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Lobsterball

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Single, Alone and Pregnant
« on: September 08, 2019, 03:37:48 pm »
Hello everyone. I am new here at GT and i just want to get advice. I actually need help. My heart is in so much pain. Sorry this is a long post.

I am single, alone, and 12 weeks pregnant. Baby daddy does not want to acknowledge the kid. He said that the baby is not his because after we broke up i dated this guy once. I told him that if he is willing, i would like to have paternity test so that we could both have peace of mind. Then that's when he started to get angry.

It turned out that he has a gf na pala. They just had cool off then we got together then he got back with the ex. So parang sabay kami. The thing is, i know it's my fault for not doing research on his background. Btw, he has a 10-year old daughter from previous relationship but he claims na nilayo sa kanya yung anak.

I am so heartbroken. My parents accepted my situation and told me that if the father does not want to be part of it, let him be. We will support you and love the baby and a family does not have to be complete to be happy.

Now my dilemma is, i don't know if it's just hormones but there's part of me that wants to communicate with the gf and tell her my situation. In a way i want to cause a bit of damage in his peace of mind. This was triggered when i saw photos of him partying like he doesnt have a care in the world. I don't know if i should "Let go, Let God" or  should i tell the gf? In a way nakukunsensya din naman ako baka masira sila eh cya na pinili. Ayoko lang na bakit parang naghahabol ako sa karapatan ng anak ko. He's 35 with stable job. Sana man lang may sense of responsibility.

Sorry for the long post. Thank you!

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Re: Single, Alone and Pregnant
« Reply #1 on: September 08, 2019, 05:19:21 pm »
Hi and welcome dito sa gt.

Wala namang masama kung sabihin mo sa gf, maybe ito na rin ang ganti mo dahil ayaw niyang tanggapin na may anak siya sa iyo and yes paminsan minsan gusto rin natin ng revenge para makabawas din ng pain natin diba hehe.. Basta sigurado ka na gagawin mo yan not para mabawi si ex sa kanya and after mong sabihin sa gf tumigil ka na ring makipagcommunicate dahil mas maganda wala na agad drama as soon as possible para makaconcentrate ka sa pagbubuntis mo.. Kung ano man ang gawin ng gf sa info na ibibigay mo bahala na lang sila dun..

Buti naman very supportive family mo, natanong mo ba sila kung ano say nila sa plan mo? :)
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Re: Single, Alone and Pregnant
« Reply #2 on: September 08, 2019, 05:31:42 pm »
Maybe you're even doing the gf a favor by telling her baka kasi hindi nya alam what kind of guy she's with.
But if you can, just focus on your pregnancy and caring for your health and your child.
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Re: Single, Alone and Pregnant
« Reply #3 on: September 08, 2019, 10:54:31 pm »
For me go and tell the gf but after masabi mo let go and don't expect na babalik sya. Malamang magdedeny sya pero para sa peace of mind sabihin mo.

Buti na lang andyan family mo I pray na malagpasan mo yan and I know you will.

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Re: Single, Alone and Pregnant
« Reply #4 on: September 09, 2019, 07:03:01 am »
I would tell the gf din if I were in your situation, not because gusto ko na panagutan nya ko but because it's my way of getting my peace  :P. Honestly, I wouldn't want a man like that in my life as well, baka mas madame pang possible damage ang gawin nyan sa buhay mo kaya better na din na wala sya. I'm glad that your family is very supportive of you and kaya mo yan sis, hinde mo kelangan ng ganyang lalake. Sabe nga nila, when God gives you want you what, that's His direction but when He doesn't, that's His protection.
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Re: Single, Alone and Pregnant
« Reply #5 on: September 09, 2019, 03:49:29 pm »
My god sis I feel you as in. Ganyan na ganyan din past ko 😭

Pwede pashare? I was 23 when I found out I was preggy. Guy was 30. He ran away when he found out. As in blinock ako and everything. Tapos may biglang bagong gf na kapitbahay namin.

My family tried to talk to his family. Nakakaloka sila pa nagsasabi di daw sila sure sya yung tatay. In short super in denial. Nastress ako ng sobra. Yung guy may 3 anak na sa 2 nanay. And as of this writing 5 na anak nya sa 4 na nanay and he doesnt even have a stable job. Diyos ko buti na lang di na ko naghabol. As in now my child is 7 years old as in never sya nag support kahit piso.

Mahirap pa naman maghabol ng child support sa pinas unlike other countries na required.

If kaya mo sis.. with the help of your family.. kahit kayo na lang. wag nyo na sya involve. Also wag mo ilagay name nya sa birth cert ni baby. Blanko as in NA ganun. Para wala ng habol habol pa. Yun lang naman sakin. And dont reach out to him. Yung mga ganyang lalake di na magbabago. If magkahimala at maenlighten sya dapat mag reach out sayo. Dont nag or beg pakita mo kaya mo. Be strong!!

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Re: Single, Alone and Pregnant
« Reply #6 on: September 09, 2019, 05:24:50 pm »
^ at ang mahirap kapag tumanda at kumikita na anak mo magpaparamdam na yang baby daddy sa inyo.
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Re: Single, Alone and Pregnant
« Reply #7 on: September 09, 2019, 06:36:27 pm »
Kapal ng mukha ng mga ganyan kaya sis go, ang lagay kaw lang mamoblema  damay damay na 😁 party party pa sya ah.

 


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