What guys think about dating a woman 5+ years their junior?

[Girltalker2]

^ haha

I think may thread nyan dito but very Long ago na

What if we turn the tables around, like Kay sis kvandehaak. You?re in your early 20s and a guy in his late 40s or 50s approach you. Di ba nakaka turnoff?

[lalee888]

I like the topic and clarification :-)

When I was 20, I got a lot of men hitting on me in their 40s and up. I was grossed out and hated it. I wanted to date lang anyone na ka-vibe ko since I was in my prime and looking for a companion to enjoy the fun of being young and going out.

But I had friends who were dating men twice their age. I was confused and puzzled kasi it was not for me (plainly that). But these friends were truly in love. As in, in love.

One friend naman, after five years with a guy twice her age, the guy wanted to get married to her na. So nagpropose si guy. Kaso may but. The guy already had a kid from a previous marriage and didn't want another kid. My friend wanted kids. So ayun iyakan Sila and they broke up. Magkaiba Sila ng gusto and priorities in life.

But they were very much in love.

[oshiawase]

^ haha

I think may thread nyan dito but very Long ago na

What if we turn the tables around, like Kay sis kvandehaak. You?re in your early 20s and a guy in his late 40s or 50s approach you. Di ba nakaka turnoff?

Mas prefer ko sana topic ko, na POV ng guys.  haha

But to answer your question, I will be turned off if 40+ men na. Especially since I don't think I'm mature enough to be in the same wavelength. But if early to late 30s, why not diba?

[hushush]

Kung gusto mo sis puro POV lang ng guys, dun ka magcreate ng thread sa tipidpc.com or pex.femalenetwork kasi to, karamihan dito girls eh.. Mangilan-ngilan lang ang magtatambay dito.. Just saying ha. Di nang-aaway.. 😋😋

[dismembered]

10 year age difference is just a number. Kung 25 years old ako at ang older partner ko ay si Sunshine Cruz, may magrereklamo pa ba?

Siguro it's not really the age that matters. Siguro yung physical differences due to age. But then kung kahit naman 50 years old pero mukhang 25yo lang, wala na sigurong papansin. So yeah, I think that's what people fuss about  kapag may mukhang malaking differences between couple sa looks due to age. Walang difference sa sobrang pogi na lalake na may partner na hindi kagandahan or vice versa.

And to add. This is a subjective matter. Some like them young, some like them matured. So no need to generalize. It just happens na mas marami ng gusto young looking. Perhaps dahil na din sa biological responses sa katawan natin.

[dismembered]

Mas prefer ko sana topic ko, na POV ng guys.  haha

But to answer your question, I will be turned off if 40+ men na. Especially since I don't think I'm mature enough to be in the same wavelength. But if early to late 30s, why not diba?

Guy here.

To answer your question, yung POV ng guys dating girls 10 years younger differs depende sa sa age at priority nila.

A 30yr old guy mag date ng 20yr old woman may find it difficult kasi may difference na sa priorities nila. si 20yo girl mag start pa lang ng adulthood pero si 30yo guy baka mag settle na. So medyo may differences unless magtugma ang gusto nilang mangyari in the next 2-5years. At some point it would work and may mga kilala akong ganito lalo na sa office setup. Yung mga single na senior employees na makaka-meet ng mga new hires.

For a 40-50yo man to date a girl around her 30s, I think i would not matter much na. Same same lang. Parehas na sila ng priorities I think and hindi na siguro malaki difference sa look due to age.

So ang big deal lang siguro talaga is for girls 18-27yo to date men 10years older than them. Yan lang siguro may masasabi ang mga tao.

[lalee888]

Guy here.

To answer your question, yung POV ng guys dating girls 10 years younger differs depende sa sa age at priority nila.

A 30yr old guy mag date ng 20yr old woman may find it difficult kasi may difference na sa priorities nila. si 20yo girl mag start pa lang ng adulthood pero si 30yo guy baka mag settle na. So medyo may differences unless magtugma ang gusto nilang mangyari in the next 2-5years. At some point it would work and may mga kilala akong ganito lalo na sa office setup. Yung mga single na senior employees na makaka-meet ng mga new hires.

For a 40-50yo man to date a girl around her 30s, I think i would not matter much na. Same same lang. Parehas na sila ng priorities I think and hindi na siguro malaki difference sa look due to age.

So ang big deal lang siguro talaga is for girls 18-27yo to date men 10years older than them. Yan lang siguro may masasabi ang mga tao.

^This. Can't agree more. Priorities and being on the same page talaga ang nag-mmatter for both parties. Age won't matter if what you want out of the relationship is the same.

[kvandenhaak]

What if we turn the tables around, like Kay sis kvandehaak. You?re in your early 20s and a guy in his late 40s or 50s approach you. Di ba nakaka turnoff?

Eeww yan! Pero, depende sa girl din. Eh pano kung filthy rich? Look at the politicians, puro mga bata at magaganda ang mistresses? Pero pag successful ka in your own field, I don't think the girl will settle for a sugar daddy.

