Mother-In-Law=MONSTER IN LAW!!!

[micos_mom]

^sis may kapatid yung hubby ko na dalawang babae, yung isa nasa abroad din... wala di rin maasahan at nakakadagdag pa sa gastusin nung dalawang matanda dahil dun nakikitira sa haus nila yung asawa at anak nung sil ko. tapos ang binibigay lang eh 4 or 5k ata sa isang buwan. nasa 60+ na mga yun. kaya nga nagpapasensya na lang ako dahil nga may sakit ng rayuma mil ko at yung father-in-law ko naman eh pneumonia nga dahil  katamaran lang ang lifestyle ng dalawa. wala silang maid, sobra naman un kung mag maid pa sila eh wala naman silang sariling income at inaasa lang talaga sa asawa ko ang pagkain. eh kami nga kahit kelan di kumuha ng maid. sila pa nga galit kapag nadedelay ang padala sa kanila. magtetext wala na daw sila makain. sobra! tiis tiis na lang. sabi nga ng hubby ko, tumatanaw na lang daw sya ng utang na loob.

pero ako, talagang hinahanda ko ang future ko para di ko ipabalikat sa anak ko at magiging anak pa ang responsibilidad na buhayin nila ako. kung magbibigay salamat, kung hindi, ok lang. at lalong lalo ng di ko isusumbat sa kanila na pinanganak ko sila at pinag aral.

[maiandra]

korek sis micos_mom!

yung MIL ko sugalero before kaya nalubos lahat ng pera nila and nung lumaki hubby ko di man lang nila napatapos ng pag aaral. Kaya from riches to rags talaga. Minsan di ko alam kung magsisisi ako bakit hindi ko nakita yung pagka mukhang pera nila bago ko pangasawahin. At fault din naman tayo jan na dapat kilalanin ng husto ang future MILs, package deal kc yan e

[rovic_grlnxtdor]

Nakakarelate ako dito-- though wala pa naman talagang extreme na nangyayari samen-- just got married dec.29,11--since both kme ni hubby nasa right age na we didnt ask permission from both families about getting married--we just talked to them in a resto and announce the upcoming wedding-at first gulat si MIL--while eating lumayo cia ng sit--then tinawag cia ni hubby--bumalik cia ulet malapit samen tapos after kumain bumaba na hindi man lang kinausap un family ko-- nagalit si hubby and tinawag nia si MIL sa lobby ng resto-- pro deadma hindi umakyat ang magaling kong MIL-pro infairness mabait si DIL and un mga titas ni hubby.

Pauwi na kme, nagkita kita na kme sa lobby ni MIL-hinatid kme sa parking and pag alis namen-umalis na din sila--after dapat sila ihatid nagkikita kme ni hubby to fix some documents pro biglang nagtext na may prob daw cia kasi mega away sila ng mommy nia because of what happened and nag-alsa balutan pa ang magaling kong MIL--ang reason ni MIL kung bakit [textspeak!] nia hinarap un family ko is because hindi daw nia alam and hindi sia nakabihis ng maayos.

Hindi na nga sia nakabihis ng maayos hindi pa nagpakita ng maayos na ugali diba?? Simula palang yan mga sisies--madami pang misadventures with my MIL--

[pinkstar712000]

yung MIL ko parang di appropriate yung monster in law, wala na bang mas wagas na term? here's mine...10 years na kaming married ni hubby, unfortunately wala pa kaming baby.. my misery with Mil started mismo sa araw ng wedding namin.

While on reception, habang kachika ko yung isang highskul friend ko, lumapit ba naman ang Mil, eh kala ata nung videograher may something sweet na sasabihin sa akin si mil kaya kuntodo video, and know what? iniisa isa nya ituro yung mga visitors kung side ko daw yun? bakit daw ang dami? my gawd!gusto ata 10 lang kami! then, after nun, di ba sama na nila ako pauwi sa haws nila? i told her i need to go home for a while to get my things, which is near the venue lang naman.. di maipinta ang face ng bru.. di man lang sya pumasok ng haws namin para ipagpaalam ako sa parents ko. syempre we had so many visitors sa bahay and most of them from far places pa, so chika muna kami ni hubby ng konti, hay naku, panay ang beep ng sasakyan, na pinababalik na kami dun.. imbyerna pero di ko pinansin..

