Why can't we find love?

[akthung]

napansin ko, a lot (but not all) of very very dynamic people have a hard time finding some one who can keep up with the pace and the numerous changes

one minute the person is this...the next minute he's that. there are also those who travel a lot, leaving their loved one behind...etc etc..

so because of this "in-consistent" or "unstable" thing, maraming partners na nagquiquit.

[fidz]

love is not a thing or something to be search for. it's a special feeling or emotion given to us as a gift that can be felt at the right time, right place at the right person.

u cannot feel the love if you have no contentment neither u can't feel if you only think about is yourself alone.

[lady_butterfly]

I feel for sis ^Vain_Chiq^ kasi im turning 28 na din this May, I love being single pero minsan worried din ako

[Poleng]

i'm not desperate but yes i am desperately lonely,
at ayoko magkaroon ng psychotic depression dahil nagiisa ako sa buhay.
i feel miserable dahil wala ng matinong lalake sa panahon ngayon.
kaya eto, i got myself involved in the net, i even resort to playing online games.

what i'm trying to say is, lets get ourselves involved in different things, activities. alam nyo girls, love comes when we least expect it. tapos yung pinaka ayaw pa natin na tao or yung taong kahit kailan hindi natin naimagine na mainvolve satin, sya pa ang magpapatibok ng puso natin.

and also, don't be afraid to explore, malay mo wala sa bansang Pilipinas ang taong magmamahal sayo. travel or join clubs, get into sports etc. malay natin, yung cute na tennis instructor pala yung makakatuluyan mo or yung montego tourist guide pala e mainlove sayo diba?

never give up!

[bratinella08]

sis ^Vain_Chiq^ & lady_butterfly:

hi mga sis, ka age ko pala kayo, the same dilemma, i enjoy naman being fabulously single but the people around me sometimes may pressure from them. nag worry ako ng onti last year, may realization moment that it's about time dapat nasa stable relationship na me before i get married. galing pa naman me sa 5-year serious relationship pero dami problem at super seloso kasi plus immature pa. hirap magtrust... may mga suitors pero choosy, ewan ko, parang di ko pa sya nami-meet. kasama na rin yan sa prayers ko 

[^Vain_Chiq^]

^magdate na nga lang tayong 3 sis.hehe.pero honestly ayoko na rin gano isipin o ipressure sarili ko.pray na lang,in the right place n right time ibibigay din yan.

[young_maiden]

Ako nga 19 yrs old pa lang worried na na baka maging single for life ako. 8 months na ako single. mag 9 months na nga sa april 19 eh. naiinggit ako sa mga friends ko na mahal na mahal ng mga boyfriends nila. most of them ay nasa long-term relationships na. yung iba naman mawalan nga ng bf, may darating agad na kapalit.

i, on the other hand, have no dozens of suitors to select from. may mga nanligaw na nga sa akin pero di pila-pila. in other words, di ako ligawin. kung may liligaw nga, kadalasan babaero o mahilig lang mangtrip. yung iba talagang ayaw ko naman.

in my 19 yrs in this world, siguro mabibilang lang ng kamay ko kung ilan lang nanligaw sa akin. i had three boyfriends na at ang pinakamatagal ko lang ay 5 months.

minsan nga naaawa ako sa sarili ko. sa ngayon, walang nanliligaw sa akin. sa almost 9 months na single ako, dalawa lang nanligaw sa akin. tinanggihan ko naman kasi pareho babaero.

sabi nga ng isang manghuhula sa akin magiging single parent daw ako. iiwanan daw kami nung tatay ng magiging anak ko. forever daw ako single parent. alam nyo sis kahit hula lang yun naapektuhan ako ng sobra.

[^Vain_Chiq^]

^shucks sis ur only 19.madami-dami ka pang pagdadaanan,isipin u muna makagraduate then magkaroon stable job bago isipin yan.kung kami nga na 28 years old,graduate and with stable jobs na sinasabihan pa na wag magmadali kasi young pa ikaw pa kaya?hehe.take it slow sis...wag po tayo masyado magmadali or magworry pag walang bf..

[Halina]

wala bang why can't we keep love? (insert drama emo pause)

[petlovah]

im 26 but im not looking for one. i just pray to God to give me the right person. although pressures from others would push me to find "him", pero be thankful pa din kasi like what sis nightingale said, a lot of married couples are now in big dilemmas of having marital problems.. kung uso divorce dito, madami nang divorced couples ngaun.

and to young maiden, ay sos. sobrang bata mo pa to think of marriage or settling down or being single forever. enjoy your career, family and friends, tsaka na ang lovelife. you're still young

[fidz]

Ako nga 19 yrs old pa lang worried na na baka maging single for life ako. 8 months na ako single. mag 9 months na nga sa april 19 eh. naiinggit ako sa mga friends ko na mahal na mahal ng mga boyfriends nila. most of them ay nasa long-term relationships na. yung iba naman mawalan nga ng bf, may darating agad na kapalit.

i, on the other hand, have no dozens of suitors to select from. may mga nanligaw na nga sa akin pero di pila-pila. in other words, di ako ligawin. kung may liligaw nga, kadalasan babaero o mahilig lang mangtrip. yung iba talagang ayaw ko naman.

in my 19 yrs in this world, siguro mabibilang lang ng kamay ko kung ilan lang nanligaw sa akin. i had three boyfriends na at ang pinakamatagal ko lang ay 5 months.

minsan nga naaawa ako sa sarili ko. sa ngayon, walang nanliligaw sa akin. sa almost 9 months na single ako, dalawa lang nanligaw sa akin. tinanggihan ko naman kasi pareho babaero.

