Is it right to avoid a "friend"?

[prettynvain]

hay naku mga sisses..malas ako pag dating sa friends sa ngayon mahirap maghanap ng true friend..kadalasan inggit lang ang ikakasira nyo kaya mas focus na lang ako sa family ko anyways nabubuhay naman tayo kahit onti lang firends natin diba at saka stress lang minsan dulot nila so better get busy on ourselves pabeauty na lang kesa makichika sa mga plastic na akala natin true satin..malalaman mo lang friend turing sayo pag kaylangan mo tulong nya at nandun sya to help test nyo mga friends nyo pag wala effort means you are not a friend for her..ako sobra makipag kaybigan kaya minsan inaabuso lang ako..dala na ako..

agree sis! just now kaaway ko ex-friend ko.. ex na kase di ko na sya friend! i treated her nice, pag kelangan nya help, andyan ako.. may utang pa nga sya sa akin.. tapos narinig ko na lang sinisiraan na ko.. worst eh, that's all lies! i jus felt bad about that.. sabi ng ani hubby, don't waste my time on them daw, they are not worth it..

[health.gal]

if you want to avoid a person, then she/he is no longer called a "friend"

i only surround myself with people who are worthy to be my friends 

[daveigh]

YES. As in shout ito! hehe!

Here's my share of the story:

Me and my closest ofcmates befriended this new girl after being transferred to our place (she used to be from somewhere else). she seemed so nice, uber friendly, very helpful. there are times she confided to us a problem with her team mate, as in ina-abuse daw sya emotionally. we took her side syempre, but unbeknownst to us, she was making stories na pala. when we heard the side of the other team mate (a guy), ayun, lumabas ang katotohanan na she was making stories, may gusto pala sya dun sa guy, and when the guy is courting a diff girl in the ofc, sinisiraan nya kahit sa ibang flr namin! scary! so now we avoid her like a leper.

but before that, we tried to tell her na stop thinking na syota sya, she should know her place, pero bingi. ilusyonada na talaga. i confronted her directly to stop her kahibangan pero sya pa ang umiwas sa akin. well, good for me... hala!

[sweetubeng]

Let go of the friends who no longer belong in your world and who don't want to be in your world. We're growing up, we change, it's either you and your friend embrace the new person in you or pakawalan na lang ang lahat dahil hindi matanggap ang pagbabago:) besides you can tell who are your real and true friends when the time that your down.

[tennisgirl]

kwento ko lang ulit, tumawag sya sakin last week. After so long. Isip ko, "siguro may ipagyayabang to". And tama ako, kinwentuhan lang nya ko na may bago syang phone.  Ohkkayyyy!

may ganyan din akong ex-friend sis! dati tumawag sya sa sa akin, cel to cel! naisip ko siguro pinagmamalaki nya na may cell na sya ngayon kasi nung college kami, nakikitext lang sya dun sa isang friend namin or borrow siya ng cell from her ate. Lately naman, ininvite ako sa facebook. ayun, nagyayabang na naman! pinagyayabang nya na she went to canada for vacation but i found out that she went there to look for a job.

[LeStSkY]

now im avoiding my ex bestfriend.. sad but true.. ang hirap rin

[trizh]

 ^ so true sis. andun yung panghihinayang sa good memories, at sa pinagsamahan diba.. hay.. ako rin, sad. pero alam ko ito ang tamang gawin..

[kwinchesters]

Balita ko lang na nagkaayos na kami ng friend ko na iniwasan ko. I believe si God na din ang nagtulak sakin para makipagbati dahil kaylangan ng masasandalan yung friend ko.
Naghiwalay sila ng asawa nya recently at pinalayas sya nito sa bahay nila. Naiwan yung mga anak sa lalaki, kaya sobrang depressed ang kaibigan ko. Now she have a boyfriend na may pamilya na din so lalong gumulo ang sitwasyon, naging other woman pa friend ko.
Yung papel ko sa pangyayaring ito is to listen sa mga problema nya. I have no power to influence her decisions,pero sinubukan kong magbigay ng advice. I just let God to lay justice to those who deserve it.
Yung attitude nya hindi pa din nagbago, me kayabangan pa din to be honest. Pero as much as possible hindi ako ang unang tatawag or magtetext sa kanya, kung maalala nya ko salamat, kung hindi okay lang sakin. Kung kaylangan nya kausap andito lang ko, pero may boundaries nako ngayon, hindi nako nageexpect sa kanya na makinig sa problema ko, most of the time di nga nya ko tinatanong kung anong meron sa buhay ko, basta ang sabi ko sa sarili ko, the only help i can get is help coming from myself.

