Is it right to avoid a "friend"?

[lilmissprettydiva]

^^ naku sis don't be fooled that just because they went there eh they living the high life . Yung ex-friend ko naman kaya pumunta ng London eh dahil last resort nya na yun and try her luck. She'd done lots of bad things before and siguro time will tell nalang kelan sasabog lahat ng yun. Naiinis lang ako dun sa ex-friend ko na yun kasi dati kulang nalang wag ako patulugin para humingi ng advice sa work at sa lovelife tapos aawayin pa ako. Sa akin naman ok lang tumulong pero wag naman ako kakalabanin. Mabait ako sa kaibigan and I can't stand it when someone backstabs me. Wala na ako balita sa ex-friend ko na yan at wala rin ako plan makibalita. 

[ishko]

yes. it is right specially if what you call a "friend" is not really a friend but actually an enemy...

[tennisgirl]

^^ naku sis don't be fooled that just because they went there eh they living the high life . Yung ex-friend ko naman kaya pumunta ng London eh dahil last resort nya na yun and try her luck. She'd done lots of bad things before and siguro time will tell nalang kelan sasabog lahat ng yun. Naiinis lang ako dun sa ex-friend ko na yun kasi dati kulang nalang wag ako patulugin para humingi ng advice sa work at sa lovelife tapos aawayin pa ako. Sa akin naman ok lang tumulong pero wag naman ako kakalabanin. Mabait ako sa kaibigan and I can't stand it when someone backstabs me. Wala na ako balita sa ex-friend ko na yan at wala rin ako plan makibalita.

naku sis parang pareho tayo ng frenemy hehe. backstabber din sya. she went naman to canada to try her luck. 1 year mahigit sya doon, i dont know kung anong job nya. early this year umuwi na sya and i dont know kung anong work na nya ngayon. tahimik ang facebook and friendster nya ngayon eh hehe. masyado kasing ambitious yung girl na yon kaya lahat ng feeling nya na magpapayaman sa kanya and make her sikat ginagawa nya.

[lilmissprettydiva]

^ naku sis, ganyang ganyan din ang ex-friend ko. Sobrang ambitious gusto nya makapag asawa ng foreigner at yumaman in the fastest way she can. I'm not against it pero minsan kasi she's crossing the line into turning a prostitute. Kaw na makipag blind date sa abroad eh ni hindi mo kilala yung i-meet mo dun tapos mag isa lang sya pumunta dun. I admire her guts pero to think na rrisk ko yung sarili ko sa ganung way para lang sa sobrang ambition, I think kaya ko rin maging successful on my own way.

One of our friend mentioned kaya daw ganun yung ex-friend ko kasi nga marami daw sya frustrations at insecurities. Sobrang impatient kasi sya maghanap ng guy na seseryoso sa kanya. Hindi kasi sanay yun na walang bf. For me, masyado na sya negative and somehow nag-iba ugali nya since hindi ko na nga masakyan ugali nya.

[tennisgirl]

^ naku sis, ganyang ganyan din ang ex-friend ko. Sobrang ambitious gusto nya makapag asawa ng foreigner at yumaman in the fastest way she can. I'm not against it pero minsan kasi she's crossing the line into turning a prostitute. Kaw na makipag blind date sa abroad eh ni hindi mo kilala yung i-meet mo dun tapos mag isa lang sya pumunta dun. I admire her guts pero to think na rrisk ko yung sarili ko sa ganung way para lang sa sobrang ambition, I think kaya ko rin maging successful on my own way.

One of our friend mentioned kaya daw ganun yung ex-friend ko kasi nga marami daw sya frustrations at insecurities. Sobrang impatient kasi sya maghanap ng guy na seseryoso sa kanya. Hindi kasi sanay yun na walang bf. For me, masyado na sya negative and somehow nag-iba ugali nya since hindi ko na nga masakyan ugali nya.

yung frenemy ko insecure din yun. kahit nga sa ate nya mukang insecure din. she wants her own car kaya nagmedrep din sya like her sister. pero yung sis nya nagmedrep para mapag-aral silang magkakapatid pero sya for her own interests lang naman. may feeling nga ako na kaya sya nag-canada its bec nainggit sya dun sa isang friend namin. ganyan nga siguro mga taong puro insecurities, walang kasiyahan sa buhay.

[lilmissprettydiva]

^ true sis. Despite the fact na binibigyan din naman sila ng blessings ni Lord di pa rin makuntento. Yun naman friend ko basta major goal nya eh maka-snag ng mayaman na foreigner talaga. As in pag pumupunta yan ng mall para i-meet yung mga prospects nya she dresses super seductive. Kita cleavage, maiksing skirt and too high heels.

