Unique and intimate Civil Wedding Ideas

[clueless_bride]

oohhh ganon pala yun? 
kasi i read one blog of fellow GTalker na kinasal ni Sir Aris Centeno, she and her hubby are both catholics pero hindi naman pinalitan yung religion nila. Sa pagkakaintindi ko ay yung sect na kinabibilangan ni Sir Aris ay catholic pa din - parang basta naniniwala kayo pareho kay Jesus Christ pwede niya kayo ikasal.
So I was thinking ganon din yung ibang SO... or tipong no bearing ang religion pag SO ang nagkasal...

^no sis. one of you e papalitan ni SO ng religion sa MC para maging "christian" instead of "catholic". that way, valid yun kasal nyo.

unless yun SO na nakuha nyo e judge din, pwede nyang palabasin na lang na sa loob ng court room office nya kayo ikinasal para pareho pa rin kayong "catholic" sa MC.

[j.adore]

Yes, I read that too na kapag parehong couple ay hindi naka-indicate religion ng SO, hindi valid ang marriage.

[clueless_bride]

^ hi sis, what do you mean? pag walang religion ang SO invalid ang kasal?
So dapat belong talaga sa isang sect si SO at one of us ay kasama sa sect na yun? tama ba ko???

[j.adore]

For example, if the SO is Christian, bride or groom should indicate Christian sa license and certificate.
Pag judge, saka lang daw hindi nagmamatter ang religion.

[myjourney88]

Hi mga sis,


question, I'm planning to have our civil wedding this year, we are living in for more than 5 years, and i've read that no need na to get marriage license, only affidavit of cohabitation.  Pano pag process ng ganun, can you help me?  thanks in advance

[lakwatsa]

^ hi sis, what do you mean? pag walang religion ang SO invalid ang kasal?
So dapat belong talaga sa isang sect si SO at one of us ay kasama sa sect na yun? tama ba ko???

sis, kahit naman hindi kayo actively kamember ng church ng SO as long as pumayag sya na mag officiate ng wedding nyo. Pero kelangan sa marriage certificate, dapat isa sa inyo e nakaindicate na ka-religion yun pastor na nag officiate ng kasal. yun e para maging valid yun kasal nyo at di kayo ma-technical hehe. so tulad ng sabi ni sis j.adore, if Christian si pastor, dapat ikaw or si h2b e "christian" din ang religion na isusulat sa Marriage Certificate na pipirmahan during ceremony at ipapasa sa LCR.

i don't know sa case ni Aris Centeno. look him up na lang sa database ng SO kung anong church sya kasapi. pero ang alam ko lang na Catholic e yun Roman Catholic at Aglipay.

[lovemeagain30]

my SIL and her fiancee are about to get married in Catholic ceremony kaso lang in the end they found out the guy is already member of Dating Daan. so to make the story short, nag away sila kasi ayaw ng pakasal ng lalaki sa simbahan. ayaw naman pumayag ni SIL magpa court.

Yung lalaki umuwi ng probinsya para magmuni muni. after a month eh hindi na bumabalik ng Manila. ang Church wedding nila ay dapat sa May 28 na,, so etong si SIL nagfreak out na. siyempre kahiyaan na eto at matapos nila mag announce ng engagement kung kelan malapit na saka di matutuloy.

so ang ending pinuntahan ni SIL si bf sa probinsya and convince him na bumalik na ng Manila. pumapayag na si SIL ikasal kahit hindi na sa Catholic basta wag lang sa court at sa Dating Daan. ang napagkasunduan nila ay gawing garden wedding at protestant pastor ang magkakasal. kahit both of them ay hindi member ng protestant church.

ang tanong ko lang is,, pede ba talaga eto? anybody here who have this experience and share if this is legitimate.

kasi parang ginawa eto nuon ni James Yap at Kris Aquino who are both Catholics at ang ending due to technicalities, napawalan ng bisa ang  kasal.

naisip ko lang kasi if one of you will change the religion in MC for the sake lang na maikasal kayo, hindi ba niloloko niyo na ang legalities ng marriage niyo from the start?

sorry for the long post. i cant believe my SIL will go as far as doing this. though i have other issues with her, i really hope she is making the right decision.
 

[lakwatsa]

@lovemeagain30, i think pwede naman ikasal ang Catholic+Christian na couple sa Catholic Church e. Yun iba nga, morning wedding simpleng rites lang sa catholic church then sa afternoon e bonggang garden wedding naman - sample is Jolina Magdangal.

Hindi ba Christian naman yun Dating Daan? Bakit ayaw ng SIL mo pero willing sya sa Protestant? labo hehe.

Anyway, nakakaloka yun sa case ng fiancee ni SIL mo. For me, ang babaw ng reason nya para mag walk out ha. POV ko kasi kung love nyo talaga ang isa't isa, it shouldn't matter:

1. kahit anong religion kayo - iisang God lang naman ang sinasamba ng lahat e. Kahit ano pa ipangalan e iisang diyos din yun. What matters most is yun faith mo at kahit pa sabihin member ka ng ganitong religion e kung saksakan naman ng sama ang ugali mo sa kapwa mo e di wala din di ba?