To prove my hubby na im doing my best para pakisamahan si mil, anytime na may kaylangan sila, bigay todo ako. which i realized was my greatest mistake. imagine, 5 years na kaming kasal, halos buong sweldo ni hubby, nasa kanila, kasi inuutang nila, pero di naman nagbbayad. yun tuloy, wala kaming naipundar kahit ano.. si hubby naman, super bait and sabi nya, gipit lang daw. eh to think na nasa abroad din si [textspeak!] at mas malaki pa sa kanya ang kita.

nung di na ako nakatiis, nag abroad na din ako..tumatawag pa rin para mangutang, pero at least, minimal na lang unlike before na nililimas talaga nila ang kita ni hubby..after 2yrs nakapagpagawa na kami ng haws and hubby told me to stay at home muna habang ttc ako. for 2 yrs, la akong work, pero i wud say na bago ako nag stop, i made sure na kaya ni hubby na mgkaron kami ng comfortable life, and help his family pa rin though mas may pera sila kesa sa amin.. ako yung gumastos kay hubby to take exams and trainings para umasenso sya sa field nya, kasi habang nasa abroad ako, sya naman andito for the board exams and trainings, yung ipon namin, ginamit sa house.

ang dami ko naririnig kay mil.. masama ugali ko, madamot, pati yung house namin di pinatawad. wala daw kaming anak bakit kami nagpagawa ng malaking haws.. insecure lang ata, kasi mas malaki bahay namin kesa kanya. sa sobrang inis ko na, nawalan na kami ng communication. even si hubby lumayo na rin sa kanila. nabalitaan na lang namin, pinalaki yung haws nila, bumili pa ng bagong car. then, habang nasa abroad si hubby, tumawag one night si sil, married, may 1 anak, pero nakatira sa haws ni mil.. inatake daw sa puso si [textspeak!] at dead na. it was madaling araw na, pero kahit mag isa pumunta ako sa hospital, kahit commute lang. i have no idea na nandito sa pinas si [textspeak!].. pati sya nagalit din sa amin ni hubby dhil sa mga imbentong kwento ni mil at [textspeak!].. ang iniiyak that time ni sil, di nya masabi kay mil na patay na si [textspeak!], kasi kalalabas lang sa hosp ni mil, due to mild stroke. On the 3rd day of the wake, nalaman nya din nya at parang casual lang nya tinanggap.. ang masakit pa dun, nung nasa funeraria kami para ayusin ang body ni [textspeak!], tumawag si bil na nasa abroad din and he told sil to get the most expensive coffin daw at sya bahala.. in the end, kahit piso, di sya nagbigay.. si hubby, inako lahat ang gastos, pati yung lot sa memorial garden, sa amin pa din.. haay ang saklap.. than si bil, sinumbatan pa ako na di ko man lang daw dinalaw si [textspeak!]..after the funeral, di talaga ako lumapit sa kanila, sa sobrang sama ng loob ko.. and the news na nakarating sa akin is, sinabi ni mil na sana mamatay na daw ako.. di nya ako kailangan at di na rin ako kaanu ano.. so i told my hubby, wala na akong pakialam sa family nya, whatever happens, suko na ako.. but i told him na di ko sya pipigilan lumapit sa kanila kasi family pa rin nya yun.. right now, di na ipinararating sa akin ni hubby yung mga details about his family, nahuli ko lang na nagpapadala sya dun ng pera kasi yung text nya kay sil, sa akin nag send.. pero ok lang s kin yun. basta sabi ko sa kanya, yung perang nasa account namin di nya pedeng pakialaman at ibigay sa family nya kasi di naman namin alam kung anong mangyayari sa buhay namin.. if something happens, i know di naman nila kami tutulungan..

[pinkstar712000]

haay bakit ganun, naka textspeak yung iba, father in law yun mga sis!

[lovethebeach]

here is my story:

Nung magbf/gf kami di makabasag pinggan ang bait niya though there are times bigla umiinit ulo niya at a certain situation which is understandable and napapalakas boses niya na tipong kala mo naghahanap ng away.

Nung nagpakasal na kami ni hubby kasi we were to stay with her (kasi biyuda na rin kawawa naman daw). nagsimula na sa house the day we got married parang each day ang gloomy ng house or ng aura na para bang lagi siyang nagdadabog (dun ko naddrain or napapagod) never naging maaliwalas ang bahay unless she leave. laging ganun tinitiis ko lang minsan umiiyak na lang ko kasi parang nalungkot ko tapos parang feeling ko ang layo ng sarili kong family.

