How do you handle being Single?

[oshiawase]

yo! 20 yo female here, and nbsb. as in no boyfriend since birth. siguro dahil since bata ako, na instill na sa utak ko na bawal magka bf habang nag-aaral. taboo iyon sa family namin lalo na strict ang parents ko. ayun pati crush itinatago ko. ang focus ko lang ay mag-aral at acads achievements.

Ngayon, I'm attending graduate school. this is the time when my friends are working already. some are dating, some have boyfriends, etc. Pati [textspeak!] mga pinsan na ka-age ko, may bf na din. 'Yung iba "experienced" na (if you know what I mean). Ako, eto. ganun pa din. Si miss bookworm, school-bahay routine lang.

Ewan ko ba. Parang ayaw sa akin ng mga boyfriend material na guys. By that I mean, wala talaga akong natitipuhan within my circle. Oo andami kong kilala na mababait na guys pero for friends lang talaga at no attraction at all. Wala din naman akong type within my circle. Hindi naman dahil kailangan ng gwapo pero nakakatawa napansin ko din laging wala.  Hindi naman sa pangit sila pero 'di ko lang type. Hindi din naman dahil ubod ako ng ganda pero sadyang walang attraction...gets nio?

Hanggang crush lang talaga ako. tapos stress pa sa school at feel ko ang parasite ko pa din sa parents ko so feeling ko if i enter into a relationship right now that I am still a student, nako pabigat iyon.

Ganun. Feel ko napag-iiwanan din ako.

How do I manage? I don't actually. I often talk to my friend about this. I feel frustrated and all. Pero busy din sa school eh so walang magagawa. not that I want to busy to forget pero busy lang talaga [textspeak!] nature ng studies.

XD

[Girltalker2]

^ sis, focus nalang on what you have now. Studies. Eventually, dadating rin ang para sa iyo. Isipin mo nalang, after your studies, you can earn and have a career.  This career can support you whatever you want to do in life.  Magpaganda ka ng bongga!  I will bet, mahahanap mo rin ang para sa iyo.  In fact, hindi malayo na may mga guys ka rin na mam-meet na magkakagusto sa iyo, kahit hindi mo gusto.  So take it easy.  You are still young and you have a whole life ahead of you.  Tama ang priorities mo.  Build on your skills and later on, hindi ka magsisisi. I was there once, so no regrets! 

good luck sis!  be patient!

[poetrytoprose]

oh I've been single for 23 years of my life but I believe, really really believe, that there's someone out there for me. Anyways, how i handle being is single is by enjoying myself, getting to know myself more, and spend quality time with family, friends, and God. It's all good and i'm in no hurry. Love will come my way on the right time.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

ok lang. i'm enjoying it. nakakastress kasi last relationship ko, that was a year ago. then now naguguluhan ako if i'll go for this guy or not. di kasi kami talo. gusto ko na nga matapos tong phase na to with him. sana magmove on na siya or sana maging kami na. pero yun nga, i dont think i'll fit in his world if kami na. i'll always have doubts if i'm measuring up enough or what.

at least i'm free to flirt. hahaha. i have a crush. happy crush! siya yung nagpapawala ng frustration ko kay other guy. at least i'm free to flirt with anyone, no strings attached (ahem*ganun kasi dapat*ahem)

[pink_crystal]

ako kasi i have a point of comparison. i was in a relationship for years with a very traditional, strict guy. super love ko sha but dumating kami sa point na he wanted to run my life already, even choosing the kind of hair he wanted for me. okay pa yon. ang di ko na-handle was him preventing me from having fun with my friends. ayaw akong payagan na maski sa company outings and i found that really unfair na. tapos pag medyo kumokontra ako and i tell him i wanna go out with my friends, pinagbibintangan akong may other guy daw ako. when we finally broke up, akala ko magiging emotional wreck ako. on the contrary, i felt liberated. parang nakahinga ako bigla.

so how's single life for me? fabulous... i love going on what i call me-time where i spend a day pampering myself by doing everything i feel like doing. i travel ng biglaan, eat in restaurants i've always wanted to try na ayaw nya dati, i go videokeing alone, go shopping, do the spa, basta everything na di ko nagawa nung kami pa. and it's really fun. i think what i'm trying to say is i'm loving myself more now and i found out, you do need friends and, in the future, a partner to be with, that's true, but i am already complete even though i'm, for now, on my own. let's love ourselves more because let's face it. in the end, you will end up with yourself pa din.

[beau]

go out, have fun, date around, go on gimiks, have movie and coffee dates. sa mga times na alone, improve yourself by reading books, go to the gym, enjoy your favorite tv series, play video games, even try to study again. kapag na-bore na mag-isa, hanap ulit ng makakasama for coffee, movie, gimiks!

[ladyfoxy]

Actually, masaya naman ako kahit single ako. I enjoy doing a lot of things on my own kahit walang company. One thing I really enjoy is prettifying myself. Tapos pag nakaka receive ako ng compliment, masaya na ako dun knowing na may nakaka appreciate pa rin sa akin. I'm not in a rush naman to enter a relationship.

Kaya don't stop rewarding yourself. No one's gonna do it for you. Di porket single eh hindi na magpapaganda.

[stunning_anne]

I am so inspired sa mga inputs niyo mga sis. Ako lagi in a relationship, bihira lang mabakante pero parang pagiging signle na yata ang kapalaran ko. =)

[chichi143]

malungkot! lalo na pag malamig... hahaha! pero worry free and i know that someday i'll have a sweet christmas too <3
saya kaya ng single, dami ko nagagawa na gusto ko. pag successful na ko saka naachieve ko na mga gusto ko ma-achieve i know the right person will arrive <3

[blackroseMD]

 One thing I really enjoy is prettifying myself. Tapos pag nakaka receive ako ng compliment, masaya na ako dun knowing na may nakaka appreciate pa rin sa akin. I'm not in a rush naman to enter a relationship.

