Would you settle for a guy who already has a kid?

[shahram2010]

^oo nga e..i was 19 year old then.. 

but i can sense it before the he really loves me naman..yun nga lang siguro talagang ma-L lang sya.. LOL

narealize ko talaga na i am super t**** before..LOL..di nman sya kgwapuhan..lots of my friends nga told me na ang ganda ganda (charooz!!! lol) ko daw dpat gwapo din daw bf ko..pero super bait kasi nya..kya siguro minahal ko sya ng ganun..

hindi ko talaga pinagsisihan yung pakkpag hiwalay ko sa kanya..wala na kasi ako narramdaman sa kanya, kasi pag magkasama kami lagi nalang laman ng isip ko yung mag junakis nya..parang ang hirap..kung meron man yung unting concern ko nalang na sana maka move on na sya at maging masaya na din sya..i always pray every night na sana maging ok na sya..

kasi i feel guilty na ako super happy tapus sya super lungkot and wala daw time na di sya umiiyak and lagi nya daw ako naiisip.. 

[lovemeagain30]

dont feel guilty sis shahram2010. paawa effect lang yan para bumalik ka. anyway hindi naman siya nawalan ng buhay. he have kids. dapat masaya na rin siya na andiyan ang mga anak niya. since according to him, he wanted them in the first place.

goodluck to your single life.

[boaVista]

no

[purple_maye]

depende kung talgang mahal mu [textspeak!] tao at feel mu naman na mahal ka nya why not..

[boaVista]

good decision sis shahram.

[shahram2010]

^    thanks sis!!

anyways, the last time he texted me, he said that i'm the love of his life..
but it didn't affect me anymore..

[purple_md]

i don't think i can

[kittypowerranger]

yes but it would depend first he have to be legally separated or divorced then wala naman problem sa akin if ever magstay siya sa bf ko because were not married naman

[kittypowerranger]

^ korek ka dyan sis we can remove facts just because were loving.. A fact will always remain as a fact

[travelwhore]

my current boyfriend has a kid from a previous relationship. He was 19 years old then when he had the baby. They lived together at my boyfriend's parents due to their family pushing them to be together because of the kid. Although, both of them at that time were unstable financially.

Anyway, it is very true. It is not easy to date a single dad. There is the inevitable selos factor. I'm the bratty and selfish type pa naman who used to have something all to herself. And it was just soo hard to thinking that in one way or another, I'd have to share his time with the kid.

But the reason that still took the relationship with him is that because i liked him more than anything else and I thought that he's worth taking the risk. And I was not mistaken!

nakakatawa pa talaga when i first met the kid. he's only two years old but i can really sense that he knows what i am to his father. He would maliciously look at me when my bf makes lambing to me. He would just be standing in corner staring at us. tas pag tinawag ni boyfie, ayaw na lumapit.

But the guy and kid are really close. Minsan nagseselos ako pagganun sweet cla pero on a positive note, this also indicates that my boyfriend is a good father to his kid now and he can also be a good father to my kids if we end up together.

[shopaholic18]

not to sound negative but i wouldn't engage in one, it takes a lot of courage to do that so kudos to those who do, ayoko lang siguro ng complicated, unang una ayaw ng family ko yung ganun so why push and good thing nadin na i don't go for one so ok lang.

[mhyne]

I used to date a guy who has a 5 year old son. This was just 2 years ago. It wasn't really a big deal for me. Cause I myself, got a kid as well. I'm a single mom. The only difference was, my kid was staying with me. His son was staying with his ex. And the funny thing was, I know her ex. I mean, we were schoolmates before in HS. So yun nga.

Siguro the only thing na nakakainis dun was the fact na whenever may date kami, tas biglang magtetext yun ex nya na kelangan niya pumunta dun sa house nun ex nya regarding their son. Ayun. Dun lang ako nababadtrip. Kasi syempre, biglaan tas ang galing lang ng timing ng ex nya. Lol. Ano, everytime may date kami lagi sya hinahanap ng anak nya? Oh well. The relationship lasted for a year, both of us decided to part ways na lang kasi nagkakaron na rin kami ng mga problems. But we're still friends. Ayun.

[17arci]

No thanks :p

[fall2pieces]

wow buhay pa pala itong thread ko.. anyway i'm so done with this guy.. i know what i deserve and what i want.i  don't want a complicated life. 

[shopaholic18]

^good for you sis...

[rainbowskittles]

Hmmm.  In this day and age hindi na masyadong uncommon yang mga ganyang set up.

I will be fine with it.  Yes, it is a complication but if you really love him then why not get into a relationsip with him.

And by the way for the TS, you used the word "settle", which implies in my opinion and my opinion only na "pagtyatyagaan" mo si guy kahit may sabit.

Mahal mo yung tao eh, so it's not settling.  Siya ang gusto mo, complications and all.

[fall2pieces]

hehe. sis in my case i am not in love with him. i'm not even attracted to him. that question is to you guys, if you were in that situation and you love the guy.

[SweetieNela]

depende siguro if siya yung iniwanan? kasi kung siya iniwanan ng girl okay lang pero if siya nangiwan iisipin ko baka anakan lang din ako haha. 

[wanna_be_mom]

i am in this relationship right now.

he is my elementary crush. we met again sa facebook. na search ko yung name nya then nag chat and message. exchanging numbers.
at first hindi nya inamin na may anak sya until nalaman ko kasi elementary friends din.

narining ko yung side nya. tinanggap ko sya. 2 anak nya boys lahat, pero wala sa kanyang poder. nasa ex gf nya.

sya nakipag hiwalay because ang girl nagka "tulo" then sya din kasi nag sex sila, ayun hiniwalayan ya ang girl after 8 months before naging kami.

ok naman. love na love ko sya and i feel the same way. kaya lang until now hindi pa nya ako pinapa kilala sa parents nya. i understand naman. hindi din naman ako nag de demand pero sa kapatid nya guy at mga pinsan nya kilala ako.
dun kasi kami nag tatambay sa bhaus ng pinsan nya.

[kathon]

For me parang ang hirap isipin na yung guy na makakasama mo sa buhay ay may anak na.. Pero depende pa din, kung yung nanay nung anak nya eh patay na pwede siguro.. Pero kung naghiwalay lang sila parang mahirap kasi palagi kong iispin na pano pag bumalik yung nanay nyan, pano pag nagdemand yung anak na magkasama sila pati mommy nya. Parang feeling ko di din ako matatahimik eh kaya iiwasa na lang ako sa ganun..