how to deal with depression

[fall2pieces]

@fashtag oo sis yung feeling ko ang dami kong iniintindi kahit hindi naman. parang kulang lagi yung oras. stress nga siguro. ang hirap kasi magpakapositive kapag down na down ka na at wala kang makitang positive sa surroundings. or maybe I was close-minded for the positive things in life.. sa work ko kasi sobrang nawalan ako ng self-esteem.. tapos wala pa akong mapagsabihan ng problems ko.  kaya siguro I need a new job where I can feel more valued and empowered. feeling ko nawala yung self-worth ko,.

@britzm thanks sis, sige share mo dito.. try ko nga hanapin yung book na yan..

@kvandenhaak thanks sis sa advice. alam nyo ba sa depression ko umabot ako sa point na nawawalan na ko ng faith kay God. naguilty ako dito kasi, narealize ko na sa time na to si God talaga yung makakatulong sayo. tapos naging hard din ako sa sarili ko, lagi kong bineblame yung sarili ko sa mga nangyayari. kahit yung ibang bagay eh hindi ko naman control. naging iritable ako, ayaw ko makihalubilo sa tao.

[fall2pieces]

@Spam Musubi umabot din ako sa point na gusto ko magpatingin pero iniisip ko yung stigma sa ibang tao knowing na nagpapatingin ka sa psychiatrist at saka di ko din afford yung sessions.

@Half_Lifer26 ay sorry, bro pala may tatanggap pa rin naman sayo.. ako dati feeling ko rin parang hopeless na ako pero yun nga, may tatanggap pa rin sayo no matter what.. patience lang talaga.. ganyan din ako yung gusto ko na lang matulog maghapon.. pero darating din sa point na magsasawa ka rin, na kelangan mong kumilos. kasi kaw lang din talaga makakatulong sa sarili mo. :')

[Spam Musubi]

@fall2pieces ang hirap nga po ng stigma. Ang hirap humingi ng tulong. Parang hindi ka sinisiryoso.

[Half_Lifer26]

@fall2pieces No problem Sis...
Yup.. Ganyan din ako.. Overthinking and hindi makatulog sa kakaisip and napaparanoid Even until now pero yun na nga may time talaga na magsasawa ka din sa ganito and eventually you wanted to get out and Yeah I know na ako lang din makakatulong sakin haha..

[kvandenhaak]

@kvandenhaak thanks sis sa advice. alam nyo ba sa depression ko umabot ako sa point na nawawalan na ko ng faith kay God. naguilty ako dito kasi, narealize ko na sa time na to si God talaga yung makakatulong sayo. tapos naging hard din ako sa sarili ko, lagi kong bineblame yung sarili ko sa mga nangyayari. kahit yung ibang bagay eh hindi ko naman control. naging iritable ako, ayaw ko makihalubilo sa tao.

I understand. Sometimes, we tend to think we're suffering from this because of lack of faith, which is so far from the truth. It's chemical imbalance so we really can't control it. Trust me, if there's anyone who understands our situation is God himself. So, instead of pulling away, go closer. Trust me, He doesn't judge.

Kapag inaatake ka ng anxiety, try doing something physical like jogging, stretching, then some breathing exercises. Hanapin ko nga yung mga resources na binigay sa akin ng therapist ko to help you sleep and relax. Put some plants in your bedroom like Jasmine (kampupot), lavender at aloe vera. Bumili pa nga ako ng Himalayan salt lamp to try, kasi it nakakatulong din daw. I mean, I am trying everything natural kasi I really would like to stay away from medication. So far, keri pa rin naman.

[hisana]

Kaya ako minsan kahit gusto kong umiyak tinatago ko na lang kasi kasi ayokong mag-alala pa sa akin yung ibang tao

You seem like a nice and sensitive person, ikaw na nga ang nahihirapan pero iniisip mo pa rin ang welfare ng iba. I don't know what to say to help you with your depression; so much has already been said on how to overcome this, and I hope you eventually figure out your way to stop the struggle. I wish you good luck na lang, career or otherwise, and peace of mind.

