Have you cheated on your partner?

[PinKisH_23]

Im think of cheating.. hehe

[beaupink]

nope. it's an immortal sin

[mooncake and leaves]

Have you ever cheated on bf or hubby ever? - emotionally, yes. bf ha.
What were the circumstances that led you to doing that? Reasons? for one, not that in love anymore. probably never really was. second, i was taken advantage of talaga, taken for granted. third, it always felt like i had to convince myself that i loved him. parang if you ask me if i love him, i would say yes but inside, i would be thinking, "mahal ko nga ba? bakit hindi ako masaya? bakit ang hirap hirap?"
Did you regret it? i don't have regrets. it wasn't that he deserved it. it was just that things had to happen. i was lying to myself thinking that we could make it. the fact that i was emotionally unstable when it came to him meant that i should move on.
Did you confess it to your partner? nope.
What was his reaction? he can't react on something he didn't know.
Did he forgive you? Are you still together? What did it do to your relationship? we broke up. i broke up with him. life is too short to be wasted on people i don't really love.
Did he not forgive you? How are you doing now? i'm much happier now.
What's the best lesson you ever learned from this if there's any? that i would have lived my life in so much regret if i kept lying to myself. that love can't be forced, that i have to really have that conviction that i am with the right person to try to sustain a relationship. that there's a world of difference between loving for the sake of a relationship and truly being in love and loving someone.

cristeen and junetwentythree- amen! amen! cristeen, i love what you shared here. it's so true. it's very different when you're in that situation itself. madali lang mag-assume ng moral superiority pero kung ikaw mismo ang andoon, you wouldn't know what to do. and it's a different thing for everybody. i applaud your sincerity and courage. june23, agree with the karma bit. if karma is as simple as that, as warped as it is, then tragedy will only strike us when we get older. but what to say about those disturbing tragedies we encounter as children? life is more complex than that kind of mentality.

[cloe]

i guess yes... we were separated during that time. he had another woman and I didn't know what was gonna happen to our relationship. I wasn't sure if he lived with the other woman since we didn't have much communication. I did this for a few months but the moment hubby started talking to me and seeing me, I gave up the other guy I was involved with.

Just yesterday when he confessed about another girl which he had an affair with for 4 years, and since we were talking for the first time in so many years, he asked me if I did have any involvement with other guys, I wanted us to have a new start so I confessed as well. But it turns out that he got mad, he has left the house since then. It's been 2 days, I've not heard a word from him. I can't get in touch with him. All his mobile numbers can't be reached.

I'm not sure how we can patch things up. I feel that it's quite unfair that I can easily forgive him even if he cheated while we are together, and he can't forgive me if I have done the same while we were apart. I know we were still married and I regret doing such. I just wish he gives me another chance.

[trixie*tyra]

I hope never ... in the same way that I pray he also never cheats on me

[chloebaby]

    * Have you ever cheated on bf or hubby ever?
                              YES
    * What were the circumstances that led you to doing that? Reasons?
          It was never intentional
    * Did you regret it?
                          YES
    * Did you confess it to your partner?
                        PARTLY I CONFESSED
    * What was his reaction?
                        UPSET
    * Did he forgive you? Are you still together? What did it do to your relationship?
                He forgave me. We're still together. It made our relationship stronger
    * Did he not forgive you? How are you doing now?
                  I believe we're on the right track and what happened before was just a part of our beautiful story
    * What's the best lesson you ever learned from this if there's any?
                           Wala.. =)

[denise]

Yes I did. nung bf ko pa lang sya. It's just only in the text eh, I know it's baduy pro once in my life eh I got hooked din sa texting chuvaness. hahahha..dyahe.....and I guess, I "think" I'd slowly fal inlove with the guy. We'd been calling each other every night. texting everyday. sending emails. My bf is out of the country that time. But my kalokohan ended before my bf arrived. I never told him. I just wrote it in my diary. Eh parang daga yun pag nasa kwarto ko kaya nung pumasok ako sa work siguro naglinis or what, nabasa niya. But he never confronted me. Not until before we get married nung nagbiruan kami kasi nagselos ako, then sabi niya "Eh ikaw nga, hindi kita inaway kahit alam kong may kinahuhumalingan kang iba sa text eh." ampppppppp!

[social_climber]

Have you ever cheated on bf or hubby ever?
> YES

What were the circumstances that led you to doing that? Reasons?
> So cliche pero hindi ko pinlano. You know my husband is a good friend but he was never a husband. It was simply, he was not available as a husband. I told him too many a times pero he had this way of making it seemed like I wasn't making any sense.

