Your ex boyfriend suddenly contacts you what should you do?

[hannabishi]

I'll tell them to jump up their own ass and DIE.

[beck19]

that happened to me.. after 2-3yrs of no communication. suddenly ex bf contacted me and asked me out.. we went out, and surprisingly, i wasted my night hearing his stories about his ex (the girl after me)..  it came out that his ex girlfriend dumped him for another man, while he was about to propose.. and then after all his bitterness, he asked if we could be together again and try to work things out..

blah blah he didnt hear anything from me since then..
im too precious to be a rebound girl..

[babyjapnurse01]

^ ang tigas ng mukha nun sis ah... gawin ka bang "spare" tire dahil "naflatan"? grrrrrr..

[beck19]

^korek. and he thought that i'm just playing hard to get.. duh?! i dont mind being single, there's no problem with being one, kesa naman gawin lang akong cork! (read : panakip-butas)..

to the threadstarter, hayaan mo na yung ex mo.. kung kayo talaga, umabot man ng gano katagal, magiging kayo pa rin.. in the meantime, invest in yourself..

[boracay2862]

  Sa akin past is past! Anyway we started as friends and will end as a friends. Ako we still communicate pero friends nalang. Walang bitterness! Kung may bittereness may love pa kayo sa isa't isa. I'll just be a great friend anyway may pinag samahan.Basta ba walang sad stories na sana kayo pa rin. That I don't like. Marami naman pwedeng pag usapan!

[miss_sissy]

Hi! Just wondering. Your ex boyfriend cheated on you before but you only found out he was with another girl after your break up. ( of course they were together since you guys were still together ) anyway after years of no contact, he suddenly contacts me through facebook.  What's up with that? i don't know if i should reply or not? I really need advice.  I'm torn between answering and not answering.

Why not? About san ba [textspeak!] message? Baka naman magsorry lang to have a closure sa naging past nyo. If that's the case, go lang, kung sakin un, I would want closure na rin before I move on para walang problem sa past.

Pero if it's something else, like gusto nyang makipagbalikan.. I'll think about it. Mahirap, kc wala ka naman assurance na di na nya gagawin [textspeak!] ginawa nya dati.

But if you have already moved on, at wala na sya effect sa buhay mo.. then wala naman problem kung rereplyan mo sya diba? After all, Past is past..

[mariedairy]

DEADMA KA LANG

[shopwisegirl]

ako ginawa ko nung ok na ako (since break up) nireplyan ko siya nung nagmessage siya sakin sa ym (hindi kasi ako nagrereply). Nung hindi ko nagustuhan yung sinasabi nya (yabang at flirt lang kasi pinagsasabi) hindi na ako nag reply ulit.. mararamdaman mo naman yan. if he's not worth it (kahit as friends), let go..

[kokobebe]

nangyari lang sakin to recently and I wasnt sure if I should reply or not. After 3 years of no communcation at all and a very bad break-up, my ex's name suddenly popped into my screen and wants to chat with me in Facebook. Una, nag-greet siya ng happy new year and because nagpapakabait nako this year, I politely replied and said happy new year too. Then he asked me how am I doing, sabi ko I'm doing great. Tapos dahil puro one liners lang talaga sagot ko sa mga tanong niya, bigla sabi, looks like I don't want to tell him anything daw. Sabi ko, what do you want to know then he replied with "anything". Anything?! Anything is too broad for me. Diniretso ko na nga eh, what do you want from me tas nag-logout lang.

Ang sakin lang, what's with the sudden interest? The break up was really that bad na affected pati yung mga sarili naming pamilya tapos mag-paparamdam bigla sa FB. Kung mag-sosorry, mag-sorry kaagad. Pero dont expect to be friends with me after everything that happened. It's just not right and it can never be fixed.