Medyo OT : Just want to make it clear, hindi ako sugar mommy of my guy. He is successful in his own right while I am just a pangkaraniwang mamamayan. Hindi ko kayang magbayad ng lalake... LOL! 😁

[lalee888]

This has been something I've been seeing lately: guys in a relationship with women who are 10+ years their junior.

I want to hear your opinion as to why guys fall for younger women.

Does the big age gap a turn off or a big part of the consideration for a guy to date a younger woman?

EDIT:

Due to insistent public demand (HAHA!) I modified my post to reflect 10+ years age gap.

Thank you po sa lahat ng contributions niyo! ^

But I guess mas interested ako in knowing "What goes in a guy's head when he is looking for a partner and meets a woman 10+ his junior? Na-ooff ba si guy like 'masyadong bata'?"

Hey sis @oshiawase curious lang ako bakit mo pala na-ask this topic? Are you or anyone close to you in this situation dating an older guy (10yr gap)? I think mas makakaexplain mga guy talkers if may specific case.

If general question lang, you can ignore my comment. Was just wondering.

[oshiawase]

Hey sis @oshiawase curious lang ako bakit mo pala na-ask this topic? Are you or anyone close to you in this situation dating an older guy (10yr gap)? I think mas makakaexplain mga guy talkers if may specific case.

If general question lang, you can ignore my comment. Was just wondering.

My two best friends who are in their late 20s are dating men 9 and 10 years older than them.

Then now, I like a guy who is also 10 years older than me. I am also new to our company so I am being treated like a "baby" despite my age (I consider myself adult!). I just want to know whether a guy who is 30+ can get attracted to a woman 10 years his junior in her late 20s but is also new hire. hahaha! Ayoko kasing maging "baby" lang sa mata nilang lahat.

[oshiawase]

^This. Can't agree more. Priorities and being on the same page talaga ang nag-mmatter for both parties. Age won't matter if what you want out of the relationship is the same.

Big deal pa ang 25-27yo woman dating men 10+ years her senior? Bakit naman?

[Girltalker2]

^ I don?t think it?s a big deal.
But again, like any relationships, it boils down to compatibility. If magkaiba kayo ng generation at Di makarelate Ang isa?t Isa, then puede walang mapag usapan. But if you?re compatible and have chemistry, kahit 15 years pa iyan, puede naman!

[lalee888]

Big deal pa ang 25-27yo woman dating men 10+ years her senior? Bakit naman?

Hey sis. Not sure what yo mean? I never said it's a big deal. In fact, I fully support it. As the previous^ post said, it all boils down to COMPATIBILITY. Age DOES NOT determine compatibility, but it can minimally influence things about us that effectively determine compatibility. How are two people compatible? They have the same priorities in life (this is usually a deal breaker), they have similar interests (go clubbing or stay home), they have similar views, they revolve in similar circles, etc.

In your case sis, if you want this older guy sa work mo not to see you as a baby or treat you like one, just start building a familiarity based relationship with him. Chat him up or create circumstances where you can talk about what you have in common and be relatable -- if they can relate with you, they will think you are their 'equal' or same wavelength and they will even forget the age gap, except sa looks. (young looks is always a good thing anyway, so OWN IT sis)

Find out this guys interests - sports teams, tv shows, activities outside, does he go on marathons, or if he travels a lot, and you want to travel to one of his recently visited city, talk about that but BETTER yet, ikaw ang mag-share ng knowledge and know-how mo sa kanya para makita nya na knowledgeable adult ka and makita nya, you have something in common.

But of course, BE HONEST with yourself. Be organically natural -- don't pretend to be interested in something if in the long run it will backfire on you (pag di kayo talaga compatible, it wont work out). Good luck sis! Keep us posted! Kinikilig ako for you. I miss having office crushes. Married na ako, and merong may office crushes sakin, ang cucute pa..from youngins to oldies, but tali na ako and would not dare compromise my marriage. Super compatible kame kaya keeper talaga <3

[hisana]

If this guy sees you as a "baby" at your age na late 20s ka na and he's just in his 30s (not a very big age gap, IMO), then it has more to do with your personality. Hindi yata age ang issue dito. Ewan ko lang ha, I would like to hear it from guys themselves -- kayo ba guys, kung 30s or even 40s kayo, too young pa ba ang late 20s? Parang sobrang dami ko nga nakikita na these men even date women in their early 20s pa lang.

[dismembered]

Big deal pa ang 25-27yo woman dating men 10+ years her senior? Bakit naman?

Big deal lang yan if at 27yo eh mukhang ka pang teen, you act like a teen and your priorities are like a teen lalo na if the man 10years older eh mukhang middle aged na at gusto nya ng magsettle. Pero if hindi naman sya mukhang matanda at same naman kayo ng gusto mangyari then hindi big deal yun.

[oshiawase]

Hey sis. Not sure what yo mean? I never said it's a big deal. In fact, I fully support it. As the previous^ post said, it all boils down to COMPATIBILITY. Age DOES NOT determine compatibility, but it can minimally influence things about us that effectively determine compatibility. How are two people compatible? They have the same priorities in life (this is usually a deal breaker), they have similar interests (go clubbing or stay home), they have similar views, they revolve in similar circles, etc.