[Half_Lifer26]

@hisana
Thanks Sis! Don't worry about me, I just let out some of my feelings here and I red all the helpful advice here and I know I can fight through it.. Good Luck din sa iyo and have a peace of mind..

[rowenoh183]

does anybody here knows dra jercyll or rose tenco ba un the famous psychologist? gusto ko na talaga magpaconsult . 2017 na and gusto ko na mabago life ko. naaawa na ko sa sarili ko. gusto ko muna magpaconsult sa psychologist then sya na lang magsabi sakin kung psychiatrist kelangan ko

[Frozen Toes]

May marerecommend po ba kayo sa Ortigas area? Salamat po.

Set up an appointment with the psychiatrists at Medical City. Request to see non-consultants. Their fees are way cheaper.

[kvandenhaak]

^It's frustrating isn't it? A friend of mine once told me, ibaling ko lang daw sa iba ang attention ko. Eh meron syang sleep apnea. I said, "Wala lang yan, ibaling mo lang sa iba ang attention mo and you will be fine!" LOL!

[bluebeads]

Hey! 
For those with sleeping problems, have you guys tried over the counter sleep aids?

And for those with anxiety attacks and who are having occasional depression, have you guys tried St. John's Wort? (GNC)  Mood stabiliser siya and somehow it helps with mood swings and depression.

I am suggesting these kasi based on my experience,  I know some people na may bipolor/ manic depressive disorder  and they told me to try over the counter medication or supplements first kasi mahirap pag nasanay na sa prescribed meds.   Kaya never ako nag consult sa psychiatrist, kasi for sure, meds ang katapat nun eh. 

I'd say consult a psychiatrist pag malala na talaga.  Pag kaya pa, psychologist muna siguro or check with an elder relative na may experience handling these situations.   Totoo na important ma agapan ang depression, pero mas important na labanan siya, kasi pag nag prescribed meds agad, yung normal way ng body mo to balance the chemicals in our brains, mag rerely na sa meds. 

I am not an expert but I have relatives kasi and friends na nag suffer sa depression.  And when they miss their "maintenance" meds, they get attacks, worse they get confined.   I've witnessed a person close to me who got depressed and relied on meds so much na nung nagka attack, na confine sa basement ng Medical City which made him become more depressed.  I also lost an aunt and a cousin due to suicide because of depression, too.   

I am a volunteer at a depression and suicide prevention foundation, and naturo samin doon na pag may first signs of depression, kelangan talaga ng more sleep, healthy lifestyle (exercise, fruits and veggies) and an activity to divert the attention to keep the mind busy para malayo sa thoughts na "depressed ako, hindi ko kaya 'to".   

Just to share, too,  when I broke up with my ex more than 9 years ago, I got super depressed,  I turned to alcohol, I kept awake listening to sad songs etc.  And I was super moody, too!  I even quit my job because I couldn't focus.   I wanted to sleep so bad pero di ako makatulog kaka isip.  I wanted to see a psychiatrist na kasi ayoko ma depress.   But my friend told me mag over the counter solution muna,  after taking sleep aids that can be bought without prescription (even Iterax na for allergies kasi nakaka antok) naka help naman.   Pati yung St. John's wort sa GNC naka help and sabi naman ng friend ko na doctor, ok siya.   Na overcome ko naman lahat ng nangyari and glad to say, di nag tuloy yung feeling ko na "depressed ata ako".   

Ayun, sorry for the long post.  Just wanted to share baka may ma contribute =)





 

[kvandenhaak]

^I don't take the meds they prescribed. But it really depends sa pasyente. You can talk to the doctor and ask for a more natural method of dealing with the mental issue. Try ko nga yung St. John Worst sa Melaleuca.