Kaya don't stop rewarding yourself. No one's gonna do it for you. Di porket single eh hindi na magpapaganda.
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tama ka jan sis.. Ako din grabe tocus ko ngayon sa looks ko.. Kahit single ako todo paganda padin. Sa pamamagitan ng pagpapaganda i feel good about and mas nagiging. Confident ako...

[pretty empress]

^agree.. I enjoy being single, focus ako sa self ko, nagpapaganda ako lalo at napapasmile pag my compliments. No hassle no pressure. And im enjoying browsing the male celebrities pictures lol! Unlimited crush sa foreign male celebrities! Lol.. May pogi pala no? Haha! Dati kasi when i was on relationship, sya lang yung gwapo, sya lang ang mabait, ganun ako ka focus sa karelasyon ko..

[freelancer_babe]

admittedly being single during Christmas and Valentines is difficult.

up to know i sometimes feel sad - wishing things are different...

but then, after that I focus on other things na lang. work (I am a freelancer), for one, makes me busy.

taking care of my kid makes me busy too.

just going out and taking care of errands also help.

unfortunately i am stuck at home because i have to take care of my parents, especially yung father ko na nastroke. very slow ang recovery nya. as much as I want to travel - di ko magawa at this time. it would have been an activity na mas madaling gawin as a single than being in a relationship.

[dheive]

Dati kasi when i was on relationship, sya lang yung gwapo, sya lang ang mabait, ganun ako ka focus sa karelasyon ko..

  ^ apir! hahha ganyan din ako dati sya lang gwapo lol

[kris_17]

lumipas ang pasko at bagong taon na super lamig...
pero ok [textspeak!]...
salamat sa family ko...

ngaun valentines nanaman super nakakalungkot...

[clouds_1028]

lumipas ang pasko at bagong taon na super lamig...
pero ok [textspeak!]...
salamat sa family ko...

ngaun valentines nanaman super nakakalungkot...

Nakakarelate ako sayo. Probably on that day I'll just spend the day chatting with my family and friends or I'll watch movie alone  It will be a first for me lalo na I'm in a foreign place. 

[riksy07]

More than a year na since I ended my 5 year relationship with my ex. Found out that there was a third party. Iyon pa naman ang pinaka-kinatatakutan ko sa isang relationship, finding out that there's someone else because it makes me feel that I'm inadequate, that I'm not good enough. But through moving on, I realized that the problem was not me (grabe na kaya pagpapaka-martyr ko dun sa mokong na yon lol).

Now that I'm single, I am so enjoying life. I was in relationship for most of my college life until my early yuppie life. My world revolved around my ex and I missed out on a lot. Kung kailan I was supposed to be partying and having fun, I spent my days cooped up with him at home or shopping for whatever he wanted.

1. Kung dati hindi nasusunod ang gusto ko, well now I run my life.
2. The best part is solong solo ko na ang sweldo ko. Siguro kung wala akong bf noon marami na akong naipon (I practically spent most of my salary on him). Ang laki ng nabawas sa gastusin ko (imagine ha, pati load niya ako pa sumasagot. Freeloader talaga. lol)
3. I can travel now. I feel more independent.
4. I don't feel that I have to act in a certain way just to gain approval. I can simply be myself. Walang kailangang pakisamahang "extended family" or "soon-to-be-in-laws".
5. I can decide on my career, on big life decisions, without having to think of another person at kung anong magiging effect sa kanya ng decisions ko.
6. Socializing is fun. I chat with my friends, go out with them. I even tried signing up for a dating site only to delete my account after a couple of days (I realized ayaw ko pa rin magka-bf at karamihan ng nagmemessage sa akin eh mga stuck up guys na feeling gwapo pero full of nonsense naman).
7. Mas maganda na ako ngayon! Honestly I felt prettier after the break-up. Actually, nadiscover ko magpathreading ng eyebrows a week after I broke up with him. I was so desperate to look for "physical" pain just to divert my attention. That's where threading came into the picture. Gumanda pa ako.

Now I'm planning on a solo DIY trip to Europe. Just me. All for me. Masarap pala maging single.

[clouds_1028]

^Same tayo sis! By the way, I can feel your confidence kahit na I know how its really painful to be replaced. College days din naging kami ng ex ko and umikot lang mundo ko sa kanya. Ngayon na single na ako, I want to do many things on my own lalo na pagpapaganda! Enjoy enjoy na lang muna tayo, there are so many things to do! Dadating din yung para sa atin in the right time! 

[piatos]

^agree.. I enjoy being single, focus ako sa self ko, nagpapaganda ako lalo at napapasmile pag my compliments. No hassle no pressure. And im enjoying browsing the male celebrities pictures lol! Unlimited crush sa foreign male celebrities! Lol.. May pogi pala no? Haha! Dati kasi when i was on relationship, sya lang yung gwapo, sya lang ang mabait, ganun ako ka focus sa karelasyon ko..

Ganyan din ako siya lang nakikita kong gwapo, mabait hahaha..Hindi rin pala kung mabait siya hindi niya ako sasaktan lol.  Hindi pa rin ako nakakapagmove on bitter pa rin hehe

[jtansanco]

I tell myself there's always next year.. But I'm already 25.. My goal is to get married by 30.. OH DEAR.

[izzza]

Sa ngayon I'm fine being single, mas pabor nga to sakin kasi nakaka focus ako sa work dahil kailangan ko mag ipon for my future. and besides, mga walang kwenta yung namemeet ko lately haha imbes mag settle sa walang kwentang relasyon mas maganda pang maging single.