On Anak sa Labas- Im Quitting- MODS, PLS REMOVE

[angese10]

 

[khaleesiCersei]

Well there you go sis, ayan na ang sagot hehe, tama ka unfair and listen to your kids, sila ang mas importante dito. Nasabi mo na ba sa husband mo na youre backing out na? nakaya mo mag isa ng matagal na panahon para lang bumalik sa toxic life na dulot niya. he has nothing to offer you at mukhang ayaw naman pati niya mag offer ng kahit ano bilang selfish siya. You deserve so much better.

[nerddict]

wow. Ikaw pa talaga mag-adjust? talk to your husband sis. tell him na uncomfortable kayong mag-iina sa set up na gusto nya. and your kids has spoken na din. baka mamaya may negative impact yan sa mga bata.

[plumpolka]

sis kamusta ang separation of properties niyo? nabanggit mo mag isa mo pinundar e. wala lang, naalala ko lang yung friend ko na separated na yung parents. parang nagpagawa daw sila SPA na ang properties nila, sa mga anak lang (legal) mapunta kasi sumama na lang sa bagong family yung dad nila haha. baka OT na. something na sana magawan ng batas sa pilipinas para sa may mga anak sa labas.

[twelvth_goddess]

Good thing you talked to your kids. Above all, you need to stand for what they need right now. And If they don't like the idea of having their step sibling live with them, mas kelangan talaga unahin mo yon kesa feelings mo. They might develop resentment towards you, their dad, and their step sibling. Wag na muna ipilit na tanggapin ngayon. It's one thing na malaman nila na may kapatid sila sa labas but totally another thing na makasama nila under one roof.

Another thing, assess mo talaga if it's a good thing na magbalikan pa kayo. Based on your posts kase, talagang may hesitations ka din. Having a complete family is always ideal but realistically speaking, sobrang dami ng nabago sa set up nyo and you can't just go back to how you used to para lang masabe na complete kayo. You've been okay with your kids without your husband. Siguro mas okay na yon for now, ang important naman in good terms sila sa tatay nila.

[angese10]

wala sis hatian na magaganap (though I know legally talaga conjugal dapat properties) kasi wala kami napundar na sabay. very young pa kami ng maghiwalay.

i finally told him that im quitting the supposed arrangement. madami din factor e pero alam mo yun, wala na ako gana pa manumbat, wala na ako energy para dun. syempre for me sang katutak na naman na sumbat narinig ko pero i just let those things pass.

i admit, im sad.

[Girltalker2]

^ sad about what?

Kala ko matagal na kayo hiwalay?

Also, think of all the headache and potential issues you would have faced kapag tinuloy mo iyan.
Sad ka lang kasi wala pa yung inaasam mong happy family picture.
Puede naman kayo mag iina happy, di kelangan ng mga asungot na dagdag perwisyo.

If I?m in your shoes, I would file for child support. Then file for annulment. Plan for a vacation with my kids. Look after their welfare. Try to improve on myself.

Mas happy ang life with peace of mind, when we learn to appreciate what we have rather than kainggitan yung mga fb pics na happy family daw (eh di naman).

[hisana]

Yes sis, sad talaga kasi kahit papaano may emotional bond kayo ng husband mo and as you said you wanted your family to be complete sana, pero hindi kasi pwede lahat daanin sa damdamin, Im sure you know that. The  attachment can be too great. Kaya sometimes women cant get themselves out of a difficult situation kahit deep down alam nila na may mali.

[khaleesiCersei]

I think sad ka lang kasi hindi mo ma execute yung idea mo ng buo ang family with your good for nothing ex husband. Wag na ipilit sis, maganda lang sa picture, sa panlabas, at siguro feeling mo, pag nakita kayo ng ibang tao na magkakasama eh iisipin nila wow happy family, hashtag relationship goals.. pero in reality naman eh kabaliktaran.

Oo lahat ng tao naghahangad niyan, picture perfect family. Pero kelangan rin natin minsan harapin ang katotohanan na mas mabuti na ang hiwalay kesa miserable pati mga anak nyo. Pede mo pa rin naman isali sa eksena ang ex mo pero bilang tatay na lang talaga ng mga anak mo. Let him visit your kids at magpaka tatay sa kanila. Pero hindi na bilang asawa.

Sabi nga nila kelangan mong bumitaw dun sa akala mong gusto mo para ma receive mo ang biyayang nakalaan para sayo. Malay mo sis, may dumating na magpupuno ng picture perfect idea mo ng family. Yung taong talagang makaka tuwang mo sa buhay. Yung hindi ka lalamangan hehe. Good luck sis! All the best

[kvandenhaak]

Your family will be Insta and Facebook worthy, yes! But that's a disaster waiting to happen. It's a disaster as it is to begin with.

[angese10]

 

[Shadow Angel]

^serial abuser pala ang husband mo bukod pa sa babaero. Nakawala ka na sa sakit ng ulo babalikan mo pa? Wala ka dala? Kulang pa ba un naranasan mo dati na suntok at sipa? Tapos patitirahin mo sa bahay mo sila sa master bedroom? Anong set up yan? Lalo lang maguguluhan mga anak mo. Mag isip isip ka mabuti di lang ikaw apektado may mga anak dapat mo rin isipin sa gagawin mo desisyon. Baka un akala mo makakabuti para sa kanila para masabi buo kayo ay hindi makadamage pa sa kanila. Nag voice out na mga kids mo na ayaw nilang makasama sa iisang bahay respect them too tutal tinatanong mo sila sinagot ka nila ng totoo sa loob nila. Kung gusto mo ng kasama sa buhay for sure hindi un husband mo ang worth it para dun.

