how do you discipline your kids?

[mami violy]

with my 4 years old son grabe minsan suko na kaming mag-asawa kasi lahat ng style nagawa na yata namin kaya lang ibang klase talaga yung anak ko tapos ang galing pang mag reason. kaya minsan di maiwasan na mapalo at masigawan sya. doble kulit pa nya nung dumating yung baby sister nya medyo selos kaya mas hirap kami ngayon to discipline him kaya yung pasensya ko talagang kailangan habaan kapag alam ko ng mawawala na tatawagin ko yung yaya nya at palabasin ko muna sya ng room or papasukin ko sya sa room after na marelax ko ang sarili ko saka ko sya kakausapin kaya lang wala din sa kanya kahit para akong sirang plaka sa kanya. kapag tinatanong namin kung tama yung ginawa nya sagot nya lagi no bakit nya ginawa sagot nya lagi I'm too excited, I cant hold my emotion. I thought its only a joke and it funny. minsan nga din nakita ko sya pinalo nya sa kamay yung kapatid nya sabi nya kasi you do bad thing its not correct I spank your hand

kaya as much as possible ayaw ko syang paluin puro paliwanag lang kasi ginagawa nya sa kapatid nya na 1 yr old

[jelly]

^sis ganyan din yun daughter ko.suko na din ako minsan...as in...lahat kami nakukunsume...kaya nakikiusap ako sa mga kasambahay namin na pagpasenshahan kasi iniisip ko kung ako sumusuko lalo na sila.
Kakarebond ko nga lang pakiramdam ko nakukulot na dahil sa kanya....
Andito lola niya kaya di ko pinapalo ayaw ng lola niya pero kung sa akin...talagang gusto ko paluin.totoo yun sinabi mo...since dumating my new baby mas makulit nga siya...pero di niya naman pinapalo...ayaw niya na umiiyak si baby sasabihan ka niya talaga...wag mo inisin darby! Ganun...
Mas hirap pa nga ako sa kanya keysa sa 7month old baby ko...that's why i started this thread...

[jelly]

''sugar-free sugar rush'' ang tawag namin sa kanya kasi kahit walang sweets ang hyper sobra...

[kaiz]

my son likes na kinakarga siya lagi kaya minsan mega iyak kapag binababa ko na. at times like this, i let him cry lang. minsan nga sinasabihan ko pa na "oh louder pa.." hehe. pero worried ako na baka maging spoiled siya kasi my hubby and my  MIL gives in agad kapag umiiyak anak ko

[chicshopaholic]

i realyy dont know how to discipline my baby =( super tigad ng ulo...HELP! may sinabi mong SLEEP...she would answer NO NO...I WONT SLEEP! huhu

[meldesiderio]

hay pareho pala tayo mga mommies, don't know din kasi kung dapat ko ba paluin anak ko he's just 1.5 years old.....

[jenny_2284]

for my kids naman, here's what i do.

for my daughter, is she did domething wrong or not nice, i give her choices, face the wall, no tv, no drawings, no play... in a calm voice but letting her know na im serious and i really meant what i say para she will keep her attention and also to let her know im not happy to what she did.

mostly pag face the wall pa lang umiiyak na, will let her stay there til tumigil sia at makapag isip din dun sa ginawa nia, then after that... kinakausap ko na why we let her do that, ask her ano mali nia para she will be aware next time, di na mauulit.

sa min effective naman, pag makulit, talagang we need to force her to do that...dapat kasi pakita naitn na tayo ang masunod not them , kaya minsan kailangan talaga tiisin khit minsan di natin kaya kasi para saknila din naman yun eh .


bihira kmi mamalo eh, if we palo naman sa pwet lang and we ask them na dumapa or iharap pwet nila, isang pala per kasalanan, like say...this palo os for not obeying mommy...and this 2nd palo is for not listening...tpaos talk session why we do that...gann

[jenny_2284]

ooopss correction lang, isang palo per isang fault (not pala) baka ma child abuse ako nian... hahaa.

we also do the "face the wall" thing sa son namin na two years old, at this early age he knows this concept na...sandali lang naman tapos di na sia umuulit sa foul nia...which i think is good.

