Hello everyone. Need your input please. I'm not sure if tama yun thread where i'm posting this pero wala kase "Harassment" thread and I can't start a new topic since bumalik ako sa pagiging newbie (haven't posted for quite a while).
I'm not sure if I was abused but I definitely felt harassed. Here's the story:
I'm renting an apartment in a subdivision here in Manila. One early morning (around 5:30am) as I was in a hurry walking palabas ng subdivision to go to work, someone (man's voice) was calling "miss!". At first, I ignored it since I don't know who can possibly need anything from me sa lugar na yun. Except sa landlady ko, wala akong kilala dun. Then a female voice called out "miss" ren. So dalawa na sila so napalingon na ako sino tinatawag nila. Turns out ako pala. So I stopped and waited for them (isang mama in his 60's i think, kasama apo niya at yaya ng apo niya) na makalapit. Tapos he asked if ako daw nakatira dun at tinuro niya apartment ko. I said yes, then he asked if binalik ko na daw yung form. I remembered one afternoon I got this printed paper inserted sa ilalim ng gate namen reminding the residents of the subdivision na ibalik ang form (i don't what specifically was written on the form they want returned as I did not get it but I guess something about the security of the subdivision and its residents). I said nicely that "ay hinde po, hinde ko nakuha" baka yung kasama ko sa bahay me alam. Me sinabi pa sha na parang nag aantay pa daw ng last minute para i submit (hinde ko na mashado inintindi sinasabi niya kase nga nagmamadali ako). But what I noticed was the way he was talking to me, like I was stupid or something. Me kalakasan pa boses niya. But I let it go. Nagmamadali kase ako since I don't wanna be late for work. Ayun I saw a cab sa may gate, so I said sasabihin ko sa kasama ko sa bahay and I went ahead na. End of first incident.
Second incident: just this morning around the same time as the first incident
I was kinda tensed na baka ma late for work (again). Andun na ako sa labas ng subdivision sa may kanto, sa hi-way na mismo waiting for a cab. Then came from round the corner yung mama na naman na yun. He saw me so he said "ikaw yung dun nakatira kila <my_landlady's_surname> di ba?". Eto na naman yung tone ng boses niya na parang pinapagalitan ako at parang stupid ako. I said yes, ako nga. Sabi niya hinde niyo pa ren binabalik yung form. I replied nicely that I asked my housemate about it and she told me na wala naman shang nakuha. Sagot ng matanda ng pasigaw "imposible! nag door to door kame para dun!". So I didn't know what to say na kase parang na-shock ako na ang matandang tu baket ako sinisigawan. At the same time I was on the look-out for a cab to take me to work. So I thought I'll just let it go, bahala sha. Pero parang nag step back sha ulet and then told me, "Hinde ako janitor dito, I am the president of this subdivision!". Eh di na-shock ako ulet, isip ko "ano problema nito, inaano ko ba sha?". So I replied, "I know". I didn't say anything further na kase I was torn between bewilderment and being pissed na. At saka naiisip ko matanda sha wag ng patulan. At that same time I saw cab na so I hailed it. Then suddenly talagang galet na galet na sha.. sabi "Ang bastos mo ah! Bastos ka!". In my mind I was like what?? Ako??! What did I say? Nagalet ata sha lalo sa "I know". Nainsulto ba sha? What I meant by "I know" naman was that alam kong hinde sha janitor. Sa isip ko it never even crossed my mind na janitor sha kase walang janitor na mangsisita at mangsisermon. So to end it kase the cab's waiting and out of respect kase matanda sha, I replied "I am sorry sir I didn't mean to offend you. But I have to go now as I'm late for work". I was holding the passenger door of the cab this time kase baka layasan ako sa tagal ko sumakay. Lumapit pa lalo yung mama.. he stood right in front of my face and said "Where do you work? Magkano sinisweldo mo babayaran kita!!!". His breath was blowing on my face (buti hinde bad breath) na. I was torn between staying there to argue with him or leave for work. But I figured ano mahihita ko pakikipag away sa matanda, I don't wanna be late for work so I'd better leave pronto. So again I said "I'm sorry but I really have to go". Sagot niya "Bastos ka! I can have you evicted dito! Bastos ka!". He was like a lunatic shouting at me there. By that time hinayaan ko na sha at sumakay na ako. Sabi ng taxi driver "sino yun daddy mo?". Bloopers. Napailing na lang ako kase pati ibang tao naisip na kamag anak ko sha the way he shouted at me on the street. Kase nga naman sino me right at magkakarun ng guts sigaw sigawan ka sa kalye di ba kundi kamag anak mo? And I'm a full grown woman.
I felt harassed. I can't believe what happened. I prided myself on being courteous sa matatanda kase that's how I'm raised so imposibleng binastos ko sha. Me dalawang tao dun sa kanto na naghihintay ren ng masasakyan. Pinahiya niya ako. I don't know what he wanted from me, kung gusto niya tumayo ako dun at kausapin sha ng matagal? For me to stroke his ego? Apologize for whatever it is that made him mad? Well, I did apologize naman pero wala lang, he went on with his verbal abuse.
Now my dilemma is should I go to the barangay hall to report him for harassment? Unahan ko na sha? Kase iniisip ko pag uwi ko baka ipa-summon niya ako sa office ng subdivision (as him being the President *roll eyes*).
In addition, does he have the right to have me evicted sa apartment ko? Iniisip ko hinde. Kase isip ko ang landlady ko lang me karapatan palayasin ako. Subject pa yun sa rental law na kesyo dapat expire ang lease ko, 3-months advance notice, etc. Kaya lang hinde ko alam if the subdivision itself have the right to sort of nullify un lease ko and have me evicted.
Help naman for those na me alam sa mga ganito. In case we have to see each other again sa barangay or wherever, I want to know my rights. Ayokong basta ganun ganunin niya lang ako. Napaisip tuloy ako "president lang ng subd ganian na umasta. no wonder yung ibang nasa posisyon grabe ang ere". Hay.
Sensha haba ng post ko. MODs if I posted this on the wrong topic/board, please move it na lang. Thanks!