Did you regret it?
>YES. More about self-respect kasi. I lost respect for myself for a while.

Did you confess it to your partner?
> Ofcourse. It's more damage to my characted if I didn't

What was his reaction?
> Mad like hell. Good thing he never hurt me physically pero there were hand gestures. Pero the verbal abuse, sobra sobra. Lahat ng pambabastos sa pagkatao ko at pagkababae ko. He told me I deserved it so I just accepted it.

Did he forgive you? Are you still together? What did it do to your relationship?
> Yes. He wanted to work things out. Pero I left him na. Grabe, nahirapan ako sa 6 months na sa araw araw na ginawa ng diyos ay kasama sa menu ang pagmumura at pagsasalita ng masama sa akin. How can I love myself now let alone love him? At this point I thought I needed help and I left.

How are you doing now?
> Very much at peace with my life with my 2  babies. (my two dogs)

What's the best lesson you ever learned from this if there's any?

> Husbands, your wife's happiness is very very important. Your happiness depends on her happiness. If you treat her wrong, you'd lose her in way or another.

[gorgeous_mommie]

* Have you ever cheated on bf or hubby ever?
                              NO NEVER
    * What were the circumstances that led you to doing that? Reasons?
          DOING WHAT?hehe
    * Did you regret it?
                          NO.I NEVER REGRETED STAYING FAITHFULL.
    * Did you confess it to your partner?
                       NOTHING TO CONFESS EH.THOUGH SA PAST MERON AKO DI NASABI.PERO MULA MAGSAMA KAMI LAHAT ALAM NYA.
    * What was his reaction?
                        WALA PO.
    * Did he forgive you? Are you still together? What did it do to your relationship?
                EWAN BA.HEHE
    * Did he not forgive you? How are you doing now?
                  WERE OK..THOUGH MERON UPS AND DOWNS DIN.
    * What's the best lesson you ever learned from this if there's any?
                           Wala..
 

[chinkywinky]

No and I will never.

[tisay]

i think i did.... it was never planned. . basta nangyare na lang.. pero siguro kung makokontrol ko sarili ko di na mangyayare ulit yun.... hopefully....

[sofibanofi]

 no and i hope never..
count me in sa mga treated like a queen ng mga hubbies nila. mas pa yung love na binibigay nya sakin ngayon kesa nung gf nya pa lang ako.
my God i can't imagine cheating on him..
parang super walang respeto na ko sa kanya pag ganon kasi he's giving his all..
pero i have nothing against those who admitted they have cheated. in everything, there is a reason..
aba, huwag lang ako bigyan ng reason ni hubby.. hmp! joke lang.. 

[chamcham_natera]

no and i will never cheat on my swity
god sana siya din po never mag cheat sa akin

[ecai]

of course no. . . and never . . .

[madam cruella]

nope. not yet. haha. j/k

[Clarisa]

yung current nope and no plans.. pero yung dati.. yep.. 

[crazy_chick]

yup.. yup.. twice na.. it's sort of revenge lang.. coz he's dating other women.. and ang kapal.. nagpapaalam p.. daaahhhh..
so ako din.. kahit nagtino na sya.. m still doin it without his knowledge.. so I can say til now I haven't learned my lesson.. tee hee! 

[cartman]

 
no!i dont want to!

[marssie]

Never..

i really admire yung mga sissies natin here, lalo na yung mga naging matapang para harapin kasalanan nila sa hubby nila, at nagsisi...
Best talaga is to put God sa center ng relationship natin kay hubby, mag-usap lagi at respect dapat laging nanjan.

[benchnmae]

My hubby no! I am super duper head over heels in love with my hubby! Now i can say that i cannot do that to him, becoz if i do it will break him apart, and it will destroy me to see him hurting.

Sa ex bf ko yes, I cheated him for my hubby.

Reason : I lost my respect on him, coz he is so clingy he cannot make his own decisions / I fell out of love. We were together for 8yrs.

Did he find out: I broke off with him and he found out that I was happy with someone else, it ruined his life for some time.  I don't know if he has already forgiven me, it's been 7yrs already but until now he's not married may naanakan lang siya pero hindi niya pinakasalan..at wala na rin sila nung girl.  His dad told my father once that his son's life was a total mess when i left him.  But I do not feel any guilt, becoz the relationship would have still destroyed both our lives if we forced things to work out.

Lesson learned : I am now a living witness that it always hold true not to get engaged if you have any single doubt.  And that long engagements dont really work all the time.  My husband and I were only 4mos bf/gf when we got married, after 6 years, we are still happily married.