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Close ba kayo sa Dad nyo?
« on: May 30, 2008, 05:29:41 pm »
I read most of GTs are close to their moms, how bout your dad?

since malapit na ang father's day...share your stories about your dad


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Re: Close ba kayo sa Dad nyo?
« Reply #1 on: May 30, 2008, 05:34:21 pm »
likewise din sis. sobrang maalaga din ng dad ko.. close na close kami as in.
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Re: Close ba kayo sa Dad nyo?
« Reply #2 on: May 30, 2008, 09:28:08 pm »
i am very, very close to my dad. actually, all of us siblings are closer to our dad than to our mom. nasa pulitika kasi mom ko dati so she was always busy and we felt that she didn't have enough time for or didn't want to be with us.

i was born in the province and my dad wasn't there when i was born. he was here in manila buying a car. so i think he wanted to make up for not being there when i was born so he always took care of me when i was a baby. and he said when i was a kid, ayaw ko magpatimpla ng milk or magpapalit ng lampin sa iba, dapat siya lang.

and when i first got my period, he was the first one i ran to, even asked him to go inside the bathroom with me and i showed him my panty. haha. then he said, go talk to your mom about this. he felt so awkward. haha.

lahat kami spoiled sa kanya, he always gave us what we wanted but he mad sure din we worked for them, like get high grades, etc.

there was a time that my parents used to fight a lot. mom wanted to run for higher office and dad felt enough was enough. we never had privacy, there were always so many people in the house. minsan may dadating pa sa bahay ng madaling araw na duguan kasi may sinaksak daw siya at gusto niya mag-surrender. nakakatakot. dad was only thinking about us, but it seemed that mom wasn't so lahat kami naturally turned to our dad that's why we're all a lot closer to him than to mom.

when dad was rushed to the hospital last year for abdominal pain, i was at a loss. it was the first time he was rushed to the hospital and my sister woke me up early morning to tell me. that has been the hardest time for me. we didn't know what was wrong, his heart was being tested eh abdominal pain lang and we didn't know why. to cut the story short, he had to undergo triple bypass surgery and it would cost about 1M, which we did not readily have. as a daughter, syempre you'd want to do everything so he could have the surgery. but he didn't want it. sayang daw ang pera, we will have better use for it. wag na daw gumastos para sa kanya, kung mamamatay siya eh di mamamatay siya. how do you react to that? wala kaming nagawa kundi umiyak na lang kasi kahit anong gawin namin, ayaw niya magpa-bypass.

then his sisters went to the hospital to talk to him about the surgery. we don't know exactly what they told him but in the end he agreed. then before my titas left, they talked to my oldest sister. don't worry about the money daw, give her account number and they'd deposit half of what we needed. big help. at that point, i was willing to do whatever it would take to get the remaining half. i'd sell my car, my jewelry, everything basta lang humaba pa ang buhay niya. ganon din ang mga kapatid ko.

i never got to meet both my lolos. i don't have a kid yet and i always wish that my dad would live long enough for my future kids to get to know him. that's one reason why i so want a baby already kasi i feel that time will soon run out and my child will not be able to spend enough time with his/her lolo.

with God's help and with help from our relatives and with the best team of doctors, dad had a successful surgery. but it was again a pain to see him in the ICU. i spent the least time visiting him because i could not bear to see him so weak and in so much pain. but i was always there in the hospital, i never left. pero hindi ako pumapasok sa ICU.

it's been 7 months since this whole ordeal. dad is a lot better. normal na lahat. but he has diabetes and sleep apnea so his monthly medical expenses are beginning to hurt the pockets. just yesterday i bought his supply for june (my sisters and i take turns para hindi naman mabigat masyado) at grabe sa mahal! pero hindi namin painapaalam sa kanya kung magkano ang mga gastos namin sa kanya kasi sasabihin lang nanaman niya mas mura kung hinayaan na lang namin siyang mamatay.   :(

and where is mom? she's abroad again. we sent her there to stay with our brother kasi mas lalo nas-stress dad ko pag nandito siya sa pilipinas. haha.

so am i close to my dad? yeah, very. and my greatest fear is losing him.