[Frozen Toes]

I'm trying to find dra. jercyl's contact details on this thread and in pinoy exchange pero sadly wala nagrereply . kung may mare recommend po kayo ma galing na doctor , pa pm naman.

I think Dr. Jercyl Demeterio holds clinic at Cardinal Santos. Maybe you can contact the hospital's main line and ask to be connected.

[chelvin26]

Warning this is a long post. Please forgive me for posting this as I dont have someone to talk to and I need to vent it out or else I don't know.

I am feeling this again, I just used to ignore this. Here's my story. I was a happy person way back in highschool. Positive thinker. i had this bf ( we were still together and 11 years now and still counting and will get married this year as well ) he cheated on me when I was in high school and we were only 2 years back then. ( take notem pinaglaban ko siya sa family ko that time, una palang sinubok na relasyon namin and we manage to be legal on both sides) he cheated on me for a year and I knew it I just didnt believe myself that he can do that to me, he was saying to the girl that we already broke up when in fact hindi naman talaga and sabi naman niya sakin naghahabol lang daw yung girl or may gusto sa knya so hindi namin alam both, ganon sitwasyon ko in a year na lagi may nang aaway saken araw araw, takot ako magbukas ng friendster, may mga new pics sila, ( edited daw pero totoo pala yun) Imagine how worst my life at that time. We broke up and after 2 months we managed to be together again. Forgave him and all, Honest to God I already forgave him but the pain is still there, though pag napagkwentuhan namin, tawanan nalang, pero deep inside masakit parin parang fresh, Pero hindi ko siya inaaway, kasi I already forgave him na.


So here's my present situation. After that I became a lonely and empty person, though mafeel mo yung happiness when you're with other and with him pero when you are alone. Malungkot ka na naman, Naging magagalitin ako over the years, Unti unti ako nadetach sa mga friends ko and now sa kanya nalang umiikot mundo ko, unlike him na he has a lot of friends, so whenever niyaya niya ako somewhere to meet his friends sabi ko ayaw ko siya nalang, ending hindi na siya nagpupunta, Nagagalit ako even small things, hirap na hirap ako controlin emotions ko, sabi ko magbabago ako, yet di ko magawa I hate myself, Minsan hindi na lang niya ako kinakausap kaya mas lalo ako nadedepress and kung ano ano naiisip ko. Natatako ako magsawa siya ng ganon, Hindi ko masabi saknya nararamdaman ko kasi hindi nya maiintindihan, I tried before pero feeling ko iniisip niya arter ko lang . Happy ako, pero parang kulang, may emptiness, i dont feel i am loved, na mahalaga ako, nakukulangan ako, pero alam ko pinapakita naman niya lahat, nasa akin lang ang problem,

I am an under achiever, I was an achiever way back in college and now nagsesettle ako sa current work ko because of high salary even no growth. I had a lot of failures, money mistake, to give you an idea maybe I already lost around less than 300k in different investments, and lahat yun sa akin ang sisi niya, i feel so down everytime naiisip ko yun, Feeling ko ang bobo  ko, ang hina hina ko, I am hopeless, helpless, lonely, empty, pagod na pagod na ako sa life ko, to struggle sa work every day, I have ovarian cyst, type 2 prediabetic ba yun, I am obese, hayst.  sa life na ito, wala ako magawa to change it, sometimes suicide seems to be appealing talaga, you can't say na just move on, be happy, think positive, that's not an option. I am loved by my fiance naman and family pero hindi ko maramdaman and nakukulangan ako di ko na alam kung bakit at kung ano need nila gawin, napapagod na ako sa ganito, lagi ko sinasabi sa kanya pag nag aaway kami napapagod na ako, sa lahat, sa sitwasyon na ito, andami ko nasasabi saknya ang bibig ko kung ano ano lumalabas, minumura ko siya, sinasabihan walang kwenta, mamatay na siya and everything, feeling ko na emotional abuse ko siya, pero okay lang saknya, tahimik lang siya, di ko alam nasa isip niya, kaya pag hindi ako kinakausap paranoid ako, bothered, I am praying to God, sana matapos na ito, ayoko ng ganitong pakiramdam, though focus padin naman ako sa ginagawa ko, i need to, fault finding sa work namin eh, even white lies niya galit na galit ako, I dont see myself as mabait anymore, lalo saknya, hanggang dito nalang muna at hindi ko na maorganize ang thoughts ko,