[LeStSkY]

^ so true sis. andun yung panghihinayang sa good memories, at sa pinagsamahan diba.. hay.. ako rin, sad. pero alam ko ito ang tamang gawin..

tamah.. kaw rin ba ganun.. ang mahirap sakin kasi lalaki bestfriend ko tapos nag-iisa lang siya

[happie]

trizh same lang with breaking up with a boyfriend, there are memories na hindi makakalimutan but then if talagang you can no longer be in the friendship, you have to let go.

[exgoddess]

i love this quotes  "i rather have few friend that will stay all the way than a lot of fake friends"

[trizh]

  -- hayy so true sisters.. ngayon sa iba na siya sumasama.. although medyo sad parin ako, pero alam niyo, para akong nabunutan ng tinik.. maalwan din sa pakiramdam..

[Amphitrite]

I only avoid a friend kung meron kaming tampuhan. Hindi kasi namin ugali mag-away, mag-sigawan o mag-sabihan ng nakakasakit na salit sa isa't-isa. Parehas kami ng nagpapalamig muna ng init ng ulo bago mag-usap ulet.

[ghellybeans]

Yah I think so it's alright. Sometimes you can talk it out but we all have minds of our own and not all of us are mature enough to realize if we did someone wrong. More so mature enough to accept our mistakes. Even the mature ones get immature at times. I had done it myself because you know sometimes it is not just healthy to keep people in your life when all they do is hurt you or pull you down. :|

If your friend knows you enough she'll get a hint on why you are avoiding her.

[fibia]

Let go of the friends who no longer belong in your world and who don't want to be in your world. We're growing up, we change, it's either you and your friend embrace the new person in you or pakawalan na lang ang lahat dahil hindi matanggap ang pagbabago:) besides you can tell who are your real and true friends when the time that your down.

Very true.

Very true sis. I thought may mgankabarkada ako, high school pa lang magkakasama na kami. Then i got pregnant, nawala na sila kahat. True, hsimula nun hindi na ako nakaka join sa gimik nila. Pero feel ko unti unti nagdrift apart na kami.

Today i felt really sad. Iniignore ng isang friend ko ug message ko sa YN and FB since friday. Eh may pinadala pa naman ako sa us address nya.

When she finally answered my email today, may paninising kasama. Keso daw "sana kasi ganito ginawa mo..." and so forth.

[ravena]

yes, i avoid these people i'm with before na naging traitor. i don't hangout or communicate with them.

[ms.holly]

definitely, not every person that comes in our life will be our friend forever. sometimes its not anyones fault like maybe your  not likeable or shes not likeable sometimes people just drift off and its no ones fault. 

besides cliche as it may sound friends are like diamonds, rare and few.

[lilmissprettydiva]

yep. it happened to me. lahat kaming friends nya inaway nya before she went to London. Yung isa namin friend naisumpa pa sya na sana daw ang karma nya eh nag aantay dun sa London.

Ako naman I never cursed her or ill-wish her. Pero I don't want to be associated with her anymore nor be friends with her. For me I don't see any reasons pa. Basta ang sabi lang namin mga friends  nya for sure darating yung araw na hihingi sya ng tulong samin pero when that time come wala na kaming lahat na kaibigan nya.

[tennisgirl]

yep. it happened to me. lahat kaming friends nya inaway nya before she went to London. Yung isa namin friend naisumpa pa sya na sana daw ang karma nya eh nag aantay dun sa London.

Ako naman I never cursed her or ill-wish her. Pero I don't want to be associated with her anymore nor be friends with her. For me I don't see any reasons pa. Basta ang sabi lang namin mga friends  nya for sure darating yung araw na hihingi sya ng tulong samin pero when that time come wala na kaming lahat na kaibigan nya.

swerte pa rin yang friend mo sis, nakapunta pa ng london. hehe. pero maiba ako. napansin ko lang na minsan yung mga pasaway nating friends eh sila pang sinuswerte. bakit nga kaya?

[pinkk]

a fiend and is not a friend if she gets you involved in worst of things. I avoided a friend who tried drugs and sex flings as a means of escape. A person who turned out from good to worst is a dilemma, no one except their own self could help them realize these mistakes.
I avoided a friend who almost got me drowned in a pool before, i hope she doesnt kill patients as a general practitioner of medicine in a gov't post in Laguna.