Nung una I keep telling her to wait for someone special eh mukhang give up na sya sa paghihintay. Hanggang inabutan na nga kami na magkaroon ng gap. Anyways di lang naman sya kaibigan ko kaya di masyadong kawalan. Nakakapanghinayang lang kasi kahit papano may pinagsamahan kayo.

[pinkk]

I would like to share this thought that mis-matched interests and lifestyles( particularly women )should avoid personal bondings unless its related to anything work or business.

[ebiko]

sometimes, kapag nakaka-irita na siya, lahat ng negative vibes e nakukuha mo na, siguro time to avoid that friend ..  space muna

[pretinnes]

Let go of the friends who no longer belong in your world and who don't want to be in your world. We're growing up, we change, it's either you and your friend embrace the new person in you or pakawalan na lang ang lahat dahil hindi matanggap ang pagbabago:) besides you can tell who are your real and true friends when the time that your down.

i like how you said it sis. recently i am trying to avoid a friend din. we're really good friends and okay naman relationship namin. until recently,parang ayaw na niya makipag usap sa akin.ako kasi ang tipo na mahilig mangumusta, tumawag, chat, text.siya parang walang gana at minsan, binastos pa ako.di man lang sinagot chat ko tapos sabi niya later busy daw siya palagi, in a sarcastic way. so parang ako, sige. ayos lang. nangungumusta lang naman ako. feeling ko kasi may pagka insecure din ang friend na to. dami niya emotional baggage din. toxic siya kumbaga.

[pinkk]

iwasan ang friend na mistress types
http://ph.news.yahoo.com/spot/20101210/tel-wife-attacks-husband-s-alleged-mistr-5a3fdeb.html

[ms.florida]

yes, at kailangan tanggapin na magkaiba na ang buhay namin, nakakalungkot 

[gorgeousmama]

Marami siyang foul na nagawa sakin when we were still room mates. Countless and I don't want to elaborate further. Lalong foul nung wedding day ko, parang hindi nya pinahalagahan. I want to avoid her, I don't want to communicate with her anymore and totally forget about our "friendship" (kung itinuring nya nga akong real friend). I treated her as my sister, as her confidante esp. when she needs me. May mga utang pa siya sakin na hindi ko na siningil at mga gamit na hindi na isinoli sa akin. Kahit pano ko isipin, hindi nya ko pinahalagahan.

Is avoiding her suits her right? I don't want to do that , really. But I don't want to surround myself with people like her.

we have different approach,in dealing with these kind of so called friend
 some would sit down and talk with no holds bar, put the cards on the table and will level off,

for some people they will avoid the person na lang and leave her on the dark

or will just give a cold shoulder treatment and keep distance..

it depends on the level of your friendship

if your friend is behaving that way my guess is she has a personal issue with you, insecurity, jealousy..

but in the first place i think she would not behave that way if you did not allowed her..

in my opinion, i would stop being a friend to her, if you are the type that is comfortable in letting your feelings out, then you might as well talk it over with her.., if she stays the same, i dont see any reason to continue your friendship with her...

keep a distance.. but dont avoid her..
that kind of person should not have a place in your life...

[glamorosa_09]

im avoiding a very close friend right now... and she has no idea about it.

I'm disgusted with her bf... and syempre when we chitchat, for sure it would be all about him.

Don't want to hear anymore about the company she's working with now. Ang tagal ko nang umalis sa company na yun dahil AYAW ko talaga dun...

so sad for the friendship... kaya lang di na masaya ang mga pinagkukwentuhan namin...

[showermist]

Yes. At least in my case. But I don't totally shut my door- more like space.

Mga materialist. Inggitera to the highest level

[FOURever]

for me, it is right talaga. I once was in a circle of friends, we have different personalities but we didn't know why pero ok kami magkakasama. One of my closest friends was super rich pero mabait naman.. Pero nagkaroon ng time na di ko alam kung bakit, some of them became dependent. Lagi naman ako nagpapasensya. Pag may ayaw sila or may away kami, pinapakinggan at inuunawa ko sila.. Tapos once, tinanong lang ako tapos di ko naintindihan kaya facial expression ko at sabi ko, 'ha?'.. Di yata nya narinig. Naging big deal. Biglang pinagkaisahan na ako at yung bestfriend ko. Kesyo kami daw di namamansin. Pero siya yung unang lumayo.. Tapos ginatungan pa nung iba, na ganun din daw ginagawa nung bestfriend ko sa kanila.. Pero nagkaayos ayos na. Then naging dependent sila talaga na gusto nila kami ng bestfriend ko bibili ng lunch para may makakainan kaming fastfood/restau.. Sila kasi baon baon lang. Pag may baon din kami, magagalit pa. Then, may group project kami. I was forced to be the leader. Pinakinggan ko sila, tapos sinunod ko yung decision majority. Pero nung gumagawa na kami, napansin ko walang patutunguhan yung topic namin so i asked them kung pwede ichange ng plan. Then sabi nila ok, sila pa nag suggest ng topic. Pero after that, ako na and my bestfriend ang 90% gumawa. Yung rich friend ko lang nag burn at isang friend nagbigay ng music.. So, nung pinasa namin, binigay ko rin ratings ko. Mababa yung ratings ko sa kanila kasi yung iba totally walang ginawa. Si super rich friend ang wala talagang ginawa except pag burn ng project. Nung nalaman nila yun, they gave me the lowest rate na rin. Mas mataas pa yung sa rich friend ko. Puro puri yung comments nila dun pero puro nega yung akin. Nakarating na nga sa prof yun kasi tinext ko sila asking why ganun ratings sakin. Ayun, pinapalabas pa na sila yung maraming ginawa. After that, nag usap kami, kung ano ano pa sabi nung isang friend ko na foul. Even texted me few threats. After that, i dumped them. I mean, avoid na talaga. Ayun, i am happier now. Lahat sila may bagsak na subject. Parepareha sila ng bagsak.