2. kahit san kayo magpakasal as long as maikasal kayo. After all, it's only paper naman e. Ang mas importante e yun lifelong commitment nyo sa isa't isa.

Lastly, bakit mo naman iisipin agad ang possible maging grounds ng paghihiwalay/nullity of marriage e di ba kaya nga gusto mo maikasal e dahil gusto mo makasama forever ang partner mo? hehe

Siguro i-advice mo na lang sa SIL mo na either sa Catholic or Christian (Dating Daan) lang sila pwede magpa-officiate (di pwede protestant) kung gusto nyang maging valid yun kasal nya sa fiancee nya. But then again, kung ngayon pa lang ganyan na yun ginagawa ng fiancee nya sa kanya, e aba mag isip isip sya kamo. Mas ok na yun sandaling kahihiyan sa pag call off ng wedding kesa naman sa lifetime na pagsisisi.

[lovemeagain30]

^ thanks for the comment sis.

I think the Catholic Church will allow mixed marriages however the religion should be something na hindi opposite pole ng paniniwala namin. Eto ang sabi ng pari na nagseminar samin nuon before our Catholic wedding. lets say ang Muslim and Catholic will not be allow to be wed in our church for the reason na totally contradicting ang paniniwala niya. same as INC and Catholic din. pero kung mga Born Again Christians and Protestants, I think,, allowed sila to marry in our Church if there partners are members of it. Basta ang condition is, mauuna ang rites ng Catholic Church palagi. Secondary ang kasal ng ibang religion. Same as what happened to Jolina and Mark.

I think Dating Daan is not considered Christian. what I know the leader used to be a member of INC, and INC is not Christian also. kumbaga my in laws don't believe that Dating Daan leaders are considered Pastors.though I personally think legal naman ang kasal sa simbahan nila. Si MIL ay officer pa sa organization ng Catholic Church namin so you could imagine yung frustration niya sa mamanugahin niya. 

I had personal experience with my Aunt before na long time ago kinasal siya sa Catholic Church only to find out kasal pala yung uncle ko dati sa ibang girl sa civil rites. during that time, I think CENOMAR was not required pa in the Church. nalaman nalang namin when they were planning for migration kasi na-deny yung lalaki nuon sa family application. all of us were shocked then. my aunt had a nervous breakdown.

that's why nakwento ko sa husband ko na if the wedding is not going to be valid due to technicalities, why do it? why spend money? Ma OC lang kasi ako sa ganyan. hehe. based siguro sa nangyari kay Tita ko.

anyways, spoiled brat and maldita kasi yang SIL ko. she even command us to move our own wedding this year just to accommodate theirs.. (its a different story on a different post). that's why we are not close. however natuloy parin ang kasal ko sa brother niya, family member na nila tee hee!. so si MIl panay kwento sakin.

honestly, dito ko lang nailalabas ang mga curiosity ko kasi pag kausap ko inlaws ko, I don't make any comments. asar ako sa SIL to be honest and it will be beneficial in my ego if I see her fail.  however I realized you don't wish it to a family member.

yung fiancé niya, andun sa bahay nila. hindi na pinakawalan kasi nga di nagpakita ng matagal knowing kung kelan malapit na yung kasal.  kailangan pugpugin pa para kumilos. ang mantra namin ni hubby ko nuon plano namin magpakasal,, 'if we feel any doubt na magpapakasal tayo kahit 1% lang siya, please let's not do it.' feeling ko kasi baka pagsisihan lang namin sa huli.

well ako lang naman yun.  good luck kay SIL at sana nga hindi sila ma-technical. wish her the best.

[simang]

Hi I have a few questions re: civil wedding ceremony. I was advised by the wedding coord nung venue of choice namin na hindi daw usually allowed ang Catholic ceremony sa beachfront (although we can still try talking to the local parish, or maybe inviting a priest na kakilala namin). We are both Catholics pero we're not traditional naman, and because we want a wedding ceremony at the beachfront, we are now considering just a civil ceremony. The resort has a nice little chapel where they hold Catholic weddings but I'm not really feeling it. The planner advised us na we get married muna by a judge sa court months before so that yung Catholic ceremony come our wedding date will sort of be like renewal of vows na. That way, a local priest can officiate the renewal of vows outside the church/chapel. It's a good idea sana pero thinking about it parang hindi ko bet yung 2 weddings, and for personal reasons, I'd be more giddy and excited if isang beses lang kame ikakasal, with our dream ceremony. Kaya ngayon, we're considering a civil ceremony na lang para sa beachfront kame (ang arte kase namin haha). Well as my partner said, it's the same naman and we'll still end up being married with MC and wedding rings and all.

So right now I'm researching (and asking my dad's friends haha) kung pano mag-push through with a civil ceremony. We will still be doing all the works like a normal wedding, yung ceremony lang talaga ang concern namin ngayon.

