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Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« on: April 14, 2009, 04:15:02 pm »
I'm not sure if this topic is on the right thread, but since this is all about faith / beliefs or what we believe in, I decided to put it in this thread..

Anyway, a relative of us died recently and during the wake, there are lots of "pamahiin" that came up, such as:

1.  The rosary that the deceased holds should be broken

2.  Dapat daw walang suot na shoes ang patay kasi pag dadalaw yung soul nila, madidinig mo yung yabag cos may sapatos nga >.<

3.  Bawal daw ihatid ng namatayan yung mga bisita palabas ng burulan

4. Bawal mag visit ng wake yung mga may sakit and mga buntis

I'm curious to know what other pamahiins are there during wakes / burial.  Pls post here those "pamahiin" that you know of and its better if there is an explanation for it..  I figured there's nothing wrong to play it safe for as long as we don't overdo it naman..

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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #1 on: April 14, 2009, 04:37:31 pm »
Hmm, when my dad died, they said to refrain from crying over the coffin, bawal daw matuluan ng luha ang coffin---kasi daw hindi daw makakamove on ang mga patay, bibigat daw ang loob nila or something.

Huwag din daw maglagay ng pictures ng family members (yung mga buhay pa) sa ibabaw ng coffin. Dapat yung pic lang ng patay, kasi parang ipinaglulukasa mo rin daw yung mga buhay pa...

And nung ililibing na, lahat ng kids na bata pa, itinawin over the coffin, para daw hindi dalawin ng patay.

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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #2 on: April 14, 2009, 06:35:35 pm »
"Wala namang mawawala kun papaniwalaan ang matatanda.."  I often hear it say kapag pinag-uusapan ang mga pamahiin.   Many of these superstitions are harmless maybe, but if we dig deep into their meaning, we will find some of them come from beliefs that are not consistent with what the Bible teaches.  Superstitions are foolish beliefs as what 1st Peter 3:13 and 14 says:

     13 who is going to harm you if you are eager to do good? 14 But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed. "Do not fear what they fear; do not be frightened." (NIV)

    And if we profess we are Christians ( I mean, all believers of Jesus Christ)  we have a hope in Christ Jesus which replaces all fear, all foolish beliefs and superstitions passed down to us through the years.

mga Sis,  Proverbs 29:25 says, 

    "Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. (NIV)  ;)
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #3 on: April 14, 2009, 06:53:06 pm »
@angeleigh:  makes sense yung mga sinabi mo with explanations pa :)

@alwynne24: yea you're right.. pero im kinda matatakutin and ayaw ko lang talaga mamulto hehe
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #4 on: April 16, 2009, 09:55:44 am »
sa probinsya sa ilocos, ilocano ang father ko.

when he died, dami pamahiin ng mga kamaganak namin from ilocos.

Bawal itapat ang coffin sa door

Bawal tignan ang coffin na binababa sa ground ng family, dapat mejo malayo sila

Meron dapat nakabantay palagi, kaya decking kami nun

Bawal magwalis

Bawal magtira ng food na ginamit during wake, yung mga biscuits ganyan pag na libing.

Nung minsan naman sa pampanga, yung damit ng patay nakasabit sa harap ng bahay, iwas ulan daw.

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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #5 on: April 16, 2009, 10:08:42 am »
isa lang lagi sinasabi ng granmother ko sa akin pag dumalaw sa wake.. never eat daw the food served tsaka kapag paalis ka na 'wag na 'wag kang magpapaalam.
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #6 on: April 16, 2009, 10:26:01 am »
I don't know if it's pamahiin pero bawal daw magdamit ng bright colors ewan ko kung bakit. tapos bawal pa ata magdamit ng red.
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« Reply #7 on: April 16, 2009, 11:56:39 am »
paano if yung daughters ng namatay pregnant hindi yun pwede na nasa wake??
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #8 on: April 16, 2009, 12:26:54 pm »
the one i remember is pag may kids kakargahin dapar over the casket. i duno bakit. [textspeak!] para di dalawin.
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #9 on: April 16, 2009, 12:33:02 pm »
bawal daw magwalis, and bawal punasan yung alikabok sa coffin (don't know why)

if sa house nakaburol, wag daw maliligo yung mga kaanak dun sa banyo ng house (don't know why)