[gt76]

Sa experience ko naman after 2 long agony years nagparamdam at nagpakita sya. Tinanong ko sya kung baket? Una raw gusto nya magpasorry at pangalawa gusto nya bumalik kung tatanggapin ko pa. Imbes na maclose na ang dapat maclosed nagkaron pa ng second chance dahil mahal ko pa rin sya pero wrong timing kase inaayos ko na ang mga papers ko papuntang Dubai. Then for 2 years  nagcontinue ang aming communications kahit nasa ibang bansa na ako at nagkita pa kame ulit pero sad to say we were growing apart. Siguro hanggang don na lang yun. No regrets naman kung baket ako nakipagbalikan sa kanya. Atleast ngayon no "what ifs" na naglalaro sa isipan ko kung sakaling di ko sya binigyan ng chance. Kung di ukol di bubukol talaga.

Kung merong mga unfinished business chance mo na to para tapusin ang dapat matapos. Pero kung di ka na interesado dedmahin mo na lang, tutal nakamove on ka na.

[jpsv72]

Sayang sana nabasa ko na ang thred nato bago ko tinanggap ulit ang husband ko, buti nga kayo bf lang so kaya nyong i deadma eh ako asawa ko mismo after ng torture na ginawa sakin at ina bandona kami ng mga anak nya for almost 3 years, nakipagbalikan, ako namang si g*g* tinanggap, eto ngayon nagsisisi bakit ko pa sya tinanggap kc torture pa rin naman ang ginagawa nya sakin.....
hay ang lyf nga naman, bakit kc di pwedeng i delete at i re post and buhay....
So habang bf nyo pa lang pag nagawaan na kayo ng mali make the things right kaagad, maraming isda sa ocean, makakapag fishing kayo, i mean pili na kayo ng iba, once a rotten egg always a rotten so don't believe that everything will change kahit ibalik nyo pa sa dati may lamat na eh....

[stacies83221]

If wala na sa yo, the it's ok to talk naman. Know his agenda why he contacted you... but if he's just gonna talk his bitterness and misfortunes, just get out of there! Be clear. be cautious. Be frank that you're no longer interested. Friends, pwede. pero just keep your distance and make it clear na you've already moved on.

[lesters_gal]

My ex bf dumped me for no reason at all...tinanggap ko yun kahit masakit wala akong sinabi sa kanya na hindi maganda..after 7months he text me again.I had move on na kaya nagreply ako sa kanya and agreed to meet up with him and have dinner.ayun todo explain sha about his side.but I'm no longer interested with his reason.he wants me back pero I'm seeing someone else na.I still want him pero hindi ko na carry makipag relasyon sa kanya after what he did.I can't trust him na kasi..kaya ayun si mokong todo effort to win me back pero neknek nya no...

[twelvth_goddess]

My Puert Rican ex, who was my bf prior to my hubby now, has ego issues with our break up. It's been more than 5 years already but hanggang ngayon hinde pa mag-move on si g**o. When we were still together, sobrang playboy naman and lahat na ng chances binigay ko.  When he proposed and asked me to move in with him, I agreed and I said after he comes back from his 1 month US vacation, ok na. But then, sorry sya cus I met someone else (si hubby na yon) so I broke up with him when he came back.

He went through stages, anger, denial, and all. Hearthrob kase yan kaya he gets any girl he wants and sya lage nangiiwan. He told all of our friends how badly I treated him (kapal noh, considering what he put me through). He kept texting me and calling me over the course of those years kahit may iba na syang gf. Nagme-message din sa Friendster ko and all that, as in stalker type talaga. Minsan mamamahinga sya, tapos yan na naman ulit.

In short, ayan na naman sya ulit ngayon. Last year, I went to the States tapos he saw my FB pics, he was so mad, bakit daw I didnt tell him para we couldve met. I was pregnant that time, hinde na ni-respeto ang baby bump ko! So he would text, minsan mga ka-dramahan, seriously paulit-ulit nakakaloka. Tapos ngayon na naman, una nag-start asking about my baby ganyan. Aba, na-divert na naman ang usapan sa history namin. So hinde ko na sinasagot, nakakabwisit na kase. Pwede naman na friends pa kame kaso nakakairita na. The whole world moved on tapos he's still stuck there. People can be so weird, grabe!

[hannab80]

sis,

two things, it's either gusto makipagkabalikan o may kailangan.

ingat ka sis. i thhink you still have feelings kay ex kaya ka affected ng ganito. may risk involved. so better prepare yourself for the worst...which is falling again...lalo na he cheated on you.

