NBSB Ladies, anyone? :)

[princessette]

turning 27 na ako this year and still NBSB, but i'm not alone, i have a few friends who are my age na NBSB din.

lokohan ko nga, magpapakayaman kami, titira kami sa mansion at magbubuo ng old maids' club kung yun ang calling namin LOL ;p

gusto ko yang idea na yan sis!

[@JLO]

i dont know po... i dont want to harsh po kasi ... sorry i hope i would construct my next sentences with deepest modesty... pero meron po kasi mga NBSB kasi NSSB sila so parang doing survey lang ako ... kung by its choice ba or so happen na walang suitors yun po thanks  sa pag respond

[jeia]

Just wait, or do something, like try online dating. Just be very careful. 

may we know what online dating site is this?

[abuanddiego]

kung by its choice ba or so happen na walang suitors

pwede both? 

[imyourangel]

^For me, it's both din.
Wala akong formal suitors, isa pa lang in my whole life. Pero maraming umaaligid. Parang mga lamok lang. Lol. As in they're expressing their feelings for me, pero hindi naman sila nanliligaw. "Iniinform" lang nila ako sa nararamdaman nila sakin. I just find it weird, sa isip ko "O ngayon anong gagawin ko na nalaman kong gusto mo ko? Ako ang manligaw?"
Nakakainis pa sa kanila, puro hanggang text lang magaling. Mga wala namang mukhang maiharap pagdating sa personal, puro hanggang banat lang pero hindi nagsseryoso. Yung iba hindi makaharap sakin. Tsss.

So both sa akin. Since wala namang worthy, I'd choose to be single.

[janix athena]

^Guys are afraid of rejection sis. So kapag nagpaparamdam sila sa ating girls we need to give them a little encouragement para they know they can move forward. Ayaw kasi nila sumugal kung alam nilang talo sila or walang chance na manalo.

Wag naman masyadong obvious that you take away the thrill of the chase. Alam mo yun, you're friendly with him but he's still wondering kung may gusto ka rin sa kanya or wala.

For example: One of our guytalkers here said a girl asked him "Pwede mo ba akong samahan sa National Bookstore?". Naging mag-bf sila eventually. O diba simple lang pero it gives you both a chance to spend time with each other. Hindi naman lagi kelangan pormal tayong ligawan and bisitahin tayo sa bahay or bigyan tayo ng gifts diba. Kasi konting guys lang ang may lakas ng loob na gawin yun. So just give him a chance to be with you kahit magpasama ka lang sa tindahan.

[Moriarty]

^ Yes konting encouragement. Hindi lahat nang guys parang si Gerald Anderson sa pelikula. 

Flirt back; ipakita mo na you can handle the word-jousting. Attractive sa lalake yan. Flirting doesn't necessarily mean you're malandi.

[imyourangel]

So paano ako magbibigay ng konting "encouragement" haha

[llemija]

and since lahat naman tayo ay NBSB dito. i have something to say and i need you girls to comment on this one:

i have this guy. whom i fell in love secretly for the past 2 years (love na siguro yun noh. sobrang tagal na kung infatuation) i guess he's my first love. he was my closest guy friend in college and became my escort on my 18th birthday. years passed and things had change.. to cut the story short, we are still friends and never romantically involved.

last night, his closest girl friend ask me if i had a crush on him. then i said yes but that was before. then she told me that this guy is asking her to find him an inspiration and probably may turn into something and this girl chose me. sounds interesting diba? so the girl told me that she'll find a way para maka pag date daw kami ni guy.. so really hope eto na..

[janix athena]

^Sis naramdaman mo ba na pwedeng gusto ka rin ni guy?

I would suggest you proceed with caution. Sa tagal nyong magkaibigan bakit kaya hindi nya nagawang mag-aya ng date sayo ng deretso? Kung nagsabi pa sya kay girl friend na ihanap sya ng date, eh malamang nagpaparamdam sya sa girl na yun, hoping na sya mismo ang maging date?

So ganito na lang sis, at this point kung maging matchmaker si mutual friend nyo, enjoy the date but do NOT have any expectations na it will lead to a romantic involvement. I'm not discouraging you ha, it's possible he also has feelings for you, BUT, if you have expectations from the start, hindi ka magiging natural and would act self-consciously kasi nga you are heavily invested na sana magustuhan ka rin nya. So when you don't have expectations, you will act more genuine, more natural, and whatever happens, remember that you will have a good time, enjoy the movie, the dinner, the conversation, kahit hindi ka nya magustuhan.

Having said that, it would help to be beautiful for the date, not to please him ha, but to be your most confident self, so you're not distracted thinking your hair is unmanageable or your dress is ill-fitting instead of focusing on having fun. Ayt?
 

[ireneeey]

I didn't have a bf until I was 32. We've been together more than a year now.   

For me, there were a lot of factors.
I intimidated the guys daw. Also, medyo tomboyish kasi ako nun e, tsaka antaas ng standards ko. haha. Not to say that I lowered my standards. I didn't. Some guys tried but I just found them too immature.
Then I tried online dating. He saw my profile, sent a message.  After a month of emails and texts, we met up. Sobrang swak sa standards and personality ko. Not a perfect man, but I think perfect for me. 

Just wait, or do something, like try online dating. Just be very careful. 

Wow tiyaga mo. Natiis mo ng walang relationship for 31 years. I don't think makakaya ko yun kasi maganda rin yung yata yung involved ka sa isang relationship. Anyway, iba iba naman tayo ng goals sa life. Congrats for founding one na!