Tapos pag nagluluto ko aba nakakainsulto parang ayaw niyang tikman or kainin tapos sasabihin niyang di ko nagluluto para sa amin haller! pero pag siya ang nagluto kulang na lang isubo niya sayo lahat para ubusin. as in nung kukulitin ka niya til kunin mo ang inaalok niya or tatayo siya sa harap mo at naka pamewang til she sees to it na ubos lahat ( i experienced that when i gave birth).

This is the worst super duper plastic niya sa akin and to my side (my family / relatives/etc). bakit di na lang niya ako diretsahin kelangan pa niya sabihin kay hubby or kung sino man ang gusto niyang sumbungan. speaking recently an incident happened sa house ( na super kinasama ng loob ko) i need to defend my hubby over them (MIL & BIL) kasi sobra na sila ayaw ko man makialam pero masyado na ang ginagawa nila. nagpakumbaba na ako and said sorry to both pero siya mega sumbong sa mom ko just because she cant tell it right to my face lalo sumama loob ko kasi my mom believes her side of story (na siyempre nagpapaawa siya sa mom ko and meron pang mega cry haller MIL - sobrang plastic mo kaya sa mom tapos now siya sinusumbungan mo at ginawa mong kakampi. iniiwasan mo nga mom ko when she calls and you dont like my own family coming to our house hello they are visiting me and their apo not you so you have to live with that). sa totoo lang im not afraid of my mom im doing what is right kaya ako nagapologize and thats it bahala na sila sa buhay nila they will hear nothing from me or what.

and kung ano ano pa ang sinasabi niya about me and my family to others especially the maids. right now bahala siya sa buhay niya kasi wala naman akong ginagawa ang karma na ang bahala sa kanya at si Lord.

tsaka lahat na lang about me , my yayas and anything concerns me and my family lahat pinupuna niya na mali or di niya gusto.

most of the time she is wrong ayaw niyang aminin na tama kami ..gusto niya siya lagi masunod and tama. and masyadong gusto niya nasa kanya lahat ng attention and gusto niya binababy siya sorry na lang siya dati pumapayag pa ako na lagi niyang tinatawag si hubby na wala akong reklamo now di na siya masyado pinapansin and all umaarte siyang parang bata.

may times din mukha siyang pera, kung saan siya makakalamang okay lang sa kanya pero pag nakalamang sa kanya ang iba di siya papayag. masyado niyang pinapaboran si BIL at ang pamilya nito kahit na mali (at may masabi lang kami kahit na we mean good masama na para kay MIL). sobra niyang binababy at pinoprotektahan ang panganay niya na masyadong nadepende sa kanya parang bata. (sinumbong nga ko ni BIL kay MIL kasi inaaway ko daw siya and take note he cried wahh mas malala pa sa babae! and maputak!) and masyadong niyang shinoshower ng kung ano ano sila BIL (na kami ang nagbibigay ng pera ang iba ang nakikinabang) pagdating sa amin sinisingil kami pero pag sila BIL ok lang di siya kelangan bayaran. at minsan gumagawa pa ng kwento or binabaligtad niya.

pasalamat nga siya may respeto pa ako sa kanya. and sige lang titiisin ko muna as for now. dahil kapag dumating ang time na di na kinaya ng powers ko magaalsabalutan ako at baka di na niya makita ang apo niya at magsisi siya. pero ginagawa ko na lang pinapasa Diyos ko na lang siya at bahala na rin ang karma sa kanya.

she is by far the worst MIL anyone could ever have!!!

[kim_trasher07]

yung MIL ng sister ko monster rin! mukhang pera laging bukang walang pera.. napakafeelingera pa.. wala na ngang pera gusto pang bumili ng ref at sa amin uutang since alam niya pinapadalan kami ng magulang ko kaming magkapatid. tapos ultimo wilkins na worth P70 sisingilin niya yun sa kapatid ko, kasi may times na wala na rin pera kapatid ko, so yung MIL niya bibili then pag nagkapera yung kapatid ko sisingilin niya lahat ultimo tubig. di man lang malibre kahit isang beses yung unang apo niya.   sobrang imbyerna talaga ko pag nagkwento sis ko.

