Didn't have a debut - depressed...

[molybdenumstudios]

Ako rin, hindi ako nagkaroon ng engradeng debut party. Ang pino-problema ko is the college graduation ball which I failed to attend (LMAO).

Actually, debut parties are OVERRATED. You need to be a complete extrovert or someone who has LOTS of friends and loyal peers to have a debut party. Don't worry, I feel the same with you, but I just thought that I will be simply happy because I am legalized. That's all.

[Lute]

one way of getting over a depressing event in life, is to create a better memory than your expectations.

kumbaga, if your dreams of buying a japanese sports car was spoiled, buy a porsche.

something like that.

daigin mo yung original mong pangarap. and you'll forget it.

i dunno about others but it works for me.

so maybe you can plan a wonderful 30th birthday.

[nicoletta]

lute

Dreaming of having a porsche and actually procuring one is easier said than done  

Just try to get over the fact that you did not have that coveted grand debut than most of your friends probably had.  Work hard, save lotsa money and get your dream wedding. 

I had the best wedding ever, with the nicest, most loving husband in the world!  There will come a point when you won't really think of how sad you were for not having the things you hope you had during your youth. It's just the cycle of life. 

[Lute]

nicoletta

it was an analogy lang.

the point of the analogy is to get something better. better does not necessarily mean more expensive.

for you it worked because to you, a wedding is something better.

the point that i'm trying to stress and share as someone who has gone through depression, and lived through it, is do come up with something better....and better if its in the same class or scenario...

you see part of the solution to depression is vindication imho not a haphazard replacement of something.

again, my point is, to achieve something better that satisfies the depressed person's standards.
kaya nga siya deperessed...dahil na fail niya yung standards niya.

you'll know what this means if you go through depression yourself. syempre i hope you will not.

[huggykaye]

i never dreamed of having a debut party nor asked my parents for it. i was well aware how hard our life was before and i'm proud of myself to be that understanding. so when i was already earning my own money i made it a point that i gave my younger sister the 18th bday party she wanted

[shelby020212]

I had my debut party at a hotel with my family and friends years ago. But looking back, now that I'm already 28, I don't feel that it was really that "special".

You'll get over it.

[ziva]

Ako din I had a grand debut last 1996 in a five-star hotel and I can barely remember it.  It did not make me feel special or anything.

What was important was that I was with my family and friends which happens naman regularly even without that kind of party (Thank you, Lord.).  More than 80% of the persons in that party I don;t even see anymore and looking back, the money spent there could've already sent a couple of kids to school.

It's not the parties that are important but the memories that you make with loved-ones.  So don;t be depressed na and just invite your friends or your mom to go out and get coffee, watch a movie, or start a hobby. 

[purpleice]

Hmmm ako hindi lang debut ang wala ako, di rin ako nabigyan ng birday party ever. Ang sad no? Acflly bitter ako sa birthday celebrations huhu. Lagi kasi kaming tinipid. Sabi ni mama, wala daw sense maghanda kung inutang lang yung pang handa tapos kinabukasan walang makain yadda-yadda... Ganyan lagi taon an. Minsan iniisip kong tama naman si mama, pero ang OA din kasi minsan. Hindi naman kami walang wala. Tapos yung importanf occasions like birfhday sini celebrate naman talaga yun. Parang ordinary day lang talaga siya for us every year.

Noong 18th birthday ko, binigyan akong 2k ng mama ko then 1k galing kay papam walang nilutong kahit anong handa. Bahala nadaw ako kung ano gusto ko bilhin doon sa pera. Sobrang lungkot ko noon. Parang naisip ko binigyan lang ako ng pera bahala na ako. Pumunta akong SM North umikot ikot di ko rin alam gagawin o bibilhin ko. Masama loob ko noon. Naiiyak pa fin ako pag naaalala ko. Parang wala man lang kasing nag eeffort na iparamdam saking espesyal ako eversince. Kaya that year di fin ako ummattend sa mga debuts ng classmates ko kasi mabibitter lang ako. Nalulungkot din ako pag may mga surprise birthday parties/greetings sa mga classmates ko. Wala kasing nag effort na gawin yun for me. Actually, tuwing birthday ko 2-3 tao aside from my family lang nakakaalala.