[@JLO]

I still consider myself as a part of this group kahit nag ka ex na ko.... kasi napa ka short lived ng relasyon naman plus the fact na sobrang sakit at niloko lang ako kaya... ewan ko ba sobrang iba ng experience ko sa first bf... sobrang sakit >.< anyway... looking na ulit ako... haha meron lang ako ishare sa group

Yep. guy should really make the first move. but girl gives the motive first.
haha babae ang unang nagbibigay ng motibo ...

Yung motibong to is simpleng smile lang... yung mga ganun... yung frendly type was kagad sungitan si guy kagad ganun haha...

ito pa from master ramon "matagal ko nang sinasabi sa inyo na pag may gusto kayo sa isang tao, iparamdam nyo lang at pag nailang sya, sabihin mo, "feeeeliiiinggggg" <3"

[sprinkledust]

Hi bookworm_ako,

My friend is 29 and she's never had a b/f before. She feels really embarassed, especially when going out to family gatherings and people younger than her have had one.

Do you had advice? And she also doesn't feel pretty.

Thanks in advance.

I didn't have a bf until I was 32. We've been together more than a year now.   

For me, there were a lot of factors.
I intimidated the guys daw. Also, medyo tomboyish kasi ako nun e, tsaka antaas ng standards ko. haha. Not to say that I lowered my standards. I didn't. Some guys tried but I just found them too immature.
Then I tried online dating. He saw my profile, sent a message.  After a month of emails and texts, we met up. Sobrang swak sa standards and personality ko. Not a perfect man, but I think perfect for me. 

Just wait, or do something, like try online dating. Just be very careful. 

[Mr.Punch]

Do you had advice? And she also doesn't feel pretty.

If she really isn't pretty, there isn't much that can be done about that.

Subukan niyang lumandi.  Baka may mahatak siya.

I'm serious, by the way.

[@JLO]

repost ko to hehe ito pa from master ramon "matagal ko nang sinasabi sa inyo na pag may gusto kayo sa isang tao, iparamdam nyo lang at pag nailang sya, sabihin mo, "feeeeliiiinggggg" <3"

landi level na acceptable sa boys: 3.5 - 8 yan....

[littlekinselle]

If she really isn't pretty, there isn't much that can be done about that.

Subukan niyang lumandi.  Baka may mahatak siya.

I'm serious, by the way.

haha, sorry mr. punch natawa ako sa comment mo  !! but i agree with u

[slurpee]

wow sprinkledust, sobrang concerned na concerned ka din sa friend mo noh? ang dami nang advice dito, pabasa mo sa kanya lahat ito, i'm sure madami na syang matututunan, lalo na sa mga nasulat ni janix athena. sabihin mo na kelangan gawin din nya yung part nya, like mag-effort lumabas labas, dress up, magpaganda ganyan, kasi kung puro advice nga ang mga sisses dito pero puro mukmok naman sa bahay ang ginagawa nya, wala talagang mangyayari sa kanya. remember, ayaw ng boys ng nega

teka, friend mo ba talaga, or baka naman ikaw ito sprinkledust

[llemija]

^Sis naramdaman mo ba na pwedeng gusto ka rin ni guy?

I would suggest you proceed with caution. Sa tagal nyong magkaibigan bakit kaya hindi nya nagawang mag-aya ng date sayo ng deretso? Kung nagsabi pa sya kay girl friend na ihanap sya ng date, eh malamang nagpaparamdam sya sa girl na yun, hoping na sya mismo ang maging date?

So ganito na lang sis, at this point kung maging matchmaker si mutual friend nyo, enjoy the date but do NOT have any expectations na it will lead to a romantic involvement. I'm not discouraging you ha, it's possible he also has feelings for you, BUT, if you have expectations from the start, hindi ka magiging natural and would act self-consciously kasi nga you are heavily invested na sana magustuhan ka rin nya. So when you don't have expectations, you will act more genuine, more natural, and whatever happens, remember that you will have a good time, enjoy the movie, the dinner, the conversation, kahit hindi ka nya magustuhan.

Having said that, it would help to be beautiful for the date, not to please him ha, but to be your most confident self, so you're not distracted thinking your hair is unmanageable or your dress is ill-fitting instead of focusing on having fun. Ayt?

thank you sis! highly appreciated! tama ka i should not expect.

[Girltalker2]

thank you sis! highly appreciated! tama ka i should not expect.

sis wishing you luck!  how is it so far?

hanap karin ng ibang crush para di 100% attention mo eh sa kanya.

[Girltalker2]

Hi annlegolas , my friend is the same, nbsb is is turning 30 this year. She feels sad all the time too that she doesn't even feel like going out...

you see ah, one has only 2 options: 

1.  live the same miserable life, at lalong maging katawa tawa sa mga pintaserang housewives with kids and husband at ng mga matatanda?  you feel ugly and that is what you will really get, further confirmations from society will come again and again. 

OR

2. live life responsibly and within your control. live life however you want it, staying pretty and prettier, and wiser by the day. pagtingin sa iyo ng ibang tao - geesh, 30 na sya, bakit kaya wala pang bf?  iisipin nila, ayaw mo, it's your choice. sa ganda/saya mo nyan, bakit wala pa raw bf?  eh sa ayaw mo!  may date ka naman lagi, pero walang bf?  so?