how to deal with depression

[mysterioza_me]

^Oo sis yan nga. Nagbawas na din ako ng caffeine, mahirap kasi na maalis talaga since nightshift ako. Di na din ako nagchochocolate. Last week yung huling ?attack? ko. Thankful ako understanding ang bf ko, malaking bagay yung emotional assurance na nakukuha ko sa kanya. Buti andyan siya kasi sa family ko napakahirap magkwento they dont understand. I need someone to listen to me and not someone to keep on blaming me or reminding me ng mga maling nangyari. I remember talking to my mom not so long ago but it didnt turn out well. I ended up telling her na tigilan ako or else im going to kill myself. Hindi ko na siya kinausap ng tungkol sa problem or yung mga bagay na nakaka-bother sa akin after that kasi lalo akong nadedepress. Sometimes we just need someone na makikinig lang at iintindi sa sitwasyon kahit gaano pa kababaw yung mga bagay na pinoproblema natin.

[iluvescadasport]

Matagal na palang walang nagpopost dito. I guess good sign yun kasi wala na masyadong depressed?  Hehe.
Anyway, another thing that I do to get myself out of very very low moods  is nagbabasa ako ng articles about how other people were saved from suicide/stopped themselves at the last minute. Dami naman nyan kapag i-google. Ganda ng perspective ng iba, they really know what it's like.

Agree. It is a very good idea to read the experiences ng iba. We can always learn from those who have experienced it and was able to fight depression

^Baka too depressed to even post?

have to agree, baka too depressed. I do hope mali tayo. I hope mas maghanap for answers yun mga depressed. Diba there are tendencies kasi na kapag depressed, parang gusto na lang magkulong sa bahay and mag pity party?

^Oo sis yan nga. Nagbawas na din ako ng caffeine, mahirap kasi na maalis talaga since nightshift ako. Di na din ako nagchochocolate. Last week yung huling ?attack? ko. Thankful ako understanding ang bf ko, malaking bagay yung emotional assurance na nakukuha ko sa kanya. Buti andyan siya kasi sa family ko napakahirap magkwento they dont understand. I need someone to listen to me and not someone to keep on blaming me or reminding me ng mga maling nangyari. I remember talking to my mom not so long ago but it didnt turn out well. I ended up telling her na tigilan ako or else im going to kill myself. Hindi ko na siya kinausap ng tungkol sa problem or yung mga bagay na nakaka-bother sa akin after that kasi lalo akong nadedepress. Sometimes we just need someone na makikinig lang at iintindi sa sitwasyon kahit gaano pa kababaw yung mga bagay na pinoproblema natin.

Same here, ang hirap din magkwento sa own family ko. My mom is too close minded, ang tama and acceptable lang sa kanya is yun sa culture niya. Kapatid ko naman too religious. Dad ko naman, sinabi ko na 2x ko gusto magsuicide because of him and my mom, tapos sinabihan pa ako na i should be patient and single lang ako kaya kulang pa knowledge ko. After that incident, I stopped talking to them yun tipong sharing my life kasi alam ko they will never understand and support me. Civil na lang turing ko sa kanila. Important talaga yun may support, sa ngayon yan yun hinahanap ko, parang support group.

[mysterioza_me]

^Dad ko wala akong problem pero may mga bagay pa din na hindi ko maikwento kasi alam ko makakarating yun sa mom ko and ang mom ko for sure uungkatin yun sa akin e ayaw ko na nga magkwento sa kanya. May ugali kasi siya na nagkkwento din sa iba. Ayaw ko ng ganun. Ang problema ko ikinwento ko para maihinga ko kasi mabigat dalhin, hindi para pagchismisan nila ng amiga niya. Kaya mabuti pa magkwento sa strangers kasi di ka kilala

[ultimatehousewife]

I am depressed because I will be sent to jail pretty soon because of crimnal charges filed against me. I didn't kill anyone but I misused funds and falsified docs. The case has been going on for 7 Years. We are trying out best to settle (less than 100k) but they won't let me. What a way to live my life. Papakamatay nalang ako...

[iluvescadasport]

^Dad ko wala akong problem pero may mga bagay pa din na hindi ko maikwento kasi alam ko makakarating yun sa mom ko and ang mom ko for sure uungkatin yun sa akin e ayaw ko na nga magkwento sa kanya. May ugali kasi siya na nagkkwento din sa iba. Ayaw ko ng ganun. Ang problema ko ikinwento ko para maihinga ko kasi mabigat dalhin, hindi para pagchismisan nila ng amiga niya. Kaya mabuti pa magkwento sa strangers kasi di ka kilala

 totally agree. better na magkwento to strangers na lang. At least no strings attached.

