Can men get too attached to someone he is having casual sex with regularly?

[JakeTheDog]

possible ba to sa married guys?

Yes. Very. 

[shurumi]

lol natuwa naman ako dito

[Observer54]

lol natuwa naman ako dito

  parang naka relate ka ate hehe

[iloveshoes88]

Answer is yes, I know someone who's married and dated this girl with the intention of just playing around, eventually they became a couple and the girl is always wondering why whenever they break up the guy never try to win him back kahit super okay yung relationship nila... pero kahit ilang break up nila hindi sila talaga maghiwalay hiwalay, guess they really loved each other, sobrang na-attached na si guy dun sa girl, in the end the guy admitted that he's married na dahil kawawa naman si girl at para matapos na talaga.

[Chinito]

Eto lang yan e. in the first place hindi naman mambababe or manlalake yung tao kung sobra sobra yung love niya sa wife or husband nya e. so, ibig sabihin when they choose to do that may kulang na and he/she is ready to accept what's gonna happen next if they commit with that kind of set up and one possible thing to happen is falling in love.. ang hirap kaya makipag sex nang walang feelings... para ka lang nag pa spa.. 

[lunaria]

yes it happens sis it's complicated eh..in my case when i was still single, im in it just for the sex, no strings attached talaga..pero usually, they end up wanting a relationship. happened to me and my long-time bf we've been together for almost 4 years now..ang mahirap lang talaga sa ganito based on other people na from fubu to bfgf din, is the transition..syempre mawawala yung honeymoon stage eventually and it takes more than lust to actually make your relationship work. yung iba nag end up as a breakup, nung nawala na yung in heat/honeymoon stage nila. also, parang may difference in terms of sexual compatibility. nung fubu, same kayo ng level ng libido..but as the relationship becomes more serious & longer, minsan di pala kayo talaga tugma ng libido levels/sexual compatibility.

[diwata]

my take on this whole issue: you're either a fubu/casual sex partner or you're in a committed relationship. but to enter into something casual and non-committal in the hopes of eventually being in a more committed relationship with the same person or even with just being open to the thought of it, would be a big mistake. it's like opening a can of worms. unless you like worms. me, i don't. i don't like surprises. i like things simple, no drama, not too much emotions and that has always worked out for me.

no judgments on girls who have sex or go out with married men. morality is a social construct and even then i'm not really one who adheres to what society dictates. but it's always a good rule of thumb to do what you feel is right and what will make you happy. if at the end of the day you feel bad because you think you've broken up a happy home despite being with someone who you think you like/love/have great sex with; or you feel less of a woman by being another man/woman's fubu, then it's time to put your thinking cap on and really determine what you want to do with your life. just make sure that whatever your decision is, learn to stand by it and not be swayed by others.

Well said sister.

[kaiz]

it is very possible. my dad married his kabit (nung annulled na sila ng mom ko). pagkakaalam ko, this girl was a gift lang to my dad, so i assumed it was just sex lang talaga at first.

[jenger109]

I like reading this topic!

[shurumi]

i personally experience this. i know its bad. kaya eto, i stopped dating him. i stopped texting him. nasa 1 office kame. he said he is willing to give up his family for me. im just not sure if he is serious about it.  sabi nung guy is that he really loves me. on my part, ayoko na coz im falling in love with him. nakipagbreak ako. sinabi niya ayaw niya ng break up. mahal na mahal daw niya ako... what to do? ayoko makasira ng family.

[ice angel]

Umiwas ka na Lang Sis. Madani ka pang makikilala na guy na single, Ikaw na Ron nagsabi na Ayaw mo masira family niya.

[Naughty^GuRu]

hi shurumi, sorry to say this but you're Stupid. alam mo na from the start na the guy is married but still nakipag relationship ka sa kanya. hindi ako moralista and maybe i have done more bad things than you, pero having a relationship with a married guy is just plain stupid. what to do? leave him and move on.

the promises. please huwag kang magpauto and maniwala sa sinasabi niyang iiwan niya family niya for you, that's usually the desperate line na maririnig mo from a married guy kapag alam niyang ayaw mo na. leave his family for you? that will never happen. and if it does, im sure hindi magiging masaya ang buhay niyo.

loving a married guy. how can you even love a married guy!? sa asawa niya nga nagchecheat siya, e sayo pa kaya na girlfriend lang niya. hindi ka ba napaparanoid at natatakot na he is also doing the same sayo?

if its just lust and pleasure, by all means ituloy niyo lang. but if you're saying na you have an emotional relationship and that he is willing to give up his family for you, that's so wrong. and being a girl, ikaw ang mas may control sa affair niyo, if you sa NO at panindigan mo yun, wala siyang magagawa.

please, do your self a favor. leave him and move on. you deserve a better guy.

