being in love with your bestfriend...good or bad?

[shopaholic18]

bad, di pwedeng magkasama yung dalawa. friendship is more important, well at least for me..rule number one namin yan ng bestfriend kong guy, so far we've been bestfriends for 12 long years...

[pinkmallowpie]

^sis, kapag may nanliligaw sayo o may nililigawan siya, wala ba kayong kahit konting selos na nararamdaman?

[shopaholic18]

wala naman sis, we're both committed actually, yung gf nya lang may konting issue sakin, nagseselos sakin, but my bf is a well mannered man, he's ok with it.

[dumpee.o13]

If the feeling is MUTUAL, GOOD! Pero pag hindi, mag-isip-isip ka na..

[mAyOkEtchUp]

Hi mga sis! Pasali ako ^_^

Karamihan kasi sa atin kapag naging bf/gf natin yung best friend natin, we think na magkaibang "career" yung pinapasok natin. Most of us stop being best friends kapag pumasok na tayo sa isang romantic relationship. Kaya madalas ang nagiging ending, breakup. Friendship is eventually ruined.

Sa akin okay lang ma-inlove sa best friend mo. Basta hindi mo inaalis yung pagiging magkaibigan nyo. Yung mga success stories ng bestfriends na nagkainlove-an, most likely they still remained the best of friends. Simply put:

Best Friend = Intimacy + Commitment
Boyfriend = Intimacy + Commitment + Passion

So pag naging boyfriend mo siya, madadagdagan lang ng 'passion' sa relationship nyo. Pero walang nababawas dapat , nadadagdagan lang.

[snix]

i ended up with my best friend din fairly new in this dahil first boyfriend ko siya kasi sa lahat ng nanligaw siya lang nakita kong sincere talaga..

it's good so far and wala naman dapat mabago..mas nadagdagan lang ng passion like what sis mayoketchup said.. yes we're both worried too na baka pag naghiwalay kami eh wala ng friendship but we took the risk.. while others do not end up together there are a lot of people who started as bestfriends and ended up together for good..

maganda foudation ng ganitong relasyin kasi kilala niyo na ang isa't isa.. wala
ng thrill? hindi rin, kasi lagi parin kami may nadidiscover na bago sa isa't isa

the nice thing about this is that we can be lovers and be the best of friends at the same time.. kung ano yung mga dati niyo ginagawa as bestfriends you can still do them as lovers mas madadagdagan lang ng pagmamahal

[mimilusciouss]

My first boyfriend was my best friend, we lasted for almost 5 years. Everything's good, my parents likes him and his parents likes me; we are really close, we used to go to church together with my mom (as a chaperon.) and we don't have a problem with it! we've kind of been to a little a lot during our relationship; but when I reached college, I fell out of love; we broke up and we've became good friends again; but not best friends, he had new girlfriend but don't know if they are still together.

So, for me it's a good thing to be in love with your best friend. 

[blisstacy]

BAD!

Ang nangyare sa akin is my guy friend confessed that he had feelings for me.
He told me na if ayaw ko siya maging bf, he can't take it at aalis siya.
Since he was my closest and only best friend at the time, I didn't want him to leave.
Naging kami but it didn't work out kasi it turns out na while I was looking for a serious relationship,
not enough pa pala ang 5 years para maging serious siya.  So we broke up and I lost both my bf and best friend.     I started from scratch kasi seloso rin siya so I didn't have other friends nung time na kami.

[adrianne0530]

my boy-bestfriend and i tried but it didnt work out, selosa kasi ako. good thing, bestfriends pa rin kami until now. parang walang nagyari.

[superjuzh]

Been there, done that. Sa una madali kasi alam niyo na ang takbo ng utak ng isa't isa, alam niyo na yung mga gusto, pati ang ugali. Ang masama lang alam mo din ang tungkol sa ex niya kaya madali ka makahanap ng dahilan para magselos kahit tapos na at ikaw na nga ang gf. Madalas kami mag away, naiisip ko nun kung nung mag bestfriend nga kami nag aaway na kami at ang tagal namin hindi nag uusap ano pa kaya nag kami na? Mas mahirap pa kasi para kang sumugal diyan, sinugal mo ang friendship niyo para sa deeper relationship kaya kapag nagbreak, hindi na maibabalik pa.