Tapos now, yung mga blockmates namin, tinatanong nila kung may kinukwento daw ako na nega about them. Naku. Takot na takot masira ang images. Well, tahimik lang naman ako. Natatakot yata sila sa sarili nilang multo. Ang masama kasi sa kwento nila, dagdag bawas na eh..

[felinedivine]

pajoin...pag may frenemy ka avoid that person na heart aches and stress lang makukuha mo and makikita mo nalang sarili mo na miserable dahil sa kagagawan nya. Inggit kasi ang mga yan sa kung anong meron ka kaya ginagawa nila to feel good about themselves is inaatake ka subtly pero tagos sa puso mo...hehe...yan ang naexperience ko sa frenemy kong insecured but deny to the max naman ako i made a lot of excuses for her and di ko na pinansin mga patama niya sakin kaso napuno na ako kaya ngayon im avoiding her and in the near future tatanggalin ko na siya sa buhay ko...para siyang poison sa buhay ko kasi after talking with her i feel bad about myself nagsisilabasan insecurities ko and when i stopped communicating and hanging out with the girl I had no more negative feelings about me parang gumaan buhay ko... trust me guys get rid of that bad friend now, avoid her  baka magsisi ka...

[tennisgirl]

pajoin...pag may frenemy ka avoid that person na heart aches and stress lang makukuha mo and makikita mo nalang sarili mo na miserable dahil sa kagagawan nya. Inggit kasi ang mga yan sa kung anong meron ka kaya ginagawa nila to feel good about themselves is inaatake ka subtly pero tagos sa puso mo...hehe...yan ang naexperience ko sa frenemy kong insecured but deny to the max naman ako i made a lot of excuses for her and di ko na pinansin mga patama niya sakin kaso napuno na ako kaya ngayon im avoiding her and in the near future tatanggalin ko na siya sa buhay ko...para siyang poison sa buhay ko kasi after talking with her i feel bad about myself nagsisilabasan insecurities ko and when i stopped communicating and hanging out with the girl I had no more negative feelings about me parang gumaan buhay ko... trust me guys get rid of that bad friend now, avoid her  baka magsisi ka...

agree ako dyan sis. na-experience ko din yan. ngayong wala na akong balita about her (kasi wala naman na rin syang maibalita/maipagyabang about herself) gumaan din ang pakiramdam ko.

[felinedivine]

^ yes tama...if you sense and feel that someone is a bad friend, frenemy whatever SCRAM!!! get away from that person as fast as you can before you invest more emotions and trust on the relationship/friendship ( hmp ewan ko lang kung matatawag ng hitad na friendship yung meron kayo )...ang masasabi ko lang maswerte yung mga taong walang frenemy...a real friend is really really hard to find...

[mooncake and leaves]

I have someone in my life like this. But I can't cut her off completely. She's not that bad. Balahura lang talaga. Thing is, I'm at that point na in my life na I'm tired of taking other people's crap. Napuno na din ako. Saka when I look back at how she treated me especially the last few years- muntik na ako lunurin sa pool (joke sa kanya yun pero dinibdib ko talaga kasi hello eh kung nalunod nga ako), yung time na she gave me a hard time and won't accept my apology and yung overall lang pambabastos I get from her. It also doesn't help na ang yabang niya.

To be fair to her, she's always been like that. And part of being a good friend is accepting them warts and all. Blah blah blah. Howell. Basta, 'di ko na talaga keri eh. Ayoko na ata maging good friend.

[pinkk]

I have already avoided a friend for the last 7months now, me and her have known each other since 2006,  i severed my ties with her last year, its over and gone and maybe someday we might be bump into each other again, who knows?