I am depressed because I will be sent to jail pretty soon because of crimnal charges filed against me. I didn't kill anyone but I misused funds and falsified docs. The case has been going on for 7 Years. We are trying out best to settle (less than 100k) but they won't let me. What a way to live my life. Papakamatay nalang ako...

sis, kapit lang! What you're going through is very tough, pero tiwala lang sa higher being (I'm not sure if you are religious or not, kaya higher being para applies to all) .

[ultimatehousewife]

Tomorrow we will try to settle our case sa opponent namin (na sobrang powerful). Hopefully we get to arrive at a compromise. Otherwise, makukulong na ako.  ... Goodbye life na

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

^Grabe Sis! 

[kvandenhaak]

^^I wish you well. Hopefully, ma-settle naman.

[tey_roch19]

Sign ba ng depression yun lagi akong gising around 3am gang pumasok ako sa work? Yung wala ka ng drive gumawa ng kahit ano? Wala din gana kumain? Tapos parang pagod na pagod ka lagi?

[kvandenhaak]

Yes! Low drive, sleeping problem, you don't enjoy doing anything including those you used to enjoy.

[simang]

^^possible. I was like that dati, as in literal ayaw kong bumangon sa kama. hindi rin ako kumakain as in nakahiga lang ako maghapon, hanggang gabi na ulit.

[iluvescadasport]

Sign ba ng depression yun lagi akong gising around 3am gang pumasok ako sa work? Yung wala ka ng drive gumawa ng kahit ano? Wala din gana kumain? Tapos parang pagod na pagod ka lagi?

yes, those can be signs of depression. Sis, try to make time (yes, make time talaga) for yourself to really think it over what causes those. Yes, we know na depression. But what do you think caused your depression? You can make a list of possible ideas tapos from there, you can talk to your friends (or kahit dito, we can help if kaya naman) and maybe they can give you suggestions on what you can do to help fight depression. One very important advice ko is NEVER do anything to suppress depression. Take it from me, ang hirap ng consequence yan. Cry it out, let your emotions out

[young_maiden]

I've been depressed for more than a year na. Irregular tulog ko. There are times na kahit maaga ako matulog, gigising ako ng madaling araw at mahihirapan na ako makatulog ulit. Minsan wala akong gana kumain. I can skip two meals in one day. Yung hair ko rin manipis na. Lagi ako nalalagasan ng hair eh.

I miss my old, positive self. Ang hirap pag depressed. Pabalik-balik ang suicidal thoughts. :-(

[ultimatehousewife]

Update mga sis! We have arrived na ng settlement.  Thank God! Milagro talaga.

[kvandenhaak]

So glad to hear that! Now you can concentrate on rebuilding your life!

[hushush]

I've been depressed for more than a year na. Irregular tulog ko. There are times na kahit maaga ako matulog, gigising ako ng madaling araw at mahihirapan na ako makatulog ulit. Minsan wala akong gana kumain. I can skip two meals in one day. Yung hair ko rin manipis na. Lagi ako nalalagasan ng hair eh.

I miss my old, positive self. Ang hirap pag depressed. Pabalik-balik ang suicidal thoughts. :-(

At bakit ka naman may suicidal thoughts sis?? Wag ka ganyan! Halika mag-adik tayo sa bags. Dami sa IG noh! O kaya mga shoes at alahas! irampa mo araw-araw imatch mo sa ootd mo haha! Angganda ng buhay.di kelangan mamatay. 😁

Naalala ko yun poem ni Henry Wadsworth Longfellow nun highschool ako.. Sabi nya: "life is real! life is earnest! and the grave is not its goal.."

[iluvescadasport]

I've been depressed for more than a year na. Irregular tulog ko. There are times na kahit maaga ako matulog, gigising ako ng madaling araw at mahihirapan na ako makatulog ulit. Minsan wala akong gana kumain. I can skip two meals in one day. Yung hair ko rin manipis na. Lagi ako nalalagasan ng hair eh.

