MY FAMILY DOES NOT WANT MY BOYFRIEND FOR ME
BECAUSE OF OUR LIFE STATUS.
It started po we met at work. I am professional and he was one of our staff. He's simple and very jolly.
Naging kami po and first I was quite hesitated because if pinakilala po baka disapprove ng parents ko. But I followed my heart. He was my first boyfriend and he was a gamer quite addict sa games.
Then one time when we were going home from out co-workers birthday party. Sa kanto po ng street namin, nahuli po kami ng auntie ko nagkasalubong po kami but nakaakbay sa akin si boyfie. But we were that sleepy and tipsy.
Nagulat si auntie then binati ko naman siya nung nagkasalubong kami. kinausap nya agad ang mom ko. They asked me if he was my bf.. and asked about him work, life, bakit daw pumili ako ng mahirap na bf etc.
I admitted to them na bf ko po and ayw po nila sa kanya. I was afraid all of my family from lola, tito , tita and my siblings ayaw sa kanya because mahirap lang po siya baka hindi po ako kaya buhayin, baka mahirapan lang ako sa buhay.
The day after tomorrow when I was at work, bigla po ako sinundo ng prents ko then kinausap si boyfie sa kabilang branch. They even said sa kanya na "bakit daw anak ko?,
"Pwede layuan mo na anak ko. "
"Opportunista ka at nag tatake advantage dapat piliin nya ka level nya wag daw ako. "
And it hit his ego.
That time rin po sobrang naguguluhan po ako that was my first time mixed emotions, more of natatakot, nalulungkot, naawa, etc. but gusto ko rin po siya ipaglaban.
Sabi tin po nila na binigyan nila ako ng aandang buhay, pinag aral ako. But the situation was almost the same as my prents but they were not successful in marriage. Kaya siguro isip nila na magagaya ko sila.
And Because of fear from my parents
( masunurin) decided na I followed their advice with respect. I suddenly broke up with my bf.
Then after that, super lungkot ko hindi ko lang po pinapakita kasi nasa work po ako need to concentrate. Then after a few days. He messaged me if pwede kami magkausap.
Sabi nya po mahal nya parin po ako and i kept saying ganyan talaga sa una hindi nawawala.
He said:
bat pa natin need maghiwalay? Itatama ko lahat ng mali kong nagawa sayo.
Ipaglalaban kita mag aabroad ako ipon ng money then harap na tayo sa kanila para manlang may pambawi ako. Sabay na tayo lalaban. ( with his teary eyes).
AI couldn't help it kasi po kinain nya po pride nya despite po of what happened na parang iniwan ko siya and sa mga sinabi rin sa kanya ng prents ko. And I accept him for his second chance na magbago. (Dati kasi more on games po siya and nawawalan po siya time &attention sa akin).
Fast forward then now, we were on our 1 yr relationship, for the past months na bumalik po siya, I noticed him making changes, hindi na po siya ganun ka addict sa games ako naman po hindi na ganun ka clingy. He gave time to me he even change his temper attitude or bawasan yung init ng ulo nya.
I appreciate his efforts now. And let his money( salary) kept by me. Ako daw po magbudget ins spite na independent living po siya. (May kanya kanyang life na po sila ng siblings and parents nya).
But time to time, my mom asks me of bf ko pa daw siya. Wag daw po ako pumili mas mababa sa akin , kawawa raw po ako in the future. I understand my mom but I saw the sincerity of my bf to me and his intentions are pure.
Now, naguguluhan po ako, if I continue to hide our relationship sa family ko?
I admit Im still afraid to my family because of the good life they have given me, and pinag aral nila ako. ( utabg na loob kumbaga)
Or should I formally introduce him sa family ko at this time na Ipaglalaban na po ba namin w/out wala pa siya mapapakita.
Or just wait till may ipapakita na po siya na pambawi?
Madami ba po kasi nagsasabi samin na ipakilala ko na siya pra with respect na rin po sa kanya kasi ako napakilala na po sa family side nya.
At kung mahuhuli man po kami ulit, ipaglaban ko na raw po.
Hoping for your advices,
Thank you!