[hushush]

^napakacomplicated ng pinagdadaanan mo sis.wala ako masabi kundi magpakatatag ka at wag na wag papasok sa isip mo na wakasan ang buhay mo dahil malaking kasalanan yan.pano na lang ang mga nagmamahal sayo.why not talk to them and open up.wag ka mahiya sis.hindi lang naman ikaw ang may problema sa mundo...subukan mo maglakad- lakad sa maduduming kalye sa manila makikita mo yun mga taong grasa kahit walang makain at natutulog lang sa kariton ay patuloy silang lumalaban sa buhay..kaya sis wag mo sayangin ang bawat araw mo sa galit at self-pity..choose to be happy..
Kapag nadedepress ako nanunuod ako ng mga documentary ni Jay Taruc. Kara David.Howie Severino sa GMA at dun nabubuksan ang isip ko na napakswerte ko at nakakapag-mall pa ako.nakakainom nang malinis na tubig.nakakakain ng karne..nakakakain ng bananaQ..try mo sis panuorin sa youtube nga documentary nila about poverty..then pede ka ding

magtravel.magpa-spa.mag-gym.manuod ng sine...magdiet.mamundok..magpunta sa divisoria at mamakyaw ng mga murang bilihin..magpunta sa doktor at magpa-checkup.magpatingin sa psychiatrist..

Marami ka pa sis pedeng gawin sa buhay mo..

[chelvin26]

Thanks sis hushush, actually di ko naman inaattemp. naiisip ko lang.. thankful naman ako with my life and everything. may mga moments lang talaga, and nahihiya ako mag open up. kasi alam mo na di naman nila maiintindihan at sasabihin lang na arte ko lang to, lol,

[hushush]

Buti naman sis at malaki ang takot mo..pero sis once kasi na sumagi sa isip mo yan e talagang ipoprovoke ka ng evil spirits.lalo na kung mag-isa ka lang lagi..ako kasi nun age 20 ako super brokenhearted ako at gusto ko mapag-isa ako lagi.minsan sumagi din sa isip ko yan.then parang bigla na lang parang gusto kong itry .so what i did ay nagsimba ako.i went out of the house.pumunta ako sa house ng parents ko..though til now wala sila idea bakit ako nagkaganun.ang alam lang nila nagdiet lang ako ng sobra kasi ang chubby ko nuon kaya nadepress ako kasi kinulang ako ng nutrients sa katawan..
Nakarecover din ako then after that mas marami pa dumating na heartaches..masochista ata ako that time at parang gusto ko lagi ako nasasaktan kahit na alam ko nang masasaktan ako sa bandang huli.like nakipagrelasyon ako sa lalaki na iba ang religion like saksi ni jehova..then dumating yun time na nasawa na ako sa ganung lifestyle at naging maingat na ako sa pagpili..then ayun happy ending naman.may 2 kids na ako..natatawa na lang ako sa mga pinagdaanan kong prob.pero nagpapasalamat din ako kasi naging matatag ako sa mga kinaharap ko pang pagsubok..

Ang depresion sis indi yan mawawala o maiiwasan..pag manganak ka dadaanan ka sa PPD or yun tinatawag na post partum depression..kung mga ganyang klase ng depression nahirapan ka lagpasan.mas mahihirapan ka kapag PPD na ang umatake sayo.kaya magpakatatag ka sis..lagi ka lang kapit sa taas at lagi ka lapit sa pamilya mo.wag kang mahiya..lahat ng tao kahit nanay natin dumadaan sa depression.yun mga nag-meno pause na grabe ang depression nyan.kaya teamwork yan sis.wag mo sarilinin ang problema..