I miss my old, positive self. Ang hirap pag depressed. Pabalik-balik ang suicidal thoughts. :-(

Sorry to hear that sis. Please make time for yourself and think about all the possible causes of your depression, write it down para it can help you understand better. Ano yun ginagawa mo dati during your positive self na hindi mo nagagawa ngayon which contributed sa depression mo? IS it a new job, more responsibilities at home, fewer time for yourself, etc? Don't suppress it by doing other stuff. Face the causes and take actions. Remember, all your feelings are valid, it's just a matter of your decision if you will take actions to make a better positive you =)

[young_maiden]

^ and ^^ Thank you sa pagpansin sa post ko. Appreciated.

Pakiramdam ko kasi ang malas ko sa boss. Sa 2nd job ko, nakaranasa ako ng verbal abuse. Yung boss ko doon sinasabihan minumura ako pag galit kahit sa harap ng clients at coworkers. May time sinabihan pa akong t****. I stayed there for a year and 2 months. Tiniis ko yun dahil nahihiya ako magresign agad dahil four months lang ako doon sa 1st job ko. Iniisip ko pangit na sa resume kung palipat-lipat.

I am now on my third job at minalas na naman sa boss. Hindi nga palamura at naninigaw pero ang lakas mag powertrip at mamersonal. Wala talagang lawyers na tumatagal sa kanya. After one month, nagreresign agad effective immediately. Akala ko nung una makakaya ko siya kasi nga di nga palamura pero masakit pa rin magsalita. Kahit mag sorry ang empleyado sa kanya, hindi nya tatanggapin. Kung magreresign na naman ako, panibagong chaka na naman to sa resume ko. Pero if I stay, wala ako peace of mind. The boss likes to fire people kahit mababaw na rason. Meron nga siya sinisante dahil daw may amoy lang. I am so paranoid na baka magising na lang ako, jobless na ako. Kaya natetempt na ako unahan siya.

Ang maganda lang sa depression nakaka-sexy siya. Wala akong gana kumain eh.

Sana naman sa next job ko makasundo ko na ang boss. Ok lang naman sa akin mapagalitan ako. Normal lang yun. Pero wag naman murahin ako, personalin at maliitin. Meron pa bang boss na professional at hindi bastos? :-(

[iluvescadasport]

^sorry to hear that sis. Based sa mga stories ng ibang kakilala ko, meron din silang mga boss na hindi okay ugali. Yun tipong sila gagawa ng hard work but their boss will take the credits. Yun boss ko, verbally abusive din, but I just ignore it and shut my ears. (mom ko kasi yun boss haha)

I can't give you an exact solution on how to deal with that. All I can advise is that sa life, madami talagang mga ganyan na tao. In your case, boss mo. In my case, parents ko. Sa iba, baka asawa nila, etc. What we can do is always remember not to take it personally and try (kahit na sooobbbraannngg hirap) to accept na may pinagdaanan din sila nung bata siguro sila which contributed to their abusive attitude. I also believe na things like that happen to us to make us stronger and meron din mga positive lessons (kahit na sobrang sakit na lessons and hindi pa natin narerealize kung ano). Malay mo, in the future, when you have your own business, you know how not to treat your employees kasi you yourself have experienced being mistreated.   

Forgive me for saying this, pero hindi nakak-sexy ang depression. Maybe there are times we think of it as a joke (kahit ako naisip ko din yan dati), pero in the long run, bad effect. If we associate something positive (Sexy) to something that is negative & needs to be changed (depression), there is a big possibility na we would ignore the importance of changing the negative. Sorry if malabo explanation ko, pero sana naiparating ko yun meaning.

Kapit lang sis, kaya mo yan! For the meantime, watch some youtube videos that will help you deal with negative bosses.

[fall2pieces]

Nadepressed ako ng ilang buwan nung iniwan ako ng ex ko last year lang. Christmas season pa. I was struggling, pretending to be happy around people. I was questioning my worth.. I still do.. hindi na lang siguro katulad noon na parang ang dilim ng paligid.. Siguro ngayon more on sa sarili ko na lang. Lagi ko tinatanong sarili ko anong kulang sa akin,  dami kong insecurities.. Feeling ko napag-iwanan na ako dahil sa age ko, parang nawawalan ako ng pag-asa. I was questioning God, why.. I said, if I can't find my purpose, if I can't find someone who will appreciate me, I'd rather die young.. Yeah I think about it sometimes. I feel like I'm just working, waking up everyday without a purpose.

But I have to move on, get on with my life, wala akong choice..