[prettymamie]

naku mga mommies, mas mahirap magdiscipline ng kids pag kasama in-laws sa house. Tapos first apo pa and  only baby sa family ang anak nyo...

haayyy nakakatuyo ng dugo minsan!

there's this cliche nga, "if mommy says NO, ask grandma"

That sort of thing also happens to me and my 3yr old son. Mostly if i says NO, sumusunod naman sya sasabihin nya pa "ok, mommmy".But then pag lumapit na sya sa lola nya, puro "yes" naman. Kaya ayan super spoiled. Lahat ng gusto nya nasusunod. Konting iyak lang, give in agad.

Good thing, dito sa bahay sakin lang takot anak ko. Nasasaway ko sya pag may mali syang nagagawa. Behave sya agad pag nakita na mad-face expression ko. Yun ay kapag kami lang dalawa. Bad thing here is, pag kaharap in laws ko, di sya sumusunod. kahit anong saway ko or pandidilat wa epek. Alam nya kasi andyan naman mga lola nya, may kakampi sya.

Kaya ang ginagawa ko, inilalayo ko muna sya, yung kami lang dalawa,saka ko sya kakausapin. At sasabihin mali ginawa nya. Since malayo kami sa mga spoiler behave naman agad sya. He even knows how to say " Im sorry, mommy" sabay hug.

O diba kahit gano nakakatuyo ng dugo minsan kakulitan nila plus pang-iispoiled ng inlaws na di rin maiiwasan, pag ganung eksenang sweetness na ng kiddos, nakakamelt talaga.

[kaiz]

^i agree with you sis. mahirap magdiscipline ng anak kapag kasama in laws

[jenny_2284]

^^ korek. That's one factor Kaya mas maganda nakabukod. Minsan kahit pakiusapan mo pa sila or sabihan, they won't mind basta makuha [textspeak!] Nila loob Ng apo Nila. Tapos minsan ang hilig Nila mag compare kng pano sila mag discipline sayo, wag ganito, wag ganyan ... They tend to forget na lahat tayo magkakaiba and me sariling diskarte .

[helencons]

my two year old son kinda grasped the idea na, he must have done something not nice or we dont like, kapag binigyan na namin sya ng choice, "one yung gusto namin ipagawa sa kanya or face the wall," syempre yung first ang gusto nya....

yes, he usually starts to cry kapag sinabi ng daddy nya na face the wall pero he learns na para di sya magface the wall uli, he should not repeat yung last na ginawa nya.

for us, this is effective.we dont touch him pero he begins to know acts that are acceptable to us and those that are not.

[tink ^-_^]

13months na baby ko mahilig siyang mamalo ng face! once you carry him, he would slap your face right away! is it ok to let him do this? pag pinalo namin ang kamay niya and pagsasabihan, papaluin din niya kami..

[cescylle]

naku mga mommies, mas mahirap magdiscipline ng kids pag kasama in-laws sa house. Tapos first apo pa and  only baby sa family ang anak nyo...

haayyy nakakatuyo ng dugo minsan!

there's this cliche nga, "if mommy says NO, ask grandma"

very true, very very true!

mahirap pa sa kin, working mom ako... SIGH!

