How do you handle being Single?

[dheive]

living my life to the fullest

[franc1sgmp]

Mejo frustrated ako sa buhay ko ngayon because ang dami kong kelangan ayusin sa buhay ko (spiritually speaking).  One of the principles i follow is that "You cannot give what you do not have", so kung hindi ako masaya, then hindi ko mabibigyan ng kasiyahan yung kung sino man yung babaeng yun.

I try to be happy and simple in my lifestyle, at kung may na-m-meet din akong babae, i dont give my best foot forward. Ayokong magkagusto saken ang isang tao just because of what I have or because of what i do, but because of who I am so ayun... 

[malayafronda]

maging masaya ka lang. manood ka ng mga comedy movies. pag gusto mo magrelax dahil past few days naging busy ka sa work- manood ka ng sine, gumala ka magisa, magwindow shopping ka, maglaro ka sa timezone, food trip, laughtrip with friends and family. dapat meron ka din time para sa family mo. minsan naboboring ako, minsan naiinggit ako sa mga couples na nakikita ko. pero kailangan mo din kasi aliwin sarili mo eh para di ka maging malungkot. minsan nakikipaglokohan ako sa nanay at tatay ko, sinasabi ko na lang na 'hanapan niyo kasi ako ng boyfriend, sige kayo, magiging dalagang matanda ako' hehe

[phoebe1811]

Mon to thu home - work lang ako pero pag fri to sat eh its the time i spend for my friends..pag single ka friends are essential sa social life mo try to expand your network of friends  pamper yourself as in its one of the perks ng pagiging single

[dumpee.o13]

Doin' things I can't do at the time that I'm in a relationship.

[dheive]

nakakabore minsan... minsan ang sad.... lalo pag lahat ng friends mo eh out with their bf's toinks... hahhahahah......

[Huntress Krystle]

Umabot rin ba sa point na you are really longing or being desperate looking for love?

Nope. May times na naiinggit ako sa ibang happy couples pero never naman sa point of desperation. Kasi alam ko din naman sa sarili ko if I'm fully ready to commit in a relationship or not. 

Kinahiya niyo rin ba ang pagiging single to the extent na naiinsecure na kayo sa ibang lovers?

Hindi naman. Never kong kinahiya ang pagiging single although naiinggit paminsan minsan sa ibang successful or lasting couples.

Nagkaroon ba kayo ng mentality na you are already old or in the right age and dapat you have a bf/gf already?  like example 18 na ako wala pa rin akong boyfriend paano na yan? Ang tanda ko na wala pa rin akong boyfriend?

Yung sa "teenage" years, never ako nagkaron ng ganung mentality kasi nagkaron naman ako ng boyfriends during my teens. But alam ko din sa sarili ko na malaki ang chance na temporary lang ang mga relationships ko noon dahil bata pa ako at marami pa akong makakasalamuhang tao.

Pero nung dumating nako dito sa age ko now (mid to late twenties), yes, napapaisip din ako na "kelan kaya ako makakapag settle down at magkaka-anak?" Pero hanggang dun lang. Hindi naman umabot sa desperado na ako o sobrang pressured. Because I know myself better than anyone else and I know that now isn't the right time for me to get married. Naiinis lang ako minsan sa mga tao especially sa mga kamag-anak na sila pa ang magpepressure sayo imbes na unawain ka. I think it's insensitive and shallow on their part. Kasi ang dating e parang nagmamadali silang magka anak ka without even realizing na baka hindi ka pa handa o baka magkanda loko loko naman ang buhay mo kung ipipilit mo.

I don't let others' opinions pressure me. I know the right time will come na masasabi kong handa nako magkapamilya. May it be next year or after several more years. Ang pinakamahalaga sakin ay masaya ako, handa ako at wala akong pagsisisihan sa desisyon na pipiliin ko. Mabuti na yung late na ako ikasal pero no regrets. Kesa naman magpadala sa pressure pero very unhappy naman ako sa married life ko.

How do you enjoy being single?