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« Reply #3 on: May 30, 2008, 09:29:29 pm »
di kami naging close

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« Reply #4 on: May 31, 2008, 01:13:47 am »
when I was younger, close kami ng daddy ko. pero since nung nagkaroon sya ng other woman/family at ipinakisama nya kami doon ay nabawasan na closeness ko sa kanya.

in fact, masama ang loob ko sa kanya lately dahil he makes us feel na mas mahal nya yung new family nya at mas pinapaniwalaan nya yung asawa-asawahan nya kuno kesa sa amin na tunay nyang pamilya.

oo married na kaming mga anak nya pero hindi nya dapat baguhin ang treatment nya sa amin.

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« Reply #5 on: May 31, 2008, 01:50:42 am »
Yes, very much.

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« Reply #6 on: May 31, 2008, 04:31:55 am »
i was never been close to my dad coz he died when i was 6.. kaya ayun hindi ko nafeel yung merong father.. i got a step father pero iba pa din yung treatment specially if meron silang anak ng mom ko..

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« Reply #7 on: May 31, 2008, 06:22:45 am »
not as much when i was a kid. pero daddy's girl talaga ako eh. super spoiled. maayos kami. madalas magkaaway kasi napipikon ako sa kanya eh. saka we don't talk about serious stuff, like feelings, thoughts- yuck. di ko maimagine. pag naga-i love you nga kami, diring diri kami eh. ewan ko ba bakit ganun family namin haha. pero maayos naman. gusto kong pakialaman lovelife niya saka keber na sa mistakes niya or a past i don't know about. parents are just human beings. i don't think i'll ever be disappointed with my father or be mad at him for his errors. super suwerte pa din talaga ako sa papa ko. i know people say their dads are the best pero kahit quiet lang ako, ipagrarambulan ko talaga yun na walang hihigit o papantay sa papa ko. belat! bwaha parang ewan ;D

nalungkot naman ako. 3 months wala papa ko eh. kung mahirap ang ldr na mag-siyota, mahirap din talaga ang ldr na family :(

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« Reply #8 on: May 31, 2008, 09:20:35 am »
i am close to my amang. since 3 kaming girls na magkakapatid, lahat ng mabigat na trabaho puro sa tatay ko. pero he taught me some. then highschool days magkasama kami sa school, sa admin sya. i used to call him sa school para ituro yung crush ko, haha. i knew i made him proud when i graduated and passed the board exam. pag tumatawag ako sa kanya (i'm overseas) hinde sya nanghihingi ng pera, basta kumusta daw kami ni hubby dito, sana daw di kami nagkakasakit. yun, kasi yung iba (family ni hubby) pag tumawag sya, puro pera ang usapan. i miss my amang. sana his tourist visa will be approved. Happy Father's Day! mahal kita...
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« Reply #9 on: May 31, 2008, 01:07:51 pm »
Yup, i'm very close sa papa ko because my mom was in the States since grade 1 ako hanggang 1st year college.  Sya nag aasikaso talaga samin kahit busy din sya with work. Hanggang ngayon may sarili na ko family and naging pregnant ako with my bunso, sya nagdrive and sumasama sakin pag check up ko sa OB sa manila, sa province kasi kami saka hubby ko manila din work at di maka alis agad. Napaka swerte ko talaga sa papa ko. :)

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« Reply #10 on: May 31, 2008, 02:01:17 pm »
ako din,close sa papa ko.
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« Reply #11 on: May 31, 2008, 02:13:37 pm »
Yes, and no.
Yes because as a young child, I remember he spent time with me and my silly games.

But once I started to stand out and have my own identity and opinions (Grade 5) -- he started to put me down.  As in I am not as smart nor  pretty as some cousins, and that I should not aim high.  Shi* talaga.  He was the quintessential chauvin*st oink-oink.  For me the worst thing he did was to let my mom rule our lives 100%  (who was kinda out of her mind since she was tormented by his having a mistress who was so kapal muks and all over town declaring herself as The Mrs ___)

So lumaki kami under the burden of my mom's antiquated mindset that a woman is good enough only for the home;  and should not strive for higher education.  A lot of cr*p, really.

But he spoiled us materially while growing up, so it was wrong -- but that must have been his way of showing his love to compensate for the sad childhood (bed of his having a mistress that upset our family for so long) and for discouraging us to aim for anything. 

Ah but when i became a mother, humaba pasensya ko with him.  Siguro forgiveness na rin. So close kami uli until he lets our mom upset the relationship again. 

