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Should I confess?
« on: January 24, 2018, 05:50:31 am »
I just can't help it.
There's this guy na gusto ko for years... but I am hesitant to tell him.
Ang hirap. Sobrang hirap. I've been keeping this for years na at gusto ko nang ilabas.
The longer I hide my feelings, the harder I fall for him.
Kaso may gf na sya and it's heartbreaking for me.

Makakatulong ba if magcoconfess ako sa kanya para lang malabas ko.
Para I can proceed to next level which is MOVE ON?

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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #1 on: January 24, 2018, 06:16:06 am »
No, just keep it to yourself and move on.
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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #2 on: January 24, 2018, 09:13:55 am »
wag. hindi makakatulong, sis. baka pagtawanan ka lang nila mag-jowa. save yourself from embarassment.

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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #3 on: January 24, 2018, 10:57:36 am »
If hindi mo na talaga kaya and you are SURE na makakamove on ka na after confessing and ready ka to accept anything that happens as a result of doing so, I guess yun na lang pwede mo gawin.

Hindi ba pwedeng magparamdam ka na lang? Bigyan mo ng special gift? Haha. Para lang at least mapakita mo, however indirectly, how much you care for him at hindi mamromroblema na outright magconfess ka pa o hindi. Suggestion lang naman, hehe.

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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #4 on: January 24, 2018, 11:31:50 am »
@ ashonlush sorry sis that is a very selfish move. why confess e may gf na nga yung tao. you need to tell him so you can move on, e paano naman yung sinabihan mo? what do you want him to do with that info? sarili mo lang ang iniisip mo kasi nahihirapan ka. what about them? wala ka pakialam sa magiging nito sa kanila?

write a journal or a blog if you need to let it out. but that's how far it should go. girl ka rin put yourself in the gf's shoes. respeto lang diba?


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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #5 on: January 24, 2018, 03:54:37 pm »
once nalaman ng guy about your feelings for him jan magsisimula ang temptation sa part ng lalake. kaya minsan napapag bintangan ang mga babae na kasalanan din naman nila kaya nagloloko ang lalake. kaya sarilinin mo na lang.

kalimutan mo na yan, sige sige maglibang. problema sa lalake ay hindi iniinda. hayaan mo sila maghabol sayo diba??? hahaha! - LSS exB
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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #6 on: January 24, 2018, 04:22:57 pm »
Huh? Para saan?

Para lang maka-move on ka ay manggugulo ka ng ibang taong nananahimik sa relasyon at buhay nila?

Ang pagkakaalam ko, there are other single women na natete-tempt mag confess sa single guy because there's a possibility that the attraction or feelings is mutual. But even so, I personally don't encourage to confess, maging friendly and flirty ka na lang, para maparamdam sa guy na you're interested. But if the guy is committed already, mas lalong no-no.

Kung magulo ang internal world mo, wag kang mangdamay ng iba. It's your responsibility to fix your problem, not his. And I agree sa mga sis dito, it's being selfish and disrespectful.


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once nalaman ng guy about your feelings for him jan magsisimula ang temptation sa part ng lalake.

Temptation siguro for an adventure, or another flavor, pero not to love the other woman and leave the other. Pero if the woman in question is satisfied sa konting atensyon, eh may makakapigil ba? Saklap lang.

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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #7 on: January 24, 2018, 05:56:17 pm »
If i were in your shoes, i will not confess, even bring it to the grave with me....lol
But seriously, for what pa na mag confess sis, he?s taken. Just respect it.
Parang feeling maipapahiya ko lang sarili ko sa kanya. Plus, baka laki ulo naman si guy na meron palang patay na patay pa sa kanya. Despite na may gf na sya.

Better have a journal pour things out there. And keep yourself busy. Maghanap ka ng other activity para ma divert attention mo. Time comes makakalimutan mo din sya.