In your case sis, if you want this older guy sa work mo not to see you as a baby or treat you like one, just start building a familiarity based relationship with him. Chat him up or create circumstances where you can talk about what you have in common and be relatable -- if they can relate with you, they will think you are their 'equal' or same wavelength and they will even forget the age gap, except sa looks. (young looks is always a good thing anyway, so OWN IT sis)

Find out this guys interests - sports teams, tv shows, activities outside, does he go on marathons, or if he travels a lot, and you want to travel to one of his recently visited city, talk about that but BETTER yet, ikaw ang mag-share ng knowledge and know-how mo sa kanya para makita nya na knowledgeable adult ka and makita nya, you have something in common.

But of course, BE HONEST with yourself. Be organically natural -- don't pretend to be interested in something if in the long run it will backfire on you (pag di kayo talaga compatible, it wont work out). Good luck sis! Keep us posted! Kinikilig ako for you. I miss having office crushes. Married na ako, and merong may office crushes sakin, ang cucute pa..from youngins to oldies, but tali na ako and would not dare compromise my marriage. Super compatible kame kaya keeper talaga <3

Ganda ng advice na ito! Thank you ha! As step 1, I stopped using po and opo when talking to him and now share jokes with him. Let's see how things go.

And kudos for choosing your marriage!!!

[oshiawase]

If this guy sees you as a "baby" at your age na late 20s ka na and he's just in his 30s (not a very big age gap, IMO), then it has more to do with your personality. Hindi yata age ang issue dito. Ewan ko lang ha, I would like to hear it from guys themselves -- kayo ba guys, kung 30s or even 40s kayo, too young pa ba ang late 20s? Parang sobrang dami ko nga nakikita na these men even date women in their early 20s pa lang.

Baka nga. I've been described as someone who has "gentle personality"/"mild-mannered" sa office. I smile to office mates and staff din and po and opo to older people (but not to him although he is older). I guess we really havent had any work done together so he has not seen me in my serious/beast mode so I guess he only knows about my "smiling/magalang/newbie aura" side.

[lalee888]

^^ Sis, you are very welcome and good luck.

Btw, naisip ko lang and this comes from a place of concern.. you know how for women there's a glass ceiling? Majority of leadership positions are still men.

You recognizing this situation - 'baby' ka - is a very big step for you. You want to be seen as a person of authority, and taken seriously, and mas mahirap sya for women (kaya nga meron pang feminist and gender equality movements). Hindi naman sinasadya ng men or ng society all the time na ganun, but there are unconscious biases and unconfirmed biases and social standards. Lalo na sa Pilipinas, we view women as polite, nice, demure (Translate in the workplace: not strong enough to lead over men). It's so hard to be seen as a leader and taken seriously without being referred to as a 'strong/bitchy woman.'

Anyway, ang point ko lang sis, na-observe mo na yung political dynamic sa office mo. You are in the right direction to overcome it -- not just sa guy-crush mo, but para rin sa career mo.

Btw sis, anong work environment mo (if you want to share lang), mas makaka-relate kami sa kwento mo. Iba kasi corporate culture ng bank versus manufacturing. Media versus consumer goods.

BASTA SIS, GOOD LUCK! I'm proud of you sa observations mo. Hindi lahat ng girls naiisip yan!

[kvandenhaak]

Something related. I have a niece from my Canadian ex's side of the family. They are very conservative Christians. She's about 20 and learned she's currently dating a guy 9 years older and from a Muslim family. Not mentioning her family is a little bit concerned about it, it seems to me there's a big age gap. He's quite an experienced guy and she's a sweet, naive girl. In this situation, the age gap makes a difference. My ex is 9 years older than me as well but I was 30 when we got married so there's really not much of a difference.

[oshiawase]

^^ Sis, you are very welcome and good luck.

Btw, naisip ko lang and this comes from a place of concern.. you know how for women there's a glass ceiling? Majority of leadership positions are still men.

You recognizing this situation - 'baby' ka - is a very big step for you. You want to be seen as a person of authority, and taken seriously, and mas mahirap sya for women (kaya nga meron pang feminist and gender equality movements). Hindi naman sinasadya ng men or ng society all the time na ganun, but there are unconscious biases and unconfirmed biases and social standards. Lalo na sa Pilipinas, we view women as polite, nice, demure (Translate in the workplace: not strong enough to lead over men). It's so hard to be seen as a leader and taken seriously without being referred to as a 'strong/bitchy woman.'

Anyway, ang point ko lang sis, na-observe mo na yung political dynamic sa office mo. You are in the right direction to overcome it -- not just sa guy-crush mo, but para rin sa career mo.

Btw sis, anong work environment mo (if you want to share lang), mas makaka-relate kami sa kwento mo. Iba kasi corporate culture ng bank versus manufacturing. Media versus consumer goods.

BASTA SIS, GOOD LUCK! I'm proud of you sa observations mo. Hindi lahat ng girls naiisip yan!

THANK YOU HA! RAMDAM KO SUPORTA MO! Kailangan ko yan kasi nakakafrustrate talaga kasi gusto ko itrato na nila akong adult. Althout 2 months palang naman ako sa office.

Thank you