[piatos]

yung sakin pa naman hindi pa naman kami kasal pero habang maaga sinabihan ko na sya..Ibigay nya lahat ng gusto nya ibigay sa family habang hindi pa kami kasal pero pag mgasawa na kami at magkaanak pwede tumulong pag kailangan pero hindi pwede maghati..Ganun kasi nangyari sa kilala ko hubby nya factory worker.  6k ang sahod tapos hinahati pa sa parents at sa wife nya edi ang napupunta lang sa wife nya 1.5k every 15th hirap na hirap sya pagkasyahin shampoo lang magkano na

Sa nakikita ko sa mom ni bf magastos..Hindi naman sya mayaman nagcrecredit card pa nakapangalan kay bf kesyo may pera daw sya parating galing sss..e kaso hindi na-approve ayun ang utang 23k na with tax haays tapos pinababayaran nya kay bf kc sasakay na ulit ng barko..ang sabi ko naman kay bf yung ipapadala nya kay mom nya ibabayad yung iba sa credit card tutal sya naman tong mahilig para matuto..Ako kahit kelan hindi nagcredit card kasi ayaw ko ng utang..Pinagsasabihan ko si bf nung una pa lang wag bumili gamit credit card tapos nawili ang mom nya.  Sagad ang limit ng cc  kaloka ngayon sya ang tinatawagan ng bank.  Tapos kwento-kwento sya sa nangyari inokray ko talaga sabi ko pag may problema ka sakin ka lumalapit pag pinagsasabihan ka regarding sa family feeling mo kontrabida ako..ayun tameme hehe

[bluewinkle]

I posted this in another thread until I saw this one and decided to post it again

There can never be two queen bees in one hive but that said, in my experience (and that of my mother before me), the main problem with in-laws is rooted in money.  Most Filipinos have this culture of dependency and hardly any plan for retirement.  I have an aunt who thinks of her sons as "alkansyas."  This mentality is basically the parent thinking that their children owe them for having fed, clothed and educated them for the first 20 years (or more) of their lives.

They expect that their children should pay them back and most do.  Problems start when suddenly, their child who gives their monthly salary to them, falls in love, gets married and has a family of their own.  This equates to more responsibilities, but with the same amount of pay (for the most part).  Of course, they welcome the grandchildren, but I’ve noticed that people get cranky once they can’t spend as much as they used to.  Also, the attention of said children now lie elsewhere and moms can get jealous (I find this true especially for sons).

I once read an article in the newspaper that it is unfair for parents to burden their children even more considering they know firsthand how financially hard things are when one is starting out in life (unless you were born with a silver spoon and has a trust fund).

I agree with the article.  My parents do too and they were the first to tell me (since I was little) that children do not owe their parents anything because it was not their idea to be born in the first place.  It is the OBLIGATION of parents to feed, clothe and educate their child.  For my parents, it is nice if the children want to VOLUNTARILY contribute, but it should not be forced.

My parents aren't rich.  In fact, the first time my father was ever able to buy a car was after he retired from the Air Force after 25 years.  And do you know what kind of car he bought? A third-hand chop-chop van which conked out periodically. They even reminisce about the time they only had Php 100 between the two of them until the next pay day.  But despite all this, they made an effort to build their nest egg for retirement.  This meant still having a cassette player even when everyone else had the CD version (I had a classmate who once ridiculed me that our home "sound system" looked like a toy). 

Now that my parents are both retired, they are reaping the benefits of their retirement plan and have yet to ask us for cash.  They even gave me back the monthly contributions I used to give them so that I could use it for my internship abroad (turns out my mother just stashed everything in a drawer).

And now that I am married, I have decided to follow in the footsteps of my parents and save up for retirement.  That way, we will not have to depend on our children for the groceries, medicine, the electricity and water bills, etc.

Many people tell me that there’s no room for savings due to large bills.  I’ve always believed that kung gusto, may paraan, kung ayaw, may dahilan. If people were told that they would get a huge sum of cash for free if they just did something for an X amount of time, they will find a way. 

[aubrey888]

I posted this in another thread until I saw this one and decided to post it again

There can never be two queen bees in one hive but that said, in my experience (and that of my mother before me), the main problem with in-laws is rooted in money.  Most Filipinos have this culture of dependency and hardly any plan for retirement.  I have an aunt who thinks of her sons as "alkansyas."  This mentality is basically the parent thinking that their children owe them for having fed, clothed and educated them for the first 20 years (or more) of their lives.