Haaay. Naiiyak tuloy ako habang nagrarant ngayon :p

[Girltalker2]

I did not have a debut. And I am perfectly happy about it.  I think nasa disposition mo din kasi yun. Ano ba ang maidudulot ng debut for you?

^ sis huwag ka na sad, yung parents mo ba nagb-birthday party?

Ako kasi hindi sila nagpaparty. Nor do they buy stuff for themselves.  Kami mga anak nila ang nag-i-insist pa na lumabas kami. Yun lang. So when we were growing up, wala din expectations. There were years that I do not want to celebrate my birthday as well, kasi meron akong dinadalang problema.  But it was fine.

Ngyon, pag birthday ko, basta kasama ko lang mga anak ko and my loved ones, ok nako. Kahit pa hindi alam sa office or sa labas na birthday ko, pakialam ba nila hehe

[red_yesha]

same here, Hindi rin ako nagkaroon ng "debut", hindi ko kasi peg, tska hindi rin kasi praktikal haha, mas maigi kung ipunin nalang ang pera for tuition. Naghanda lang kami then nagpapunta ng mga College Classmates ko. Infairness nag enjoy naman kami lalo na si Mama kasi 1st time yun na mag imbita ako ng lalakeng kaklase sa bahay.
Kahit kailan hindi ko malilimutan yun

[molybdenumstudios]

TBH, ang debut party ay korni talaga. If I were to have a church wedding, it should only be attended by family members. No best man, bridesmaid, maid of honor, usher... nope. Not in a million years will it happen.

[gharz412]

I never had a debut party pero I promised myself na babawi ako sa kasal ko and thankful naman ako na natupad

[nicoletta]

I also did not have a debut and I got over it.  What I had was the wedding of my dreams.  My husband and his family gave that to me, because they knew I did not have a big celebration when I was 18 even though I wanted one.

[Ma.Jewel_1987]

I didn't even had an icecrem on my 18th bday, didn't bother me much anyway, nacocornyhan din ako sa debut celebration anyway.

[blackgreen]

I didn't have a debut, simple dinner lang sa bahay. I will also not have a grand wedding. Simple lunch reception lang sa isang restaurant with immediate families.

[fionaapple]

waaa sis pinkish, ako rin eh type ko magpa jollibee party sa sarili ko pag dating ng 30 Kiber ba nila noh.

parang gusto ko din ito!

hehe. di rin ako nagdebut. ayaw ko naman kasi ayoko yung ganun. i find it corny. hehe. tsaka parang ordinary lang naman sa akin yung 18th birthday. naghanda lang kami sa bahay ng lola ko, umuwi kami sa probinsya tapos andun lahat mga kamaganak ko. masaya.

ang pinaghandaan ko ng mabuti ay yung future ko. masasabi kong successful na ang pakiramdam at tingin ko sa sarili ko. natutupad ko na isa-isa mga pangarap ko.

[Annie M.]

wala din akong debut. ako kang yung taong i never wanted to parade around in a gown. even my wedding was very simple.

in place of a debut, my parents have me money to throw a beach party for my friends from college and high school. small celeb lang - i think 10 or 12 lang kami, max. weekend trip lang din. we rented a beach house. it was more memorable for me kasi kasama crush ko (hahaha) and it was my first time to drink beer! 

siguro the cost of that trip is wala pang 1/10th ng cost ng debut. but somehow mas memorable sya.

[sachism]

I also didnt have a debut. The only bday party i can remember was my 7th and I was so happy at that time. Hindi din naman uso sa province before and debut.

But for our girl, para makabawi, we have a yearly party for her hopefully til 7th then we are hoping to give her a debut party if in case she would like to have one and we will give her whatever we can afford. But kung iba ang gusto nya, ok lang din sa amin bec I think this kind of celebration fits a certain personality.

Bawi ka na lang sis sa daughter mo (just in case) or think of othe happier memories during your teen years. 👸

[molybdenumstudios]

Hindi ko gets bakit kasi naging ISSUE kapag walang engradeng debut party ang isang babae? I find engrandeng debut parties corny tbh.

[mebpa]

i also didn't have debut but i don't regret it coz there's no point crying over spilled milk.

what i had was a small lunch (because we still have afternoon class after) with a few friends and future hubby at our house.

but, if you really want to have that debut, there is no other way than to just get over with it (that is if keri mo mag "debut" at 30). i think that's the only solution if you're really depressed with not having big party.