Can men get too attached to someone he is having casual sex with regularly?

[newsoul]

 mejo ganito nangyayari sa kin ngayon. meron umaalok sa kin ng ganitong set-up and as much as im aware of the consequences, i don't know what next step i should take...parang i wanna try something new pero somehow i dont wanna get hurt

[Paulo]

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In other words, you want a Casual Relationship but you want it to have some Sort of Commitment too. Just so you have some sorta safety net?

The thing is, a non-committal relationship is just as it is. It's Casual. So if you're not comfortable with it then don't engage in one.

[queenamina]

my take on this whole issue: you're either a fubu/casual sex partner or you're in a committed relationship. but to enter into something casual and non-committal in the hopes of eventually being in a more committed relationship with the same person or even with just being open to the thought of it, would be a big mistake. it's like opening a can of worms. unless you like worms. me, i don't. i don't like surprises. i like things simple, no drama, not too much emotions and that has always worked out for me.

no judgments on girls who have sex or go out with married men. morality is a social construct and even then i'm not really one who adheres to what society dictates. but it's always a good rule of thumb to do what you feel is right and what will make you happy. if at the end of the day you feel bad because you think you've broken up a happy home despite being with someone who you think you like/love/have great sex with; or you feel less of a woman by being another man/woman's fubu, then it's time to put your thinking cap on and really determine what you want to do with your life. just make sure that whatever your decision is, learn to stand by it and not be swayed by others.

[soulace]

hay daming bitter truth dito ah keep it coming people and i keep on learning.. reality bites talaga.. i will kick my partner out of the house if ever I caught him cheats on me again.. This is his last chance.

[soulace]

" kasi everytime na tinatanong ko asawa ko bakit nya nagawa yun, lagi lang nya sagot, lust, natukso, hindi nya daw alam. kakapiranggot na mga sagot. naiiyak na nga sya dati kasi hindi na nya kaya pa iexplain, yun lang daw kasi talaga pero never naman daw nya naisip na palitan ako."

eto din ang sagot ni partner sa akin nung we had an arguement nung nahuli ko sya cheating on me. ang hirap lang tanggapin at nakakadiri talaga pero pinatawad ko sya. di nya lang alam na ang tough part para sakin ay ang paranoia lalo na at ka officemate nya ang kafling nya. he can always say overtime or he can take a leave without me knowing/noticing it. ilang beses na kami nag away same woman his having an extra affair with at sa pagkakaamin nya tumakbo yun relasyon nila ng 2months without me noticing na his screwing someone behind my back. at first I caught them [textspeak!]/calling.  I forgive. I asked him to stop and broke up with this girl bago ako maghurumintado. I made him choose. he choose me. then after a few days nagtxt/kol na naman sila then I snapped pati yung girl inaway ko na at si partner. then after a couple of weeks eto na naman [textspeak!] ang drama nilang dalawa mgkasama na nga sa office. tapos etong last fight namin mas matindi na sa lahat kasi di na sila ngtxt/call sa Instant messenger naman. hay ang weird ng babae pati instant messenger pinatos na dun sila nagschedule ng do date nila at feeling gf material talaga tong girl na eto ako pa tinawag na kerida. alam ng girl at sa office nila na naglive in kami ni partner and we're having a baby at alam din ng mga ka officemate nila dahil pinangalandakan daw ng girl na sila na. tapos ang di ko matanggap this girl has a love child. tapos nagpapauto pa at nag give in whenever my partner has an itch. and she's hoping na iiwanan ako ni partner for her. sinabi nya din sa akin na she's pregnant daw pero sabi ni partner nadelayed lang daw at eversince eh tinigilan nya na daw. it seems like  a lie.  I just saw his IM account and kaka add nya lang sa account ng girl. I think naglie low lang sila kasi I'm super furious.  And they are just waiting na mgkatime sila na makalusot sa akin..
I swear this will be the super last time believing and forgiving him.

