Divorce in the Philippines

[phurple0515]

sana legality of divorce na lang ang gawing bill instead of this one:
http://ph.news.yahoo.com/congress-pushes-bill-against-sexual-infidelity-131042933.html

mahirap din kaya kumuha ng evidence to prove the sexual infidelity.  except siguro pag you have caught them in the act, hehe

[sakura_bloom]

Yeah I'm pro divorce.

[pinkk]

Realistically in my opinion (only), divorce needs huge settlements in favor of the aggrieved party even though in some annullment cases(they are some  real collusions involved)If I'm not mistaken. Overall, money settlements relieves a wounded heart and pride (agree?)

[rae]

^ True. And sa totoo lang, parang may divorce naman na din sa Pilipinas. Merong collusion na nagaganap. Kahit sa palagay ko, hindi naman talaga null and void yung kasal. Kayang ipa-annul dahil sa pera.

In denial lang din tayo. Married couples separate and find a way.

Whether divorce exists or not, people who want to work on their marriage will work on it, and those who don't will find a way para maghiwalay.

[Foodict]

We need a divorce bill. Para patas. Ang nangyayari kasi kung sinu lang makakaafford ang nakakapagpa-annul.  Then pineperahan pa yung proseso. At the same time dapat gawing mas mabagsik yung child support laws para di napapabayaan ang mga bata.

[xye29]

im still on the middle.. i grew up in a broken families..part of me i am pro divorce and part of me im anti divorce,, im pro divorce because i know this one will help my mom na maging free sa dad ko..na hindi na namin nkkita for almost 10 years,, peo part of me is anti because kung ma legalized man ito baka yung iba im not saying all eh gawin lang ito escape kasi they fall out of love,, or something in that effect.. iba pa rin kasi pag buo pamilya nyo.. in my case kasi never namin nagkita nag away parents namin sa harap namin and di nila sinasaktan isa't isa, civil sila sa isa't isa.. and kung ma legalized man ito sabi nga ng iba nating sissies,,baka yung iba magpkasal dahil sa spur of the moment dahil alam nila may divorce eh alam nila na pwede nila hiwalayan asawa nila anytime.. imo..

[Foodict]

Im from a broken family. my girl's family too. Our moms need the bill so they can sort out the legal entanglements with conjugal properties, marital status and so they have a chance to be happy again with a person who will be good for them.

The process should be thorough and take time. The bill shouldn't be used as a stop gap for marital problems. And I would prefer they put in a 2 year wait period after divorce before a person can apply for marriage again.  We should also put more teeth into the bigamy and concubinage laws. Divorce shouldn't be an escape route for bad partners.

[chiqmom]

I am separated but I am not for divorce bill! I still want people to value their marriage. Meron ng annulment, siguro kelangan lang dagdagan yung grounds for annulment.

[kvandenhaak]

im still on the middle.. i grew up in a broken families..part of me i am pro divorce and part of me im anti divorce,, im pro divorce because i know this one will help my mom na maging free sa dad ko..na hindi na namin nkkita for almost 10 years,, peo part of me is anti because kung ma legalized man ito baka yung iba im not saying all eh gawin lang ito escape kasi they fall out of love,, or something in that effect.. iba pa rin kasi pag buo pamilya nyo.. in my case kasi never namin nagkita nag away parents namin sa harap namin and di nila sinasaktan isa't isa, civil sila sa isa't isa.. and kung ma legalized man ito sabi nga ng iba nating sissies,,baka yung iba magpkasal dahil sa spur of the moment dahil alam nila may divorce eh alam nila na pwede nila hiwalayan asawa nila anytime.. imo..

You know even in countries where there is divorce, hindi naman nagpapakasal ang mga tao ng ganun-ganon lang and they don't just file for divorce just like that. Kasi ang akala natin, para lang nag-e-enroll ang mag-divorce. Actually, it takes a lot more to file a divorce. A lot of couple here in Canada even go through marriage counseling bago mag-decide na mag-divorce. Kapag hindi na lang talaga mase-save ang marriage kaya sila nagre-resort sa divorce. Actually, dito hindi ka basta makakapag-file ng divorce kung hindi pa dumaan sa mediation and counseling. It is also emotionally draining.

[phurple0515]

^ i agree, parang last resort na talaga ang divorce di  ba?  i remember a friend in the US befre she got divorced, they went through a lot of marriage counseling kasi nga even their lawyer said na last resort daw ang divorce.  parang before you go to the final step, kelangan na ma-prove that the marriage cannot be saved.  twice sila nag-marriage counselling, the first was 3 yrs before the marriage, nag-work out naman, tapos the last one, halos 1 year ata sila nag-marriage counselling before they really decided na mag-divorce na talaga.

[rae]

^ True. And as I said before, may divorce man o wala, people will do what they want to do.

If they want to really work on the relationship, they will.

If the couple really wants to separate, they will make a way.

