Is he proud of you?

[freeswan]

^^ sis, just be proud of yourself. kahit naffeel mong hindi siya proud sayo, may mga taong proud sayo noh!!

[Tigershark09]

^kaedee^, it makes me wonder how you and your husband met and how you ended up together. it makes a lot of sense if you look back to your life before you had your baby. sino ang mas mahal nino that time?

i don't want to tell you that everything is sunny or that there is nothing wrong with your hubby. tama si aquacharly, obserbahan mo din ang hubby mo dahil baka me ginagawang milagro isa sa mga signs yang parang ayaw niya makitang magkasama kayo in public or hindi siya affectionate sa yo.

tama din si freeswan, don't let your world revolve around him. kahit na mag asawa na kayo or baby na kayo, you still have to give importance to who you are and your worth as a person. baka nakikita niya na you don't feel good about yourself and he is feeding your insecurities para hindi ka maghanap ng iba.

pero meron din talagang mga lalake na hindi expressive pero deep inside mahal ka talaga at handang makipagpatayan para sa yo. meron ding mga lalake na sobrang mag-praise sa partner, they know the right words to melt your heart pero konting tukso lang, nakalimutan ka na.

[gneybee]

He should be.. I am a good catch...

[SnowBall]

Yes i think he is Pinapakilala naman niya ako sa lahat ng kakilala at kapamilya niya, tapos he holds my hand in public, also akbay din. Then, i have a picture in his wallet, kami ng daughter ko, and a picture of me when i was still 7 yrs old

[tamarind26]

Yes. He inspires me to be at my best. We're always together when he's here. Kahit "all boys out", sinasama niya ako kahit ayaw ko kasi nahihiya na ako sa mga kasama niya...wahihi...

[lauren]

sis ^kaedee^, i have the same question... how did you two meet and how did you end up together? can u say na nagbago sya ngayon? if so, why? how do you communicate to him your emotions?

aside from this 'proud' factor, ano sa tingin mo ang views nya sa role mo as a wife, as a mother, as daughter, as a housekeeper?

[^kaedee^]

^ thanks mga sis sa reply..parang napapaluha tuloy ako..

we met sa school fair..nakita niya ko and he asked some of his friends kung merong may kilala saken..e sakto we have common friends..he asked for my number, texted me and ayun dumadalaw na sa bahay at sa school.

nung time na nililigawan niya ko sobrang feel ko na he loves me. kase sobrang strict sa bahay namen pero tinatanggap niya lahat ng sermon ng relatives ko..ayaw pa kase ako nun paligawan.

actually hindi pa kame kasal. sa totoo lang hindi ko na alam kung anong explanation gagawin ko sa mga tao sa paligid ko. ang sabe ni bf kase paper lang daw yun. kahet anong explain ko at ng parents niya na kelangan talaga namen magpakasal ayaw pa din niya. he's 23 by the way and im 24. im not sure kung lahat ba ng ganyang age e ganyan ang pananaw sa buhay.

and milagro? madami..lagi siya nambababae dati..as in every year na magkasama kame..

and nun pinagbubuntis ko un baby namen, nakabuntis din pala siya ng iba...1 month lang yung pagitan ng babies..

hindi ko na din talaga alam kung ano pang ginagawa ko sa relationship na to..

dumadating yung time na nakikita ko naman na nagbabago siya..pero may time din na parang bumabalik yung masama niyang ugali...

sabe ko nga ipagdadasal ko na lang siya..siguro umaasa pa din talaga ako na magbabago siya...

hindi naman umiikot yung mundo ko sa kanya..kase isang quality niya yun na nakuha ko..

[lauren]

sis... i admit medyo nagulat ako sa reply mo. i was surprised dun sa part na may nabuntis sya na halos kasabay ng pagbubuntis mo.

now, in response to your concern tungkol sa kung proud sya sa yo or rather sa issue na hindi nya pagiging proud sa yo...

yung maging proud ka sa partner and ipagyayabang mo sya sa mga friends o family mo stems from his respect sa yo. yung tipong ang taas-taas ng respeto nya sa yo and ipinagmamalaki ka nya sa mga taong kakilala nyo, yung tipong gusto nya makikita sya sa tabi mo.