[angese10]

 

[xsugar]

nag back read ako

Oo sis kaya mo yan. nakayanan mo noon, ngayon pa ba?Na-sad ka lang siguro because umasa ka dun sa sinasabi nilang nagbago na sya. Question is until when? eh parang based sa stories mo sandali lang talaga yun habang wala pa syang makitang kapalit.Let him go na lang. If para kayo talaga, kusa syang babalik syo.Nakakainis yung part na yung bata kaya nyang sustentuhan pero yung mga anak nyo lagi syang walang pera?! Dun pa lang red flag na. At ikaw pa mag adjust for them sa sarili mong bahay and properties, mali ata. Yes, walang kinalaman ang bata pero sana man lang kahit konting remorse may naipakita yung husband mo kaso parang wala eh, parang napilitan pa. Nakakainis lang.

Anyway, kaya mo yan sis. Be stronger than the last time. Ang dami mong na-achieve the first time it happened, lalo na ngayon na napatunayan mo na kinaya mo noon. Focus on yourself and your kids. You deserve so much better, And don't mind his words about you.

[khaleesiCersei]

Kaya mo yan sis. Nakaya mo nga noon at ang dami mo ng naipundar simula ng naghiwalay kayo ngayon pa kaya? You should feel relieved. Ibig sabihin hindi ka pinababayaan ng dyos at ng universe dahil hindi ka hinayaan bumalik sa impyernong dulot ng ex mo. Natawa ako sa ikaw pa talaga ang masama ang ugali. Grabe lang sa pagka selfish ang taong yun, yan ba ang gusto mong makalakihan ng mga anak mo? Syempre hindi.

The key is shifting your focus and not dwelling on something na you know deep inside is not right for you and your kids., instead of yearning for that idea of yours na picture perfect family, yearn for a happy and stress free life for you and your kids. Focus on giving your kids a bright and promising future. Yearn for a comfortable life for them. A dream vacay  perhaps? and for yourself maybe yearn for self improvement? Mapa physical man like getting fit or magpa derma, spa, plastic surgery etc. Or career wise siguro or even spiritual, join groups or classes or seminars for those.

[plumpolka]

goodluck sis! cut them out of your lives for good. gets kita na walang kinalaman yung bata pero di ba, pag galit ka sa nanay, napapasa pati sa bata yung galit mo. hayaan mo na lang yung mga anak mo na sila ang maki interact sa kapatid nila sa labas. pero ikaw, you dont really have anything to do with them kasi di ka kaano-ano. its best to not involve yourself with them. dont stress yourself over them. not worth it. make sure your kids will be successful without his help. sampal na sa mukha ng husband mo yun na mapalaki mo sila ng mabuti without him. instead of being depressed sa mga sinabi sayo ng husband mo at sa nangyari sa marriage mo, isipin mo yung mga kids mo. they will see you as a strong woman. they will want to defend you kasi you're always there for them even if their father wasnt. wag mo na sya kausapin, let him go from your life. let your kids communicate with their father and soon they will realize kung anong klaseng tatay ba meron sila and baka sila na mismo ang mag give up sa kanya and mag focus na lang sa family ninyo. family is not about having a father & mother. its about being together, who sticks through happiness & sadness. dont think too much about what he said about you, it reflects on who he is. ibig sabihin di nya nakikita yung maganda sayo. ganon bang tao gusto mo makasama hanggang pagtanda? someone who puts you down. kahit magbago pa sya, he already put you in rock bottom. and pag nasa ibabang ibaba ka na, there's no other way than go up. baka isa syang malaking bato na nagpapalunod sayo and once you let go of him, them with his new gf at anak sa labas, you'll finally be able to swim freely and enjoy life.

[Girltalker2]

The key is shifting your focus and not dwelling on something na you know deep inside is not right for you and your kids., instead of yearning for that idea of yours na picture perfect family, yearn for a happy and stress free life for you and your kids. Focus on giving your kids a bright and promising future. Yearn for a comfortable life for them. A dream vacay  perhaps? and for yourself maybe yearn for self improvement? Mapa physical man like getting fit or magpa derma, spa, plastic surgery etc. Or career wise siguro or even spiritual, join groups or classes or seminars for those.

Super agree with this. Lahat naman tayo dumadaan sa all time Low points in our lives. Nasa sa atin kung pano natin ihandle. Sometimes something good out of it pa puede mangyari sayo. Stay positive sis.

Sakin dati, natuto ako mag gym. At hanggang ngayon, part na sya ng routine ko. I learned dancing din at iba iba pang activities. Kung mahilig ka sa music, listen to women empowerment songs, nakatulong din sila sa survival ko dati.

Kaya mo iyan sis. Plan, take baby steps and you will get there (free from his influence/lies).

Kung ako nga sayo, magfile ako child support at since wala naman amor mga bata sa kanya, kahit di na sya makita ng mga kids. Tutal di naman sya nagbibigay ng support.

[swtgrl_bee]

Sis kaya mo yan, focus ka sa anak mo and work mo. Since summer na mag-byahe kayo mag-ina.