Online Dating (Thread 2)

[Apple1230]

^it's not a stupid question sis. Valid question and i think madami din girls reading here na gusto yan  malaman. But sadly there are no specific rules when it comes to OD. It's up to the individual. Sa beginning kasi wala naman emotional investment and you are practically strangers so it does not matter kung mawala sila na parang bula and ikaw din pwede ka na lang mag stop mag reply kung hindi ka na interested.

The guy i met on tinder is now my bf. We started chatting mga one liners lang hindi rin consistent for mga 2 weeks or something. I can't remember kasi he does not interest me. He only has 1 pic, walang nakasulat sa profile niya and he is not chatty and he does not ask questions. When he asked me out i said yes just for the heck of it. When we met i did not feel any chemistry na basted ko pa siya the next day. I told him we are not compatible kaya iba na lang i-date niya.

Pero masugid siya, i would cancel our dates kasi busy ako, inaway ko pa siya kasi pinag hintay niya ko ng mga 15mins, just last week i told him hindi kame pwede kasi aalis din naman siya ma-assign siya sa ibang country after 4years kaya wag niya na sayangin oras ko. He told me he will bring me there basta dapat magkasama kame. I don't know if it will happen basta enjoy ko lang yung present no expectations.

So just carry on kung may para sayo sa OD it will happen kung wala baka sa ibang paraan mo ma meet yung guy for you. Don't take it seriously and don't stress about it too much. Live your own life make it exciting enough that the guy you meet will want to be a part of it.

[Shadow Angel]

Ako naman viber lang binibigay ko. Ibinigay ko lang number ko dun sa hubby ko ngayon after ko mafeel na seryosohan na talaga hehe.

No pressure enjoy mo lang.  Na enjoy ko dating app dati.

Na post ko na dito kung ano un mga ginawa ko dati.

Picky ako or may set rules pero i'm not picky kung alam ko ok for fun lang or friendship. Sana gets nyo un I'm between sa picky and not so picky. May sarili ako basic rules na non negotiable.

[Apple1230]

I asked bf regarding pov ng guys sa online dating and sabi niya guys chat with lots ot women and see kung sino yung ok kausap. Meaning kung yung conversation mag flow naturally or not. Pag ok kausap they will ask the girl's number or ask to meet up. Also luck plays a big role din daw. wala talagang exact formula.

I'll dig deeper kung may mapulot pa akong more info. Basta keep an open mind and just let things be. It will happen kung para kayo sa isa't isa.

[fall2pieces]

On and off ako sa Tinder lol.. minsan nakakatamad din magswipe.. ginagawa ko lang sya kapag bored ako. Wala pa ako makitang okay sa Tinder.. meron iba magchat kayo ng ilang araw tapos mawawala na,, either hindi ko feel or sya hindi nya feel.. yung iba hingi lang ng no. Tapos wala na lol.. so di ko na masyadong sineseryoso.. swipe lang pag walang magawa tapos reply na lang kapag may nagmessage.

[fall2pieces]

Is Facebook considered a dating site?
Anyway.. when if a guy adds you on Facebook.. does it mean anything or he just simply wants to add you?
How do you know if a guy likes you on Facebook?

[Apple1230]

^facebook is social media pero kung may na meet ka dun considered yun as you met online.

Regarding how to know if a guy likes you on fb, well if he keeps liking your posts, nag comment, meaning nagpapa pansin, he messages you consistently and lastly asks you out for dinner or coffee. Basta he asks to see you in person and not to come over at his place, sa mas wholesome na setting.

Actually if a guy really likes you he will make it known, you will not have to second guess. He will initiate everything. Obvious sa actions niya. Pag hot and cold yung guy or inconsistent then he is not that into you.

[fall2pieces]

What if may nagadd sa'yo from previous work kahit matagal ka ng wala sa company na yun? HIndi naman kayonaging close. Tapos lagi lang sya naglalike sa posts at pictures ko pero never sya nagcomment or message? Am I just assuming na he likes me? Lol.

Ano bang ibig sabihin kapag inadd ka ng isang guy as friend? Does it mean anything or he just simply wants to add you?

[mysterioza_me]

May mga naga-add sa akin na guy classmates or wormates from way back pero wala naman meaning sa akin yun. Para sa akin gusto lang nila to reconnect or catch up. Iisipin ko may gusto sila sa akin kung magpapadala na ng flowers at chocolates at dadalaw na sa bahy namin haha.