kaso sis, sa case mo, simula pa lang, wala na syang respeto sa yo. the mere fact na meron syang nabuntis maliban sa yo and halos magkasabay pa kayo shows very clearly na hindi ka nya nirespeto. and respect in a relationship is very important.

however, i would not want you to think that he did not respect you because you do not deserve to be respected. bastos lang talaga sya...

and yung hindi nya pag-exert ng effort na makita ang importance ng wedding para sa yo speaks a lot about his attitude pagdating sa relationship.

i don't want to burst the balloon but you are doomed to face years of heartaches. sa relasyon, one has to step out from his own self and should exert all effort para maintindihan ang partner. one has to be willing to give up his own comfort zone para sa mahal nya or para sa partner nya. tipong kung ang isang bagay ay "love language" ng partner, then u should be ready to do that thing kahit minsan hindi mo ma-appreciate (maliban lang syempre kung talagang mali). and yung importance na binibigay mo sa wedding should be reciprocated by your partner.

sis, u have your life to live. may anak ka... whatever you do now sa relasyon na yan and should you decide to stick to it, prepare yourself to a lot of heartaches.

minsan ang mga ganyang tao pinapabayaan and hinahayaang makita ang importansya ng mga karelasyon on their own. minsan mahirap makumbinsi ang mga taong yan na bigyang halaga ang kanilang mga karelasyon. minsan kailangan mawala sa kanila ang mga importanteng tao para makita nila ang halaga ng mga to.

don't get me wrong sis... ayoko ng hiwalay and i am a strong advocate of marriage encounters. kaya lang i hate to see ladies (ladies na madaming potential, ladies that could shine,   ladies that could reach high, ladies that could soar) lose their golden years just because of a good-for-nothing guy...

as early as now, you decide.

[ellheym]

Yes, hes proud of me, sinabi nya at nararamdaman ko.

[aquacharly]

^^ Sis KAEDEE, tama si Sis LAUREN

You are only 24 -- do not let your life play out as an extended run of misery. 

Sorry, Sis but he is an emotional abuser -- and you will have a miserable life.  Mga ganyan magaling sila magcalibrate ha.  When they sense that you are at the "end of your line" -- they will "reform" parang umasa ka uli.  Sis,  with emotional abusers hoping is what will kill you.  Emotional abusers, in my experience, rarely reform coz they have such gargantuan as in kasing laki ng bundok na emotional baggage and fears.  You should protect yourself and not be a victim to his recurring script.

So what if you have a baby?  People will not take that against you these days, that you are a single mother -- what is impt is how good a mother you are.

Greatness in life is the ability to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and then move on.

 

[whatever_rilett]

yes he is

[-riarz-]

Is he proud of you?

Of course, it shows naman.

Sis Kaedee, get out of the relationship while you can. and fast.  Buti na rin lang at hindi pa kayo kasal.

[kolinetongue]

Yup!  feeling ko lang

[antisocial]

Good thing I found this thread...

QUESTION: So how do we guys draw the line between "being proud of a girl" and "having a trophy gf".

I know for a fact that girl's don't like to be "trophy's" --- so how do we show our pride without making you feel like "trophy's" ?

[pourpre]

Yes, I'm happy to know that he is!  

[tea leaf]

Yes, I think he is proud of me.  He always says that to me and his friendster is full of my pics & his mom even texts me how much he brags about my accomplishments to his family.  I guess he is...  =)

[berry]

^^^bro, girls would rather be trophy girlfriends than just-there-girlfriends (think: you're not proud of her at all), but to show that you're proud of your girl without making her feel like she's just part of your collection of boy toys, treat her with equal amounts of love and respect when you're with your friends and when you're alone with her.

anyway, yes, my boyfriend is proud of me. i know because it shows and i'm proud of him, too.

sis kaedee, obserbahan mo si guy. and don't worry too much. 'wag mo hayaang masira ang buhay mo dahil sa kanya. don't jump to conclusions muna kung hindi ka sure, pero wag mo dedmahin. it would be a good idea to jump out of the relationship if you're sure na. words to remember: woman's intuition.

[hapi_mom_lonelywyf]

yes he is!

proud sya na he is the only person/guy sa akin..

tska sexy pa daw ako kahit 3 anak hehe

[crazycat]

He does. But sometimes I feel that he doesn't. Pero he really is proud of me daw!

[rickshe]

Absoulutely!  Especially when he knew that he's going to be a daddy