They expect that their children should pay them back and most do.  Problems start when suddenly, their child who gives their monthly salary to them, falls in love, gets married and has a family of their own.  This equates to more responsibilities, but with the same amount of pay (for the most part).  Of course, they welcome the grandchildren, but I’ve noticed that people get cranky once they can’t spend as much as they used to.  Also, the attention of said children now lie elsewhere and moms can get jealous (I find this true especially for sons).

I once read an article in the newspaper that it is unfair for parents to burden their children even more considering they know firsthand how financially hard things are when one is starting out in life (unless you were born with a silver spoon and has a trust fund).

I agree with the article.  My parents do too and they were the first to tell me (since I was little) that children do not owe their parents anything because it was not their idea to be born in the first place.  It is the OBLIGATION of parents to feed, clothe and educate their child.  For my parents, it is nice if the children want to VOLUNTARILY contribute, but it should not be forced.

My parents aren't rich.  In fact, the first time my father was ever able to buy a car was after he retired from the Air Force after 25 years.  And do you know what kind of car he bought? A third-hand chop-chop van which conked out periodically. They even reminisce about the time they only had Php 100 between the two of them until the next pay day.  But despite all this, they made an effort to build their nest egg for retirement.  This meant still having a cassette player even when everyone else had the CD version (I had a classmate who once ridiculed me that our home "sound system" looked like a toy). 

Now that my parents are both retired, they are reaping the benefits of their retirement plan and have yet to ask us for cash.  They even gave me back the monthly contributions I used to give them so that I could use it for my internship abroad (turns out my mother just stashed everything in a drawer).

And now that I am married, I have decided to follow in the footsteps of my parents and save up for retirement.  That way, we will not have to depend on our children for the groceries, medicine, the electricity and water bills, etc.

Many people tell me that there’s no room for savings due to large bills.  I’ve always believed that kung gusto, may paraan, kung ayaw, may dahilan. If people were told that they would get a huge sum of cash for free if they just did something for an X amount of time, they will find a way.

very well said, sis bluewinkle :-)

[Paperless]

@bluewinkle

Thanks sis... super like your post!

After I got married, nagising na lang ako one morning na kasali ako sa isang competition kahit hindi naman ako nagregister...

[bluewinkle]

@aubrey888 - thanks

@Paperless - thanks too and your post was SO funny!

[kuliglig^^]

Di naman monster-in-law yung mother-in-law ko. There are just certain things we don't agree on, and given the fact na assertive ako, sometimes it causes friction.

[mamapeew]

After reading most of your posts, I feel lucky mabait MIL ko. She's soft-spoken and mahiyain (nakikita ko rin sarili ko sa kanya, baka kaya nagustuhan ako ng hubby ko... hehe) pero syempre di maiiwasan ang friction. I'm glad too that before we got married, my husband agreed na bumukod kagad kaso since laging wala si hubby, I stayed with MY mom. Sabi nga sa pre-wedding seminar namin... hindi pwedeng dalawang reyna sa isang palasyo kaya di na rin nya ako pinilit tumira sa kanila. At least with my mom, sya ang reyna, prinsesa lang ako. Hahaha... 


I agree with bluewinkle. I'm proud of my parents too (kahit na alam ko my mom is also possessive with her sons and maraming reklamo mga sis-in-law ko pero alam ko not about money). I'm an only girl in a brood of 6 and youngest pa. Imagine what my parents went through raising 5 boys (10 years older kasi yung last kuya ko before I was born) so hirap sila mag ipon pero nakapag ipon din sila for us and nagpundar sila ng mapagkakaitaan para may maiwan sila for us. Although alam ko na sinabihan ng mom ko na pag nakapag trabaho na mga kuya ko, sila magpapa-aral sa akin, alam ko na mom ko pa rin ang nagbabayad ng tuition ko. Mga kuya ko nagbibigay na lang ng kusa sa mom ko, hindi sapilitan. Inipon din ng mom ko and yun din iniwan nya sa amin. Nung na-hospitalize si mommy, hindi kami naglabas ng kahit isang kusing. Kinuha namin sa naipon nya.

[LLLA]

joining..

MIL ko naman senior na..kakaiba ugali niya.. may pagka-mayabang.. naiirita ako minsan..
tapos lagi pang ginagawang driver mister ko.. hayz! okay lang sana pero yung tipong lapit lang ng pupuntahan.. papadrive pa.. parang payabang effect lang..
tsaka naiinis ako how she treats my SILs. kasi favorite niya yung brother ni Hubby..
Yun lagi bukang bibig niya.. hayz! 

