Why can't we find love?

[Filipinasadhart]

Very well said @ onilord hahaha ang haba :-)
I try that joined ako sa mga organization church, photograpy classes anything na interested ako yun nga lang natatapat ako sa mga group na wala masyado nakakapansin sa akin. Minsan puro girls wala boys. Tapos may boys naman di KO trip. Hahaha choosy kase hahaha

Ayoko naman sa mga online site di ko feel makipaglokohan.
May nireto naman sa akin dati kaso naintimidate ata sa akin after ng 1st date di na ko text o tinawagan ulit. Kaya nadala na KO. Ayoko na ng reto reto. I feel bad that time pero sabi nga iba KO friends di para sa akin yun.

[pret_ty68]

^
Regarding reto reto case to case basis yan may mga tao naman na nagkakatuluyan dahil dyan.

Sa tingin ko ang downside nyan ay kung masyadong nag e expect ang isang party na it will lead to a relationship tapos yung isa hindi naman interested. Isa pa you may fail to see the other person objectively lalo na kung grabe ang pag bui build up nang nagrereto tapos malalaman mo na iba pala sya sa tao na inaakala mo na sya. Meron din na iba na dahil ayaw nilang ma offend yung nagreto kahit hindi nila masyadong feel yung tao napipilitan. May kilala nga ako na hindi nya naman talaga gusto yung girl na nireto pero niligawan nya dahil nakakahiya daw dun sa nagreto.

[Filipinasadhart]

Agree ako sis kaya nga ako ayoko din magreto sa others friends ko.

[lan_cooper]

For me reto is fine as long as the guy is willing to take rejections. I guess its just a matter of setting expectations. The same also with us ladies, tell sa nag rereto na things you want or hate.

[oshiawase]

at least in my case, it's because I am looking for love for the wrong reasons. I wanted to feel secured and...loved. And I think that's wrong. You have to first recognize that you are already loved by people around you. You look for love for growth and simply, to love.

[Miss.Pancake]

Kasi we shouldn't be looking for love. Love will find us. Just be patient.

[kikayako]

I am not appealing and ligawin -- a trait which I can't do anything about. This is probably why men are not attracted and not interested on me, which also explains why love is elusive.

People can't blame me for thinking this way because they are the ones who made me feel unpretty and unworthy of being loved.

[summerchic]

Reto doesn't work for me. Para kasi napipilitan lang.

[killbill]

Pansin ko pag antay ng antay magka lovelife saka siya mailap. Kung kelan naman hindi saka dumadating. Nung wala akong pinagkakaabalahan wala na ako ibang bukambibig kundi gusto ko magka bf, nung nag start na ako mag boxing and aerial silk. Ayun bigla sumulpot.

Pwede din kasi masyado nagfofocus sa ideal na guy, na medyo madaming hinahanap ang checklist. Before kelangan matangkad at maputi. Andami ko nga nakadate na matangkad ar maputi, babaero naman or walang direction ang buhay. Yung bf ko ngayon, mas matangkad ako sa kanya ng konti. Lol.

[juni]

i say this with love- "fixing" the "problem" of being single through hypnosis is just flat out stupid.

first of all, if you don't have a bf, a husband, what have you, could be something wrong with you and/or the timing is just not right. but eventually, with persistence and a whole lot of alcohol, we all find someone who can drunkenly stomach who we are.

This made me laugh out loud

I think there are a lot of factors involved kung bakit mahirap mahanap ang true love.  For starters, nandiyan yung timing.  It's possible na you've already met the person na you're going to end up with for the rest of your life pero hindi pa tugma yung timing niyo ngayon kaya hindi pa natutuloy, or pwede ring kinakailangang sa career ka naka-focus ngayon kaya medyo inactive ang love department for now.

Another factor din is population: mahirap makahanap ng love kung napapaligiran ka ng zero possibilities or slim pickings.  You could be a great catch pero kung ang palagi mong kasama e puro kapwa girls only, or puro married people, or palagi na lang a specific set of friends only, or even worse e nagkukulong ka lang sa bahay e mahihirapan ka makahanap ng significant other.  You have to widen your reach.  Be open and try to meet new people.  Better yet, kill multiple birds with one stone: indulge in a hobby or take a class, so you will learn something new, you'll have fun and you'll meet new people din.  That way, if hindi man magresult yung hobby or class into a date, at least you still got something out of it.

One of the most important factors is yung standards or expectations.  Iba-iba tayo ng ideas about life and how we do things, and while there are areas that are open for discussion and compromise, there are certain points that we hold sacred.  Paminsan dun sa non-negotiables nadadali.  You could be his dream girl and he might want to make you his wife, pero kung para sayo e hindi siya pasado dahil may niviolate siya dun sa non-negotiables, walang patutunguhan to.

[jm0514]

a friend of mine said (he was a former seminarian) hini-hiling daw un bagay na un kasama un feature and traits un taong gusto natin... so to all gals and boys if you're looking for it you have to pray harder.. u'll find it at the right time..!!

but for me  i dont need it and i dont asked it for now.. i dont need anything that will distract me.. sa ngaun career lang focus ko..

[killbill]

Well akala ko kasi nung una masyado akong choosy at dala na, this year ang sabi ko sa sarili ko magiging mas open ako, yung mga typical na qualifications ko i threw them out kasi sabi ko sa attitude ako magfofocus. Kesa naman sa gwapo nga walang hiya naman. Ayun naloko pa din. Ngayon naiisip ko i can't find love kasi puro mga manloloko na lang ang natitira, or taken or hindi makapag commit. So until a guy comes along that can prove me wrong, i will stand by with that belief.

[t_r_i_s_h]

Ako I'm just keeping a positive mind at the same time I'm more cautious.

[babypowder99]

Honestly diko naman nahanap agad agad ang love. Love for me is something to discover within. Nadedevelop. Hindi yong love at first sight agad agad na di mo man lang kinilala.  Mine. Matagal bago ko nakita at na feel ang Love  kaya Take your time. Take it easy.

[t_r_i_s_h]

and it's also true that you should love yourself first before loving someone else... coz most of the time we lose ourselves when we're in love, which is wrong... but then again, love is everywhere

[nene1117]

my advice is, di laging nadadaan sa pagpapacute at pagpapaganda...kasi hindi laging love at first sight...
try to be friendly.. lovers usually starts being friends..

[stebsy]

Probably because we don't try to go out of our comfort zones and we just wait for the guy to approach us. Yeah yeah yeah dalagang pilipina and all but then it takes mutual effort to find love. If you're dating a guy for some time now and you like him more like love, maybe you have to drop some hints that you want to take it a step higher. Easier said than done though, kasi mamaya di pala love Ang hanap niya hahahaha! Oh well, he won't waste time dating you if ever. Ay Ang gulo KO lang kausap.

Love yourself nalang until someone loves you for being a wonderful kick ass woman.

[t_r_i_s_h]

^ hahaha I get what you mean 

[shentacey]

"Love yourself nalang until someone loves you for being a wonderful kick ass woman."

Super agree! If you love yourself, it will reflect in your personality and guys will notice it. Self Confidence din and make yourself pretty/ presentable at all times, di mo alam kung kailan at saan mo makakasalubong si Mr. Right.

[defraudedheart]

this conversation is fun and ang dami ko natututunan...hopefully nandito lang din sya