Wala. Basta I just live normally like I always do.  Pag gusto ko makipag-date, go. Pag ayaw ko, wala ding makakapilit sakin. Basta I just live each day normally.  [/font]

[phoebe1811]

i just enjoy it spending with friends & family.
its nice to be single..i can date anyone hehe
more time with myself..all those pampering 
if i get bored i can always call a friend 

[mischa04]

i'm glad to find this thread and read the posts here..it made me smile to kn0w  na maraming single like me na nageenjoy at masaya being single. Me kasi at some point sad kasi single pa rin ako but with the help of some posts here, it made me realize na i don't need to be sad kasi marami pa lang bagay na magpapasaya sakin. Now, i enjoy my life, focus in work, pampering myself, dating or hanging out, discovering myself and personality m0re, exploring things of my interest, basta i take things light and slow na, masaya rin naman kasi maging single, you learn a lot and it prepares you before real commitment comes. And true, sometimes peers ar0und us ang nagbibigay ng pressure eh, kaya dapat deadma lang or tell them   'so what kung single ako, im happy naman and will be happy until the right man comes' patience is a virtue..hahaha..

[Filipinasadhart]

i cannot handle it anymore. maloloka ako sa kalungkutan 

Di ka nagiisa kaya natin toh

[mischa04]

i cannot handle it anymore. maloloka ako sa kalungkutan 

Di ka nagiisa kaya natin toh

yup kaya natin 'to.. relax lang and enjoy.. wag tayo maloloka kasi sayang naman tayo kung mental lang makikinabang..dapat boys.. hehe..

big hug to y'all mga sis! be strong

[iamoptimistic]

yup kaya natin 'to.. relax lang and enjoy.. wag tayo maloloka kasi sayang naman tayo kung mental lang makikinabang..dapat boys.. hehe..

big hug to y'all mga sis! be strong

haha! ang dami kong tawa dito! but glad to find this thread 

girls ok lang yan! sayang ang kagandahan kung magloloka-lokahan 

btw, what i did? i travel (locally), i bought things i want, i own my time, i mingle with different people from all walks of life! the Perks of bein single! 

[mischa04]

@iamoptimistic  funny ba..haha.. yan kasi laging biro sa office pag may sad or stress..
I also do the same..travel nalang d ko p nggwa but i have plans like early next year, sana matuloy..magandang diversion ang travel and makipag mingle w/ others para di mastress..

[iamoptimistic]

@iamoptimistic  funny ba..haha.. yan kasi laging biro sa office pag may sad or stress..
I also do the same..travel nalang d ko p nggwa but i have plans like early next year, sana matuloy..magandang diversion ang travel and makipag mingle w/ others para di mastress..

funny in a good way tho.. its cute!  go sis! out with the stress issue, break up with it! lol 

[empress]

we're single ever since we're born. just because somebody came into our life doesn't mean we don't know how to be single again. time will come! don't worry & keep the faith

[dheive]

 ^ sa mga sissies na nagsuggest ng travelling can you give specific places? TIA hmmm ive been to bora (sawa na talaga) , baguio, cebu, tagaytay (lalo na) mga laguna areas ayan ubos na yan hehhehe so any recos?

[mischa04]

try palawan sis, maganda daw dun lalo na yung underground river..

[luckydoll]

I just got dumped 2 weeks ago and the funny thing is.. I am okay.
Usually we try to hold on to things even if we know that its not working out just because we are scared to be alone and be "single" again.
But after you embrace all the multiple possibilities of happiness and freedom with being alone, you will start to accept that being single is after all, okay.

Sometimes you really need to experience these breakups to know your value and discover that you can do more in this life whenyou are alone.

One trick I discovered on how to overcome loneliness is to count your blessings and be grateful for everything you have. being thankful for even the littlest comfort makes a big difference

What I did was focused my time on my lingerie business that I almost neglected, started tattooing, started our band again,..all those stuffs i did within 2 weeks. and nalimutan ko agad ang sadness and loneliness:)

I also noticed that I am better off being single than when I am in a relationship. I tend to be more focused in my career and in those activities that I might excel in.

[hellojavi13]

naku! two years na akong single at sometimes nangangarap pa din na dumating na si Mr.Right, now 23 years old na ko pero hindi naman ako in a hurry noh! Madameng advantage ang pagiging single like while single mas nakikilala mo yung sarili mo at mas mamahalin mo yung sarili mo. more time sa family at sa pet! haha and most specially more time kay God!

[bittermelon]

i don't think i am handling it very well
I guess am living up to my name.
i'm always sad ( and i don't make an effort to conceal it)
am tired of being like this almost everyday
kumbaga sa cellphone lowbat na lowbat na ko gusto ko na sana ma-drain pero hindi eh
hindi nakakamatay ang pagiging single