[hyder0926]

my mom in law looks after my firstborn son, not her choice but my father in law insisted on this arrangement. but amongst her 4 children she is treating my hubby & me differently.. & my hubby is privy about this but asked he asked to not mind her.. but its just unfair to my hubby that he gets treated this way.. i just don't get how a mother can be indifferent to one child.

i am a mom myself & i have a mother. if my mama has played favorites i never learned or felt it..
i don't know how to deal with her.. i mostly give her the cold shoulder when i can.. because when i feel weak & tired of her antics i just give her my cold killer eyes.. =)

i can live with the fact that she is cold towards me but when she is uncaring towards her son its a different matter all together. we live with my in laws as my hubby is the firstborn son.. my father in law will not have it any other way.. but we are targeting to move out next year. hopefully my hubby passes the Bar exams soon.


her acts that makes me tick:
1. calling everyone to dinner excluding me & my hubby
2. planning "family" stuff excluding me & hubby
3. getting our allowance from father in law.. she told me that she will put this away for the rainy days. but when my son got sick & hospitalized she did not even bring anything to the hospital & instead was expecting to be fed by me..
4. a week after giving birth thru CS she asked her son to fetch me from my parent's home to be brought to QC. i endured a 2 1/2 hour ride so she can see my son.. saying she was not comfortable in my parent's home
5. while eating pizza that i ordered, she got the box & started putting away the pizza for her absentee children
6. while eating at a chinese restaurant she asked us if we can put away food for her absentee children not considering that the food was yet to be served
7. we went home late one night only to find out that there was no food waiting for us.. mom in law forgot to put away food for us.. when she always remember  to do this for her other children
8. she would ask money from my hubby from my back.. too bad for her my hubby gets the money from me..
9. my son was having a fever & was red all over due to high fever, & when my son did not respond to his fever meds i decided to take him to the ER. my mom inlaw quipped "wag na sayang lang ang pera nyo.." my son was running a fever close to 40degrees & he was just about 6mos old that time..
10. my son's pedia is from st lukes & she keeps insisting that i transfer to Chinese Gen because they know a pedia from there.. she said "bakit sa St Lukes pa siya pa-check up eh mahal dun.." i want to tell her "bakit kaw ba magbabayad?"
11. my son was having diarrhea & fever 1 time & she failed to inform me because she thought i was busy at the office.
12. her lies & stories about my father in law.. she even asked me not to give my father in law stuff,, saying " sayang lang yan.. wag mo na siya pag-aksayahan ng pera"

sorry for the long post.. i am just frustrated over her..

[mscharming]

ang mga magulang, pinalaki nya at pinag-aral ang kanilang mga anak dahil sa pagmamahal at hindi dapat isumbat iyon paglaki nila to the extent na may sarili ng pamilya ang mga ito ay gagawan mo ng responsibilidad na balikatin ka para lang mabayaran ang pagpapalaki mo sa kanila.

grabe ang mom in law mo sis. nakaka amaze na may magulang pa palang ganito. may sariling pamilya na ang anak nila pero umaasa na sila pa ata ang uunahin. imbes na makatulong sa pagsasama niyo balak pa atang sirain.

magpakatatag ka sis at huwag kang bibigay sa mom in law mong iyan. masyadong abusada.

nakakainis ang mga ganyang magulang. walang konsiderasyon.

[desserts]

hi all,

i need everyone's opinion on this. opinions from more people are better. gusto ko kasi masigurado na tama yung emotions ko, yung hindi ako nag-iinarte lang or nagiillusion. My husband and I are married for 3 years, we are living with his parents here in the province and we have a daughter who just turned 1 this April.

incident#1: nagsimulang sumama ang loob ko sa MIL ko nung pabibinyagan namin yung 1st baby namin ng hubby ko. since hindi naman kami financially blessed ng hubby ko, sinuggest niya na isabay na lang yung binyag sa birthday ng nanay niya. kaso, yung mga ibang godparents based sa manila, kaya i wanted to have the birthday celebration + christening moved to a weekend para makaattend naman godparents. kaso ayaw ng nanay niya. gusto niya pag birthday niya, sa mismong araw ng birthday icelebrate. eh para sa akin naman, 50+ na siya naka-ilang birthdays na siya, hindi man lang niya mai-move para sa apo niya. ano opinion niyo dito?