[iluvprints]

Men are less complicated than girls, so if it's just sex then it's just sex. 

I really don't get girls who do this, you have a kid already so they better stop fooling around specially those who are tied down already. But sometimes we also have to consider what the guy is doing or saying to the other woman, there are two sides of the story.

It's difficult being a woman, being all emotional and all. But I believe, some girls sleep with guys who's already in a relationship do this because of self validation. We all get to a point that we start questioning ourselves, the only thing that makes us feel good is a simple comment from a guy or when we flirt and the guy flirts back, you know what I mean? I hope I am making sense here.

[chichi143]

Men are less complicated than girls, so if it's just sex then it's just sex. 

I really don't get girls who do this, you have a kid already so they better stop fooling around specially those who are tied down already. But sometimes we also have to consider what the guy is doing or saying to the other woman, there are two sides of the story.

It's difficult being a woman, being all emotional and all. But I believe, some girls sleep with guys who's already in a relationship do this because of self validation. We all get to a point that we start questioning ourselves, the only thing that makes us feel good is a simple comment from a guy or when we flirt and the guy flirts back, you know what I mean? I hope I am making sense here.

Geez. you are correct on that last part.

[TheMDVL]

Improbable but not impossible.

[Observer54]

oo naman kahit na pinakamalibog na lalaki may puso pa rin yan. 

[ice angel]

Eh paano Kung same may asawa tapos casual partner yun girl and boy may possibility ba mainlove yum boy s girl?

[Naughty^GuRu]

Men are less complicated than girls, so if it's just sex then it's just sex. 

I really don't get girls who do this, you have a kid already so they better stop fooling around specially those who are tied down already. But sometimes we also have to consider what the guy is doing or saying to the other woman, there are two sides of the story.

It's difficult being a woman, being all emotional and all. But I believe, some girls sleep with guys who's already in a relationship do this because of self validation. We all get to a point that we start questioning ourselves, the only thing that makes us feel good is a simple comment from a guy or when we flirt and the guy flirts back, you know what I mean? I hope I am making sense here.

This.

to answer the question:
NO! i never got attached to any of the girls i bed with, dahil siguro i have a girlfriend. of course i cared for them like a friend pero no attachment.

[chicafabulosa]

This.

to answer the question:
NO! i never got attached to any of the girls i bed with, dahil siguro i have a girlfriend. of course i cared for them like a friend pero no attachment.

Haha maybe you. but I know some guys who get attached after having a regular "session" or another way around

[Observer54]

Eh paano Kung same may asawa tapos casual partner yun girl and boy may possibility ba mainlove yum boy s girl?

ikaw ba yung girl?  oo naman meron.

[ice angel]

No, it's not me. Just asking lang:)

[junepets]

I have a friend... Ganyan din initial setup nila... Guy is a foreigner and married... Girl is married as well.. Both of them not satisfied with their s*x life. They were the best partners as they said. Because they were able to fulfill their needs in bed... The wife of the guy was in their homeland for 3 months so they were able to have their relationship.

This relationship went on til the guy went back to his country... But, both the guy and girl fell inlove with each other.

They still communicate til now... And still hoping, they could be together in the end.

Wala nang s*x involved here kasi magkalayo na sila...

Madalas tumatawag si guy kay girl... Long distance... Just to say hi and he misses her...

So i guess, it is really possible.. To fall with your FUBU...

[sensi]

regularly? possible talaga!

[cheekywraps]

It can happen pero dapat faithful sa partner.

[shurumi]

pano pag casual sex sa isang married guy? and he always say he loves me and handa nyang iwan asawa nya for me? we did start as casual lang. F buddies, do you think he's saying the truth or he just wants me to spend more time with him instead na magboyfriend ako, which i always say?

[JakeTheDog]

Yes. Based on experience. 

[shurumi]

Yes. Based on experience. 

possible ba to sa married guys?