sabi nga ng isang manghuhula sa akin magiging single parent daw ako. iiwanan daw kami nung tatay ng magiging anak ko. forever daw ako single parent. alam nyo sis kahit hula lang yun naapektuhan ako ng sobra.

naku iha, kung boyfriend ang iniisip mo or bothered ka at your age dahil wala ka pang bf, naku eh baka or di kaya magwala ang parents mo nyan hehe.... ang mahal ng tuition fees ngayon neng, maraming gustong mag aral pero walang pampaaral.. studies muna ang ipriority mo. being professional is better than to have none sense relationships. i will assure you that your parents will be much happy for you being a prefossional than having someone at a very young age. haaais kaya dumadami ang kaso ng annullment case due to unplanned marriage.

[babypowder99]

@young maiden your super young pa para problemahin ang lovelife mo, instead mag focus ka muna sa studies mo and magtapos ka muna, after isipin mo muna maghanap ng work at gawing priority bago mo e- pressure sarili mo sa pagkakaroon ng BF, wag magmadali mas madami pa jan older than you na ganyan ang dilemma

[wickedorange]

To answer the question, I made a list for myself:
http://mudraka.com/2010/04/06/wheres-the-bus/

[petlovah]

^aaaww.. so nice i like what you've written there

[sweet25]

love is not a thing or something to be search for. it's a special feeling or emotion given to us as a gift that can be felt at the right time, right place at the right person.

u cannot feel the love if you have no contentment neither u can't feel if you only think about is yourself alone.

I agree with you sis. I was searching long before pero halos mali ang taong dumating sa akin. I always got hurt then one day i realize to stop searching for someone and let things happen. I pray yes..... lagi i ask god to give the right person to me... to choose kung sinong karapat dapat sa akin. Kasi lahat ng napili ko mali. Unexpected si husband dumating. We know each other just for a month. WE got married the next month. Funny to know but i know he is god given to me. Now, were having a cute baby girl kasi nabuntis agad ako after we got married. He work hard for me and the baby kasi binibigay nya lahat ng kailangan namin. Nothing more to ask and i am very thankful to god.

[petlovah]

congrats sweet25! i am happy to know those people who have found their other half without them searching for it. God will just give you that person best suited for you. In His time, he will give you the one. God provides. 

[fidz]

I agree with you sis. I was searching long before pero halos mali ang taong dumating sa akin. I always got hurt then one day i realize to stop searching for someone and let things happen. I pray yes..... lagi i ask god to give the right person to me... to choose kung sinong karapat dapat sa akin. Kasi lahat ng napili ko mali. Unexpected si husband dumating. We know each other just for a month. WE got married the next month. Funny to know but i know he is god given to me. Now, were having a cute baby girl kasi nabuntis agad ako after we got married. He work hard for me and the baby kasi binibigay nya lahat ng kailangan namin. Nothing more to ask and i am very thankful to god.

there are times kasi noon na akala natin yun na pero di pala, we are just overwhelmed by the situation. But you are lucky too that you got the right person you just prayed for as well as your husband that he had found the perfect girl to give light to a home. Congrats sis!

yung sa akin kaya parating na or baka naligaw nyahahaha.....

[young_maiden]

thanks sa mga nagpayo sa akin. you're right. incoming 4th yr college pa nga lang ako eh. hehe. sa ngayon, studies ko na lang ang inaasikaso ko. sanay naman na ako mag-isa.


wala na nga ako inatupag lately kundi studies. matindi pa naman ang pressure sa akin ng buong family ko. ako kasi ang inaasahan nila sa mga apo ng lolo ko na unang makakatapos ng pag-aaral. ako ang 3rd grandchild eh. yung 1st and 2nd di nakapagtapos dahil sa barkada at bigong lovelife.

[carmichael18]

naku sisses... ako din imbyerna na sa issue na to... i broke up with my ex 5 months ago.. since then may mga lumalapit naman na guys... kasi ang nakakainis.. yung nagugutushan ko yung kung hindi may gf, may asawa... kaya umiiwas ako... siyempre ending malungkot ako.. pero iniisip ko mas ok na yun kaysa naman makasira ako ng relasyon.. i now the  feeling.., nagcheat din kasi sa akin ex ko kaya kami ng hiwalay... alam ko kung gaano kasakit na maloko.. kaya i don't want to be my hatest person... pero naiinis na talaga ako... i always attract men of such kind... kinokontra ko na nga ng mantra ko.. baka kasi wrong vibes lang.. pero ganon pa rin eh...

like now.. yung guy na nagugustuhan ko.. 33 years old, hiwalay sa aswa for 3 years na... 3 anak tapos may gf pa ngayon... o kaloka di ba?

[Ms. C]

^
Medyo exotic ang taste mo sis carmichael. Pero okay lang yan. I'm sure na hindi ganung tipo ang mapupunta sa'yo.  Tiis-tiis lang. Papangit ang reputasyon mo kung sisira ka ng ibang relasyon

Ako, kabata-bata ko pa, medyo problema ko din 'to. Pero dati yon. Ngayon hindi na. I've learned. Studies muna ko. Hello naman kasi, 14 lang ako. Ang dami ko pang makikilala kaya ayokong magmadali. I just take my time in waiting for that "someone", and I hope he finds his way to me. Baka kasi maligaw ng landas eh lol. Mahilig pa naman ako sa mga lalaking malaki ang gap ng edad sakin, mga tipong 7 years above.