kung yung namatay eh open ang hands, dapat daw i-close (para di magsunod sunod ang patay sa pamilya)
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #10 on: April 16, 2009, 12:40:41 pm »
* Kapag ilalabas na yung coffin from the house, dapat walang matatamaan ang kahit na anong part ng house.
* Bawal maligo sa loob ng bahay kung saan may nakaburol
* Bawal sumundo or maghatid ang immediate relative sa mga bisita
* Hwag din daw magse-serve ng refreshment ang immediate relative sa mga bisita
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #11 on: April 16, 2009, 11:59:56 pm »
"Wala namang mawawala kun papaniwalaan ang matatanda.."  I often hear it say kapag pinag-uusapan ang mga pamahiin.   Many of these superstitions are harmless maybe, but if we dig deep into their meaning, we will find some of them come from beliefs that are not consistent with what the Bible teaches.  Superstitions are foolish beliefs as what 1st Peter 3:13 and 14 says:

     13 who is going to harm you if you are eager to do good? 14 But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed. "Do not fear what they fear; do not be frightened." (NIV)

    And if we profess we are Christians ( I mean, all believers of Jesus Christ)  we have a hope in Christ Jesus which replaces all fear, all foolish beliefs and superstitions passed down to us through the years.

mga Sis,  Proverbs 29:25 says, 

    "Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. (NIV)  ;)

Super inspiring yung mga verses, Thanks for sharing.
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #12 on: April 17, 2009, 12:08:16 am »
paano if yung daughters ng namatay pregnant hindi yun pwede na nasa wake??

Sa chinese kasi may nilalagay sa may tiyan eh.
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #13 on: April 17, 2009, 01:13:25 am »
Sa chinese kasi may nilalagay sa may tiyan eh.

ano po yun??
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #14 on: April 17, 2009, 07:33:43 am »
sa Norte din ang dad ko kaya ang daming pamahiin.

pinakamalabong narinig ko e bawal maligo ang pamilya ng namatay habang hindi pa nililibing.  e paano kung isang lingo ang burol? ???

bawal magwalis.  eto talaga e walang makapag-justify sakin.

wag uuwi ng diretso sa bahay mula sa libing.  para hindi daw sumunod sa bahay.

hindi pwedeng sumabay ang na-biyuda sa karo, dapat e alternate route ang kunin niya papunta sa sementeryo.  kasi daw e baka sundan daw ang namatay. 

kapag may nadaanan ka daw na patay e dapat magtapon ka ng abuloy.  pamasahe daw ng namatay yun. ???

madami pa sila sinabi nun eh.  kasama na kasi talaga sa kultura natin ang mga pamahiin.
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #15 on: April 17, 2009, 08:05:51 am »
^^ ay oo may naalala ako kapag nadaanan ng bahay mo yung parada ng patay ba yun. Yung the end of the line dapat daw magsaboy ng tubig at hanggang ngayon di ko alam kung bakit
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #16 on: April 17, 2009, 02:38:58 pm »
^ uy sabi ng mom ko kapag ganun daw, dumirecho ka agad sa casino. Swerte daw yun. ;D

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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #17 on: April 18, 2009, 06:05:37 pm »
Meron dapat nakabantay palagi, kaya decking kami nun

I heard about this pamahiin nga din before.. kaya nga nagtaka kami kasi sa magallanes chapel ang burol ng tito ko, and ang policy nila is that pag 12midnight up to 6am don, pinapauwi lahat ng tao & ni-lolock yung room, so yung patay lang ang maiiwan cos kahit immediate family members (kahit nga wife ng tito ko e and mga anak nya) are not allowed na mag-stay.. basta as in walang maiiwan dun sa room ng ganung time, ganun din daw sa states eh so medyo taliwas sa traditional pamahiin natin
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #18 on: April 20, 2009, 04:12:28 pm »
bawal maligo sa house kung saan ang lamay

bawal pagpatung patungin ang mga plates na pinagkainan
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Re: Pamahiin during wakes / burial
« Reply #19 on: April 20, 2009, 04:44:09 pm »
-bawal magdala ng food na galing sa burol.
-kapag sa bahay naman binurol ang patay, huwag daw linisan ang bahay.
-bawal rin daw pumunta sa burol ang mga buntis at may sakit.
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