I remember i have this one too highschool time, i like the guy, yup crush.  Sya lang talaga crush ko, even told me self na kahit bawal bf but i will break the rules once niligawan nya ko. Kahit nagka boyf nako nung college still interested pa din ako sa kanya. His gf na at that time is my hschool enemy, imagine gaano kasakit. Nung nauso na fb naging mag friends kami. He?s married na. Nag chat kami he admit na gustong gusto nya ko nung hschool, he even said to himself na he will marry me someday. He used the other girl to make me jealous pero di daw effective. Try to imagine na ang taong gusto mo since then e meron palang feelings sa yo. But di ko inamin din na i have feelings for him too way back then coz you know what?
Respect nalang dun sa wife, sa marriage nila.
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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #8 on: January 24, 2018, 07:22:24 pm »
Agree sa lahay ng may advice na sarilinin mo na lang mandadamay ka pa ng ibang tao or manggugulo ka pa ng ibang relasyon. Ikaw ang may problema hindi makamove on at maka intindi na taken na nga bakit gusto mo pa umeksena.

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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #9 on: January 24, 2018, 07:58:01 pm »
Ok, so narealized ko na I should keep it to myself nalang. Thank you rin sa mga advices nyo mas naliwanagan ako.

Tama na if I'll confess to him, napaka selfish act naman. Then bigla nalang ako maglalaho parang bula. Lol. Isipin nga lalo nung guy na patay na patay ako sa kanya (totoo naman haha).

Hindi ko rin naman kakayanin mag confess sa kanya ng harapan. Kung noong single pa nga sya, hindi ko masabi. Ngayon pa kaya.


Actually, I do manage blogs before pero natigil lang. I remember having a private  Tumblr blog for my ex... Nakakatulong naman talaga i-let out lahat ng feelings mo sa taong yun kahit hindi nya ito nababasa.

Recently lang, nagkaroon kami ng homecoming alumni. Hindi ako nakapunta dahil sa trangkaso. My former classmates and teachers were expecting me to be there. Sana daw sa susunod, makapunta ako. Andun din si guy btw.

I'll just continue moving on without confessing. I'll just focus to love myself more, sa work and business. I think I'll just unfollow his FB account para di na lumabas sa timeline ko.

I have self-respect and know my worth. Kaya ko to at kakayanin!

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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #10 on: January 24, 2018, 08:30:36 pm »
^ TS, inde mo pa kasi sinabi agad agad... ayan tuloy nag juwa na si pogi.... haha!

sabi na eh, parang familiar.... ;)
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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #11 on: January 24, 2018, 09:19:21 pm »
^ ikaw naman kyah! Lumipas lang ang higit isang taon nakalimot ka na. Hahaha...

I know i know, my fault. :( Pero ganon talaga siguro ang life.

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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #12 on: January 24, 2018, 09:39:15 pm »
Forget it sis. Ok lang mag confess ng feelings kung single yung guy. Pero since my gf, it doesn?t change a thing kung sabihin mo na my feelings ka for him. Hanap ka nalang ng bagong crush. Yung single.☺️
« Last Edit: January 25, 2018, 03:11:04 pm by lesters_gal »
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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #13 on: January 24, 2018, 10:47:22 pm »
Feeling ko gusto lang ni TS ma-confirm kung meron bang gusto si guy sa kanya or not. Okay lang kung single si guy pero pag merong masasaktan, why do it? Tutal nasarili mo naman na ng ganon katagal, karirin mo na ang pagsasarili. I mean, what if sabihin ng guy na type din sya (kahit hindi naman, alam mo naman ang mga lalake kung makapambola). Tapos ang drama nya later na-fall sya sa lalakeng taken na. Yung mga ganyang usual drama ng ibang girls dito sa GT? LOL!
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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #14 on: January 25, 2018, 01:47:15 am »
Buti naman natauhan si TS at hindi na nag confess hehe. I dont think in love talaga siya dun sa guy, infatuated lang siguro. I mean pano ka naman ma iinlove mag isa? I dont believe kasi in that, crush lang usually yan or infatuation. Unless naglalandian sila ni guy at si guy eh pa fall type kahit may gf na tapos eto si TS umasa, pero ang totoo hes just enjoying the attention he gets from her, dagdag pogi points kumbaga. And! will never leave his gf.