[mystical]

Ignore talaga!

[rossierod]

same thing mga sis happened to me. Back in December 2010 he added me sa fb with a fake name eh ako naman si approve even if i don't know the one adding me. So days gone by and the recently added friends eh ndi ko pa na-bbrowse until such day na wala ako magawa and checked our common friends. Lo and behold his the ex-bf na sumira sa akin sa dati ko work. Well pinag sabay nya lang naman kme nung officemate ko at ending yung 3rd party yung pinili at ako ang iniwan. But they said "all good things must come to an end" at nag break na rin sila nung 3rd party.

To cut the story short he started chatting with me through fb then added me AGAIN to his YM account at halos everyday eh magka-chat kme like we used to do back in the old times.  Until 2 days ago bigla nalang sya naka offline sa YM, no new post sa fb as in ndi ko alam kung ano na nangyari sa kanya.

Bottom line is, ginulo nanaman nya ulit yung mundo ko na nag simula na ko ulit ibangon ng wala sya tapos eto sya ulit trying to be "friends" and reminisce if "we" have the chance in one of our chats tapos biglang BOOM wala nanaman sya ulit. Pero ngayon i know that im much stronger at kaya ko nalang ikibit balit lahat and shout "next"!

 

[ana mimi]

PINANSIN KO PERO BINABALEWALA KO

Yung first bf ko nung 12 years old pa ako, nakita ako sa FB and contacted me there.. malaki daw pinagbago ko.. syempre gumanda talaga ako.. I can still remember na pinagpalit nya ako nun at sya talaga ang first heartbreak ko..

Kaya nung nagkaron kami ng contact, talagang super puri sya saken.. at gusto pa ako i-date.. e dati nga hindi ako ma-date..

[books_mags]

may malaking BEWARE sign pag ex ang nag initiate ng ganyan.
there's no such thing as friends lalo na if the breakup is caused by cheating, lying, emotional abuse.  if the person didnt care enough about you to cause you so much pain before, why would things change now?  yeah yeah... people change... but it's a question of changing for the better or worst.  more often than not, exes come back to cause more damage. 
i had an ex na super apologize with crying and confession of all past mistakes, tapos wedding proposal na ang ino offer after 8 months of no communication.   buti na lang i have already moved on.  i found out a year after, the reason why he was trying to win me back was because he got another girl pregnant and ayaw niyang mapikot ng girl.  the girl was not well off and feeling niya hahabulin lang daw pera niya.  imagine kahit may brand new car siya, nagco commute siya para daw hindi siya hingian ng financial support nung girl.

[chang0505]

hi mga sis, share ko lang experience ko, i had my ex boyfriend, sobrang minahal ko siya at marami kaming pinagdaanang away at problema, then isang napakabigat na problema ang nangyari samin, at ako ang nagshoulder lahat nun, sobrang nasaktan ako sa nangyaring yun kaya i decided na makipaghiwalay na sa kanya kahit ayaw na niya, after months nagkaron na ko ulit ng boyfriend and good to say mag 3 years na ang relationship namin, masasabi kong nakapag move on na ko sa ex ko, pero last year lang nagulat ako sa biglang pagtawag niya, unregistered number kaya naman sinagot ko, sa totoo lang mga sis, nagulat ako at talagang kinabahan ako, sinagot ko siya, at kinukumusta niya ako. pinuntahan niya raw ako sa dati naming bahay pero wala na raw kami dun dahil sa lumipat na kami, gusto raw niyang mag usap kami, nagalit ako sa kanya, hindi ko siya sinigawan pero sobrang tigas ng pagkakasalita ko sa kanya. hindi ako nagagalit dahil mahal ko pa siya, kundi dahil nasasaktan pa rin ako kapag naaalala ko ang sakit na ginawa niya sakin. nalaman ko na lang na may pamilya na siya, at hindi na rin siya ulit nagtry na tawagan ako. siguro talagang destined na maghiwalay kami, at ang hindi na namin pagkikita. hindi na siya mawawala sa alaala ko dahil habambuhay kong dadalhin ang sakit na ibinigay niya sakin.. i just hope na dumating na yung time na masasabi kong napatawad ko na siya.