[simang]

Am I just assuming na he likes me? Lol.

Yes you are just assuming that he likes you.

As with Apple1230 said, if a guy likes you, you wouldn't even have to question it. If kelangan mo manghula, then he's not that into you

[kvandenhaak]

As for phone number, palaging "fake" number binibigay ko. Pag nagkita na lang kami saka ko ibibigay ang tunay na number kung type ko. Hindi rin ako nag-a-add agad sa Facebook ng hindi ko kakilala for security reason.

[Girltalker2]

I asked bf regarding pov ng guys sa online dating and sabi niya guys chat with lots ot women and see kung sino yung ok kausap. Meaning kung yung conversation mag flow naturally or not. Pag ok kausap they will ask the girl's number or ask to meet up. Also luck plays a big role din daw. wala talagang exact formula.

How is it any different with girls?

[Evolet027]

Actually if a guy really likes you he will make it known, you will not have to second guess. He will initiate everything. Obvious sa actions niya. Pag hot and cold yung guy or inconsistent then he is not that into you.

Super agree dito.

@sis fall2pieces Kung wala naman sinasabi yung guy if he likes you or he wants to court you, then wala lang yung lahat lahat. Do not romanticize yung mga gestures like adding you sa facebook, liking your pictures. Pag lumabas sya sa online site or any chat or dating apps, made a move to see you personally, then, saka mo pa pede i assume na he likes you. 

[Apple1230]

How is it any different with girls?

I guess the only difference is sa girls we are limited sa kung sino humingi ng number natin and mag ask sa atin out. We can initiate the conversation if we match like sa bumble girls ang dapat mauna mag message but we can only take it so far. At the end of the day guys still gets to decide who they want to meet in person. Unless the girl is liberated enough to initiate the meet up but there is still no guarantee that you will hit it off. Hit or miss din talaga siya.

Btw, i have not deleted the app naka park pa din profile ko, just tonight i am looking for our first chat ni bf just to see kung paano ba kame nag usap nun kasi truth is i hardly remember him. Medyo may hang ups pa ako sa ex ko and i was just there sa app to pass the time. But his profile was already deleted or maybe naka hide na. Hindi naman niya ako sinisita and hindi ko naman din ino-open yun. Today lang gusto ko kasi tignan naging conversations namin.

We give each other enough space to come around lalo na bago pa lang. I let him do his thing he lets me do mine. Maybe it is weird for others but for us we are taking it one day at a time. Ang sure lang is we are committed to see where this thing will lead.

[kvandenhaak]

^But the girls also decide who she wants to meet. And she also decide which among the numbers he would text back. I don't really see any difference.

[Apple1230]

Yes in a way parehas lang for both sexes. hit or miss rin talaga ang online dating.

[fall2pieces]

Thanks sis, mahirap talagang maging assuming. Hehe. Nagtaka lang kasi ako eh nung inadd nya ako kasi di naman kami naging close, siguro may mga tao talaga na mahilig lang mag-add sa FB kahit di gaanong kilala. Lol. Siguro nga hindi ko sya dapat i-overthink.

[kutitapkiss]

^ pwede ding nagpapapansin, some guys do that parang bait. Ayaw fumirst move so magpapapansin ng ganyan, baka kumagat ka hehe. Naku sis don?t get too caught up sa mga ganyan, nagkalat yang mga ganyang galawan. When it comes to soc med, it?s better to be completely unassuming talaga.

[Evolet027]

^ agree. Mas safe mag assume kung personal lahat ng galawan and hindi thru soc med or any dating  or chat apps.

[fall2pieces]

sis @kutitapkiss baka nga.. nagpapapansin sis. siguro nagaantay sya na magpapansin din ako sa kanya or mag first move.. hello.. dapat sya mauna.. lol.

oo nga eh.. natuto na ako.. dapat sa personal talaga hindi thru social media lang..

[simang]

^or pwede rin namang wala lang. A lot of people do that, mag-aadd ng tao sa facebook without any meaning to it. Tsaka if a guy can't make a move to let you know that he likes you, it means he's not into you. Hindi yan dahil sa nag aantay sya ng move from you.