Lesson learned after the breakup

[jo1]

^ hahaha, natawa naman ako dun - ganyan din naisip ko... in truth, di hamak na mas malala ang mga kontra bida sa tunay na buhay - that is indeed ironic

[iamgold]

nako pag nikapag break at ang dialogue sayo eh i need space..nako bonggang bonggang walk outan mo sabay sabing you want space i'll give you the universe

[det060403]

learned that---
one... I am gullible (LOL!)
two .,,I fall too easily!-too hard, too fast! darn!
three... I am indeed fickle minded :p hahaha!
In short, thou shalt not be stupid!
four... there IS a positive side when you get your heart broken...
five ... no matter how much you try to make it work... no matter how much you really really really want it to happen--if its not meant to be, then its practically not meant to be.

[Filipinasadhart]

wag na wag ka magbibigay ng gamit sa bf mo at wag na wag ka gagastos sa bf mo. mahalin mo muna yun sarili mo. wag ka maniniwala sa mga sinasabi nya marami paasa ngyon lalaki.

[aerish_anne]

tumPAK filipinasadhart.. nakakalorkey sila parang sa knila n umikot ang mundo natin para laht ng sabihin ay ibibigay natin.. bikitima din ako ng madadayang lalake.. lagi n [textspeak!] ako ang give ng give at sila ay taga take [textspeak!]...tapos itatake away sila ng iba... kagalit [textspeak!]!!

[cinnamoroll]

^I agree. Regaluhan mo na lang ng mahal pag kasal na kayo.

[klengmorales]

wag na wag ka magbibigay ng gamit sa bf mo at wag na wag ka gagastos sa bf mo. mahalin mo muna yun sarili mo. wag ka maniniwala sa mga sinasabi nya marami paasa ngyon lalaki.

I'm guilty of this. ang hirap hirap mag move on. lahat mahirap. mahirap matulog, mahirap huminga, mahirap mag isip, mahirap kumain. isa lang ang madali eh. ang umiyak 

[swt_fem]

I learned that long distance relationships NEVER work or at least is not for me.

[momentum]

I have bookmarked this page for future reference 

Lessons I realized (still preparing for a breakup):

1. Listen to your parents/friends/kapatid - they can see everything in a different perspective while you are blinded by "love"
2. Never let him get the best of you
3. Never settle for less
4. Once he hurt you physically/emotionally/psychologically/verbally, he will do it again. It's just a matter of time
5. Never rush in a  relationship. Take all your time to get to know the guy before giving in or settling down
6. Guard your heart, but do not show it.
7. Don't let him take away from you everything that used to be a part of you (friends,family,values,beliefs,etc)
8. Be very careful with overly possessive guys. It may likely lead to violence
9. Learn to say NO early on in the relationship so he gets used to not getting his way
10. Do not allow yourself to be pushed,disrespected,cursed,forced in any way,etc.
11. Do not depend on him in any way. Learn to stand-up on your own
12. Do not trust easily. and do not trust 100%, mahirap na maging "bulag"

and the list goes on...

[Filipinasadhart]

1. Dnt take it seriously. lalo na kung bago pa lang kayo.
2. Wag basta basta maniniwala sa mga sinasabi nya at never ever na maniniwala na babayaran nya ang mga bagay na kinuha nya. OH THANKYOU NA YON.
3. Wag maging mabait.
4. Wag na wag ibibigay ang mga bagay like ipad etc. lalo na may sentimental value tulad ng nangyari sa akin tinaguan na ko ng lintik na lalaki yon.  MAKARMA sana sya.
5. Wag lagi maawa sa bf.

ANGER is the best motivation para madaling makamove on.

[kisses bratt]

There are Several Factors That Could Contribute to a broken Relationship:

 1. Communciation breakdown
 2. A change in circumstances
 3. Lack of trust and disrespect
 4. Lying and cheating
 5. Personal Issues
 6. Pride

[kisses bratt]

Lessons to learned

1. Pull Yourself Together
     This Involves Gaining Control of Your Thoughts and emotions. Acknowledge how you feel and living in self denial Avoid. The bitter truth is 'it's over'. Although painful, You have to accept it for all the Logical Reasons. Once you've accepted your feelings, it's time to loosen your grip and LET IT GO. Understand the Importance of Taking time out to relax and Once You are in control of your emotions, do a bit of reflection on the major rise to Conflicts Which Gave actual break up.

