Hi, I hope I can get insights with you guys on this.
I have a boyfriend, soon to be husband, who has 2 kids with his Ex lived in partner for about 8-10 years. They are classmates in college, and they were friends. He got her pregnant accidentally when they were in college, and as expected, even without love, he just accepted his fate and lived with the girl for the child. They acted as husband and wife because they were living in the same roof, the girl was madly inlove with him, and my boyfriend, who was currently her kalivein that time, just go along with the flow, nakisama, dahil sa bata. And as years passed they already had a second child. And here is where the story goes. They were never compatible, they always fight because the girl always lies about money. her family has no source of income, so they are always asking the girl for money, and the girl, hid that from my boyfriend. What she always do is get money from him in the process of making stories using their children. For example saying na their children has fieldtrip, has projects well in fact wala naman, And my boyfriend was busy to his work, lately nalang nya namomonitor. But he always forgive. The girl always secretely get money from his wallet, use his name to borrow money from my boyfriends' officemates, and friends, she even uses his credit cards without permission. And umabot na din sa fact na kinuha nya
[textspeak!] fund ng parents association and he she got imprisoned. And according to my boyfriends employers, who were my current employers now, because dun kami ngmeet sa work, my boyfriend suffered a lot for paying all the money she extorted. And maraming beses na nyang gustong makipaghiwaly because he have given a countless chances , but the girl always uses the children na ilalayo nya, and becaus emy husband loved them so much, nagtiis sya. Well all this things, nangyari ng wala pa ako. I have heard it all sakanya and sa kapatid nya and Nakita ko rin sa fb na my scammers alert un babae. And here is the thing, we met kung saan ako ngtatrabaho ngayon, and we fell in love with each other, and ofcourse i resisted at first, pero hindi ko din napigilan kasi mahal ko talaga sya. Weve been together for 1 year.
All that 1 Year was a full mess, because nalaman nung ex kalived in nya, to make the story short, nang gulo sya, minsg nya lahat ng kamag anak ko, and may bahay un boyfriend ko where they live now kasma yung kapatid nya na may pamilya na in at nanay nya, isang bahay up and down.
he wanted na dun sila mgstay kasi mas ok sila doon kesa sa pamilya nung girl, but at that time the girl always refuses, lage nnya nilalayo yung mga bata. And nagsasabi sya na walang sustento na binibigay yung boyfriend ko, kahit meron naman.
And now buntis na ako, were planning to get married, and bumukod because I am living with my tita. And now, bumalik na yung mgiina nya sa bahay nila. And yung girl, is buntis din sa ibang lalake na ayaw syang panagutan. Ngiistay sya doon, nakiusap sya sakin na kung pwede doon muna sya kasi gusto nya makasama mga anak nya, dahil alam nya pg bumukod sya ilalayo na un mga bata sakanya. masakit pero pumayag ako kasi mga anak nya un. And all of our plans ay napostpone, paglipat at kasal because of that, at some point nalulungkot ako at nagtatampo and at some point naiintindhan ko.
And nung tinanong ko sya if ready na ba sya lumipat, oo daw pero humihingi sya sakin ng 2 days na doon sya sa mga bata. I dont know what to feel, I know I shoudnt doubt but and dami kong naiisip ngayon, like hindi pa nga kami nakakalipat parang iniisip mo na agad bumalik doon, yung pinili nga nya ako, but with certain doubts I dont know if nararamdaman ko lang yun or im just overthinking. He promised me na it will happen lahat this year, pero bakit ganun, why I am even doubting. I know I shouldnt be selfish and wala naman akong kaso na he will give time with his kids. pero bakit nararamdaman ko na they are more important than me? sinusulit lang ba nya yung oras kasama sila? and by the way, he comes here every sat, uwi sya ng sunday, minsan he is here pg weekdays. Please enlighten me guys.
