Marriage problems/issues/ complaints etc. Thread 2

[lordknight_aiz.18]

Let US continue our discussion here.

Link to the first thread.
https://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php?topic=235245.0

[izzybaby]

Is this thread still active?

Anyway, I have ongoing marital issue and I don't have the courage to talk to people about it without preserving his image.  My partner is a very nice person, sweet and all, but easily snaps and when it happens - total silence treatment that could go on for days. It's kiling me but when things go back to normal, apologies are in order but doesn't want to talk about it..

I feel so alone, disrespected, neglected....

[kaythrielle]

How long have you two known each other and have been together sis? Has he always been like this even before?

Kasi in any relationship, communication is really important.
You have to tell him how he makes you feel when he does that. Hopefully, he will be open-minded to take your feelings into consideration and change. Hopefully.

[izzybaby]

How long have you two known each other and have been together sis? Has he always been like this even before?

Kasi in any relationship, communication is really important.
You have to tell him how he makes you feel when he does that. Hopefully, he will be open-minded to take your feelings into consideration and change. Hopefully.

Yes, he is always like this and I have seen how much he has changed through the years that's why I married him. But recently, he couldn't hold his temper and in two consecutive weeks, he made a big deal out of something very minor (at least for me).

I know communication is really really important but when we go back to being okay, he denies that he was angry at me. And having this fear that he would get upset again if I get too persistent (no matter how calmly I speak), I would just stop asking.

[Ace__864]

I know how silence from your partner can kill you inside. I?ve been in your shoes recently. I?ve been married for six years to my husband.

[barcode]

Sis izzybaby believe me I can totally relate to this. My husband hav a very short temper. And sobrang disrespected ako pag galit sya. Lahat ng masasakit na word inabot ko na yata.

And we?ve been fighting A LOT.

We?ve been a couple for 12 years, and now after 4 years of marriage, parang unti unti ako nagigising na hindi yata namen mahal ang isa?t isa. I don?t know, I think I love him, maybe he love me too but also maybe hindi naman love yung nararamdaman namen.

We have a 9 month old baby, he never believe in Post partum depression, nasa isip ko lang daw yun at wag daw akong maarte.

I know mahal nya yung anak namen, but I just don?t think he loves me anymore. He just lost his super toxic work, so sya lahat kumikilos sa bahay including taking care of our baby although 6 hours lang naman akong wala sa bahay, paguwi ako na ulit kay baby. Wala syang work ngayon so akala ko hindi na sya masyadong stress pero ganun pa din, we still fight just about everything. Super sweet minsan tapos pag may hindi nagustuhan sa ginawa or sinabi ko, he just snaps!

How do I deal with the fact that I think my husband doesn?t really love me anymore?

[Maia_Cache]

Is this thread still active?

Anyway, I have ongoing marital issue and I don't have the courage to talk to people about it without preserving his image.  My partner is a very nice person, sweet and all, but easily snaps and when it happens - total silence treatment that could go on for days. It's kiling me but when things go back to normal, apologies are in order but doesn't want to talk about it..

I feel so alone, disrespected, neglected....

I can relate, my husband is like this ever since, we've been together for more than 10yrs including bf/gf. It doesn't matter with him kung sino ang mali, he never accept/see na siya ang mali and will always do the silent treatment kahit umabot pa ng months, before hindi ko talaga matake but then nasanay na lang din ako, alam ko naman kasi na despite that eh mahal niya ko and he's a good man/husband rin. before he told me na ayaw niya nakikipagusap coz emotional siya kapag naguusap, as in naiiyak siya kaya mas ok sa kanya ang silent treatment. what i do is try ko na lang to understand/tiis at tiyaga. for sure din naman ganun din siya sakin tinitiis din niya yung mga bad traits ko.

[izzybaby]

@barcode @maia_cache I felt relieved that I am not alone in the situation and there are women here who undergo the same struggle because for once I found people who understand how I feel. I don?t want to talk to so many people, I have moments na gusto ko sumabog and magwala and I turn to some closest friends and all they say is ?magusap kayo? or ?ang tagal na nyan? or ?that?s not normal?. I know they care about me but I didn?t want to hear those words as they just rubbing in the pain. All I wanted was someone to listen without judgment or unnecessary opinion.

Anyway, his silent treatment is now turned to cold treatment. He talks to me only if absolutely necessary but that?s it. I?m trying to be civil and pretend I?m doing okay but I still have moments that I cry a lot...

[Maia_Cache]

masasanay ka rin sis. OO communication talaga is needed yung kasabihan na wag palilipasin ang isang araw na magkaaway, pero mahirap kasi baguhin ang isang tao kung yun talaga ang ugali niya. Ako what I do is kapag magkaaway kami pinapalipas ko na lang yung silent/cold treatment niya until maging ok na kami, then kapag ok na kami and balik na sa dati na masaya na ulit dun ko pinapasok ang communication, explain in a light way kung ano yung kinagalit/pinagawayan niyo. ayun so kahit hindi nasolve yung issue nung time na magkaaway kayo, nasolve pa rin siya eventually nung ok na kayo parehas.

Kung pano naman palilipasin yung galit mo ang technique ko naman dyan is just be secured na mahal ka ni hubby na kahit hindi ka pinapansin eh mahal ka pa rin niya, tapos iisipin ko na lang lahat ng mabubuti niyang nagawa/traits para mawala na yung galit ko at matiis ko na yung pagkainis ko sa silent treatment niya.

[janachen]

Nakakapagod din kasi, kahit sabihin mo ng sabihin..uulit ulit naman hanggang ikaw na ang magsawa.

Lahat ata tayo may issue sa partner. Yun bang parang anytime ikaw na ang mapapagod at iwan mo na sya.

[izzybaby]

Hi mga sis, I?m very grateful for your advice. I?m very much inspired that these hurdles can be managed and handled. I agree it?s exhausting and painful especially if repetitive but yes communication should solve it and I guess as wives we should find a way how to get a chance to sit down and talk regardless of how awkward it can get.

Again thanks a lot, I feel so much better now. ☺️