How do people stop looking for love

[rana0460]

I?m 21 years old and yet to have a serious relationship. I know that might be normal at my age but I?m probably one of the few women who want something serious and long term at my age. I haven?t had the best luck with the people I?ve been around. I?ve always attracted the wrong type of people and they have all left me a little more traumatized than I was. But recently I?ve been in therapy and I have a whole new mindset. I?m trying my hardest to love myself and recognize my worth and not take anymore s***  Appvalley Tweakbox .

For the longest time I?ve been telling myself that I can?t possibly love someone else when I don?t love myself. So I?ve sworn off relationships for a while, but my therapist tells me that doesn?t have to always be the case. That?s I?m deserving of love and I don?t have to close myself off completely. But everyone keeps saying to stop looking and love will find you. I don?t understand that, how do people stop looking? How do people stop longing for that meaningful connection with another person? I can?t, I want something like that, someone who will understand me and value me and treat me like I?m a person and not an object.

I?m not in dating apps or anything so I guess I have the not looking part down. But how do you expect to meet anyone outside of that. I tried dating apps a while ago again and they have really gone to s***, I realized I don?t have the energy to keep up with talking to multiple people at a time. I became one of those people who ghost and stop talking after a while. I realized it wasn?t good for my mental health? and I?m in an okay space right now and didn?t want to jeopardize that.

How do you expect to meet people, and i supped to wait till I?m completely healed before I try again. Being that is an unrealistic expectation, everyone has something going on right? Does that mean I should stop trying. Is it bad that I want this so bad, not bad enough I?m willing to just date anyone. I want something real.

TL;DR I?m sick of people telling me to stop looking for love, when it?s something I?ve always been longing for. Any advice?