[lovely_chic]

I have a friend who had a fling na married but she chose to end it. At first she never thought that the guy is married coz hindi din sya nag ask about him coz for her she don't care pero eventually nahulog din yung feelings niya sa guy at hindi na niya pinatagal.

[shurumi]

ice angel

oo nga eh. wala talaga sa intention ko na sumira ng family. although we started talaga in casual sex lang. hays. i don't want to be in a situation na other women.


Naughty^GuRu

thanks for the advise. at least i know now kung ano talaga intention niya. nakakainis nga eh, its like naging laruan lang ako para maalis yung boredom niya if wala siya sa house nila.

how can you even love a married guy!? sa asawa niya nga nagchecheat siya, e sayo pa kaya na girlfriend lang niya. hindi ka ba napaparanoid at natatakot na he is also doing the same sayo?

well, i was with him most of the time eh. so, hindi  ako nagiging paranoid. actually masparanoid siya saken coz saken masmaraming nagpapakita ng intentions.




just to share.
at first kase, he is just for casual sex. i broke up with my 7 years bf 5 months ago. sa depression ko, nakipaginuman ako sa office, and dun kame nagstart as casual lang. 1 month yun. lage kame magkasama. after a month of dating he said he wants it official, na sa kanya ako. he will take care of me. which he did, super bait niya saken and caring, plus he is super sweet. ayoko talaga ng relationship with him. pero hindi ko mapigilan mafall. naging serious ako. he is blocking all guys na gusto makipagusap saken.. parang gusto niya siya lang kausap ko and hindi  ako makipagusap sa ibang guys. 2 months na ko as girlfriend sa kanya. he even bought me a ring na pareho ng wedding ring nila (with our names on it). just to show me he is serious. anyways, weekends lang pala siya umuuwi sa wife niya. he is with me every weekdays kasi may apartment naman siya, plus we are at the same office pa. but since i don't like it so serious. i stopped. i know hindi niya magagwa iwan yung asawa niya. lolokohin ko lang sarili ko. plus i have a wound to heal pa. maybe kahit casual sex lang kame, i won't continue. kasi i really think its true,,, guys can get too attached sa ganito.

[Mr.Punch]

Just for purposes of expanding the discussion, I'd like to offer the following:

"attached" doesn't necessarily mean "falling in love".  A guy can get attached with a playmate for a lot of reasons.  Sometimes, it's just a matter on getting very comfortable with sex anytime anywhere.

[LilMissDLSU]

Hello.

I'm not sure if my current situation qualifies in this topic, but my ex and I broke up last July for various reasons (read: his situation is complicated) but we never really stopped communicating with each other. And then sort of along the way, we agreed to having a no strings attached kind of setup. I agreed to this kind of setup simply because I don't want him out of my life. Plus the sex is really good hehe.

Now which leads me to my question: does this still qualify as FUBU or casual sex? Knowing that we once were really madly, passionately in-love with each other? Ako admittedly, I'm having a hard time trying to reconcile with our setup now because I know I'm not over him yet and my feelings for him are still there, although we don't talk about feelings anymore. We meet once a week, we do it, and then the rest of the week I don't know where he is. Parang The Mistress lang haha.

So for the guys here, can you please enlighten me?

[Mr.Punch]

^ Still qualifies as casual sex.  But it's more FWB than fubu.  I'm assuming you know the difference between the two.

[ice angel]

How about if super playboy yun guy? Mafafall in love din ba siya sa casual sex partner niya?

[Mr.Punch]

^ Everything's possible.  But in that particular case, highly unlikely.

[ice angel]

Kung Hindi cya na fall in love what's the reason Kung bakit yun at yun pa din Ang ka casual sex niya even marami siyang girls?