incident#2: bale dalawang babae ang apo ng MIL ko, yung unang girl apo is from my hubby's sister. then next apo is our daughter. my hubby nga pala is the youngest child and only son pa. so the next incident is every time lumuluwas yung MIL ko sa manila, bibili siya ng pasalubong sa dalawang apo niya. pero palaging mas konti lang dun sa daughter ko. like one time, 1pc lang binigay sa anak ko, dun sa unang apo eh ang daming piraso. ano opinion niyo dito? para sakin kasi, gusto ko patas patas lang, nasanay kasi ako na ganun sa family ko, ke-eldest man or youngest, equal lang mga binibigay.

incident#3: yung MIL ko, palagi niyang ibinibili ng new toy yung unang girl apo niya. 3 yo na pala yung unang girl apo niya. everytime na binibili niya ng toy yun isa, wala man lang para sa anak ko. one time nakita ng asawa ko na ganun nga, may new toy na naman yun unang apo tapos yung anak namin wala kaya nagcomment siya at narinig ng nanay niya. the following day, inapproach ako ng MIL ko at binigyan niya ng toy yung anak ko - pero pinaglumaan nung unang apo yung toy na binigay niya. as in lumang luma na like nung 1yo pa lang yun unang apo, nandun na yung toy na yun. ano opinion niyo dito? ako kasi nainsulto. yung unang apo niya naibibili niya ng new toy, tas yun anak ko pang lumang toy lang siya. ni hindi naman sila magkapatid para ipamana yung lumang toy na yun. at kung rason man niya na hindi pa naaappreciate ng anak ko ang toys, well para sa akin, mali siya. kahit months pa nga lang ang babies ine-encourage na bigyan ng toys para matulungan yung development ng motor skills, eye sight and hearing etc nila diba. at sa age ng anak ko, naaappreciate na niya ang toys.

incident#4 ibinili ng MIL ko yung hubby ko ng camera, since camera nga daw ng hubby ko yun, sa kwarto namin tinatago. so ginagamit ko yun pampicture sa baby namin at post ko agad sa social networking sites. pero one time, pinakuha niya sa asawa ko dahil gagamitin daw. pero ilang araw na lumipas hindi naman ginamit. nandun lang sa room nila. feeling ko ayaw lang ipagamit sa amin ng anak ko. kaya ever since, hindi ko na kinuha pa uli sa kaniya. may time pa na gagamitin ko sana para sa baby ko pero may event yung una nilang apo, pero pina-iwan pa rin yung camera ng hubby ko at yun daw ang gagamitin. eh may camera naman sila na nakatambak lang, nasa cabinet lang, hindi naman sira. hindi naman nila ginagamit. tapos kukunin pa yun camera ng hubby ko, wala na tuloy kami magamit. ano opinion niyo dito?

ang tingin ko kasi favorite nila yung unang apo nila na babae. tama ba ako sa pakiramdam ko? at para sa akin unfair lang yung treatment nila sa anak ko. i need your opinions on these lang po.

thank you!

[crazycoolchic19]

Hinde naman sila ganun ka monster  mabait naman sila, kaso ramdam ko may saloobin sila sakin, yunG  Mil ko laging bukambibig na maghanap ako work,  12 yrs na akong SAHM mahirap na makahanap ng work, ayaw naman ng husband ko eversince na magwork ako, im doing a sideline business bakit ba sila  makulet makahap ako ng work!

[mailm]

Hinde naman sila ganun ka monster  mabait naman sila, kaso ramdam ko may saloobin sila sakin, yunG  Mil ko laging bukambibig na maghanap ako work,  12 yrs na akong SAHM mahirap na makahanap ng work, ayaw naman ng husband ko eversince na magwork ako, im doing a sideline business bakit ba sila  makulet makahap ako ng work!

crazycoolchic19 sis medyo i can relate to this.my mil stayed here for a week sa house namin and she was asking my husband what i do the whole day sa house.nakakainsulto lang diba.kasi nakita naman nya wala kaming maid, wala kaming yaya to take care of my son.  napakainsensitive lang na itatanong pa yun bagay na yun.wala ba siyang mata.just venting out.it was not my choice to be a sahm.but due to circumstances kinailangan ko mag sahm and un anak nya din ang reason kung baket sahm ako ngayon.