[bluebeads]

HI Chelvin!

I know that what you've been through and what you're through is tough, but you should be tougher. =) 

Hmm.. since you mentioned your situation, what if you don't dwell on the things you can't control and focus on what you can control?  I mean, divert your attention.  Na mention mo that you're obese, instead of being sad about it na nakaka contribute pa sa concerns mo, why not challenge yourself.

Just to share,  my bf and I gained so much weight through the years (ako personally I gained a LOT nun mga mag 2-3 years na kame! like as in lahat ng tao sabi what happened, etc.. hahaha ka inis!) 

Pero what we did, as a couple, we resorted to a healthier lifestlye, nag diet kami and exercise.  Naunahan nya ako ma achieve yun weight na gusto nya, so there were times nag babattle ako ng weight loss mag isa.  It was depressing na feeling mo ang ayos mo noon tapos tumaba ka ng wild.  Na lahat ng tao kung ijudge ka parang sa kusina na ko nakatira! LOL Pero I did my best talaga. 

I lost weight (mga 30lbs) and na achieve ko naman yung gusto ko.  I was and I am a happier person.  Not because of the weight loss lang, but because nakapag set ako ng goal na na achieve ko and naka feel ako ng self fulfilment.  Also, super bonding rin namin ng boyfriend ko yun kasi we lost weight together, plus super supportive rin namin sa isa't isa sa process.

Dati when I gained weight,  I hated photos and social media. LOL But hey, nun pumayat ako, sorry kayo mag seselfie ako hanggang gusto ko!  Nag habol ako mag beach and mag 2 piece! hahaha It was a good feeling.  Nawala yung dating ako na nadedepress and walang gana sa picture, sa clothes, etc. 

In fact, para ma pressure ako ma maintain un "postive" disposition ko, ni buhay ko yung blog ko and nagpaka active rin ako sa youtube channel ko =)

I know that this might be a small diversion given the facts that you have cited.  Pero one way or another, when we are active sa isang goal, tapos nag eat pa tayo ng healthy and nag exercise, yung buong disposition natin as a person mas gumagaan. =)  Just a thought sis, try mo lang. 

We always have the choice to choose the better version of ourself.   

[britzm]

sis chelvin26, people in the philippines really don't know how it feels like unless it happens to them. hindi sila makaka relate. it's good that you admitted na you have depression. that's already an achievement itself. now, if your budget permits, try to set an appointment with psychiatrist. tulad nga nung sabi ni sis hushush, tungkol sa ppd, mas prone ang mga nagdaan sa depression sa post partum. yan yung after mo manganak. there will be a severe imbalance sa hormones. to give you an idea, my friend who experienced this muntik na niya itapon ang baby niya. sa mga news, may mga nanay na iniiwan ang mga baby... jina judge sila ng ibang tao pero sa loob loob ko, these moms need help also.

you also mentioned na suicide sounds appealing. i highly suggest talaga you see a psychiatrist. recently na experience ko din to. and doctor told me i'm in emergency situation. although takot ako sa dugo or sa pain, yung gusto ko lang mawala..emergency situation pa rin daw ako. and she asked me if there's someone na pwedeng humawak ng meds ko. baka daw ioverdose ko ang sarili ko.
if you can't afford naman, just make sure there's someone na pwede mong tawagan to help you.
stay strong everyone...

[Half_Lifer26]

Most people don't know how it feels like unless depression also happens to them.,, They have no idea what it is or how it feels like.. Which can be frustrating and annoying..
I think ang isa pang nakaka affect or pwedeng cause ng depression is social media like facebook,instagram,,.
Especially when you see people posting good stuff about their life or having the best time of their life and you can't help but to compare yourself, which in turn can increase your anxiety and depression..
In my opinion..