[gingersnap]

for me no spanking din, especially for kids 2yrs old and below, hindi pa nila alam what you're doing and might end up thinking na tama yun and worst gayahin nya pa yun.i grew up na pinapalo, pero during my elementary days yun and ayoko din gawin sa mga kids ko coz hindi sya masayang experience.that's for me lang po ha, nothing against those who use spanking as a form of discipline, iba iba po kase talaga ang mga kids.

fortunately effective ang masinsinang usapan sa eldest ko, yun lang pag kinakausap ko sya, sabay kaming umiiyak hehe. can't help but cry, masakit sa kalooban yung ganun di ba.gusto ko din kase ma-impart sa kanya na nasasaktan ako sa ginagawa nya. fortunately effective talaga, tong son ko sensitive sa feelings ng iba, kaya alam nya pag mali ang gagawin nya alam nya na may masasaktan. Now that he's big na, 9yrs old, di na mahirap i-discipline kase napurga ata ka usap ng usap ng usap kami when he was small pa. ginagawa ko pa nung maliit sya, pag tulog sya, i whisper to him that i love him so much and sana lumaki syang mabait etc etc. syempre iba pa yung pag gising nya and naririnig nya.di ko sure kung nakatulong pero so far, ok kami ng eldest ko when it comes to disciplining.

Also in disciplining, it helps kung katulong mo ang mga tao sa paligid mo. Like sa amin, nagusap kami ni hubby na pag pinagsasabihan ko ang bata, wag sya makikialam or hindi sya pwede sumabat, umawat or aluin ang bata. ako lang muna. kase kung makikiaalam sya, mababalewala ang mga sinasabi ko kung alam nya na may matatakbuhan sya. ang hirap lalo na kung si hubby ang kumakausap kay kuya, naririnig ko na lang minsan tumataas ang boses, hinahayaan ko na lang alam ko naman na magbe benefit din kami in the long run.

However, eto may however na...hahaha. mukhang dito sa youngest ko masusubukan ang patient ko, baby pa lang sobrang kulit na, sana effective din sa kanya ang style namin sa kuya nya. di pa namin masyado nata try since he just turned 1yr old. pag kinakausap pa kase sya di pa sya responsive so siguro in a month or so pwede na kami magpaulit ulit ng reminder na parang sirang plaka.mas maaga mag-start the better.

[marose17]

I've learned to use the Voice of Authority and the Voice of Reason lately.  Mas effective than shouting at my kids. 

As to what this is all about, you can check out Supernanny by Jo Frost.

[babywaby]

we train our kids as early as her 7 or 8 month, kahit papano nakakaintindi na yung ganung age eh. we say a lot of praises if she did something right and good. we say NO if needed.

for our older children, reward system and a loooooot of explaining. patience kahit minsan dimo na alam kung saan kukunin. most important for us is CONSISTENCY.

[sweet angel]

ang gagagaling nyo naman...

nauubusan na ko ng pasensya sa anak ko, kapagsinabing wag lalo gagawin, tumitigil lang sya kapag sinabi ko mommy will go away tapos punta ko door. nakapagod din yung ganun wish ko sana isang sabihan lang, sumusunod na

[babywaby]

to lessen the kunsumisyon and all, better discipline them as early as possible. it becomes harder when they grow up. walang madali sa pagiging parent...at walang short cuts. pag nag short cut ka...baka maging Jason Ivler ang anak mo. hahaha joke...but possible diba. so dibale nang mahirap basta ma instill sa kanila yung values and discipline

[kimebies]

Naku, this one I have to really learn. Dati when I was single, whenever I see kids that mop themselves on the mall's flooring, I get pissed. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, when I have my own kids na, they will never be like that.

Fast-forward to this date...

My almost 23-month old son is an unico apo on both sides. Meaning, he's somewhat spoiled to death. At ngayon, pag hindi napag-bigyan sa gusto na, he'll throw tantrums anytime, anywhere he likes. Nakakahiya talaga. I tried everything- spanking, explaining to him calmly that what he did is wrong, etc. pero at times, he obeys pero minsan, he'll cry to death until hindi nya nakukuha gusto nya.

According naman sa nanny nya and helpers here sa house, kapag sila-sila lang naiiwan, my son is very behaved daw. Rarely cries and obeys them all the time. Pag nakikita kami ng Dad nya, lumalakas ang loob nya and he gets really naughty.

I am really worried cos shempre, I don't want him to grow up like that. Pero what should I do?