2. Appreciate Who You Are
     Always remember you are a unique and lovely to behold. You Could Also spend more time Discovering your purpose, WHO you really are, your temperaments, likes / dislikes.
Accept you are unique, with human flaws and Attaining Being With complete perfection is far fetched.

3. Work On Improving Your Self Esteem
     Self Esteem Refers to the overalls Beliefs, opinions You have about yourself, the Value Place on yourself as an individual and Your Ability to cope or derive pleasures (happiness) from the basic Challenges of life.

4. Connect With Friends And Family
     
5. Get On With Life
    The Understanding HAVING Everything Happens for a reason and life Generally Involves Facing hurdles and challenges, I submit today, it's important you get on with life.

6. You Can Be happy again
     Change your thinking, That Will help change the way you feel.
     If you've got children, spend time Taking Care of Them and Watch Them Grow Into responsible adults.
    Make new friends or meet new people.
    Counting your blessings.
    Positive interaction with Children, friends, families, colleagues
    Showing genuine kindness to Acts of Different People

7. Start Again
    Get Back Into the dating game or race lol! and it's not cheeky. You can do it, so Get in there!!
    Once again The Aim of this post is to highlight lessons to be A Few Learnt from a break up / broken relationship.

[AlwaysFresh]

I learned that long distance relationships NEVER work or at least is not for me.

I agree! Long distance works for only a lucky few...

[juwie]

^ I never thought that there will come a time that I would have to agree with this. I no longer believe in LDRs...

[Filipinasadhart]

Gusto ko magmura ngyon blocked na ko sa fb ng hinayupak na lalaki yon di na talaga ibabalik ang IPad ko. it was my dad's gift. Umiyak man ako ng umiyak at kahit isang balde ang iiyak ko ngyon wala na tinaguan na ko. Kaya wag na wag kayo maniniwala sa sinasabi ng bf nyo lalo na kung alam nyo paasa. Wag na wag kayo mabibigay ng anything money, gadgets etc. MAhalin nyo muna sarili nyo. It was all my fault. Ginusto ko toh eh... NAgtiwala ako agad. PLs. Take away the pain....

[aerish_anne]

i like what u said kisses bratt. u r so inspiring. thanks for sharing this sis

Lessons to learned

1. Pull Yourself Together
     This Involves Gaining Control of Your Thoughts and emotions. Acknowledge how you feel and living in self denial Avoid. The bitter truth is 'it's over'. Although painful, You have to accept it for all the Logical Reasons. Once you've accepted your feelings, it's time to loosen your grip and LET IT GO. Understand the Importance of Taking time out to relax and Once You are in control of your emotions, do a bit of reflection on the major rise to Conflicts Which Gave actual break up.

2. Appreciate Who You Are
     Always remember you are a unique and lovely to behold. You Could Also spend more time Discovering your purpose, WHO you really are, your temperaments, likes / dislikes.
Accept you are unique, with human flaws and Attaining Being With complete perfection is far fetched.

3. Work On Improving Your Self Esteem
     Self Esteem Refers to the overalls Beliefs, opinions You have about yourself, the Value Place on yourself as an individual and Your Ability to cope or derive pleasures (happiness) from the basic Challenges of life.

4. Connect With Friends And Family
     
5. Get On With Life
    The Understanding HAVING Everything Happens for a reason and life Generally Involves Facing hurdles and challenges, I submit today, it's important you get on with life.

6. You Can Be happy again
     Change your thinking, That Will help change the way you feel.
     If you've got children, spend time Taking Care of Them and Watch Them Grow Into responsible adults.
    Make new friends or meet new people.
    Counting your blessings.
    Positive interaction with Children, friends, families, colleagues
    Showing genuine kindness to Acts of Different People

7. Start Again
    Get Back Into the dating game or race lol! and it's not cheeky. You can do it, so Get in there!!
    Once again The Aim of this post is to highlight lessons to be A Few Learnt from a break up / broken relationship.