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« Reply #12 on: June 01, 2008, 01:50:01 pm »
before close kami ng daddy ko, since im the only girl in the family and the eldest... pero nung nagtanan ako nawala na closeness namin and until now, hirap na ibalik.... :(
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« Reply #13 on: June 01, 2008, 03:30:28 pm »
we're super cloe. we watch movies together, eat out na kami lang, etc.. para nga kaming magsyota hahaha
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« Reply #14 on: June 01, 2008, 11:20:25 pm »
before close kami ng daddy ko, since im the only girl in the family and the eldest... pero nung nagtanan ako nawala na closeness namin and until now, hirap na ibalik.... :(

Sis, nasaktan lang si dad mo sa ginawa mo and he does not want to get hurt anymore so baka defence mechanism na lang nya yun.

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« Reply #15 on: June 02, 2008, 08:32:01 am »
yes we are very close.
when i was still a little girl i remember na i will sat on his lap and talk about school.
im close to my mom as well...
until now di namin nakakalimutan mag goodnight and sweet dreams pag its bedtime na. even now na im on my own living independently here in manila, nag gu goodnight and sweet dreams pa din kami and sabay sabi ng i love you.
he was strict, as in. kelangan nasa bahay ka na by 6pm and we did not got the chance to attend our js prom. no gimik during hs days and college days pero walang may nag rebelde sa amin. we understand him and we do not have any regrets na di namin sya sinuway. we all know na para din samin yun.

now, everytime i have a vacation sa province namin, we always talk pa din anything and everything under the sun. i remember the last time we spoke over the phone, we was singing a song na theme song daw nila ni mama since yung lyrics daw ng kantang yun ang sinulat sa kanya as a love letter. we were laughing kase alam namin pareho na sintunado sya.

he keeps on telling me how proud he is na nakatapos kaming lahat na mag kakapatid. sila ng mom ko tinuturing ko na bestfriends ko since alam nila lahat about me...

hopefully magiging future hubby ko will be like him. he risk all and gave everything to give us a more comfortable life... I love you pop!
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« Reply #16 on: June 02, 2008, 10:50:54 am »

so am i close to my dad? yeah, very. and my greatest fear is losing him.

me too, it is my greatest fear to lose my dad. He's someone I always love dearly.

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« Reply #17 on: June 02, 2008, 12:57:19 pm »
i'm my tatay's girl... through and through...

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« Reply #18 on: June 02, 2008, 08:36:36 pm »
Love and hate ang relationship namin ng dad ko.

My sister and I grew up with him maintaining mistresses, thus, we were witness to my mom's misery/rage/depression/loneliness. That's no way for kids to grow up, and the immense guilt I'd feel whenever  mapaparamdam sa akin that my mom was on the verge of leaving him when she got pregnant with me (she did not want me daw to grow up without him around), it's something that still haunts me until now.

Nevertheless, I became a mommy's girl but my relationship with my dad before, grabe. I would always make him feel in every way, method, or form, that I have no respect for him. My growing up years were spent either ignoring him or openly defying or disagreeing with him in public. Tapos I'd always make him think that I was leading a very wild life (at a certain point in my life, I was) and that nothing he had to say would matter. If he wants me to do one thing and my mom has opposite ideas, ipapamukha ko talaga sa kanya that I'd go for my mom's suggestion. Plus, I was the only one of the three women in our family to have the guts na sumugod sa place ng main mistress niya (main, kasi he has many) and cause absolute mayhem.

Things started to change when a long-time boyfriend of mine cheated on me and we broke up. During my devastation, my dad reached out to me and we started talking. Yun nga lang, hindi na talaga yung typical father-daughter relationship ang meron kami, more like equals. Add to that the fact that I've been financially sufficient for a long time now so wala talaga siyang panakot sa akin. ;D Little by little, we built our friendship (I cannot say repaired, because there was really nothing there before), and now I can count on him when I need honest, brutal advice. I love him fiercely now, although his indiscretions cannot be swept under the rug. But I guess we become more understanding when we are older. Although I'm still a mommy's girl. ;)

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Re: Close ba kayo sa Dad nyo?
« Reply #19 on: June 02, 2008, 08:41:33 pm »
I was but then I lost his trust 2 years ago.

 


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