marrying me" na

[annie19]

me too, the most important is the wedding proposal than the engagement ring... allocate na lang sa wedding ring yung gagastusin for the engagement ring

[ms_kitkat]

ako got engaged the day ebfore my bday.

hubby(bf then) told me na dapat daw ay sa bday ko sya magpo-propose, kaso ang kulit ko [textspeak!] hehe. [textspeak!] almost 7 yrs na kme nun at parang kinukulit ko sya na may plano ba sya pakasalan ako, etc. etc...in short, nag galore...hahahaha!

so, i ws shocked nung biglang tumahimik. tapos biglang lumuhod, tapos nilabas yung engagement ring ko...lol! i was speechless! and when he divulged na dapat nga tom pa daw (yung day ng bday ko) dapat yung totoong proposal, sabi ko, itago na lang nya yung singsing tapos propose sya sa akin ulit...lol! obviously, he didnt agree, [textspeak!] nga naman [textspeak!] na yung element of surprise...hahahaha

[sweetchick03]

I just have this one dilemma right now...
Im a 2011 bride... prob is , engaged na status ko and without an e-ring.
Actually, it is not such a big deal for me. It was a mutual understanding na din...But one day, sabi ni h2b, may nabili na daw siya.....
then i realized, he never ever popped the question to me, it was like a mutual undestanding lang pala....
He told me pa nga, he wont ask the question, until I dont do this and that...basta marami pa siya sinasabi...
Naguguluhan tuloy ako if I still have a problem or he just doesnt want it to happen...
Help me naman mga sis...
Nag eemo na naman ako:-(

[Beccanichard]

hi sis, I don't want to discourage or something pero ngaun lang ako nakarinig (or basa) na you have to do things for him to pop the question... sori sis ha.  Kung mutual naman it's ok naman kasi as far as I am concern depende sa couple ang pagiging engage, meron dyan talagang walang engagement ring basta they just feel na engage na sila. Just my POV sis...

[sweetchick03]

hehehhe. exactly my point sis.... just last time kasi he told me, i cant follow his requests na hindi na magbakasyon sa boracay. actually si, it would have been better without the ring. he shouldn't have told me he bought that thing. para hindi na lang ako nakaisip ng ganito. he must have been cookin something up but whats taking him too long, i dont know....
nasasad naman ako...