Tsaka imo, lalaki lang nag coconfess ng feelings hehe, call me old fashioned. Kaya nga sila ang nanliligaw di ba? Us girls usually eh papakita lang ng motibo na gusto natin sila. Now if they cant read the signs then maybe they are not interested or not that into you. May gf or wala, he will let you know his feelings at sila mismo magsasabi sa yo. Let it be the guys that pursue you and not you pursuing guys at ikaw pa talaga kelangan mag confess.

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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #15 on: January 25, 2018, 10:47:29 am »
^^
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Actually, alam ko na din na meron sya gusto sa akin before BUT dahil pabebe ako.. wala eh! Mas pinili ko din si career kesa sa time with him. Nag laylo ako sa kanya... like communication until nga nagka gf na sya. I denied din na hindi ko sya gusto at may iba akong gusto (officemate) ko nung nagkita kami. T@nga ko lang.
Dami nangyari nung nakaraang mga taon eh, di lang ako nakakapost.

I'm not sure kung naalala nyo pa yung mga naunang dilemma na posts ko dito sa GT. Single pa sya non. Hahaha..
« Last Edit: January 25, 2018, 10:58:44 am by ashonlush »

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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #16 on: January 25, 2018, 10:59:46 am »
Kung ganun naman pala sis na may history kayo, tama nga na huwag mo na lang talaga sabihin. Kahit paramdam, huwag na. Definitely magugulo lang sila ng gf nya, and you had your chance na naman din.  I don't think may "moving on" na mangyayari dito after magconfess ka.

Initially I saw no issue naman na magtapat ng feelings or magparamdam kasi kung secure naman yung guy and girl sa relationship nila, I don't think a confession from another person will be enough to affect them ( at kung yung guy eh feeling gwapo at pumatol naman, well, mabuti nang makita ng gf nya ngayon pa lang na hindi trustworthy ang bf nya), pero yung may gusto pala sayo dati and mukhang recently lang nangyari...ibang usapan na yan.
« Last Edit: January 25, 2018, 11:07:39 am by hisana »

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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #17 on: January 25, 2018, 12:14:43 pm »
Oh i see you had your chance naman na pala.. and seems like you already made your choice, which is not to have a relationship with him, so siguro nga  hindi ka naman talaga inlove kasi  nakuha mong ipagpalit siya sa career, baka namimiss mo lang yung attention nakukuha mo before kaya kala mo inlove ka sa kanya. So yun tama nga na mag move on na

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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #18 on: January 26, 2018, 08:03:13 am »
Sakin naman stand ko dyan NEVER, over my dead body! Kahit pa single sya! Don?t ever confess.

If you feel na sobra na d develop feelings mo for 1 guy, then meet otherS. Marami ha para di mo sya maisip.

Also, TS, haven?t you heard of RESPECT para sa Kapwa?
I think people (guy or girl) tend to pursue the opposite gender kahit pa May asawa na or bf/gf. Walang respect for others (kasi siguro di naman nila kilala yung better half nung nilalandi or sinasabihan nila).
Pag sinabi mo, ano puede mangyari-
1) pagtawanan ka nila na Ang gulo mo
Tuwa lang si guy at he got his revenge kasi arte mo before?

2) maging kabit ka since gusto ka naman ni Guy before, so puede ka maging kabit

3) iwan ni Guy Si gf for you

Siguro you want #3 to happen kaya you want to confess? Pero para sakin, for #3 to happen, do you think you will have peace of mind throughout your relationship knowing nanulot ka?
Pag #1 and 2 naman nangyari obviously ayaw mo.

So logically Hindi talaga uubra to tell a guy.
« Last Edit: February 01, 2018, 03:12:39 pm by Girltalker2 »

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Re: Should I confess?
« Reply #19 on: February 01, 2018, 11:54:18 am »
I just can't help it.
There's this guy na gusto ko for years... but I am hesitant to tell him.

best advise: tell him straight malay mo like ka rin niya. remember its only a gf not a wife. good luck  ;)

 


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