being in love with your bestfriend...good or bad?

[chan_li]

pros and cons?

[mooncake and leaves]

i think regardless of who you're in love with, it's only really good if the feeling is mutual.

[luisacart]

^Amen!

[emcee]

^^ agree

pros - there's a lot of pros sis..in the first place, kilala nyo na isa't isa..no pretentions

cons - if the feeling is not mutual, very bad! and kung hindi naging successful relationship nyo as bf-gf, baka di na maging tulad ng dati yung pakikitungo nyo sa isa't isa..

[boracay2862]

If the feeling is mutual ok lang ma in love. But it should be control feelings!

[bochecokina]

you know what will hurt you the most here, pag ndi nag work out, is... losing a lover and also losing your best friend.  pag nawala na kasi kayo, mas mamimiss mo yun casual moments nyo as bestfriends. just may point of view...

[sweety_paige]

It's a risk...

Sabi nga nila, friends can turn into lovers, but lovers cannot be friends, something to that effect.

[ms.dreamchaser]

i have a best friend who has been in love with me for ages. i didn't love him back kase i felt na we're just friends and there's just no spark or chemistry. but after i went through a major heart break, he has been that person for me. in short,na-develop yung feelings and then i loved him back. so the feeling was mutual and we had a good start.

good thing about it is that you have this connection na with him. in a sense na even with gestures you understand each other, and when an instance comes na you don't, you know where he's coming from in terms if indifferences.

the bad thing is there's a high expectation and there's high complacency na since you know each other parang you loose the mystery in compared to meeting a new guy.

pero i think for me, it's worth it.

[coco_CRUNCH]

i've been inlove with my bestfriend for how many years na.. and worth it naman kasi we're together for almost 2 years na din. happy kasi yung tinginana is not only as lovers pero as bestfriends pa din.. hindi na dumating sa point sa pasweetan talaga and best foot forward yung pinapakita.

the negative part lang is pag nagaaway minsan or selosan, mauungkat pa yung mga ex bf's and gf's..

[purplerainne]

Better not to.

Pros - Mas ok kasi mas kilala nyo na ang isa't-isa.
Cons - Kahit paano mas masaya yung may konting thrill yung getting to know stage.
Cons - Masakit kapag hindi naging successful ang relationship. You lost not only a relationship but the friendship kasi kahit naman sabihin mong pwede pa rin maging friends, mahirap pa rin yan sa una. It will take time.

I've been there. What I miss are the times na puro kalokohan lang, yung walang malisya. Kaya sometimes, for example,  if something happened or I saw something na nakakatawa, naaalala ko sya kasi I know his humor at kung gaano rin sya matatawa about the thing. Pero since nasira na nga rin ang friendship, naiisip ko na lang na, sana katulad na lang ng dati. Sana hindi nasira ang friendship, may kasama sana akong tumatawa ngayon.

[Black_Bear]

it happens to me

but our friendship stay the same... kamustahan about sa relationship ng bawat isa, kwentuhan sa buhay-buhay etc...

wala namang masama kung mag-usap kayo ulit kung hindi nag work out yung relationship nyo diba...

forget the past... enjoy the present ^_^

ang mahalaga may communication pa rin kayo as mag bestfriend

[menice]

Pros > Alam nyo na yung isat isa, kilala nyo na yung isat isa, alam mo na yung mga kalokohan nya, alam mo din mga sekreto nya.

Cons > Mas magiging limited kayo sa isat isa. meaning may dos and donts na. nagkakailangan pa.

If you have a bestfriend, natural naman na mainlove, pero akung ako sa inyo. Pag bestfriend, bestfriend lang talaga. kase for sure mas magtatagal kayong maging bestfriend kesa boy/girlfriend.

[yinchii]

saken ayaw ko. im not weighing the pro's and con's....
pag bestfriend ko should stay as my bestfriend lang. pag na-inlove sya saken, lalayuan ko sya para mawala feelings nya.

so far, hindi pa naman ako naiinlove sa mga bestfriend kong guys. iba kasi ang point of view ko pag ganun. paanu kung pinatulan ko bestfriend ko and di naman kame nag click as a couple.. there's a risk na pati friendship namen masira.. kaya iyon yung iniiwasan ko.

kaya when im building a friendship with a guy, sinasabihan ko na sya ng ganun yung point ko. if he has other plans pa than being just my friend, e sabihin na nya agad dahil i'll definitely turn him down if that happens.

[spaldingfem]

I've been in this situation for 3 years now and so far, i can say that i don't regret anything about what we have because we're happy and we enjoy each other's company. We just make the most out of what we have. I love loving my bestfriend. I'm happy as long as she's happy.

[Tranquility]

it's a bad thing if things don't work out, you'll just end up losing him in the end like i did.

it's a good thing if things work out and you end up marrying each other, you know him very well so adjusting would be easy.

case to case basis.

[cerulean]

In my opinion, there are more cons than pros. Madaming lalake pa naman dyan sa tabi-tabi but there are only a handful of people you could trust.

We need more info about the situation. Is your bestfriend courting you? Do you feel the same way? It's just that if things do not work out between the two of you, the friendship might be done for good.

[orangerain]

I guess the good thing about falling in love with your best friend is that you already know what kind of person he is. Since best friends kayo, madali nang magjive with each other.

The bad thing about it is that you will be risking your friendship if you decide to enter into a different level of relationship. If it doesn't turn out well, mahirap nang bumalik sa pagiging 'best friends.' On the other hand, if it turns out okay, then ang lucky mo! You have a best friend and boyfriend at the same time.

[silverlilac]

this happened to me; until now, i still regret losing the friendship more than losing "him" as a boyfriend. i think he had the same thoughts, before we decided to pursue our romantic feelings for each other and became a couple", because of what he said:

"I'd rather have you JUST as a friend, because that way you'll always be in my life...than have you as a girlfriend and risk losing you altogether if something happens to our relationship"

--then again, baka sa una pa lang he had his doubts na talaga.    we're both married now; we live in different parts of the world. the last email i received from him said "I miss my best friend" - and i feel the same. but i also know that there's no reason why we should still be in each others' lives...no use being friends now when we don't even have anything in common na.   

sayang lang talaga yung friendship. man, we were good together (as friends)! 

[rox_cute]

me, i don't think romantic thoughts about us kasi ayoko masira ang friendship.. and dahil kilala ko kung pano kami so parang mahirap if ever na mainlove tapos di magwork.. matagal siguro kaming bago maging okay panigurado..

[coco_CRUNCH]

hi mga sis...

ako i've been inlove with my bestfriend for 2 years and 3 months now.. happy to say were still together and  doing fine..

kaso lang syempre when the fire starts to run out minsan, makikita nalang namin yung sarili namin na hindi na sweet and bruskuhan nalang kami... kasi nga wala ng pasweet moments samin 2. hindi na uso yun.. pero minsan hinahanap ko pa din...