[aerish_anne]

ohhhh my gosh!!
how well do u know na person para matakbuhan ka ng gadget?..grabe mga guys ngayon malulupet.. parang modus operandi ang manggamit ng babae..never trust anyone so easily [textspeak!]..
ayuz [textspeak!] umiyak gamit [textspeak!] yun may kapalit yun 4x [textspeak!] karma...
lessons learned indeed.

Gusto ko magmura ngyon blocked na ko sa fb ng hinayupak na lalaki yon di na talaga ibabalik ang IPad ko. it was my dad's gift. Umiyak man ako ng umiyak at kahit isang balde ang iiyak ko ngyon wala na tinaguan na ko. Kaya wag na wag kayo maniniwala sa sinasabi ng bf nyo lalo na kung alam nyo paasa. Wag na wag kayo mabibigay ng anything money, gadgets etc. MAhalin nyo muna sarili nyo. It was all my fault. Ginusto ko toh eh... NAgtiwala ako agad. PLs. Take away the pain....

[momentum]

^ aww..kainis talaga..let it go na sis wag mo na isipin..just think at least hangang dun nalang niya ikaw ninakawan..what more if nagtagal kayo?  be thankful that it ended na and he decided to disappear instead of taking advantage of you further

[femaleadmin]

ohhhh my gosh!!
how well do u know na person para matakbuhan ka ng gadget?..grabe mga guys ngayon malulupet.. parang modus operandi ang manggamit ng babae..never trust anyone so easily [textspeak!]..
ayuz [textspeak!] umiyak gamit [textspeak!] yun may kapalit yun 4x [textspeak!] karma...
lessons learned indeed.

aerish_anne, please revise / edit your post. TEXTSPEAK IS NOT ALLOWED. PLEASE REVIEW THE GUIDELINES.

[Filipinasadhart]

aerish_anne & momentum:  he is my friend at di ko expected na ganun sya. ahe is my former office mate before. He is nice naman yun magkaibigan kame as naging kame na. Nabanggit ko kase na i will sell my old ipad kase di ko naman masyado nagagamit and i have new one na. All my stuff was given by my dad kaya may sentimental value un mga bagay na un. IPAD 1 un nakuha nya sa akin buti di yun IPAD 2 ko. He told me before na bibilin nya un IPAD ko. I sell him for only 12k sabi nya 6k 6k daw okay nagtiwala kase ako. I trust him so much and ska love ko pa ilan weeks ang nakakalipas nakakaramdam na ko na hindi nya na naalala at wala sya nababanggit regarding sa pagbabayad. I confronted him i ask him if he will gonna pay pa ba? Sabi nya gipit lang daw ok. Then Mahal ko nga di ko na insist. Ngayon break na kame kase dahil sa mga pagpaasa nya at mga kasinungalingan nya sa akin. message ko sya sa fb I told him na wala na kame dapat pagusapan pa isa lang ang request ko ibalik nya un ipad ko. Reply nya okay no problem. Thank you good bye. Ipaabot na lang sa friend namin. Grabe after a week follow up ko sana i saw it na he is not my friend anymore sa fb. Okay that's fine, i try to pm him again to follow up kung kailan nya ibabalik. No reply... 3 days after i saw it nakablock na ko sa at di ko na sya mapm sa fb. Parang sasabog ang mundo ko lastnyte. Naisahan ako ng guy at nagpauto naman ako. Sobra. Kaya umiyak man ako ng umiyak wala na. Tinaguan na ko noh.  Sad thing, una sabi ko test ko lang sa kanya un pero wala eh. Expected ko na sasabihin nya [textspeak!] ibabalik ko un ipad pero sana ayusin pa natin un sa atin dalawa hindi nangyari. Kaya super lesson sa akin toh nangyari sa akin mga sissy. Wag kayo masyado mabait sa mga bf nyo. Dnt give your 100% trust.