Lesson learned after the breakup

[j-z]

Sometimes love is not enough.

[thessacabs]

  wow thats nice!! thanks for this

[hedonista]

sex is not the question, sex is the answer.

i learned how to bring the spark back in a long running relationship that has gone to Boredom Ville.
physically and emotionally

and sabi ng nanay ni hubby, kung kayo, kayo talaga.

[mineth]

don't love too much, kailangan mo magtira para sa sarili mo. kahit mahal mo yung tao wag na wag ka bibigay agad kasi pag nakuha na nila, iiwan ka na lang na walang dahilan.

[amanda_andie01]

1. To love myself more. Walang perfect na parang fairy tales wag paka martyr.

2. We really have to move on. para sa sarili mo at sa ibang taong nagmamahal sayo.

3.be strong. Yung feeling na ok lang naman talaga na wala sya sa buhay mo,na kaya mo naman tumayo sa sarili mong paa.

Uhmm..wala na kong maisip. At yun pala wag ng patulan kung alam mo na or nararamdaman mo na babaero or playboy nga.haha unfair no?at mapanghusga.

[carrieso]

if he love God first,.,, parang Q and A ni SupSup,,,,.

[buzzhang]

You got an amazing post! I learned to love myself more. For me to be able to love others, I should love myself first.

[kunek]

He wont let go if he wants the relationship. But once, ok na rin that means gusto na rin niya to end the relationship. So dont expect and wait from the guy dahil mas mahihirapan lang sarili mo.
Still trying to learn what lesson from the recent one.

[jo1]

Biggest lesson in my case: the most important relationship you'll ever have - above all else - is with yourself...

[tinkypink011]

an advice and a lesson learned:

never force yourself to love someone just to replace the person who hurt you (panakip butas). because in the end, you will still commit the same mistake and hurt again yourself. reason? because you didn't have more time to get to know that person again and end up the same mistake. learn to savor the pain for the moment and take time to ponder.. take time to heal all wounds from yesterday to be ready to love again.

never enter into a relationship that you know that you will be the one to suffer in the end. especially in complicated relationship.

be the number one. not the "one" to be the next "two". never be in a relationship to someone that is already committed. let him settle first whatever problems that he had from the past.

and never ever commit yourself to a married man/woman. do not believe with the false hopes. save your tears to someone that will really love you and be with you till the end ( your husband - to be).

[raven_520]

i have learned na kapag hindi na nagwork out ang relationship dapat mag usap kayo mabuti para kahit man lang friendship ang matira..kasi di ba parang ang pangit ding tingnan na you shared something so special pero mauuwi lang sa wala. until now friends pa rin kami ni ex though we have our own partners na

[angelgabie]

indeed, another helpful thread... really need this right now...

first things first.... i will love and respect myself..... then hopefully, things will be better!

[thestargazer]

hmmnn...ano nga ba? hehe

I realized na dapat pala kase babae ako, mas more ang adjustment sa kin. ako yun mag aadjust sa ex boyfie, kase nga bata sya. ayun lang.

now, i am engaged to my same age fiance. hindi naman ako masyado nag adjust, naturally na lang nangyari, siguro nga kase meant to be. kaya eto...wedding bells dec. 2012

[sarsingkit]

1. kapit hanggat kaya, kung hindi na kaya, bitaw na forever or at least super tagal bago magbalikan
2. commitment is by far most important than love
3. wag maging maarte, sabihin kung ano tlaga yung gusto. do not say something na iba naman pala yung meaning na gusto mo maintindihan nya. knowing boys, they most of the time wont catch your drift. 

[cosmochick]

What doesn't kill you only make you stronger.
Give it your all. So when it ends, no regrets. Mas mahirap mag move on if you have plenty of regrets.

[soulace]

What doesn't kill you only make you stronger.
Give it your all. So when it ends, no regrets. Mas mahirap mag move on if you have plenty of regrets.

eto ginagawa ko mga sis.. i am giving my all to him.. so pag over na lahat ng eto he will realize what he lost for the road.. sweet revenge is not to have him back again and move on..
magpaganda eventhough depress deep inside.. take care of myself more and my baby and focus to have a good future.. I'll set my goals na..

[cinnamoroll]

Ok tong thread na to ah. Very helpful.

[ginevria]

Lessons?

1. That I'm not the only one hurting from this separation.
2. Instead of wallowing in misery, use this time to honestly evaluate the relationship and understand what really went wrong. Then improve yourself and if need be, list down all the qualities and boundaries of the relationship you want to have (with the same person, in the future, or with somebody who'll come along.)
3. Never give up. (on yourself!)
4. If the relationship is worth saving, do whatever you can to save it.
5. It's never too late to say sorry. Say it, and mean it.
6. Forgive, and move forward.

Most importantly, I learned that I'm not the only one, no matter how alone I may feel.
And that somewhere, there are places like this, with women like you, who understand what I feel. Thanks.

[Filipinasadhart]

wag ibuhos ang love ng sobra sobra. wag masaydo maging mabait. Wag magpauto ng sobra at wag umasa sa mga sinasabi. Pilitin maging strong kahit masakit. Wag mong sasabihin na okay lang ang lahat... kahit di okay.... Magdemand!

[Superjoie]

na meron pala talagang masasama at mapagsamantalang tao.. I thought sa tv lang yun.