If anyone of you can answer my queries, I'd be more than thankful:

• May max number of primary sponsors ba pag civil wedding? Most kase ng nakikita ko, 1 pair lang of witness, then parents of both parties. Usually yan lang ang kasama.
• Can I still have my entourage? With this part, I'm thinking of just going with my Matron of Honor, bridesmaids/groomsmen, and the kids -- flower girls and ring bearer (syempre wala ng bible and coin bearers). Di ko na din bet mag secondary sponsors for candle, veil or cord since bridesmaids ko lang din naman ang gagawa nito if we go for a Catholic ceremony. So less task na for them. I just want them to be there during the ceremony.

So far yan ang mga major questions namin.

[madjewel]

hi sis simang, have you check Father Ed Ministries (FEM) wedding officiant? They also have informative website that may answer your question. 

[jentotmd]

^ sis simang, lalabas kasi na parang christian wedding yung sa inyo. kaya i don't think na may mga restrictions.

[simang]

hi sis simang, have you check Father Ed Ministries (FEM) wedding officiant? They also have informative website that may answer your question.

sis thanks! i browsed through the site, mag iinquire din ako.

^ sis simang, lalabas kasi na parang christian wedding yung sa inyo. kaya i don't think na may mga restrictions.

oo nga sis eh, actually si sis lakwatsa nagdiscuss ng details saken re Christian ceremony pag Catholic couple. hehe medyo naliwanagan ako ng very light and dinidiscuss na din namin ni h2b. he's leaning towards civil ceremony though, kase di nya masyado pa magets yung pag kumuha kami ng non-Catholic na SO.

[lovemeagain30]

^sis Simang im just curious since I've never attended a Christian Wedding for Catholic Couple ano daw flow ng ceremony nila? Pano inexplain sayo ng pastor?

im familiar with ours kasi na Katoliko since kinasal ako sa church mismo. How about them? may secondary sponsors pa ba sila like veil, cord, candle? kasi satin di ba its part of the whole ceremony.

[simang]

^sis Simang im just curious since I've never attended a Christian Wedding for Catholic Couple ano daw flow ng ceremony nila? Pano inexplain sayo ng pastor?

im familiar with ours kasi na Katoliko since kinasal ako sa church mismo. How about them? may secondary sponsors pa ba sila like veil, cord, candle? kasi satin di ba its part of the whole ceremony.

sis di pa namin nakausap pastor, nagsearch lang din ako and ask ask kay sis lakwatsa hehe. as far as i know the veil cord and candle are optional. pero sa mga nasearch ko most couples wala na silang ganyang tradition pag christian ceremony since wala naman meaning sa kanila yan.. Catholic tradition kase talaga yan diba. anyway eto sis yung blog na binasa ko re flow of ceremony:

http://pinaybrideguide.blogspot.com/2012/05/aris-centeno-best-solemnizing-officer_31.html

[lovemeagain30]

^Thanks for the post sis. I read the blog, ganun pala yun. for me the ceremony was short. iba nga sa nakasanayan ko. wala din palang gagawin ang mga abay, so kapag ganun wag na sila padamihin kung pang picture lang ang purpose nila. well kung pareho naman kayong Catholic, tama na rin si hubby mo to push nalang for civil wedding. kasi halos pareho lang naman ang process nila and at the same time wala ka rin iva violate sa faith niyo since both of you are aware na iba ang religion rites natin sakanila. kung hindi ka kasi true member ng church nila,, hahanapin mo rin yung nakasanayan mong tradition sa mismong wedding mo. yun ay sa aking opinion lang sis ah since I recently got married sa Church natin.

[litzkie0217]

Hi,

I'm a newbie here. Can you recommend the pastor na nagakasal sa inyo.Thanks

[annamarie88]

Hi mga sis! Plano din namin civil wedding, Judge mag-officiate.. Pero gusto ko kasi immediate family members lang namin ni h2b, as in parents & siblings both sides haha okay lang ba na sila lang witnesses namin??

Gusto ko din ng white gown-like dress (chos) dami pag google mo, mga knee length lang, bet ko din yung fascinator, si h2b naman pag white long sleeves ko.. Pero hmua ako para maganda.. Reception namin sa hotel, pareserve lang table for us

Kasi papainom na lang daw kami sa friends after ng kasal namin, renewal of vows naman after 10 years sa church sa boracay

Magkano ba binabayad sa Judge or yung honorarium?

[lakwatsa]

^mura lang yata kasi kasama na sa fee pag kumuha kayo ng marriage license e. 500 nga lang yata yun. pero sa city hall gagawin yun wedding kung judge ang mag oofficiate. siguro need mo lang magbigay ng "love gift" kung sa ibang venue gagawin yun ceremony.

kuha ka ng ninong/ninang sis kasi ang witness yata e dapat hindi related sa inyong dalawa ni h2b.

[annamarie88]

^sa city hall lang sis para walang hassle.. Awww kailangan ba talaga ninong/ninang? ayoko pa naman ipaalam kahit kanino kasal ko (except dito lol) thanks sis