[kvandenhaak]

^Actually, kung merong divorce sa Pilipinas, the divorce rate is probably really high if not higher than those in the first world countries. Grabe ang kaliwaan sa Pilipinas, parang wala lang. Sad part is hindi protected ang mga kinakaliwa at ang mga anak. For "show-off" na rin lang naman yung ibang nagsasama pa. Technically they are really broken families, wala na lang magawa ang asawa sa pangagaliwa nung asawa.

[tashasabs]

To be honest I'm not that familiar sa divorce so I can't say much on the technicalities of the subject at kung paano siya mag-aapply o mababago para sa mga Pilipino. Basic lang ang alam ko, at na-share naman na ng iba nating sisters, gaya ng di naman basta-basta ang process ng divorce, advised talaga na mag-undergo muna ng marriage counseling bago magfile.

Like one of the posts here, torn din ako, 50% pro and 50% anti. I came din from a broken family, tatay ko yung nangangaliwa hanggang ngayon. Mama can't do anything about it, for her parang sige pabayaan, but there are financial concerns din since di naman na sila (nanay ko and younger sister ko) yung priority bigyan ng pera. Kung may divorce lang dito sana noon pa nakawala ang nanay ko sa marriage na matagal nang patay.

I'm not 100% sure about this pero bakit yung mga Hollywood stars na nababasa ko na nag-divorce na, di ba yung iba dun parang kapapakasal pa lang then biglang mababalita na divorced na? Baka maging ganun din ang mentality ng ibang Pinoy eh. Saka since maaga kami nagkaanak ng husband ko, baka maging dagdag reason 'to para yung mga 'conservative' families pilitin yung mga bata nagkaanak na magpakasal kasi nga "nakakahiya;" then kung di magwork out divorce na lang. Nakakalungkot kung magiging ganun, parang di na big deal ang makasal, di na ganun kaimportante yung pagpapakasal mo kasi mahal mo at sigurado ka sa kanya. Iba kasi yung samin ng husband ko, we were both okay with the idea dahil yun naman talaga balak namin, napaaga lang. Eh paano kung na-pressure lang dahil nagkaanak tapos later on di pala sila okay? Thoughts lang naman.

[rae]

^ Parang I understand what you mean.

Ang naiisip ko lang, knowing yung justice system natin, pwedeng maging 'madali' ang divorce, kung mag-lalagay, etc.

But, that's the least of my concerns. Ang mahalaga for me is to find someone with the same values about marriage.

Napansin ko, a few of those who are afraid of divorce reflects their on fears of ending up with someone na iiwan lang sila just like that. That's not the case naman.

[loball]

I am anti-divorce.

[ishko]

pro divorce..

halos lahat ng countries, meron nito.. hindi naman ibig sabihin nun walang value sa marriage... nasa tao pa rin naman yan..

sana nga ay go na itong bill ni sen. pia cayetano.. marami talaga ang may need nito lalo na pinays.. 

[honey-ecclaire]

I'm an anti-divorce,para kasing magiging habit na lang ito ng may pera...
But on the other hand,I agree na nasa tao ang kahihinatnan ng pagsasama,
Sa mga simpleng tao di na kailangan ng Divorce,di afford eh,papayag ba ang PAO na magbigay ng libreng service para sa pagpapawalang-bisa ng kasal?...

Annulment is ok na for me,iba naman ang civil separation sa law ng church eh,..maging separated man kayo civilly but then kasal pa din kayo sa church until it was annulled din(di yata iyon ang term)
Pinays,this is our last resort pag di na talaga kayang isave ang marriage,mabibilang naman ang pinay na walang habas sa pagpapalit ng partner di ba?...

So hindi dahil may law na ganito eh excuse ng maghiwalay

[guilleanne]

pro divorce, madami na sa senate ang mga hiwalay pero dahil they can afford eh they can file annulment.

saka bakit ayaw nyo ng divorce eh matagal nang may annulment dito pilipinas. mas panget ang annulment kasi you have to prove pa na may kakulangan yung isa, kelangan mo pa siraan yung isa, and the marriage will seem never to have existed eh at one point naman kahit saglit lang eh you loved each other kaya nga kayo nagpakasal, natauhan lang.

atleast sa divorce, mas maayos, kung pareho kayong magkakasundo na ayaw na talaga eh hindi na kelangan mag siraan.

sino na ba ang mga hiwalay sa senate, pia, chiz, kiko???

[orange rose]

^hiwalay si sen pia?  si kiko sila pa ni mega shawie diba?

ang alam kong mga hiwalay na ay sila chiz, loren, koko pimentel.

i'm pro-divorce too.  at sana nga ma-approve na to in the near future. 

[rae]

Some people are afraid na mawawalan ng saysay ang marriage. Hindi naman. Hindi naman ganun kadali mag-divorce e. Madaming mga psychological consults and requirements. Parang mas madali pa nga magpa-annul.

For some people, wala naman talaga syang saysay. For some meron, just meet someone na pinapahalagahan ang marriage.